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Okay, this guy really likes me and stuff like that. i am starting to like him to, but he isn't the cutest guy ever, what should I do??

Looks don't really matter. You rather like someone for who they are and not just there looks. And you said he isn't the cutest guy, I'm sure he's pretty cute. If you like his personality then go for it, go out with him. Tell him you like him because you already know he won't turn you down! He already really likes you but if you don't like him or whatever, then that's alright too, just tell him nicely you don't see him that way. But, just don't always go for looks, it doesn't get you very far in the relationship. Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok..all my friends have either madeout or done more with there boyfriends. But i havent done nething not even madeout yet. Ive been pressured to do it by my friends but i really dont want to. Im 14..is that bad?

NO! It's not bad at all. Don't get pressured into doing something you don't want to do or you're not ready to do yet. Everyone makes out for the first time at different ages. I don't think it's right that you're friends are pressuring you into doing something you're not ready for. When, the time is right and you find that boy you want to kiss/makeout with, then that'll be your chance. Just tell your friends "You guys like pressure me into making out with someone and I'm not ready to do that yet.." Just say something like that (if you want to say something to them about it). Hope this helps and don't worry about not making out yet, it'll come! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I NEED YOUR HELP! Tomorrow i have school again and i need a reallly good hairdo. But im telling you my hair will not curl or scrunch so whatever i do if any hairs down it has to be straightened. If you could give me good details or steps on a hairdo that would be appreciated.

if it helps, im a girl, and im wearing a skirt tomorrow.

Does your hair work if its crimped? If it does, do crimp your hair. If it doesn't then just staighten it and put like a cute bobby pins or you know what Paris Hilton wears? The flower pins, try putting that in your hair, that'll look really cute with a skirt! If you don't have any of that, try doing twists in your hair or putting it up in a messy pony tail with strands of hair down. Or, you can just leave it straighten (it'll still look cute) or you can try putting it in a half pony tail and put strands of hair down. You can also try lookin through magazines or on the internet and look for cute hairstyles and just experiment with them. Hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hi my name is Jess i have this really really close guy friend who has been my friend since 1st grade now he has a g/f and i dont like him but for some reason i feel jealous. Could anyone tell me y im jealous?

Hi Jess! Well, since you don't like him like that, the whole jealousy might be that you're afraid of losing him as a friend. You might think that, that girl will steal him away from you and you two won't talk or something. I had that problem with one of my close guy friends. The girl didn't like me because we always talked, so she didn't like him talking to me. Long story, but to make it short, I talked to him because we had been in a fight all week about it. So, if you want, try talking to him and just being like "You know we've been friends since 1st grade and I don't like you like that, but for some reason I'm jealous that you have a girlfriend and I think the reason why I'm jealous is because I don't want this girl to take our friendship away from each other, I don't want her to be the reason why we don't talk or hang out anymore..." Just say something like that and go from there. Hope this helps. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey! Omg i have the same prob as boy trubs! Its so annoyin i just always seem to act weird and i dont get it cuz im not the embarressed type! Please help me, and boy trubles

Hey! Well, I don't fully understand what you're trying to ask, but I'll do my best to try to answer it =D So, are you saying, you're not the embarrass type of girl, but when it comes to boys you act different? When it comes to boys, they sometimes feel the same way, thats why they say dumb things lol, I've seen my guy friends in front of girls they like. It's so funny to watch. lol. But, anyways, just try to act yourself, you rather have a boy like you for you and not someone you're not, just be open and act like they're just a friend or just a boy you don't even like and just go from there. Don't think of them as "your crush" or "the boy you like", just think of them as just a normal person you're holding a conversation with and just be yourself! Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i wear jeans to school and my mom said i cant wear thongs soo u can see my underwear line what should i do?

Try wearing the booty shorts, you can get them pretty much anywhere and they're not that expensive. They don't show your underwear line at all. Just tell your mom "I know you don't want me wearing thongs at all or just not yet, but I wear jeans to school and you know that, but my underwear line shows and thats really embarrassing, so what I thought I could get was the boy briefs (say boy briefs because the booty shorts might sound bad in front of your mom or something lol), do you think I could wear that?" Just say something like that. I hope that helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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My x-bf dumped me,And my bf I have now thinks I still like my x-bf because I didnt dump him he dumped me. What should I say to my boyfriend to make him think I like him?

-Victoria-

I've had the same problem!! Just tell him how you feel about him, just be like "I know my ex boyfriend dumped me and you think I still like him. But, I'm going to tell you the truth.. I don't like him, when I met you, you're like everything I want, if I still liked my ex boyfriend, I would be trying to get back with him, I wouldn't be with you. I don't know what you want me to say in order for you to believe me, but I don't like him at all like that, I like you and ONLY you!" Just say something like that and how you feel about him and stuff so he believes you since you really dont like your ex boyfriend lol. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey...trust me I know ratings arent everything..but sometimes i think i desserve to get rate for answers i put all my thought,effort,and time into. Im not a rating fanactic...but i just wish people would be courteous to press a simple button and rate me when i really give a good answer. Anyone else agree? I put a lot of time into answering questions for people..i would just like something in return sometimes.

