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Ok, so there is this guy who I can't manage to get out of my head. He is the sweetest guy i've ever known and i've fallen so hard for him. And when he's not around I can't help but feel sad. I don't want to feel this way because he's someone that I would never get a chance to be with, and I understand that... because well, he's my teacher and I know how that's wrong and whatever, But I can't help how I feel at this point... People say they think he likes me because he's the playful type, I guess, and he touches me and stuff like that... Nothing too serious though... Anyway, I try so hard to find something wrong with him or to ignore him so that I could get over him, but he always comes around and says something sweet or funny... The point is, I'm about to graduate in a month and knowing that i'll probably never see him again is killing me... I havn't felt like myself because of this whole thing and it's bothering me... I guesss I just want to know how I can get over him or any other advice anyone might have on this whole thing...
thanks so much... 19/f
Ohhhh and i'm not in highschool... It's more like a trade school..

Well since your not underage and he isn't also, I don't understand why you couldn't go for it, or atleast try. Snce you are going to be graduating it wouldn't be weird and random people at school wouldn't know. If you say you think he might like you then ask him or try to make plans with him, feel him out. But if you don't want to do that there's no exact way to get over someone. You just have to cope with the fact that this isn't going to work and you two won't be together. Your young you can't waste your whole life thinking about somebody who will never be 'your somebody.' Hope I helped! Good Luck :]

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Okay ive only made out with a guy once in my entire life and that was in 7th grade and i completely forget how to and im supposed to get kissed this saturday im nervous someone please tell me how to kiss! thanks

You can go to www.sextutor.com and click on kissing, they will tell you how it's done. Also the person below me had good examples also. They also have other instrutions on how to do things. Hope I helped. Good luck and once you start to kiss again you'll remember.

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5'4" 110-115 lbs.

i'm so grossed out by my body. i feel so fat all the time. how can I learn to love my body? or at least be okay with it?

Actually for your height your perfectly fine for how much you way. You would actually be considered underweight. The normal weight for your height is between 118 pounds to 133 pounds. You shouldn't feel grossed out at all, you could be a lot worse off. If you go to www.am-i-fat.com and then click on Am I Fat? They will calculate you BMI (body mass index) telling you if you are perfect, over weight, or skinnier than needed. You should feel fine with your body. Good luck & hope I helped!

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19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help?

Well I would talk to Nate, found out if he wants a relationship with you, or just casual sex? If you say it feels right with him and if he does want a relationship then I'd say go for it. Although, you don't want to hurt Blake's feelings you still have to follow your heart. I'm sure one of those men have been burt in the past by a girl, so you shouldn't feel cruel. As for the cheating part if you feel that your heart is with Blake but your horemons are with Nate then again, follow your heart. But don't put too much stress on yourself because then Blake will notice that something is wrong. Go with what your heart feels not your body. Don't make this too stressful because your not looking for a husband?

p.s. and about the kiss Nate gave you maybe he is starting to have mutural feelings for you, but you can never be too sure.

Hope I helped!

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How can I prevent getting a tan? This year is my grad and I don't want a tan because when I wear my dress it's gonna be like a halter and then like parts of my body will be dark and just horrible! (picture a pretty looking girl only that half her leg, her arms, and face is brown with a tan!)

You can try sunblock but I'm not going to garentee its going to work because if you tan, your pretty much going to tan. Another thing you can do is go to the tanning bed and get your whole body tan so it looks even, a lot of girls go tanning before grad. Hope I helped!

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Alright, so I love my boyfriend very VERY much.. and I know that if I ask him if he wants to have sex, he'll say yes. Now, I want to and all, and I'm ready.. Buuuut.. I'm wondering about other people's opinion on having sex at a young age. I'm 15, he's 16, we're both virgins.. and we've been going out for 3 months, but we've known and liked each other for a year. We were best friends during all that time, and even if he weren't my boyfriend, I think I would have still had sex with him because we're just very close like that.

