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Depression after heartbreak from friends
I know this is really long but please just read it. I used to have a perfect life. I was pretty, popular(not trying to sound conceited), and had great friends. My best friend I was especially close to, she was practically my sister. A couple weeks ago, she texted me saying she didn't want to be friends anymore. I have no idea why. I kept asking her and saying like "can we just try?" but she didn't respond. I tried talking to her at school but she just walks away. Now all of my other friends hate me and don't talk to me anymore. They all found this group of new friends and I always see them laughing and having fun. About a week ago, they video chatted me and started saying mean things to me. I asked them why they all hated me and they said, "because you f*cking pyscho" and "you try and act all cool, but it doesn't really work", and " we hated you from the beginning you f*ucking slut". God, I cried so hard that night. Anyways, I've been cutting lately... A lot. I have cuts going down my left arm, one on my neck, and 2 on my hip. I have attempted suicide 2 times. One time I took like 4 advil(it wasn't enough) and the other time I tried choking myself. Also, a couple days ago this guy told everyone I told him I was gonna give him head, which is not true at all! So everybody is calling me a slut last night I made myself throw up for the first time. I just fell alone, and confused, and I'm crying so hard right now. Just give me some advice on what to do please. I feel like I can't take another day of this torture. I'm 13 by the way.
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This happened to me too. When I was 12, my group of friends first got rid of one girl (they made me tell her she was no longer welcome in the group), and then a few months later they got rid of me. I don't know why they did it, and you may never know why your crowd are doing this to you. People are just horrible and mean sometimes, especially around that age.
As some others have said, forget about these people - they are not your friends. Cut them out of your life completely. Also, the more you react to what they are saying about you, the more you encourage them to continue. So please please please stop cutting yourself and throwing up. The best thing you can do for yourself right now is hold your head high and know that you are better than them. Nothing will irritate them more than to see you happy and moving on.
What I did was find a new group of friends. They were not the cool kids, or the most popular, but they were a genuine groups of girls who accepted me for who I was. Look for friends in places you wouldn't have before, maybe join some of the clubs at school. But most of all, stop communicating with these other 'friends' - they don't deserve your time or energy.
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Hey there! Something similar happened to me. I was the most popular kid in school then when I went to middle school it was so wierd to not be at the top. I hated it and I got a little ways up there. I got a boyfriend and he broke up with me over text saying I wasnt good enough for him. And this was right after I has surgery on a broken and twisted bone. Then I had a horrible sunburn that covered my back and the back of my legs. It was purple and hurt SO badly that words cant explain it. I was hating life so much i thought about running away or something. A few other hurtful things happenend to me and I used my super long thumb nail and dug it into my arm everytime I did something wrong.
A month passed by and I had done a lot of work over this time. Including becoming closer to God, exercising more often and eating write. I got into a routine of this things and then a few more things happened to me! But they didnt phase me even a bit
What I am trying to say it God may be testing you. If you show all those jerks at school that they can't bring you down you will never be hurt again. Go into school everyday with a smile and leave school everyday with that smile. Don't make yourself throw up, that burns your esophagus and is really unhealthy. Cutting is horrible, people may notice sometime and call you even more names! I hope you get better quikly like I did. God Bless You. :)
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Sorry this is long but very helpful!!
First off. You are not alone. I do know how you feel. Changing your life around is going to be hard. But you will be much happier. Trust me! There is hope for you sweety. But your first step. Is talking to some one you trust.
You do not need to cut yourself. You are perfect just the way you are. School and bullying is ver hard to deal with. I've gone to many therapists. Only one worked.
1. Talk to someone about your cutting. and making yourself throw up. This is VERY DANGEROUS. But you are better than that.
2. These peope that are your 'friends' are not your friends. They are rude. and they put people down to feel better about themselves. Friends are there for you no matter what. And honestly. They don't deserve you. You are a too amazing person to even give them the satisfaction of noticing them.
Start talking to other people. You are still very young and will meet many many new friends as you grow up. Just cut them out of your life completely.
My bestfriend when i was in grade 9. She treated me like absolute dirt. I cut also because of her. And i thought of suicide many many times. and the ways i could do it. Once i cut her out of my life, talked to my parents about what was going on. It got better. i am now 21. And am so happy to be alive.
Things will get better sweety. Just forget and move on.
HUGGS!!!
Hope this helps.
<3Jasmine;
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