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My friends are turning on me
My sister hates me, has all my life. I'm a lady in my late 50's and she a couple years younger. We have lived different lives but I am as nice as I can be to her. Anyway, she is turning every friend I have against me. She even turns family from me if she can. I think she must lie about me. She tells my facebook friends things I done 10-20 years ago when I was young and single but dumb stuff, you know. I barely have a friend left. What in the world do I do. I'm on a chemo pill 4 times a week and have alot of health problems. I have nobody but my brother and she is working on him. I just don't get it. She is married to a husband with a good job, she doesn't have to work, has 3 grown up kids that are doing good and 3 grandkids. I live alone in a one bedroom apt in a big city with no family of my own. The major difference in us though is that I'm always happy. She broods all the time. I really wish she would look at all she has. I just don't get it.
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Block her on your Facebook and just let your friends know ahead of time what your sister might say or do and explain what's been going on all your life. Some people just feel good about making others miserable. Don't worry, it'll come back to her one day. Do your best to stay away from her and if you have good friends then they will tell her where to go when she starts talking bad about you.
Keep being your happy self and try your best not to let her ruin that for you.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
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What I'm going to say might differ from a lot of people but to me family don't mean sh*t. I grew up on my own. I had "family" and people who considered themselves friends but i've always stood alone and threw that I learned family will not always be there for you and it's okay to not like them even hate them because at the end of the day all they have is some matching particles of DNA.
You both are older women and the fact she still acts like this is a problem. She has issues. All the stuff you did was then, you grew up, you changed. she still stuck in that same kid mentality and will never be satisfied in life that way. Block her off facebook, tell her you're done. And talk to your friends tell them that's not you anymore if they are real friends, they'll stick around. And confront her. I don't care if you do it in front of the whole family call her out on her B.S. because life is short as you already know and there is no reason you should have to live with her trying to reck your life like she has been and since people want to think she is innocent in it why not blow up and let them all know NO SHE'S NOT! But at the end of the day... really all I want you to do is stick up for yourself. Don't take how she is treating you. She's too old for all that. And if you have to cut her off or feel like you should but think you shouldn't because she is "family", don't think like that.
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Well, first things first i would block her from your facebook. I know it is horrible to think that you have to do this to your own family but sometimes it is neccessary. Next you have to think of it this way you can always meet new friends. And if your current friends believe her and no longer want to be your friend then they wernt worth your friendship in the first place. I to have no friends and havnt for about 4 years... I do not get along with my sister and half of my family hasd turned on me. But keep yourself positive you are the richer person in karmas eyes.
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