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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my cousin is 15 years old and has attention deffisence hyper activity disorder(adhd)and when ever she dosn't take her medicine she's always mean to me like she either makes fun of me or aggervates the hell out of me or she gets physical like last sunday we got into our second fistfight in a week over something so minor that it wasn't worth fighting over.
see she knows that i like this guy named roosevelt so she sent me a text message trying to play a trick on me she sent me a text message saying you look good baby this is roosevelt but she forgot that i had her number on my cellphone so all i had to do was go to my contacts list and see who it was and we ended up in a fist fight.
she bit me and she grabbed ahold of my legs so i couldn't get loose so her mom had to pull hef off of me and hold her down on the floor just so i could got to my aunts house to get away from her but then when she got loose from her mom's grip she came over to my aunts house and hit me in the head with her fists and iam starting to get really scared what sho uld i do please help me this is urgent!
please send me a reply as soon as possible.
Don't put up with violence out of ANYONE.
Those things she does to you? Yah, that's called ASSAULT. Assault is a CRIME. It is obvious this girl is completely out of control.
My advice? Call the police. File a report against her. It may seem like a bad thing to do since she is your cousin, but you would be doing the right thing. How right is she to physically abuse you? It's not by a far stretch. She is committing a crime against you, and it should not go unpunished.
Worried she may go to jail? Don't. She needs to learn there are consequences for her actions.
Her mother has no control over her, she has zero self control, but maybe the law can put her into check.
i need help or any ideas on how to lose weight quick if anybody can help me please ill take any suggestions.. thank you
Just as an FYI: There is no way to loose weight fast that is healthy for you. Weight loss takes time, effort, and hard work.
I've thought a lot about death lately, and have found myself very freaked out about what it would be like to not exist and that this is my only life. Dying and being nothing and not even knowing for forever scares me a lot.
Any advice or reassurance would be nice. Anything concerning Jesus will automatically get your question rated a 1 and your face ripped off.
So I know this is a belated response, but I came across your question in some one's column and thought I'd give it a shot.
All beliefs aside, I used to be afraid of death. I know how it is scary, because who REALLY knows what becomes of us after death? Maybe one goes to Heaven, or becomes another person, or becomes a blade of grass, or just blinks out. Maybe we become ghosts. Or, maybe we go on according to our own individual beliefs. Nobody knows for sure, and lets face it, we do fear the unknown.
I no longer fear death. It's bound to happen, we have no choice in the matter.
What we do have a choice on is how we live our lives before they are gone. To live life in the shadow of death isn't living at all.
Try not to focus on not existing someday, and focus on existing today. Focus on what you want to do before death to feel as though you have lived life to the fullest. (When my kids are grown, I want to go sky diving.)
You are here, and you are now. Worrying over your future demise only takes that away from you.
Happy living! :D
P.S. Off the subject? Don't listen to that crap from the person before me. There is nothing wrong with what you do or don't believe in.
last year i used to be really good friends with this guy. i bought him a really expensive gift, and he promised he'd get me something in return for the same exact amount of money for my birthday. my birthday passed, he didn't have the gift. he said i should wait till his birthday when he'll have more money to buy my gift. his birthday was 2 weeks ago and he hasn't gotten the gift i asked him to get me. i IMed him on AIM and asked him if he needed me to print out another picture of the gift i wanted so he'll know what to get me, and i'm pretty sure he blocked me. my parents are very upset with me, because they're not too happy i spent so much money on him expecting he'd do the same back but he hasn't. if i convince my mom she'll call his house and talk to his parents about this. is this the right thing? please help, i need more advice. i'm too nervous to ask him in person in school because i know i'll mess up talking and he'll snap at me. should i tell him my mom is ready to call his house and talk to his parents about this because she's very pissed? i need a lot of helppp, as much as possible. thanks guys
Lessons learned:
1- Never buy some one a gift and expect the same in return. That completely misses the point of gift giving.
2- Never buy an expensive gift for some one who may not appreciate it.
