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How to tell him no.
Hi!
I'm a 17 year old girl, and I made a decision quite awhile ago to not have sex again until I'm married. I wasn't proud of it when I did and realized I was too young and not ready. I've also decided just to make friends and enjoy being young and single for awhile. My problem is that I made plans to hang out with a close guy friend I haven't seen in awhile(he moved awhile ago) and forgot that he's, for lack of a better word, flirtatious. He tends to always want to cuddle, kiss, or more. After we made plans to hang out, he showed that kind of interest towards me. I explained to him my decisions and that he's a friend and I'm not interested in dating. So now I'm worried when he comes over he's still going to try cuddle or kiss, etc. I'm just worried because if he does I wouldn't know how to turn him down, and in a way that doesn't make him feel bad and/or make things awkward. I'm not a very confident person with situations like these, so i really need some advice on what to do. Your advice would be very much appreciated! Please help!
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Good for you. You may change your mind as you get older and enter the adult world, for now I believe you have made a very sound and adult choice.
Cuddling, Kissing and petting, if it is still called that is not sex. If anything it is a prelude to sex that you can control. Should his hands start roaming to places you do not want to be touched you take his hand a place them back where they belong. You have told him of your decision and that you are just friends and not interested in dating or anything else. By putting his wandering hands back where they belong and gently but forcefully saying no reinforces what you have told him.
You are under no obligation to kiss and cuddle with him. Should you want to that is how you control him. If he doesn't get the message; and by the way stop means stop which he should know. You simply move away from him and tell him you wish to go home.
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