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I'm not perfect. But the heartbeats add up. As well as the life challenges. And I'm only 25. So I'm here. To help those I can. Try and make a difference in someones life.to better somes life by being someone that's there when they have no one.
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Do you know how I can get an e-mail address for Disneyworld Florida, specifically the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique in Downtown Disney. Awaiting something from them to be sent to us but it hasn't arrived. (link)
all i could find was a phone number:

Phone:
Call (407) WDW-STYLE or (407) 939-7895


Im a girl in high school , its been about 4 weeks since I broke up with my ex. I didn't take it to well until just recently so I decided to txt him we agreed to keep in contact as friends. He called today saying that I have to stop texting him because it was affecting him. After that he send me a text saying it was affecting his new relationship. I feel incredibly stupid and hopeless I thought I was over him. I don't mind anymore loosing him as a boyfriend but not having him in my life at all hurts more than I could imagine I don't want to go back to feeling so bad. Any advice ? i really need somebody (link)
I know what it's like to lose that part of your self and to not be able to have him at all. The best thing you can do is to think of him as another wrong boy. and another boy closer to finding the right boy.

I'm not gonna say of it wont hurt and you will get over it tomorrow, Because that is not the truth. It will defintely hurt for a while. and it will definetly take sometime to stop hurting.

What i can suggest is to keep yourself busy. With friends, school or work or both. Maybe start a new hobby. Discover what made you happy before him. When you were single. And be happy for who you are. so what your single now. Be proud!

Xo.Jasmine.


so there is this guy im talking to and he is the most amazing guy that a girl can talk to and meet and he just makes me so happy ughh lol my question is to you what do i do to make it work with him ? (link)
First off hang out with him more, get a sense of if he likes you too, if he does or you think he does do subtle hints like touching is arm when he says something funny


Theres this boy i really like and i think he likes me but im not sure. i wanna date him but i dont know if he ever dated anyone. How do i bring him out of his shell and how to know if he likes me (link)
Ask him to hang out more that way you can get to know him and you will be able to send signals that you like him, like rubbing his shoulder breifly or setting your hand on his leg when something is funny plus laughing of course.


i want to be good at sexting!give me hints! (link)
describe things in a narritave format, as if you were writing a novel


Ok so I don't have a partner and I'm so lonely I long to have someone who will love me and me him :( I jus don't seem to fine anyone noone wants me I'm a single mum and my chil is my life they come first and men don't seem to accept that????any helpful words?I jus get down about it sumtimes x (link)
I understand. It is very hard to find someone who will accept you and your child. I am having a hard time finding a guy myself. Not with child. so i can only imagine how hardd it would be with child. Just keep doing what your doing and hanging out with friends when you can. you will meet that guy who likes you for you. and accepts the fact that your a mom. Are you telling them right off the bat that your a mom? maybe wait a little bit and then tell them?


My boyfriend and i just broke up.... we were too different for each other ,,, well idk watt 2 do (link)
Just keep yourself busy, and around friends. get up, eat. go to school or work or both what ever your usual routine is. one day you will wake up and it won't hurt as much. But it just takes time. And you will find someone somuch better!!


okay i date,i gt turned on by guys but the only way i can reach an orgasm is if i imagine myself wth a girl,i picture bein pleasured by a girl,so does that make me a lesbian?and yes i have tried it with a girl before but when i was younger below 11 years,now im 18,but i date boys n never picture dating a girl!!its jus for pleasure (link)
I don't think it means your a lesbian. I think it's just a way to turn your self on. Its normal for that to happen. Just because you think of them doesn't mean you are one:P


Lately, I feel so lonely. My sibling and my neice moved across town. I don't talk to my family alot. I don't have any friends. I just go to work and home and stay and go to work and visit my sibling and neice and go home. How can you make new friends? Nobody ever texts or calls me anymore. I lost all my friends after i graduated high school. We just didn't talk anymore and got into so so so some arguements. How can i make new friends?
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First off. communication is a two way street. Not many people text me. not like how it used to be. But you need to text and make plans too. It takes work from both parties. Also is there anyone at work you'd be interested in hanging out. and getting to know better?
try a new hobby?


How do you know you're in love?
Or how do you know you love someone,
can you love someone without being with them?

Like, can you love a guy that is your best friend, but you aren't dating. or can you be in love with him..

im 17 (link)
Yes. You are in love when you can explain exactly what you like about them. When seing them makes you happy. Even if your in the worst mood in the world. He is your special happyness that can make you smile.


im in middle school. theres a guy i like. i dont know if he likes me. we only sit together in class when we our assigned seats happen to let us to sit with each other. if we talk he tries to make me laugh. i think he saw me looking his way in class one time lol. i quickly looked away. im girl, btw. so should i talk to him about it? i dont know if he broke up with his girlfriend i think he did they seem just like friends HELP (link)
First off, Talk to him more, get to know him. Ask him to go to the arcade or uhmm hang out at the mall. ask him to hang out and that way you can get to know him better.
if he seems like he likes you AFTER a while of hanging out.. longer than 2 weeks. Ask him how he feels aboutyout.


