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boyfriend's moving too fast
My boyfriend and I haven't been going out for that long. When we're kissing and really into it, he tries to finger me and I really am not ready for that right now. How do I explain/tell him I very much enjoy kissing him, but I don't want things to go too far just yet?
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BE HONEST!!:) guys like girls that are honest with them. Tell him that you arent ready to do anything just yet, tell him that you really enjoy kissing and being close to him..your just not ready to move any further right now. I remember when Ryan and I started going out, he told me that he would never force me to do anything I didnt want to. Meaning, I kind of ran things when it came to doing stuff..which it should be like that. If you dont want something, then he should respect you..if he doesnt then you really need to have a talk about that. A relationship goes both ways, it bends and straightens out..you need to bend for him a little bit by talking to him about it..and hopefully he will bend back by understanding causing it to straighten out!:) ((haha...my lovely analigy! [ah-nal-i-g]<srry cant spell!))
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Tell him exactly how you feel. He's never gonna know unless you tell him. Tell him that you're not ready because obviously you're not. And that you love kissing him but you'd like to keep it how it is until you're ready. If he really loves you, he'll respect and understand how you feel. Good luck, sweetie.
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Just tell him to slow down. Let him know the things that your not ready to do. If he truly respects you, then he will understand and not pressure you to do it. Communication, you need to be able to talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel.
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I very much enjoy kissing him, but I don't want things to go too far just yet?
you answered your own question. if he doesnt get it dreak up with him becasue it wont be long before he tries to do more.
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gurl, just tell him that u aint ready for this shit...tell him that u need more time...but u relly like him n u like his kisses...n you want him to b the first one doing that...so tell him to give you some time ;) i'm sure he will understand if you tell him ...so go ahead n do ur thing :) xoxoxo effy
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Well, if you boyfriend cares about you alot, he'll accept that you're just not ready yet to go that far. Just tell him something like "The whole kissing part is fine with me, but I'm just not ready to go that far yet, like the fingering and all that other stuff, I just don't want to go that fast, I care about you alot, but we're going too fast, but when I'm ready, I'll let you know, is that okay..?" Just say something like that and he should accept it and not push you into doing something you don't want to do. He'll wait til you are ready. Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.
xoxo Kourtney
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I think that you should tell your boyfriend how you feel about this. If he really loves you then he will understand but if he breaks up with you then you and your bf were never meant to be
I hope i helped!!
*Taylor*
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just tell him gently that you're not ready for that. if he gets mad at you then dump him. he's not worth your time. find a boyfriend whos considerate of your feelings and will wait for you to be ready. tell me if i can be of any more help!
--rachel
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Tell him that.I know it sounds corny but let him know you really like kissing him but your not quite ready for that yet but you'll tell him when you are.Like when your kissing him and he tries to do that let him know.And dont let him pressure you into anything you dont want to.Hope i helped and everything works out.Hope u and your boyfriend are happy!
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I think you need to tell him, or else he wont know! If he still tries to do it after you tell him that you're not ready, you might want to consider breaking up with him.
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juss talk to hima nd be like i like kissing n making out and stuff but im not comfortable and ready to go n e farther then that at the moment maybe afta sum time i will be ready but u hafta give me time!! hope i helped if u need n e thing juss ask* Caitlin*<3
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tell him you want to take it slow and if he doesnt wanna talk slow then u guys should break up
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Tell him that you are not ready to go too far just yet. Tell him that you are comfortable just kissing him for now. He will understand that you don't wanna go too far just yet. Hope I helped and good luck :)
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Tell him just what you said in your question. If he is someone that you should be with, he will understand and respect that. If he doesn't respect your wishes, I suggest you dump him. Tell him you don't want to go to far, and you want to get to know him better before you start getting really serious.
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the best thing to do is tell him straight out that youre not ready for that type of thing. dont beat around the bush with it. im sure hed understand how you feel.
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Tell him, "I enjoy kissing you, but I don't want things to go too far yet.". If you're afraid you'll scare him away by telling him this, you might just be afraid that he's only after one thing.
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you tell him just like that. just say you are not ready. if he really likes you he will understand and wait til you are. thats all there is to it.
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You need to tell him your not ready to do that yet. hes your boyfriend, im sure he will completely understand if u tell him u still think its too early or something. hes your boyfriend, u need 2 b able to tell him how ur feeling, which in this case, would be a gr8 start. tell him gurl! good luk! hope i helped :)
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