Hey! Yea, I agree with you! I'm like you, I could care less about the whole rating thing, because I'm just hear to help people out (or atleast try to) and it's like they just want to give you a bad rating when really you tried your best to give them your advice. Its like, they don't like your answer, but you're just telling them the truth. But, you know that saying "advise is what we asked for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn't" I totally agree with that because people can't accept the truth sometimes or people take the advice the wrong way when really you don't mean it that way. And they'll leave you rude comments in your feedback. Like I've gotten some saying "I couldn't get a guy" I was like alright well I didnt' say I could get any guy, it didn't even mention me in the advice lol! They just didn't want to hear what I said. I don't, but don't really worry about the rating, if you know you gave all your thought and you liked what you said, thats all that counts. I've seen people give awesome advice and put some thought into it and people will give them a low rating. So, just try not to worry about it hun! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I transferred to a new school and my friends that i already know ignore me and i try to make new friends but im not good at that stuff. So at lunch everyone is saying ohhh talk and i dont know what to do or say.

Well, I'm sorry about your friends ignoring you, why are they ignoring you in the first place, thats pretty mean. But, just be yourself in front of the people you eat lunch with. Just be friendly and stuff. Just say stuff like "Well my names ____ what are your guys' names?" and just kind of go from there and just be like "I came from ____ and its so different here, like ______ and _____" and just ask them like "So, have all of you guys gone here for awhile or are some of you guys new too?" Just ask them simple questions and ask like "So, what are you guys doing this weekend?" or "What do you guys like to do for fun?" Just ask things like that and just talk. Ask them if they're on any sports and stuff. They should ask you questions too. And once you get to know them, you'll warm up to them and stuff. Just be friendly and outgoing and be positive and not too shy! =D Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Alright heres my problem..me & this guy REALLY like eatchother but the thing is..hes 3 years older then me..but we don't really care about the age..hes scared to ask me out and i don't ask guys out..what do i do?

Female
13

Yea, age doesn't really matter. But, he's probably just worried because he doesn't know how to ask you out or something. Every guy is different, when it comes to liking a girl or just asking them out, they get really shy and is not too sure on how to say it or whatever. So, kind of help him out when you two talk about how much you like each other or whatever. Just be like "I like you sooo much and you know that, but when are we going to be together? Like when are you going to ask me?" Just say something like that and give him alittle push to it. Or you can just simply be like "Can I be your girlfriend? I want you to be my boyfriend" And then he can say "yes" and you two are together! Just say stuff like that and help him out there. Hope this helps and good luck hun, tell me if you two go out! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok,i like this boy but were friends and all.Really good friends.But like everytime we talk i get so into the conversation and just want 2 blurt out that i like him.Should I??

Signed NEED HELP FAST!

I think you should tell him how you feel. I mean you can't control who you like, so just go for it. When you two are talking to just casually mention it and go from there. Just be like "I'm not trying to be random or anything, but I just want to tell you and I know we're friends and all and we always will be no matter what happens. But, I've began to develop feelings for you and I just want to know how you feel about me." Just say something like that and how you feel and everything. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i was at my friends house with a bunch of other friends and we got drunk. the whole night i was hanging all over the kid i liked ( who happens to be a good friend) and i refused to talk to anyone besides him. i tried to kiss him when i was drunk but he wouldnt kiss me. does that mean anything besides he only likes me as a friend?

No, it doesn't really mean he doesn't like you. There are a lot of possibilites here. It might not of kissed you because:
1.) You were drunk.
2.) He wasn't sure if you really ment it or not (the kiss).
3.) He didn't want it to seem like he was taking advantage of you since you were drunk.
So, if I was you, I would try talking to him and just explaining and asking him things. Just be like "You know how I got drunk? And I was pretty much ALL over you and trying to kiss you? Well, I wasn't just trying to kiss you because I was drunk, I really ment it, I don't know if you have noticed or not, but I like you and I just want to know if you like me too." Just say something like that. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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this guy that i used to date and i are still like semi friends...we can talk about anything and when i say that i mean anything...and the other day we talked on the phone for EIGHT hours EIGHT!!! i think i still like him but i dont know because last time it didnt work out...but now i feel closer to him and comfortable talking to him and i dont know what to do?!

That is along time to be talking to someone! lol. But, if you feel like you want to give this relationship another shot, then go for it! When you're talking to him on the phone or whatever, just be like "I know we've gone out before and everything and it didn't work out, but we've become alot more closer and I don't know about you, but I feel more comfortable telling you things now. I think it would be great if we gave it another shot with me and you going out again, what do you think?" Just say something like that. But, if you don't want to go out with him again, then just remain friends, I mean there is nothing wrong with talking to a friend for that long, you guys can be like best friends or whatever. Just do whatever makes you feel comfortable, just follow your heart. Hope this helps and good luck. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey, my girlfriend and I are really close and i love her so much but lately she doesnt seem as interested in me as her friends, i don know maybe its just me but it feels like she doesnt like hanging out with me anymore, even though i know she loves me. please help me.

