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Q: Well im 16 and so is my boyfriend. We've been together for 14 months and our love for each other is stronger than you could ever believe. Around our 11 month anniversary we lost our virginity to each other. I honestly don't regret it but im starting to believe that we are too young. I love him more than anything and it scares me how much i love him sometimes. Do you think we are too young to have this kind of relationship ?

Well i guess you can love at any age but maybe having sex was a wrong mistake but just dont keep doing it-trix

Q: ok well my hair isnt curly but its wavy and frizzy and juss like i hate it...i straighten it with a straightener and ive tryed like 3 diff kinds...and they get it soo silky but it never stays straight and the ends curled in and it juss pised me off...so i started ironing it...it works gr8 (yea a clothes iron on an ironing board)...it stays straight all day and is pretty straight when i wake up!! after i shower it gets ugly again and its jsus a hassle ironging and straightening ur hair eryday!! wat can i do?? r ther ne like straighting conditioner/shampoo that will help? ne good straighteners...i really dont wanna iron it it kills it!! HELP

Well try to get it trimmed you may have a few dead ends and that will also help with straighten it but try blow drying it first (when its obviously wet) and that will help it a bit then straighten it thats what i do and it works better then just straightening it but you can go to hair success and they have this straightner my friend got it from there i just dont know if all hair success's have it-trix

Q: I think i like this one guy who got into a lot of trouble at our school what should i do?

Does he still get in alot of trouble? or was it just that once... and was it awhile ago? cuz you shouldnt hold on to the past that much but if he keeps doing it then i'd steer away from that guy but if its also been awhile that he has done something bad then maybe he has changed try to find out and go from there and let me know if you need anymore help!! good luck-trix

Q: me and my best friend got in a fight liek 4 months ago...we hav been best buds for 10 yrs...well we got in a fight bc her dad wouldnt pick me up and they just left me ther alone...after my mom gives her a ride to skool eryday so i got a little mad...but im such a hyper person i dont get mad like alot and so i juss wasnt really hyper around her nemore and hse got mad that i wasnt talking alot but it juss hurt my feelings bc she was hangin out with this new gurl and they would ditch me and then wen that happeend i juss got really hurt...well we stopped talking completely...she wrote stuff bout me on her xanga site n stuff and weve had arguments b4 that lasted like 2 days!! and they wer even WORSE arguments but wed get over them...this one is still going on...she is goin to another h.s nex year and stuff so we dont even c eachother..but i hav her sn and hav talked to her a few times and we juss apologize n she tells me "to remeber her as the gul who lived next door all her life, not the bitch who threw everything away" and we hav s0o many memories and pictures and i just really miss her and im starting to hav alot of bf's now and i juss wish i could share everything with her!! everytime she signs on aim i get really sad and wanna talk to her i htink of excuses like "o u left ur jacket at my house frum a while ago do u wanna come get it sumday" juss to talk toher and see how she is...shuld i tel her how i feel? wat can i say to her? its been so long and im scared tho...we wer BEST FRIENDS...help im so confused

Tell her how you feel because good friends are hard to come across and just say how you feel and what you want and how you want the old times back-trix

Q: Okay, I'm 14 and I have a boyfriend that I've only been with for like around a month. But when I'm around him I don't really feel comfortable with him anymore and a few days ago he tried to get me to smoke with him by saying if you loved me you would... and i was really mad cuz im not big on drugs. I don't really want to be with him anymore, But he likes me alot. If you were me what would u do?

If i was in your shoes i would talk to him about it and say hey you know if you really love me (put that line on him) you wouldnt make me do things that I dont want to do let alone that arent healthy for me. so just stand up for yourself and if that leads to a breakup then so be it he wasnt worth the while-trix

Q: ok i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years on and off....i am 16 years old..we really love eachother...are parents know and everything...today i went to a physic and she said we have no future wat so ever together...and it was so weird cause he told me not to go cause i will start basing my life on her...and hes right cause now its making me think am i wasting my time...but me n him always plan r future together even though we r young...do u belive in physics wat should i do? how can i overcome this

Well sometimes if they dont know what the hell they will make crap up just so you pay them if it bothers you alot i would go to another one and find out if you get the same remark and if you dont then you know its bogess but i would like to not believe them-trix

Q: Hey. I really want to join the step team for my middle school, but I don't know how to step. I don't know if they will teach you how to step or if you already have to know it. Please give me advice because I really need your help! thanx.

Well call the school and see if they teach you how to and then if they do go for it and if they dont try to find out if there are lessons elsewhere and you could be in both-trix

Q: heyy! i really need to know how to make out with someone bc i am goin to hook up with a kid at my camp and i really dont know how please dont say idk or ul get it i really need help!!!! thanx (F 15)

Well pretty much just go with the flow there is no real right or wrong way to do it just move your tounge-trix

Q: this guy i know wants to get back with me after he hurt me once got back with me hurt me again and then while i was getting over him he made out with a 12yr old girl when he is 18 and now he thinks everything is ok?

