Member Since: January 23, 2012
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Last Update: March 9, 2012
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Hello again,
I am beginning to lose patience.
Your friend asked that question as a joke, eh? Well that is NOT ok. MANY people have already seen that question and your answer by doing google searches and ending up there.
You answer a question once, but always remember that you are really answering it for everyone who will ever come there.
Some questions on this site have been seen by over 500,000 people over the course of almost 10 years.
Now, I am going to ask one more time:
I understand that you have been around this.
I need you to understand that it does not matter. Unless you are a doctor, you can NOT issue a diagnosis.
Are we clear on this?
Maybe some day you will finish medical school, and we would love to have you here then also... but for now, you must not get angry and choose your words unwisely in situation with people who are depressed and/or suicidal.
Are we 100% clear on these things?
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Ok wow. There was no need to react like that. He didn't even say anything in the details so others who want an answer to that question would want it personalized to thier life most likely. And anyone who reads it is allowed to disagree, they don't have to listen. There are plenty of other and better answers.
You were mad about me telling a depressed person the wrong things, now that you know that is not the case I should be able to give medical advice. The only things I have told people to do for sickness is all natural. Even if I was wrong it wouln't hurt them. And ya I'm not a doctor, but I wasn't giving a real diagnosis.
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Can I lose 20-25 pounds in less than 10 weeks if I eat healthy, 1200 calories and work out 1 hour everyday. I'm 5'5" and 145 pounds (link)
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Of course you can! You can do anything you set your mind to.
Some key food for you would be the following:
-Pickle Juice! Many professional athletes use this!
-Spinach, so few calories and with a serving of some good, healthy salad dressing, it tastes great!
- Apples, if you eat one everyday they keep you from eating fewer calories!!! And they are super healthy
-Oats, few calories and fill you up
-Healthy yogurt, keeps hunger at bay and is good for ya!
You can also use acupressure as a "side-kick". It is kind of hard to explain so I will put up the link. But acupressure simply putting pressure on certain points of your body.
http://holisticonline.com/remedies/weight/weight_acupressure-for-weight-control.htm
Lastly, exercise! You aid exercise for 1 hour a day. That is good but you have to work for it. Do squats while holding weights, look up some football training techniques. That oughta help!
I hope everything works out for you!
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I understand that you have been around this.
I need you to understand that it does not matter. Unless you are a doctor, you can NOT issue a diagnosis.
Are we clear on this?
Maybe some day you will finish medical school, and we would love to have you here then also... but for now, you must not get angry and choose your words unwisely in situation with people who are depressed and/or suicidal.
Are we 100% clear on these things? (link)
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Wait a sec, are you talking about the one who asked,"Just tell me how to end my life" ? lol. No, he is my friend and he isn't gonna kill himself. He just wants to see what people say.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and we are just perfect together. We agree to get married but not yet, so he got me a promise ring and we are waiting a bit. He is my world and I am his. He has brain cancer with a pretty big brain tumor though. He has had it for around a year too. He was brought back into the hospital at the moment too because he lost his memory and went extremely blurry at practice. It kills me to always see this and I am back into depression, also relapsing with old PTSD. I feel horrible because I cry so much and he never does, i just think I am bringing him down but he says its the other way around. How can I bring myself back up and stop being so mopey and depressing to him? Also what could I do to cherish the time we have and just chill out and have couple fun? Any advice for either me or him on anything is greatly appreciated..18 (link)
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For the brain cancer, I have something wonderful for you that your boyfriend really should try. Here is the website: http://www.greatdreams.com/cancer-cure.htm
It is a natural remedy for cancer that worked everytime. I hope he turns out ok.
For depression make sure your eating healthly and exercising of course!! This makes me happier in any situation.
I hope you have a wonderful year.
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Hi there,
I know you mean well when you write:
"Asking this question is asking for help. You don't have derpession."
... but you are NOT a doctor, and you can't legally make a diagnosis like that.
Do you have ANY idea how much trouble you could get into over that?
The rest of your answer was quite good, and I don't want you to stop answering questions, just stop giving answers that could REALLY hurt someone.
What if the person is clinically, medically depressed, and doesn't go to a doctor because they believed YOU? They go on through life till they can't take it and they kill themselves... all because they listened to you and didn't get the help they needed.
Do you understand what I am saying here?
Another example:
"If you haven't been successful with killing yourself yet, them your not going to."
A suicidal person would take that as a DARE.
