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slash family.. im 18, shes 24
im in love with my guy. all my friends and family members like him and they get along with him pretty well. everyone, except for my older sister. she thinks that hes no good for me and that hes using me. it makes me upset because whenever theyre face to face, she tends to be ignorant towards him.. and a lot of the times, he doesnt want to come over my place because shed be home. ive tried to make her realize that even though him and i go through stuff, that we still love each other and she just needs to accept it. but no matter how much i tell her, she never listens.. and she talks a lot of shit about him as well.. what can i do to have her accept us?
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SHE DOESNT HAVE TO EXCEPT U...IF SHE DOESNT LIKE HIM THEN TELL HER SHE CAN KISS UR ASS AND TO GET OVER IT.
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I would tell her that she has the right to her own oppinion, But not to voice it. She already has and you don't apreciate it. Yes, she is family. But you can also tell her she isn't acting like it, and that you understand she cares. But tell her to try and get to know him. She may come to like him, it takes time.
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Christina
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I think that if u love this guy as much as u do then dont listen to ur sister because i mean she wants the best 4 u and everything but this is ur life not hers and she is gonna have to learn to live with it i hope i helped a lil GOOD LUCK!!!
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try sitting her down and talking to her. if that doesn't work then disregard what she says. just because she thinks it doesn't mean its true. and you dont always have to have your bf come to your house. you could go to a park or just walk around your nieghborhood. just try to have a good time. hope i helped-Ally
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I'm sorry to say this, but she may never accept him. Ask her for proof that he's bad for you and see what she says. If what she says doesn't make sense and she hasn't really had a descent relationship, she may just be jealous that her younger sister has one when she doesn't. I know that's pretty mean to say about her without knowing her, and chances are she's just looking out for you, I'm just saying it's a possibility. Try to see her side, and empathize with her.
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theres nothing u can change her feeling deep down inside. she just trying to protect you because thats what big sisters do.ask her why she doent like u to going out then what ever she says try to fix it
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I went through all of that with one of my boyfriends.
What you have to realize is that she is only trying to look out for you. Maybe she see's something that you don't. And if your guy really cared for you, then he would put up with it in order to be with you at your house.
I don't know what you can do about her, maybe others can help you on that one... but you should talk to your boyfriend also. Tell him that it doesn't matter if your sister likes him or not... he should go to visit you whether she is there or not because it would make you feel better.
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Just basically tell her, that he is a part of your life. Not hers. And if you choose to deal with the stuff you are going through with him , than that is your business. You just need her to a sister and be happy for you with whatever decision you make. And as for her being ignorant to him, tell her to cut that shit out cuz he dont do it to her, so she should give him the common respect he gives her. Point blank, she cant be acting liek she is aprt of your relationship.
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