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i don't know what to do anymore: How can I make new friends?
Lately, I feel so lonely. My sibling and my neice moved across town. I don't talk to my family alot. I don't have any friends. I just go to work and home and stay and go to work and visit my sibling and neice and go home. How can you make new friends? Nobody ever texts or calls me anymore. I lost all my friends after i graduated high school. We just didn't talk anymore and got into so so so some arguements. How can i make new friends?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Jasmine is right -- creating relationships takes some work. If you meet someone you think you may like to be friends with, think of something you two can do together. This could be as simple as inviting them over to hang out, or go somewhere cool together (movie, local pool, a local event -- look in the newspaper, or on a college board if you're at college). A great way to meet friends is to take up a hobby you enjoy or volunteer for a cause you appreciate. The hobby could be anything: join a reader's or writer's group, start surfing or windsurfing, join a hiking, running, or dog walking group. There's groups for dog training, scrapbooking, poetry reading, cooking, dancing... heck, there's groups for everything -- pick one that you enjoy and you're bound to meet some people that you like (stick it out though, don't give up after a couple of tries). I found a local hiking group through meetup.com; I'm not sure if that website works for your area, but there are probably similar websites.
Volunteer opportunities could include helping out at an animal shelter, being an advocate for abused children, tutoring at a local school, gardening at the local botanical garden... you name it. Again, pick one that you enjoy and stick it out (the more often someone just sees your face, the closer they will feel toward you).
If you're religiously inclined, you may want to start going to church, mosque, temple, or whatever religion you subscribe to. There, again, you will meet people who share your interests.
Finally, joining professional organizations is very helpful -- not only will you meet people but you will be helping your future career along. There are all kinds of professional organizations, depending on where your interests are. There are organizations for teachers, technical writers, biologists, ecologists, etc. You name it, it's out there.
If you feel you're sabotaging your relationships, there could be a number of reasons for that behavior. It could be that you're drawn toward the wrong kind of friends, or you have some pent up anger from childhood issues (in that case, a little counseling may be beneficial), or any number of things. We really don't have much information to go on here. However, gaining some self confidence (easier said than done) usually helps us to keep from getting angry at others and have more patience. Self confidence can be built, in part, by getting active in hobbies, helping in the community, and taking steps towards our professional development.
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First off. communication is a two way street. Not many people text me. not like how it used to be. But you need to text and make plans too. It takes work from both parties. Also is there anyone at work you'd be interested in hanging out. and getting to know better?
try a new hobby?
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I can relate I'm in high school a senior and I'm drifting away from friends. The only idea I have is to get involved into something you really love like volunteering maybe or join some sort of group if you can
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