In all honesty, I'd drop it. The damage is done. You now know better than to do it again.
I suppose it is an option to ask for the expensive gift back, but it's not proper etiquette.
Maybe he can't afford to spend that much on a gift? To keep asking him will only make him feel an inch tall.
It is in poor taste, however, that he didn't at least get you something. High price tag or not.
I'm in yearbook, and i'm working on a spread about band, and i'm having a hard time trying to think of what a story should include. Help?
I did Yearbook my senior year. I had choir pages. For a story, I had to write about that year's choir- different things they did such as school concerts, competitions, etc.
For band you would probably want to tell about those things plus games and parades attended. Maybe their best played song, too.
Talk to the band instructor for added input. They may have something memorable to say to the departing seniors.
Also, talk to some of the band students. To get some quotes from them give the page a more personal touch for those who are in band.
If you are still unsure as to how you should go about it, ask your teacher what would work best. I mean, hey, they are getting paid to help you put this together, right?
Happy yearbooking!
Is Pep Rally supposed to be capitalized?
I would assume so, since it is a celebration of school spirit.
I dont know if I believe in a God anymore. It just doesnt seem real. How do I figure this out and stop being confused about it all. Also, my friends believe in God.... should I talk to them about it? Do you think they would be upset with me if I didnt believe in a God?
True friendships are never based on your religious beliefs.
If they are true friends, you should be able to talk to them about this without them criticizing you for your confusion. They should listen to you without bias.
If your friends fit into the "true friend" category, then you should talk to them. What are friends for, right?
As for how you figure out this confusion- I can't tell you that. All I know is that belief in God is something you have to find within yourself. He is real to you when He is real in your heart.
I'm 13 years old, and a girl, and I'm going to sing at like.. some talent and arts festival or something. people play instruments, others sing, etc. I dunno what I want to sing!! I have some ideas.. like I was thinking of "River Deep Mountain High" by Celine Dion... or like.. I dunno! I just want my song to be perfect! I kinda sound like.. hmm.. I dunno, kinda like Mariah Carey, except I cant go up that high. I dont exactly know who I sing like.. but generally I guess its like alto and a little bit less than soprano. ahh! i really dunno what it is. but anyways what are some real good "singing songs" (I like R&B and hiphop and stuff, but not all of them show off your vocals well, because theres alot of dancing. im not the best dancer.. so i cant do that.) I could preform? THANKYOUU!!
It's hard to say for sure if it would be your cup of tea, but how about "Fallin'" by Alicia Keys? It's a pretty R&B song that would show off your vocal skills.
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hey...i have a question. I am a really outgoing person and really nice to everyone. Soemtimes though, i get really mad over little things cry from it. I later realise how small it was. I get moodswings alot and really angry sometimes. I cut myslef sometimes when im REALLY upset but not always. I just wanted to know from ANYONE how can i deal with my temper? When im mad what can i do? I either punch the wall or break something and i know thats not right. I take a deep breath and count to 10 but that doesnt work. I tried writing it down on paper but im afraid my mom will find it because she always gos through my room. I get depressed Sometimes and i really dont want to go to a doctor about it or anything because true say, the problem is usually small. Can anyone tell me a way to control this anger?
Please and thanks alot
If you are concerned that you should see a doctor about depression, don't hesitate. It may go away in time, but it may get worse.
As for your temper- you say you hit walls and such. Does that make you feel better? Try to get yourself some boxing gloves and a punching bag. That way you can vent your anger in a way that isn't harmful to you. Plus it would be a great work out for you.
If you can't get these items, go to a gym or rec center that has gym equipment.
i am 16 years old. me and my boyfriend started having sex about 2 months ago. I was worried because last month i was late on my period, and then this month i was showing signs of being pregnate (unually tired, cravings, morning sickness) but the i started my period, and on the second day of my period this pinkish whitish glob of what looked like mucus came out. im really worried that it might have been an unborn baby. I can't go to the doctor. Is there anyway i could get medical help without my parents knowing? thanks.