My question is, what is your opinion though? Should we just do it now, in a year, when we're married.. and why? Thanks :)

I think you should have sex whenever you and your partner feel are ready. There's no set age on when to have sex. Personally I think anything younger than 13-14 is too early, but it's all your preferance. Whatever you feel is right go for it, people these days think you should wait untill your like 40 years old to have sex. Hope I Helped :)

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Okay. so I have a friend that is a guy. One of my old friends use to like him but not anymore. But while she did he told me that he kinda liked me and what would I do if he asked me out and of course i'm not gonna go out with him if one of my friends likes him. Well she stopped liking him and he got a g.f then I started to like him. And I guess him and his g/f broke up. But we use to hang out a lot kinda and i guess ppl would say that we *flirted* but I dont know if he likes me anymore. And now I kinda like him
ahh someone please help me... what should I do ?
help asap!!!

Short & Simple : Find out if he likes you, if he does, flirt and let him know you like him, he'll ask you out. Happy Ending.

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today i got with a boy and he has no gf and i dont have a bf..we made out twice. and then we decided to just be friends. now everyone is calling me a whore for getting with him when we werent going out ! ugh what do i do, its not lke i make out with someone everyday; that was my first time. what do i say ot people when they say that ? ah thanks

Personally I would say things like "Bitch your just jealous." or "It's none of your business " or "it's not like he likes you, so chill" haha i know they sound mean but it's funny how jealous girls are. Girls will always call someone a slut/whore ect. either because their jealous, prude or dont like you.

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What exactly does "greek life" mean? What exactly are frats and sororities? Is it just a bunch of people who get together for parties?

WEll sororities are an "All Girls Club" who live in a sorority house with the other sorority girls. And Frat Boys is an "All Boys Club" most are all different. Some are partiers, some are like for smarter people. And frat's are usually greek, but you dont have to be greek to be in i, its like the symbols they use. The symbols are greek. And yes they do host parties. And these Frat & Sororites are at colleges only.

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Hi i'm a sophomore and my boyfriend is also a sophomore and we've been dating for a year and a half. Only juniors and seniors are allowed to go to prom, but they can take freshman or sophomores as dates. This girl who is my friend and is also my boyfriends friend asked him to go to prom with her, but he didn't know what to say. So he asked me if he should or not. And I dont really want him to go with her because she always flirts with him. And I just don't feel comfortable with him going with her. So I guess my question is... Is it okay to tell him that I don't want him to go or is that too controlling? Because i don't want to be a mean girlfriend who won't let her boyfriend do anything, but I just feel bad if I don't let him go. Thanks!

No personally I don't think that's mean. Just explain to him that you feel she might like him and that it's just uncomfortable for you if they went together. He asked you if he could go so he respects your opinion. Just be like I wanted us to go to prom together, not with seperate dates, you know. And im sure he would be that same way if a guy asked you. Hope I helped.

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ok so i have kind of a hard time tanning [[in the sun]]. i can tan kinda ok-ish but during the summer im outside alot and if i could tan easily believe me id be sooo dark! also it fades REALLY quickly whenever i am kinda tan. well we're going to the beach a couple weeks after school ends so i was just wondering if i went to a tanning bed about twice a week [not to overdo it] for a month before the trip and got a base tan or whatever would i be able to tan easier in the sun since im darker?

and yes i know... sunscreen.

thanks!

Well for me I would always sunburn when I would try to tan in the sun. So I went to the tanning bed in the basic bed for 10 to 15 minutes and I would get really ten. It made it so in the summer I could tan better, and I did. I would still sunburn on my shoulders and face but my stomach and back ect. would get really tan and it would stay. Also don't put sun screen on because you won't tan, to tan out side buy a special tanning lotion (at your tanning salon) for out side also because not all can be used for bot but you have to watch out because the lotion wears off after 20 minutes so be careful. But yes I would go to the tanning bed. Hope I helped. Make sure you put a sticker on :)

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I want to buy some more clothes. Can anyone tell me the name of a website that sells really cute (and cheap) clothes (price isnt as important though). All of my clothes are Abercrombie, and i really want some new clothes because everyone has the same abercrombie clothes.

THanks so much!!

I'm sorry I don't know the address to the sites but you can just search them and it should come up.

You could check Urban Outfitters.

Or

www.Norstroms.com for the store Brass Plum/BP

Or

www.guess.com

Hope I helped

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What age did you start wearing deodorent. just curiousity because my son is 10 and i never really have time to figure out if he needs it cause hes always at school then baseball and he comes home and runs right to the shower. Thanks in advance!