Ok so I have a Boyfriend at the moment and we arent very serious. We havent kissed yet after 4 months and he is my first Bf ever. We hug though but when we do it lasts for 3 seconds :/
Then there is another guy who has been talking to me on Msn 24/7. He and I are really good friends and we play truth alot. He has had alot of girlfriends and has kissed alot of girls and made out before too. During truth, he keeps asking me questions like "If i kissed you, would u A.kiss back B.Pull away C.slap me D.make out" and stuff... I used to like him before I had a boyfriend and he likes me a bit now. He is my best guy friend but we hardly talk in person. We try to change that but its not easy considering everytime I start talking to him to my boyfriend, my boyfriend calls him a douche. I dont know what to do. My boyfriend needs to know because I need him to be cool with it all.
Last night the other guy was asking me the same question over and over that if he kissed me what i would do. He says he would kiss me and i dont know if i would kiss him. I have a boyfriend after all. I told him we are just friends and I said that (since i have been on vacation for a week) when i get back i would like a welcome back hug. He said Ok then said we would "hug" I have a strange idea that if we hug he might try to kiss me. My Boyfriend is completely fine with me hugging other guys but definately not kissing them.
Pleasse help, eveerything will be appreciated. (link)
i agree. If he was a good guy friend. He would not kiss you. But i will be honest. I have an thought he might. You need to be very clear with him. You are JUST friends. Good friends. Not friends who kiss. You are with your boyfriend for a reason. your boyfriend might be calling him a douche because of a masculine part of guys. They don't like competition. and insults make them feel imperior to other men.

XxJasmine


I'm 19 and my boyfriend of 5 years is 22. We're both virgins because I want to wait til marriage. Last night, I told him I was ready to have sex and I was done waiting. I'm not sure if that's true or not, however. He didn't pressure me but I know he is tired of waiting. Well we went to have sex and he was barely in my and I couldn't stand the pain. We had to stop and then I got really depressed. I feel like I'm failing as a girlfriend and we shouldn't be together because I can't handle him. I don't enjoy being fingered, it hurts too. What's wrong with me? (link)
haha. nothing is wrong with you at all honey!
You are just a virgin that is all. the first couple times it will hurt. try extra lube, and try going slow at first. It will feel better. trust me on this. you are not failing as a girlfriend. A relationship should be based on more than just sex.


I was with this guy last night and like he showed a little interest with me before this night. He is a player for sure but a few nights ago he said that he is a player but wants love and is only a player to keep his reputaion up. we were telling eachother stuff nobody knows about us. so anyway we hung out and he was like really drunk and i took a tramadol so i was feeling good and we kinda started talking than making out well we did it like all night he would put his hand up my shirt but never tried to go further he said not untill you like me and we would talk and make out like on and off. He kept saying that we were meant for eachother and all this like sweet stuff and said he wanted me to be his and i kept saying i dont believe you. but anyway i took it for what it was but not going to lie i cant get it off my mind so do you think this was just drunk talk or like it meant something? Im okay with both just confused. (link)
Okay first things first.
He practices these saying ith every girl he hits on. That's what players do. They get really good at these lines to make us girls feel special..
If he actually likes you.. Make him work for it. light kissing is the most ya should do. anything more and your just handing him his player badge on a silver plate.

Just be very careful unless you two start dating and even then. Just becareful because of his past history.


I met this guy several months ago and we hit it off right away. He was flirting with me and so I decided to get to know him. We hung out for a few weeks straight talking, cuddling, and getting to know one another. He would give me compliments all the time, wrap his arm around my waist and we'd cuddle in his bed. He told me I was the sweetest girl he knew and asked me out once, but at the time I said no cuz we had literally just met, he understood. So we continued getting to know eachother. After that things were a bit awkward until I called him over for a talk and we agreed to be friends until we both knew what we wanted. He still messaged me and would come to my house to pick me up, go to his place for a few hours and then drop me off home again. We got along well and I could tell he really liked me. We laughed alot. He would hold my hand, kiss my neck and wrap his arms around me tight telling me he wish I could stay with him forever. Then, one day he stopped messaging me. I thought 'oh he's busy with work' cuz he works 12 hr shifts and is a busy guy, but as a few weeks passed with not hearing from him I started thinking otherwise; that he was ignoring me and maybe found a new girl... I was starting to feel hurt so I messaged him a couple times to try and figure out what was up. He told me he was busy with work and I said okay I understand, yet something still felt off. I asked why he was ignoring me and he said, quote 'You did nothing to make me ignore you, I would never do that to you, I didn't have my phone on me I am sooo sorry!!'. Did I believe it? Not quite. Since I still wanted to see him I asked when he'd be off work, he said that night and so hoping to see him, it never did happen. At this point I tried telling myself to give it up, he doesn't care and I shouldn't waste my heart on someone who doesn't care.. but I still liked him! Ugh.. Now the only chance I had to break a convo with him was to go to the bar where he usually parties. Soon I seen him within the crowd heading to the bar for drinks. I politely tapped him on the shoulder, he said hi, quick moment of chit chat happened and then I asked if he was seeing anyone. He said he was buying drinks for his buddies and started walking away. Being totally blown off, I felt like breaking down right there. I have dated other guys before, but this one made me feel different. It's like he left an imprint that makes me want to be with him, yet I feel hurt underneath all that. I'm used to seeing other girls be hurt like this, but... what do I do? Should I attempt to talk to him about this? Completely forget about him? Or ? I am a very honest person and know how to look past someones flaws, so I'm confused. I want to make this better but... please help. Thanks.
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Tell him how you feel. I know it might be scary. But that is the only thing to do. Or move on. But why not give him a chance. He probably doesn't think you even like him. So tell him.