Everything isnt okay i have a 21 yr that does stuff with 14 and 13 yr olds. and thinks everything is okay but its really sick i would stay away from him if he is that low. and must go to a 12 yr for stuff-trix

Q: Hey, i have a problem, theres this guy that i really really like..and i always have, and at once tyme he said he liked me and he wanted to do stuff with me, and it was the happiest tyme of my life..but then all of a sudden everything stoped, like he stoped IM'ing me...and smiling at me...everytning, and i found out he liked his x-g/f again..i was crushed..i was never so sad in my life...and to make matters wrose, after this once again he said he liked me and i feel fer it again and i ended up getting hurt again. :-( and i think i know what ur gunna say, that hes not worth it if he does this to me and stuff..but he is worth it, id go threw it all again jsut for him, b/c thats how much i care about him...i dont wanna move on, and i..ugh, idk, *please help me*

Well next time he tells you he likes you try not to fall for it just talk to him about it and ask why he keeps falling for you and then stopping and then crushing on you again cuz it only crushes you to trillions of pieces everytime he hurts you-trix

Q: okay so ive liked this boy for the longest time every since the beginin of the year ive liked him on and off again. so then when the summer came we were talkin and hanging out and stuff and he grew to like me back so we made plans that we were gonna hook up one day when we were both free. so i was all lookin forward to this day. well i just talked to him online and he told me that he didn't mean to hurt me when he says this but "i really like this other gurl and she is the only one for me right now but we can still b friends" well wtf! PLAYER!! god i cried! i mean i knoe im not supposed to cry over boys but i mean this one really hurt my feeling i didnt kno wut to tell him but i was just trying to be nice about the whole thing saying "i hope everything works out" and just letting it go! did i do the right thing? or was i supposed to tell him how much it hurt me? or was i supposed to play it cool and act like i didn't care? or wut do i do now? please help me asap!

signed
broken heart

Alright first off what you did was real nice of you and you did do the right thing but it wouldnt have hurt to tell him how much it hurt you though but i am sure he knows how mixed and confused you must have felt but i would just let it be for now until further talk to him later about it-trix

Q: my hair is wavy--not straight and i usually straighten it--i wanted to try to make it really curly so i tried scrunching moose...gel..hairspray curling shampoo and other stuff nothing will work plz help me!

It could be that your hair is real thick or real heavy or to long thats how mine is but i can still scrunch it a bit but i use this amplify voluminzer syster and its a aqua bottle and its about $12 a bottle but it works well-trix

Q: okay..i cant help it..i always let people walk all over me..and i serioulsy dont know how to be mean..and people say the meanest things about me..and i guess i just let them walk all over me..what should i do?

Try to stand up for yourself and relize how much it hurts you to hear and feel what the people are doing to you so you need to stick up for yourself instead of having people put you down because people are probably waiting for you to stick up for yourself and until you do they will continue-trix

Q: ..any1 know any cool back grounds or w/e I could use for this column? like black wit little pink bubbles or w/e..

I found something like that through searching through google but click on images-trix

Q: okay my friend is like my bffffeaeaeaeaeea but like she is kinda slutty like she has soo many peircings and like she flirts with all my x bf! and im scared that the next boy i care about she will try to make a move on him. wut should i do? i mean she is my best friend for ever and i love her to death! but she tells me that she would never hook up with one of my xes or wit someone i like alot so please help me out her asap

Talk to her about it and tell her you dont like what your seeing or what she is doing and maybe find another friend that does like this either and the both of you could confront her about it so its not so hard and your not alone-trix

Q: I've messed up a lot...and I'm only 15. I'm not going to go into detail about all the mistakes I've made, I just need a way to deal with them. It's like their haunting my mind. I don't know how to deal with it, and I'm always putting myself down about them too. I'm only 15 what do I do? I know its in the past and I can't do anything about it....

Well maybe you could get help from a counsalor and talk it out with them or a older sister or a older cousin or your role model (as long as they do dont what you did) and try to steer yourself away from doing those mistakes againt-trix

Q: ok but wut do u mean ask him about it? how would i say something like that? and ur rite it would be less embarrassing on the internet....

Just be casual about it be like so what do you think about us... me and you together or something like that or you could just go for it and ask him out-trix

Q: i really really like this boy, he tells me he likes me too, and we just broke up but i still have feelings for him! i mean, he tells his friends i never have a chance with him again, i wanna confront him about him lieing but i dont want him mad at me cause i want to get him to like me!

--what should i say to him and what should i do to get him to like me!?--

Well if he says he likes you then that is no problem just tell him how you feel and what you want for the future of you to-trix

Q: I just found out today that I am a Level 1 Moderator =) =) I'm very excited but I think I am going out of town soon so I'm afraid they can take it away from me if I'm not active. Can my level be taken away at all?

Thanks so much!!

I was once one and i didnt come online for quite sometime and i was still was one and another time it happaned and i wasnt one so its about luck like they say-trix

Q: ok u kinda already answered this but i would like u to be more specific if u could? should i just ask the guy out or not? when and where would be the good time? im kinda scared to ask him out like i might freeze or get embarassed? any advice to get me through this? please help...Me

Well... if you ask online then it shouldnt be as emberassing online then rather then in person so maybe you should talk to the guy first about weather if you to should go out or not that way you could save yourself some emberassment incase he didnt want to go out for the sake of saving the friendship or something like that. I'd do it when he doesnt seem so busy and you arent very busy yourself-trix

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"