I know that you can see a doctor without parental consent here in Kansas at age 16. However, your parents would wonder why their insurance was billed, and paying out of pocket yourself isn't cheap.
Try to get in to your county's health department. It is confidential and free of charge if you don't have money. They can help you figure out what the problem is and the best thing for you to do.
You are doing the right thing for yourself to want to go get checked out.
hey im the one who asked about the dance thing. well ill go into detail :] well, hes in one of my classes but hes a sophomore. im a freshman.and we kinda talk were kinda just like friends. and i think im gonna ask him to the sadie hawkins dance. but he might wanna go with another sophomore not with a bunch of freshman. it will be nice if he doesnt care but yeah lol im just kinda scared of him saying no. I just need some comfort or confidence so i can ask him. :] im scared of rejection :[
So he's a sophomore, and you are a freshman. That isn't such a big difference. Think of it this way- there will possibly be freshman attending the dance with seniors. Age doesn't always come into play when two people like each other.
But what it boils down to is this: how are you going to really know if he wants to go with you if you don't ask him? He may WANT you to ask him, you never know until you take the steps to find out.
So you are friendly with him, right? I would be willing to bet my hat that the only reason he would say no is if some one else has beaten you to the punch.
As for being scared of rejection, we all are. But you can't go through life not doing things because you are afraid of being rejected. That would make for a very dull life full of "what ifs" and "what might have beens."
Hey!
I am in despreate need of a new screen name!
here are somethings that might help.
-name:Jackie or Jaxx
-i like stuff like xo or oh ex
-i am hyper
-i love soccer though i don't want soccer in my screen name
-My favorite color is blue
-and i like the number 12
help as soon as possible
-Jaxx
hmm...
How about:
hyperjaxx_xo12
Is it possible to be raped by:
Same person
Same group of people
Person from the group that raped you
More than once, twice, or even multiple times?
Is it common or rare? Especially for teens in 10th grade to 12th grade?
I don't know how common it is, but of course it is very possible. And it is not limited to any age group. It can happen to any person, any age, any sex, any race, anybody, at any time.
If this isn't a hypothetical question, some one needs to get help right away. It is devastating enough to be raped once, let alone multiple times.
i don't get it.
my friends..like, when i talk to guys, they flip & get mad at me & wont talk to me & stuff. & its not like im flirting with someone they like or anything i walk over to them & be like.. can i borrow a pencil? & then i walk back over to them & they give me this dirty look, & ignore me the rest of class. & like.. whenever they say like who do you guys think is the prettiest girl in the grade? they always say, some girl that is yeah sure.. pretty, but.. [this is going to sound conceited] i think im prettier. like, hear me out for a second, all the guys in my school & like even at other schools, always say how pretty i am. & im not a slut or anything. trust me. so i know that there not just trying to get inside my pants or whatever. but like, my friends keep ditching me & stuff.. & saying like.. "go hang out with ... " & stuff like that.
i dont get it? whats wrong with them?
Maybe they are just jealous, not only that you are pretty, but you have the guts to go up to guys and talk to them.
Not very good friends, though, if you ask my personal opinion.
how do you become popular. like full out popular.
Always be who you really are. Do what you can to stand out in the crowd by being yourself. Always be kind and likable. Be caring and considerate to everyone.
Don't be the stereotypical popular person who has designer everything and thinks their poo don't stink. No offence to anyone, but those people are fake. So sorry, so sad- that's the truth.
To become a mindless robot who wants to be someone else in order to be cool isn't worth being popular.
To become a person who bases their social status on their clothes labels isn't worth becoming popular.
I had a taste of both worlds, and I became popular being my good old self in my fancy WalMart duds. In my opinion, that is achieving TRUE popularity.