if i get fingered, will my " cherry " pop ?
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First off 'popping your cherry' is just an expression. When a piece of skin down there called a hymen breaks or tears it bleeds a little bit. The coloring is a red cherry color. there for the expression cherry. But it's not like a little cherry of blood to burst.

Yes it is possible for you hymen to break when being fingered


hey so I'm really curious to find out the song that played in the background of this clip. it's when Alison and spencer are in Spencer's bedroom and her parents are fighting. please help!

http://m.youtube.com/index?desktop_uri=%2F&gl=US#/watch?v=vjSYVwUpGWQ (link)
Hey i have an app on my phone that i can try. But your youtube link doesn't work.
could you provide a video title? or something?

or words?

jasmine


I know this is really long but please just read it. I used to have a perfect life. I was pretty, popular(not trying to sound conceited), and had great friends. My best friend I was especially close to, she was practically my sister. A couple weeks ago, she texted me saying she didn't want to be friends anymore. I have no idea why. I kept asking her and saying like "can we just try?" but she didn't respond. I tried talking to her at school but she just walks away. Now all of my other friends hate me and don't talk to me anymore. They all found this group of new friends and I always see them laughing and having fun. About a week ago, they video chatted me and started saying mean things to me. I asked them why they all hated me and they said, "because you f*cking pyscho" and "you try and act all cool, but it doesn't really work", and " we hated you from the beginning you f*ucking slut". God, I cried so hard that night. Anyways, I've been cutting lately... A lot. I have cuts going down my left arm, one on my neck, and 2 on my hip. I have attempted suicide 2 times. One time I took like 4 advil(it wasn't enough) and the other time I tried choking myself. Also, a couple days ago this guy told everyone I told him I was gonna give him head, which is not true at all! So everybody is calling me a slut last night I made myself throw up for the first time. I just fell alone, and confused, and I'm crying so hard right now. Just give me some advice on what to do please. I feel like I can't take another day of this torture. I'm 13 by the way. (link)
Sorry this is long but very helpful!!

First off. You are not alone. I do know how you feel. Changing your life around is going to be hard. But you will be much happier. Trust me! There is hope for you sweety. But your first step. Is talking to some one you trust.
You do not need to cut yourself. You are perfect just the way you are. School and bullying is ver hard to deal with. I've gone to many therapists. Only one worked.

1. Talk to someone about your cutting. and making yourself throw up. This is VERY DANGEROUS. But you are better than that.

2. These peope that are your 'friends' are not your friends. They are rude. and they put people down to feel better about themselves. Friends are there for you no matter what. And honestly. They don't deserve you. You are a too amazing person to even give them the satisfaction of noticing them.

Start talking to other people. You are still very young and will meet many many new friends as you grow up. Just cut them out of your life completely.

My bestfriend when i was in grade 9. She treated me like absolute dirt. I cut also because of her. And i thought of suicide many many times. and the ways i could do it. Once i cut her out of my life, talked to my parents about what was going on. It got better. i am now 21. And am so happy to be alive.

Things will get better sweety. Just forget and move on.
HUGGS!!!

Hope this helps.


I Told My Dad That Im Staying After School For Extra Help But I Really Had Detention. I Knew Since Friday And My Stepmom Didnt Know I Was Staying After So She Came To Get Me And She Said She Looked EVERYWHERE And She Didnt See Me But I Was There Cause Of Detention. So now I Dont Know What To Do Cause I Have To Tell My Dad And Im Scared What Should I Do? (link)
Be honest. Tell him that you didn't want him to know you got in trouble. for.. not sure what it is fill in the blank____________. haha. Tell him that you were scared to how he would react. Tell him your really sorry.

and just remember, your dad will always love you no matter what happens. It is just detention. it could be worse. so take a big breath. And just be honest!

Hope this helps.


how to steal from hollister
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First off. This i a crime. Depending on your age. there are different consiquences. You can go to jail. Get fined. But the worst is getting escorted out of the store by police. Do you really want everyone to see you as a criminal?




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