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Lonely single mom feeling like nobody wants me
Ok so I don't have a partner and I'm so lonely I long to have someone who will love me and me him :( I jus don't seem to fine anyone noone wants me I'm a single mum and my chil is my life they come first and men don't seem to accept that????any helpful words?I jus get down about it sumtimes x
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Instead of going out there to search for somebody to love you and your child, why not focus on loving your child as much as possible. And maybe one day a guy will just pop into the picture. And not to be a bitch, but desperation isn't attractive.
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The only advise I have is the same advice I have for anyone looking to find a partner.
Relationships need a solid foundation to build on. Relationships are like anything else we do be it buying a car or a house or even clothing. You need to find away to get past the outer attraction to find the inner beauty. In the case of relationship building part of the inner beauty is our intellect and inner make up.
Booty calls at local bars or mixers are not foundation builders. Their is no common ground there on which to build upon or to get to know someone. If there is any common ground there at all it is one of carnal knowledge which is a poor foundation builder.
If you are to find someone who you can build a relationship with you must first find someone with whom you share a common interest. The common interest is the ice breaker by which you get to know each other and communicate with each other. Communication is the key to laying down the beginning of a foundation to build upon.
Sit sown with a pencil and paper, yes make a written list, composed of those things of interest to you. They could include things such as cooking, hiking, Church, photography, reading, history, so on and so forth. Once you have made your list number them in order of greatest. Start with your top 5 items interest to you.
Get out your local newspaper, not the daily, the weekly one if your town has one. Look in the section of clubs and weekly events. See which of your top 5 interests has a club or event happening in your area and go to the event(s) or club(s). If it is a club continue to go to the meetings. If you like the club join and participate.
By joining different clubs and going to different events of interest to you; you are building circles of influence by which to meet people. You may even meet the person you are looking for. Through these circles of influence you will make friends who will have friends they may want you to meet. That friend may be the person you are looking for.
Common interest and communication are the building blocks of friendships. Friendships are the foundations of relationships. Relationships are what prove to make finding the person or persons we are looking for the easiest way of doing so.
I hope I have helped.
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I understand. It is very hard to find someone who will accept you and your child. I am having a hard time finding a guy myself. Not with child. so i can only imagine how hardd it would be with child. Just keep doing what your doing and hanging out with friends when you can. you will meet that guy who likes you for you. and accepts the fact that your a mom. Are you telling them right off the bat that your a mom? maybe wait a little bit and then tell them?
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