Hey!! You should try talking to her and telling her how you feel. If my boyfriend thought that I would want him to talk to me because I wouldn't want him to think that or whatever and it would show you actually care about her and love her since you are wondering if she doesn't like hanging out with you anymore. Maybe she doesn't realize that it looks like that, so you should try talking to her and just be like "I don't know if it's just me or what. But you know I love you and everything and I care so much about you, but it seems like you don't like hanging out with me anymore..." Just go from there and talk to her about it and just ask her questions you want to know. Hope this helps and good luck. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey im Nikki and i broke up with my b/f about 3 months ago (this was an 7 month relationship) And i love him more then anything, idk if he loves me at all and he asks if i would want to go back out with him and idk how he feels buthwe acts like a complete jerk to me and jokes around like he isnt joking but then he says he is and makes me cry (boo hoo) so whats your advice..?

Hey Nikki! Well, if you REALLY do love him, then try talking to him and telling him how you feel. Just be like "I know I broke up with you 3 months ago, but I still love you and I just want to know how you feel about me, I mean do you still love me enough to go back out with me again? And everytime we're together you're a jerk to me, why is that?" Just say something like that and how you feel and just ask him questions you want to know. If he doesn't want to be with you or you change your mind about being with him, then just try to move on and get yourself out there and have fun. Go to fun places, like a party, the mall, etc. and introduce yourself to guys. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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A friend of mine asked me this question and i couldn't answer it. So maybe u guys can help. Ok here it goes...

there is this boy, i've liked him for over a year. and yesterday i saw him for the first time in a couple months. and i tried to drop him hints that i still like him but he won't catch any hints. what should i say to him to make him understand without actually saying it?

Tell your friend to flirt with him A LOT, and like giggle and smile a lot. And just mention some times when they were together (like memories) and just be like "Remember when......" And just say stuff like that. And just be like "Those were really great memories huh.. I miss them..." I mean those are some pretty BIG hints right there, if he doesn't get it .. WOW lol. But, if he doesn't then she should try talking to him and just be like "I've tried hinting to you so many times, but you haven't noticed, but I like you and I just want to know how you feel about me" Just tell her to say something like that. Hope this helps and tell her good luck!! If you guys need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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My boyfriend and I haven't been going out for that long. When we're kissing and really into it, he tries to finger me and I really am not ready for that right now. How do I explain/tell him I very much enjoy kissing him, but I don't want things to go too far just yet?

Well, if you boyfriend cares about you alot, he'll accept that you're just not ready yet to go that far. Just tell him something like "The whole kissing part is fine with me, but I'm just not ready to go that far yet, like the fingering and all that other stuff, I just don't want to go that fast, I care about you alot, but we're going too fast, but when I'm ready, I'll let you know, is that okay..?" Just say something like that and he should accept it and not push you into doing something you don't want to do. He'll wait til you are ready. Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i recently moved to a new town and dont know any kids here im going to a new highschool starting 9th grade in 2 weeks but im scared i wont make any friends...is it easy to make friends and meet people there???thanks

Yea!! You'll meet tons of new people in High School. High School is FILLED with tons of people. Just be patient and positive. Just be outgoing and sweet and smile at everyone so they don't think you're a snot (not saying you are). And in every class, try talking to people around you and holding a conversation with them, try doing that in EVERY class of yours, and then you'll bound to meet new people. And, you won't be the only NEW person in high school, there'll be other people who are in you position and trying to meet new people too. Hope this helps and have fun in high school. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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how do i get a girl friend

Well, don't just go out with anyone that looks "hot" or whatever. First, find that girl that catches your eye and you just like her for her. Just get yourself out there though, I'm sure you're a great guy with a great personality. So, just show that off and introduce yourself to girls. Don't be shy, like in class, hold some conversations with girls. Ask for the girls number and stuff. And once you find the one you like, then try telling her you like her by saying something like "I've gotten to know you and I like everything I see about you, and I was wondering if you like me too." Just say something like that and if she likes you then just be like "Would you like to go out with me?" And see what she says. Hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need anything else just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok i dont no what to do i have this guy friend that has been my friend for over 2 years and i really like him alot more then just a friend but i no if i ever told him i like dhim then just a friend he would freak out and i dunno what he would do but i still want our friendship to be there and i feel if i tell him that i like him he wont talk to me or something

You can't control how you feel about somehow and don't stop yourself from telling him. Although you two are friends, you can still tell him and he shouldn't just ignore you and not talk to you if you tell him you like him. You two are friends after all. Just tell him something like "I know we're friends and all and I wouldn't change that for the world, I'm so afraid to tell you because I don't want you to freak out and then not talk to me again, but I've began to develop feelings for you and I want to know how you feel about me. And if you do have feelings for me, I want you to know it won't change our friendship, it will always be the same." Just say something like that and how you feel. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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