Alright. So there's this worker at my community (complex condominum (sp?) And he works here every day, whether washing cars, or watering the plants. He looks 25-30, and he's a gangster hispanic/latino. And I'm a 15/f. Well, I just find him ABSOLUTELY weird and suspicious! OMG...It happens every time. I walk outside to take the trash out or to get the mail, and he is watering plants (today). Of course it's obviously inappropriate for a 27 year old guy to talk to a 15 y/o other than saying hello right?...well he said hello, and as I was taking the trash out, he stopped watering the plants (he had a cigarette in his other hand) and he came up to me REALLY quickly and drunkedly (sp? lol) said "let me get this for you" and he opened the door to the garbage disposer. I know it seems "OK" but the way he said it was SOOO weird and evil and...it was like he wanted to "get" to me or something! It was in his eyes ;_;...and as I was getting the mail, I noticed him spying on me. I don't trust these kind of people...and i don't know what to do. He works here every day. Now I know the kind of advice that is going to come to me; "Tell your parents". But I don't want to do that...because I don't want any trouble. Any tips on how to avoid him if he gets too close?
Well, since you are only 15, telling your parents IS the best option. They want to protect you from harm.
I will tell you that him being Hispanic and dressing like a gangster is really irrelevant. It isn't how some one looks, but it is their actions that are vital.
The fact that this guy is staring at and spying on a 15 year old girl is not normal. It's perverted, really. Especially considering his age. And he is doing his job while drunk? Shame on him.
I wouldn't just try to avoid this guy. I know you don't want to tell your parents because you don't want trouble, but if this guy is a sexual predator, having him around is just asking for trouble.
I'd wager you aren't the only girl who lives there, and he may be making others feel uncomfortable, too.
Don't take such risks of merely avoiding him- say something. It is the right thing to do.
I want to get DDR for PlayStation2 but my parents think it's stupid. I've got enough money to get all the equipement and everything but they won't let me. Is there any way I can convince them it's more than just a 'stupid arcade game'? Thanks.
There is no way to change their minds on what they think of a PlayStation. They will always think it is a stupid arcade game. There is no convincing. Sad, but true.
What is their reasoning behind not allowing you to spend your own money on it? Is this money intended for something of more importance? If so, maybe you can compromise with them. You can work to earn extra money specifically for your game.
Hey, it's the HeadHonchoPoncho57.
I'm having trouble finding the link for my forum. How do I find it?
Here is the link:
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=20657
No need to rate me. I don't know how to find it, so I had to ask younggrandma, so the credit is all hers. :D
okay so im blonde. and people sometimes serouisly think that im dumb - just because im blonde. and it kinda pisses me off at times cuz they treat me like im just stupid. and im not. i get A's and B's on like everything and get pretty upset if i get like a ac or lower. and still even if i tell people that im smart, they just think im stupid. what should i do?
I always hated being blonde. Blonde jokes really started becoming quite popular when I was in high school. (GRRRR!) I highly doubt there is a blonde joke I haven't heard already.
The best thing you can do is to ignore it. You can change your hair color, but you only be a blonde in disguise.
Go ahead- let them think you are stupid. They are entitled to their opinions, as are you. You know you aren't stupid, as well as those who care about you. That's all that really matters.
The way I look at it is this- if some one has the audacity to judge my knowledge based on the color of my hair, then they aren't to bright themselves. They aren't worth wasting my breath and time on. That's their own too bad.
And you are going to have those in your life that give you a hard time about it just to kid around with you. Those people don't think you are stupid, they are just giving you crap. My husband gives me a rash about it now and then out of jest.
A saying I learned from my high school math teacher: "Don't let the bastards get you down."
okay, so I was thinking about buying my friend a necklace for her birthday, I already found something she would like and the material is the same as this one
http://i3.tinypic.com/346rde9.jpg
but she's alergic to some, so could someone tell me what kind of material this is, so I can ask her?
I'd be great!
thanks
The chain looks to be sterling silver, but I could be confusing it with white gold, but silver is inexpensive, white gold is astronomical in price in comparison.
As for the octopus, I can't tell. It may be metal, plastic, or some sort of jewelery clay.