You just dared someone to kill themselves. :-(
I know that isn't what you meant. I understand that you have had hard times yourself, and that in YOUR case this was the way things went... but everyone is different, and you must NOT tell someone else something like this, which could get them trying harder to kill themselves.
Basically, you make them sound like a failure for not trying hard enough.
I hope you understand what I am saying here.
You have 24 hours to respond and promise that your account will no longer be used to answer mental health and medical questions, or I am afraid I will have to close your account.
Thank you,
DnagerNerd.
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Yes, I do understand what you were saying. My whole life has been concentrated around medical research. This includes mentally and physically. Everytime I visit a doctor I have tons of question for them and study the notes I take almost everyday. 3 years ago my dad got colitis and became depressed. When visiting the doctor they talked about the whole depression thing. When people are having a hard time and hate life, and when people have depression. My dad no longer has depression but if someone truly does have it, someone will notice. My family know exactly what I type to these people that are having hard times. I run it by my dad mostly because I really want to help these people. And also I hate it when people try to kill themselves, it makes me really mad so I wasn't very careful about my words when typing that.
Thanks.
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im in year 9 and ive known this girl for about 5 years and i really like her but im to shy to talk to her how do i get the confidence to talk to her and could i have like a couple of tips on getting her to notice me (link)
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Well, Im am a 13 year old girl and have been in the same exact situation where I'm too scared to talk to the guys I like. But here is a tip for ya. Girls aren't gonna be the ones to talk first. You know how guys have to hold doors open and let ladies go first, things like that? Well this is the same thing. I don't find it at all weird for a guy to come up and say hi, neither does any other girl. Trust me, you'll be fine. This guy last year that had a major crush on me said hi to me everyday so eventually we just started talking one day and now we are best friends. We went out for a while but he moved away. I wish you good luck!
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hi everybody! well im always depressed i accually almost commited suicide a couple of days ago i quit i cut the line, if you get what i mean… i dont wanna leave my friends and family everbody describes me as a happy person… its all fake im never happy i just try to be for everyone elese someone get me out of this rut...!? i have a great life i dont understand why im so depressed maybe im missing somthing im not sure… (link)
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Ok, so what I am about to say is gonna sound mean and I feel kind of bad to say it but it's the truth.
My dad suffered from depression a couple years ago. The main thing with depression is that you want to keep to yourself and don't want help. Asking this question is asking for help. You don't have derpession. Im going through one of those times in my life where evrything sucks and my grades are going down, my parents fight, and so on...I have thought about trying to kill myself and thought that life for everyone would be better like that. But let me tell you this.
Killing yourself only makes everything worse, much worse. If you are Christian then suicide is a bad sine that would very likely make you go somewhere other than Heaven. If you aren't Christian, every single adult in this world has done something great that made a difference. A lot of them have found that one person that makes them feel special. Some people take care of thier lives and love it like their own child. Isn't it worth waiting to see? It's like a great big present than you have to wait to open! Inside is your future. Also, that person that will find you and want to marry you one day is waiting somewhere in the world to bump into you...
So I know the wait it long, but just keep going strong. Write stories about what your future might be. Learn to stay strong because this isn't the only time in your life that your going to want to kill yourself...trust me. But when this crap clears up, something great is gonna come to you, I can feel it.
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ok well i am a 13 year old girl and i was born on may 21st. some magazines/websites/papers say i am a gemini and some say i am a taurus. i am on the cut off day. which horoscope should i follow?!?!? ahh its confusing. i was born early i was due june 9th btw if that changes ur answer at all haha thx :) (link)
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I saw different answers on different websites but I have a link that can help you find out. It is all about Horoscope signs! The link leads you to the Taurus sign, at the top just click on Gemini to go there. They have lots of info about each these signs. Which ever one sounds more like you, that must be what you are! I am a Scorpio and proud! :D
http://zodiac-signs-astrology.com/zodiac-signs/taurus.htm
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whats the worst thing that can happen if you get fingered (link)
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DangerNerd is right about that but if you really want that then make sure this person has been tested, cleaned, ect. Lol. That is what my bro told me. He said, before I ever let someone touhc me, I'm gonna spend all my money on testing them, getting them cleaned. I think he was joking, but you never know with him....
A finger can seem like something pretty small, but htye touch a lot of things throughout the day so just be careful.
