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I'm having trouble with sex.
I'm 19 and my boyfriend of 5 years is 22. We're both virgins because I want to wait til marriage. Last night, I told him I was ready to have sex and I was done waiting. I'm not sure if that's true or not, however. He didn't pressure me but I know he is tired of waiting. Well we went to have sex and he was barely in my and I couldn't stand the pain. We had to stop and then I got really depressed. I feel like I'm failing as a girlfriend and we shouldn't be together because I can't handle him. I don't enjoy being fingered, it hurts too. What's wrong with me?
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I'm sorry about that but you really have nothing to worry about, your a virgin and so is your boyfriend and by what you've already said you both have no idea what your doing.
First off if he doesn't turn you on and make you wet of course it's Gunna hurt and be painful! It's your first time after all. So you need to do one of two things (I recommend the first)
You need to be more open about sex; by this I mean tell him what gets you going (you like or want to try him kissing your neck, doing things to your chest, biting) whatever it is that's going to make you want sex and get you wet. If you have NO IDEA which isn't Surpring then try new things.
The second is to go buy and use lube (lubricant), tell him to go to Walmart where all the vitamins and stuff is, find where the condoms are and thats where lube is. Don't get anything fancy just the normal ky lube (theres warming and tinkling too but I find them uncomfortable). Use as much as you need it will definantly help.
Remember that your trying something for the first time that neither of you are familiar with, so give it time, you'll get it right
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haha. nothing is wrong with you at all honey!
You are just a virgin that is all. the first couple times it will hurt. try extra lube, and try going slow at first. It will feel better. trust me on this. you are not failing as a girlfriend. A relationship should be based on more than just sex.
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