Just to be safe have him wear deodorant because he might now be smelling but I'm sure he sweats because of baseball. And then he will be prepaired for when he does need it, and he`ll remember to put it on & smell good too.

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15/f

Recently I've noticed that I've been receiving a lot more male attention than I used to. At first I thought that it was because I was a lot more flirtatious, but yesterday a really hot guy started talking to me before I even said anything. I lost some weight and I look pretty good, but I was wearing a huge down jacket, so this guy could only see my face, which has been described as pretty in a different way. So did I suddenly get better looking or am I releasing a different vibe? I don't get it.

Both I think, guys like girls who are out going and flirtatious. Guys can tell if your confidient and most guys do like it. And I'm sure it does count that you look better because most guys want looks. So just keep on being flirtatious but not too much so that the guys think your a slut or too flirtatious. Show off alittle more skin be confortable in your body. Hope I helped

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ok, so i want the Dolce and Gabbana razr. But I have Verizon. And I think the DG razr is for T-mobile. Does anyone know if i buy it even though i have verizon what will happen? Should I go to a store and ask or will it be a easy change?

Probably your SIM card will not fit. Because each phone company has a different type and size for it. So it most likely wouldn't be an easy change.

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I will not say what I believe in for abortion because that may influence your answer..but someone brought this to my attention...
do you consider this an exception for abortion..if an 11 year old girl got pregnant(raped) and her hips couldn't support the baby. Do you believe that when a girl has her period she is ready to give child birth even though her age may not be? Any insight would be greatly appreciated! Thank you.

Yes, I do think an abortion is fine. Personally I think abortions are fine if the child isn't more than 3monthes developed and your at a considerable age. Even if her hips could support a baby I think abortion would be fine because she's at such a young age.

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were 13~now my bff just told me she had sex when she was 10!!!!he's still her bf~they still have sex~i told them both tht their crazy well in different words~she will get sent to an orphanage if her parents find out~they said befor tht they would if she ever did befor she moved out~so she says not to tell anyone~i still never had sex but im not going to IM ONLY 13

I don't really know what your question is. If you feel that what she did is wrong then you just can't help it, you can stick to your opinion but she's allowed to have her own too. Although I do think 10 is extemely young to be having sex and so is 13 its her body and she has to deal with the consequiences. Just for your friends sake don't tell anyone. Stick to what you believe and don't keep telling her she's dumb or crazy (if you are) because then she's going to get mad at you for getting involved and say its none of your business.

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Like ive never made out with anyone, but i have a feeling or something i might soon at the movies.
Can someone explain to me how to

.. how to start
what to do
and how to end


like im not sure
and please dont just tell me to follow the other persons lead.
thank you
xoxox

Go to www.sextutor.com and then click on kissing.

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i want 2 get str8 2 the point i like 2 guys let me explain them both 2 u..... not the looks but the personality thats what i want

Jeremy
phsyco(but i love it)
examples brung a steak knife 2 school
(i told him not 2 bring it any more) he stopped.

put boot protector on his hand and set it on fire (what a wierdo i still luv it)

i asked him did he have a girlfriend he said no i like the single life 4 rite now (he needs me in his life)

always sits with me on the bus (even when there are empty seats) he sits pretty close

always waves at me and tells me hey

gave me a hug(once because i got this jacket from this girl for him)

Hakim

he is younger than me (by like 1 year)

he is in a lower grade than me

he said that last week he had three girlfriend in a row but the broke up with all of them because they are childish

gave me a hug (once i guess because he wanted 2)

told his cousin he likes me i just have 2 tell him i like him myself(thats not my style)

talks a whole lot(its not a problem with me but dang he can talk)


well thats it plezzzzz help

Well it seems like you like the first guy better, jeremy. And he's in your grade apparently so you two would have a lot in common. Just find out if he likes you or not.

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ok my boyfriend has a family reunion at 1:00 so i said i would go because i wanted to meet his dads side of his family...but i told my little cousin i would be on her dodgeball team...and thats at 1:30.....this really blows...i want to go to both...can anyone help me out?

Personally I would go with your boyfriend because he's inviting you to his family reunion, which aren't often. You can always play dodgeball with your cousin.

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