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So my friend who I've known since I was (she is like my sister) started to think about suicide and yeah she got mental help for that but I have had these really realistic nightmares where I lose somebody I love because they killed themselves. I have had 2 so far. In one my friend Tieran messages me on facebook saying "ik you are at school and thats why I'm messaging you this. I am gonna kill myself today its not your fault though. I thought you needed to know though" So i message her back saying "I'm not at school don't do it" but she is offline at the time. So i start yelling at my mom to drive me to her house and I call her dad saying what happened. When I get to her house I jump over the fence in her yard cause I think they might have the back door open to let the dogs out. They do to so I run in the door to their kitchen and find her with a knife in her chest bleeding out. I put her head in my lap and call 911. The only problem is I don't know the address so I have to waste sometime getting the address. The whole time I'm yelling at her to stay with me and don't leave me. The ambulance comes and Tieran has been bleeding out the whole time and I can hear the doctors saying "its to late" so some of the people and scrubs are holding me back while I'm screaming and crying. Then I woke up it was so realistic I had to check facebook when i got up just to make sure it was just a dream. Then in the other one I'm at a new place to eat food and i'm with my friends we finish eating and my mom and I start walking back to our house talking about why my sister didn't come eat with us. Then my dad runs up to meet us and whispers something in my mom's ear and you can tell its bad by his face. My mom looks at me and says "Stephie passed out and never woke up. We think she is dead." So we get to the house and find my sister dead on the sofa and a doctor tells us she died because she was starving herself to death. Then i woke up and never went to bed. What do I do? I don't want to be afraid of sleeping any more. Should I get some help? (link)
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I am going through something like that now. I have had dreams every night the pasy 2 weeks and they all are horrible. I even woke up with a bleeding head in one if them. It helped me a lot when I talked to my mom about it. Or for you maybe you should tell the friend you mentioned in the begginning about the dreams. She may be able to give peace of mind that it is all ok. I know this would be weird but talk to your school conselor maybe. My most recommended thing is to seriously try medetation. Meditation helps me a lot, I haven't been able to do it recenlty though which is probably why my dreams stink right now.
I hope I helped a little!
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Okay, so, I have a boyfriend, and I love him. We go on dates and I know that he loves me, too. So, I was just wondering, how do you ask someone if you can give them a hickey? (I have braces, which may make him nervous, but I've practiced by giving myself a small hickey on my arm.) By the way, my boyfriend and I are both fourteen. Any advice would really help. Thanks! (link)
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I think that it would be ok if you just asked him straight out. But don't be all serious with it and stuff because that might make it ackward, lol. Just be like, Hey....mind if I give you a hickey????(smile+giggle) Haha...ya that might work, it's worth a shot. Whenever I am unsure about something I plan it out. Make up a whole buncha things he could reply to that and make a reply that fits nicely. It always works for me! Good Luck :D
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Just yesterday I started getting a rash that looks like hives I had a bunch and I was taken to the hospital but my the time I was taken in the hives had gone away and I was just told I had an ear infection. Is there any clue what these are and why are they appearing? As far as I know I'm not allergic to anything. Does the hives have anything to do with the ear infection? Please and thank you. I'm really scared. (link)
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Yes, this can happen but don't worry I know some things that can fix you right up.
I know hives are kind of annoying, though I have only had them once when I was a baby, But I have had an ear infection and I ued acupressure to fix it. Acupressure is simple and reliable. It can be used for soooo many things. All you do is press on a certain part of your body for a while! The point for hives and ear infections are hard to write out so here are the websites for it. I hope I helped! And try to look into acupressure, it's much better than medicine and doctors....
HIVES: http://www.doc20.com/disease/hives/acupressure.html
EAR INFECTION:
http://www.altmeds.com/ear-infections/videos/acupressure-for-ear-pain
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13/f I have guy troubles. There was this guy I didn't like but he was cute. He likes to insult people a lot. He does it every day. So I was new and he started to insult me too since I was in the same elective with him nxt to his table with my friends. We laughed and threw stuff at each other and sometimes pissed each other off. It wasn't until a few month I started liking him. I know stupid right. Summer vacations and we ended up in the same class. I never sat next to him. The only time I sorta sat next to him was in math.he usually complains alot when teachers put us anywhere near each other but he didn't complain this time. His friend was between us. We fooled around a lot. Laughed like crazy at silliest things. And than I started to think he might like me too. But I didn't want to find out. Cause every time we "talk" its only insults it if we have to. We never had a good conversation ever. Than I notice a lot how he kept staring at me and we are in dance together. He calls me really mean words and i try to ignore and sometime I say something back or just punch him. And he addmited it hurts and still does it. I like him I don't know why but I do and I don't know if he does. And if u advice for me is to talk to him. Than its not going to work trust me I tried. Its just i think he likes me but i also think he's trying to prove himself wrong. He gives a sign than he does something awful. I think he's good inside. I want to talk to him without him insulting. HE does it not only to me but to almost every girl. Not as often as it is to me though. He is confusing. So my question is can you guys give me advice on how to joke around with a bit insult. Like smiley faces maybe like this :p or u know other stuff. If i can't talk than i have to play the hard way to get close right. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. thank you so much.
