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I really like her, but I am too shy to talk to her! How do I get to know a girl I am too shy to talk with?
im in year 9 and ive known this girl for about 5 years and i really like her but im to shy to talk to her how do i get the confidence to talk to her and could i have like a couple of tips on getting her to notice me
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I am a girl and i am 13. If you want someone to notice you you have to be noticeable as in loud. Raise your hand a lot in class. ask her random questions. small talk. Be funny. I am telling you this will wark like a charm. If you don't talk or raise your hand in class or start mini talks you will be invisible. And try sitting closer to her.
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When you talk to this girl, I think you need to concentrate on her, her interests, her thoughts on school, weather, traffic whatever, at least until you feel more confident. She might be just as shy as you, so unless you ask her questions, it'll be a very quiet time!
I'd imagine that after 5 years in the same class she knows you pretty well, as much as you probably know her, so trying to be someone you aren't will just seem false to her. Chances are, she's already aware of you and that you like her, so you're halfway there already.
Smile at her and ask if she's like to chat with you; ask how she feels about a school assignment, could you get together to discuss various ideas?
Do you share an interest in music? You might have tickets for a concert that she might like to attend; how about doing some assignment research together at the library.
Your meetings don't have to revolve around schoolwork, shopping for your Mum's birthday present or Easter egg will do just as well. Don't
worry if you can't think of something to say all the time, a friendly silence can be good.
Hope this helps, let me know how you get on?
Best wishes X.
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Well, you could try talking to her with nothing in particular. An interest you both share. I would like you to try because you cant just be thinking about it just do it. Its better to do something rather than end up not knowing!.
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I had the same problem when I was your age. Don't just walk up to her and just tell her how you feel. If you have any classes with her, a project where you work as partners or in a group would be a good opportunity to get her to notice you. Simply ask if she wants to work as your partner.
If that isn't possible simply try to look for an opportunity to talk to her in a friendly context. If you notice she is wearing a cool looking outfit, piece of jewelry, or other accessory tell her. If she ever does anything special with her hair tell her that it looks nice. It's a friendly gesture that doesn't necessarily give away too much about your feelings and leave you vulnerable. It will let her know that you notice her and girls love that kind of thing. Pretty soon you will stand out in her eyes and be noticed.
After you get to know her a little better you can start to be more open about your feelings and let her know that you'd like to spend more time with her. If she agrees, give it a little time and then tell her how you really feel. You will regret it for the rest of your life if you don't. I guarantee it. It will haunt you to dream about what could have been. At least if you try and fail, you know it wasn't meant to be.
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what have you done already? how old are you? i would be very nervous to but i would just be a man and go on up to her and say will you go out with me? and walk away
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Well, Im am a 13 year old girl and have been in the same exact situation where I'm too scared to talk to the guys I like. But here is a tip for ya. Girls aren't gonna be the ones to talk first. You know how guys have to hold doors open and let ladies go first, things like that? Well this is the same thing. I don't find it at all weird for a guy to come up and say hi, neither does any other girl. Trust me, you'll be fine. This guy last year that had a major crush on me said hi to me everyday so eventually we just started talking one day and now we are best friends. We went out for a while but he moved away. I wish you good luck!
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