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I don't know what school to go to
Ok I won't say the names of these school, but one will be School A, and I went to school a for 6 years and it was ok, then I left and went to School B for a year and loved it. I made so many friends, but I had to annually do a public speaking project, and it scared me so much I decided to go back to School A. Now I need to decide where to go next year. I have friends at both schools and I like School B better but I'm soooo scared of Public speaking there. What do I do? If anyone can help I would be sooo grateful and give advice in return!!
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I can relate to your public speaking concerns. In fact, in various surveys it has been said to be one of the top 3 fears of the average person.
As you said, you like School B better. That being the case, you have to decide how much more you like that school and if it is worth facing your fear. Based on the fact that you even bothered to write this and seek advice, I think it's pretty obvious that you are willing to try to face that challenge.
If you do choose to face it and get back into School B, I think you have a few options.
1. Find out if you can sit or be behind a desk while speaking. This can be surprisingly helpful in reducing the stress.
2. Include props in your speech if you are allowed to do so. For example, show video clips or include some audio. This can help minimize the amount that you actually have to speak.
3. If acceptable, you can encourage discussion or allow the audience to comment, this also takes the focus off of you to some extent and can move things along.
4. Listen to calming music before your presentation. Do some research on breathing techniques that also help with relaxation.
You can do this.
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You like School B better, then go there. You shouldn't start running away from your fears, it won't help you at all.
When I was in high school, I got put in a public speaking class. I'm extremely shy but being in that class helped me a lot and now it's not such a big problem.
You can't just hide from everything. Sometimes you have to face your fears and this one will be for the better. I mean you only have to do it annually so it's not that big of a deal.
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I hear ya. I used to be afraid of public speaking too. In my case what I refer to is book reports in front of the class. I was terrified and eventually just refused to do it.
Refusing to do it, running from it isn't the answer.
The best course of action is to find a way to overcome your fear. This is social anxiety. I was also shy then too. I wish someone had told me what to do to learn to overcome it.
You may feel you're doing great and can handle talking to your friends so you don't have the social anxiety problem, only with public speaking. So is it just talking to people you don't know? If so, I have something I can share with you regarding that. Let me know. Maybe if you could provide more detail as to what this public speaking thing is. Is it like book reports in front of the class, or a project you studied and have to give a talk on to a whole school auditorium, or are students expected to give some kind of speech out in general public to non students, just random groups of people?
I have studied personality types a little and found that the majority of people are one of two types that are very friendly and supportive and acceptive and understanding....and that is 90 % of people out there. Of the other two types, one tends to avoid any social contact, the hermit type and wouldn't care what you're doing, whether good or bad, they just dont want to be there. The last group of people are the bossy, name calling, controlling types that no one likes. Never take personally what they say as they just haven't got a clue, they have such a big ego and think they know it all, they're God. Thank God they're not though LOL. They need to be ignored if they say something. But usually its not worth their time to give you a hard time if you were doing your public speaking. You think talking to a crowd is harder than talking to one stranger, one person who is not a good friend of yours? No, not really. Once you have gained self confidence of doing well with strangers one on one those same skills will apply perfectly to a larger group.
I wonder, if all these friends you have at both schools are people who approached you first, or did you approach them first? At one point the students were all strangers to you. I was the one to shy to approach others and the only friends I had were those who had approached me first. If this is you, let me know. And I'll share how I got past that. If theres something else instead going on that makes you so terrified that you'd change schools, I can't even begin to try to help unless you share what that might be. Is it something perhaps about the way you were raised at home, home situations? Let me know. I can't answer if you write in the comment section for grading this response, I'd need you to go to my column and write to me from there. Thanks.
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Face your fear. You obviously like school B better how ever if public speaking is the problem find away to face it you can't run from things that scare you. We I am nervous or scared I just keep telling myself I can do it I can do it take a deep breath and do it in feel much better once I've accomplished something I was scared to do. Good luck with your choice.
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