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I have an older brother and he has had plently of girl troubles, he told me how to help you. First, I understand completely you likeing this guy. In 5th grade I liked this guy that was SO disrespectful but I soon got over him after I broke up with him! I have no clue why I liked him in the first place though.
This guy is a tough one, my bro says that you should try to show him another side of you. When he starts acting silly just be like hey stop it and don't do anything back to him. This does involve a little of ingoring him but not completely. Maybe if he sees that you are not always crazy, he may chill for you. Or you can have a random party and invite him to get closer to him and try to crack him. I'm your age so I know how you feel with this whole boy thing, sometimes it can be so frustrating but hey, that's life!
I hope me and my brother helped!
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just tell me how to end my life..
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Ok...grow up, get married, have a great lovely life and die old. Pure and Simple. If you really wanted to kill yourself you would have done it already with your own way. If your lonely in life then talk to a therapist. They have plenty of friends. If your getting abused then call the police.
I get that your life may suck but it really makes me mad when someone wants to kill themselves and they don't listen to help.
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I have to clean my bunny's cage but I have been gone for a few weeks and my friend never cleaned like I told him to. I started to clean it but a second later some of it spilled on the ground and the smell was SO horrible that I got nauseus. Its just sitting in my living room right now and we will have people over soon. The smell is creeping into my room right now! How can I resist sucha horrible smell? My stomach has been off all day and this made it SO much worse! Thank You. (link)
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Nevermind....I did it...and almost threw up Lol.
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18/F
I write gay romance stories and I'm wondering if there are any companies out there that would publish them. I've posted my work online before and it's gotten a lot of attention. Is there a way to publish my works or any companies that would accept it? (link)
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I was excited when I saw this question because I too write books. But they are adventure and more for a teen and pre-teen audience. If you want to publish them online places like bookrix.com and writeandpublishyourbook.com are helpful. There are a few others but these are good . If you aren't happy with them then you can look some more up on google. I am not sure where to send it for publication but if you do find somewhere then please let me know! :D
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OK so right now I have like the best boyfriend ever!!! He is so sweet, kind, helpful, understanding, generous, nice, amazing and soso much more!!!
Then there's this other guy that I've talked to on msn since September. At first, the other guy used me to get information about my best friend (cause he liked her). And then he told me he liked me through October and November. He kinda likes me a bit on and off but he likes my best friend more (doesnt bother me since i have a boyfriend). At the end of January, he said he wanted to be my BGFF (best guy friend forever) and since we got to know each other better, i said yes. So now Im his BGFF (best girl friend forever) and he's my BGFF (best guy friend forever). We only talk on msn though and whenever we see each other at school its really awkward but lately we have been saying a simple 'Hi' in the halls to each other.He says that he wants to be better friends in reality though and the only problem is, my friends or boyfriend dont know that me and my BGFF are BGFF's or even talk. So last night, I told my best friend about me and the guy and she was kinda weirded out by it because she doesnt like him. I want to tell my boyfriend but I dont know how to tell him without saying something to cover it. He needs to know the truth. Please help, all advice will be appreciated (link)
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I have an older brother and I told him a shortened version of your problem. He said that if he was your boyfriend he wouldn't mind that you had a BGFF (guy) becaue he had BGFF's (girl)while in relationships and they didn't mind. I think that if you want a great relationship you can't hesitate to tell each other things. And if he finds out that you have been keeping this from him he will be more worried than if you told him at first. So just stop worrying and tell him! You will feel a lot better. I hope I helped. :D
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How ca i lose weight in five weeks (link)
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Well it depends on your age, gender, and weight. But I'll give you some tips.
First, straighten up your diet and eat better. Go to Subway for breakfast of lunch once or twice a week. And if you can, walk there! Look up a food pyramid with how many portions of each food group you should have. Try to eat balanced every day. And if you can't help yourself, I eat something unhealthy every Saturday. But just one thing.
Next, you need to exercise for at least 30 minutes a day. After about a week or so try to go up to at least an hour. If your days are filled with work then while your are sitting flex your stomach or lean slightly back so that your stomach is working to keep you up. While exercising stop every 10 minutes for about 1 minute. This is a type of training that is most effective for losing weight or biulding muscle.
There are many other things that can keep you healthy, you can talk to your doctor about further info or medication that can help you. I hope I helped! :D
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ok so me and my boyfriend were just enjoying our time then i had to go to another school and so we dont see eachother a lot and theres this guy that im really close with because hes going to be my cousin and so i texted him most of the day and my boyfriend wouldnt answer my texts and then my boyfriend found out and texted me and said,"so you have been texting this person more than me," i said that isnt very bad and the he told me that he thinks that i love the person more than him. i love him way to much and i only love him but i dont think he understands me.
what should i do so that me understands that i only love him and thats all??? (link)
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This happened to me last year. He asked me if I liked the other guy more and I didn't want him to worry so while we were spending time with each other I turned off my phone and had all my attention on him. Before he left he told me he was happy with our relationship and wasn't going to worry about me texting this other guy. Maybe you can try this and I hope it works out for you two! :D
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hi,i am from south africa,cape town,i am a female and i am 19 years old,almost 3years married.i have a daughter that is two years old. the last time i was happy was the day i got married.. ever since then iv been crying every night. i have always been taken for granted, i had to go through alot with my husband we were both on school that time and that made it soo much difficult. i moved into a room in his mothers house. he didnt think that he must leave school to go work for his family he just wanted his parents to do everything for him.he only thinks of himself,he doesnt do anything for us if he doesnt get anything out of it. he is the only boy and the youngest child, he is 19 years old too. he has always gotten everything right by his family! he treats me very bad, when i cry he turns his back on me,he speaks to me like im a friend,and treats me like a dog,he minipulates me,and throws a fit when he doesnt get what he wants. during my pregnancy i was left without food to eat, they always made sure that he had a few rands for school but they didnt even consider me.they are not my only problem his two sisters moved back last year the one has three rude kids and the other one moved back with her husband and baby boy.. the one with the 3 kids is a thief that steals all my stuff,even as far as underwear and food..i must lock my room at all times even when i need to use the loo..the house is packed now and always noisy.i so badly dont want my child to grow up here but what other choice do i have. i have tried moving to my mum but that seperation does not work for him..my daughter is becoming rude and disobedient just like her kids she shouts and swears at them at all times and that is not what i want my child to listen to. thats part of my problem.. his mother treats me horrible aswell.. she always makes me out to be the bad one..his other sister badmouths me by everyone,when i go on holiday to his family in port elizabeth then evryone gives me bad looks. im not perfect,i have also got my faults, but i also dont deserve this.the middle of last year was abit better in my marriage. but now its gotten worst, my husband is working as a salesman on contract and he doesnt bring in much. he just took out a laptop contract that cost him 400r every month.money we dont even have.i wanted us to start saving even if its just 200r a month or so. he does not no about responsibility.he doesnt have to worry about baby health and doctor bills,my mum is paying that,she also goes every winter and summer to go shop for clothing for her.the way this looks we're never going to get on our own. i am not working yet, i did my senior year last year @ night school and now i am applying wherever is possible.he doesnt look like he is much interested in me anymore,when i dress up for him he doesnt notice even when i do my hair, it hurts alot! every morning i wake up he looks @ me and says where is my coffee, he doesnt even greet first..he comes home to a clean room, ironed pjs ready for him to go shower and he gets his coffee when he steps in the house,what am i doing wrong.i get treated like dirt from begining to end. the only time i get attention is at night when he lays next to me ,sleeping!i am very close to giving up..i dont want to waste my time if i am never going to get treated the way i deserve! what should i do? (link)
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This sounds like my mom's marriage but happier. My mom groans when my dad comes home and they haven't slept in the same room for years. They haven't huged, kissed, held hands or said I love you for as long as I can remember. I am sure that if I wasn't here they would divorce. I am 13 and my brother is 19. I guess if you aren't happy and don't think you can fix it then talk to him about divorce or something. But first I think you should try to fix it. I know it may be wierd for a 13 year old to be giving you info about your marriage but my mom has been throught divorce before and she has told me ALLLL about it. Just try for another month or two to fix it up and if you can't and your not happy, don't stay that way. Good Luck!
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