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Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)

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I am a 20 year old female and my period has been way out of whack this month it started out really light and brown in color and it should have ended two days ago, and now it is super heavy and really red!!! I don't mean to be graphic, but, I go through a super tampon in less then an hour! I don't think this is normal! is something wrong with me? Should i go to a gyno? I have never experienced this in all the years i have had my period! Ok I am freaking out. Can i lose to much blood from my period?

Thanks

You need to see a doctor, that is probably not normal or healthy. In the meantime, you could be losing a lot of iron, so take some supplements or eat red meat.

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I was thinking the other day about douching and how it's suppose to help keep you clean down there. Well, if it removes dirt and other stuff then will it remove semen if I have sex with my boyfriend and douch right after? I figure it isn't a fool-proof birth control method but maybe it helps to reduce the chances of pregnancy? Anybody know?

No, and it's bad for you anyway.

There are plenty of other effective birth control methods out there.

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I was with my boyfriend yesterday and we were just hanging out. I got on his lap and we were making out a little and I got some gas. I was going to get up and go to the bathroom but it slipped out and I totally farted on my boyfriend! I turned red and apologized but it really did smell pretty bad and lingered in my room. He was SO grossed out and went home like 15 minutes later and didn't call me to say goodnight like he usually does. I'm SO embarrassed to even talk to him about this! He really didn't seem very pleased (not that I would expect him to be) but I don't know why he's taking it so hard and is upset...or maybe I'm just overreacting and misinterpretting the situation / his reaction? I don't know what to do now.

Really, if he can't deal with that, he needs to grow up. Not like it's something he hasn't done before.
You don't need to do anything unless he brings it up.

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hi 14f bf 16 xD

well yesterday i was talking to my bf I said I was going to change my hair. I told him I was going to make my hair wavy and where some makeup. He said "Me no like ;/ " and i asked him what did he meant and he said " I love your hair the way it is and You don't need make up." He said i don't like the girls with the make up that makes them look like clowns, i dont like the bright lipstick, a little eyeliner is fine but you don't need it. soo i like wearing makeup but what makeup should i do that he would approve of? I don't wear it often. Thanks!

All guys think they like girls without makeup.
The truth is, if they saw most (or at least many) girls without makeup, they wouldn't think they're half as attractive.
You shouldn't change the way you want to look for a guy. If he likes the natural look, then if you want to go for that, do it. But don't decide how to do your hair based on a guy, be your own person.

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I have really bd skin.
Like in the winter it gets all dry and stuff.
Currently, I have three very dry, very cracked fingers.
I read someone there were some time of gloves you could wear at night that would sofen them up?

What are those gloves and where can I find them?

Bath and Body Works does sell gloves and lotion to go with them in their True Blue Spa section, but they're kind of expensive.

The best thing is to is get some really good hand cream- Neutrogena Norwegian Formula (unscented) is the best, you can get it at drugstores and Walmart, then put some cotton gloves on your hands before you go to sleep. If you don't have any, your local beauty supply store should.

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Me and my boyfriend haven't been going out for long but I realllly like him.I don't smoke anything (no cigs,no weed,etc) and he knows that and respects it. He does smoke weed though and he asked me if it bothered me (before we started going out) and i said it didn't bother me ,because it used to not bother me.Now it seems as though he took advantage of that and smokes ALL the time,probably everyday.I don't like how he acts when he's high,he's just not the same.He acts dumb and is just not normal (obviously because thats what smoking does to you...)He used to lie to me about when he did it because it bothered me but he stopped lying about it and does it all the time.I told him he doesn't have to quit but I'd wish he would just do it less.He keeps saying he will do it less and he just doesn't.I don't wanna break up with him ,i just have talked to him several times about it but have never threatend to breakup with him over it because it's such a dumb thing,but it's gotten to be a big deal.I need help!

Since you've talked to him about it and he hasn't tried to change, you just need to decide what you care about more. Are you willing to be with this guy, who, chances are, won't stop, or is it too much of an issue? It's not really a "dumb thing", if it bothered you, it should be important enough for him to put some effort in. If something you did bothered him, you'd try to change it, right?
You can't make him stop, but you have every right to ask him not to be high around you.

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So, I shoplifted the other day. Not anything huge, just some earrings from American Eagle and a shirt from Forever 21. They didn't have an ink tag or anything, just a price tag with a barcode, which I ripped off. I didn't do it because I don't have money, but I will admit, I don't like to just blow my money. I have a shopping addiction and I can't afford to buy every single thing in the store. I saw it as an easy solution. I hid them under clothes to take in the dressing room, so the attendant saw no difference. But my question is, are there security cameras in the dressing room.. is that even legal ? Or what are others ways I could get caught ?

(And please PLEASE do not tell me about how shoplifting is wrong. I don't have a guilty conscience about it, and I'm going to continue to do it.)

Here's the thing. When you shoplift, it's not IF you're gonna get caught, it's WHEN. The more you do, the higher the chance that you will. Depending on your state, there could be security cameras in the dressing room (monitoring by females). If you're not gonna stop, at least don't go in those stores again. There are tons of ways you can get caught, from hidden cameras to undercover security to alarmed tags. It's just not worth it, why not try to get a job so you can buy what you want? I'm not judging you, not like I've never done it before, but continuing with it is a really bad idea.

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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a full month now and he STILL wants it to be private. I want to tell my friends that I'm seeing him but he keeps saying how he doesn't want everyone knowing about our business so we should keep our relationship hidden. I, secretly, told my best friend and she said it isn't normal and that boys who don't want anybody to know about their girlfriends are ashamed of them or are seeing other girls. I really don't want to believe that but I cannot come up with any different thought about it. Why doesn't my boyfriend want anybody to know we're dating?

No one on here can tell you, you'll have to ask him. It could be that he's telling the truth, but to be honest, I really doubt it, it sounds like he doesn't want other girls to know he's not single. You need to talk to him.

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Hey, I am 16 years old and about 2 years ago I realized I have small bumps on the shaft of my penis. I have had sex before if that had anything to do with them. I dont know what it is and I am worried about it since the bumps are not going away or anything. There are a lot of them, really, but they are fairly small in size. If anyone knows anything about this PLEASE help me! How do I get rid of this? No girl is going to have sex with me when they see the bumps on my penis!
Thanx

No one on here can really tell you if you have an STD or not, but if you've had sex before, it doesn't hurt to get tested anyway.

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ok, so i've learnt my lesson to never ever have sex without a condom, even if the guy doesnt cum in me.. The pre-cum can still get u pregnant. Its been just over a week, is there any way of finding out if i'm pregnant, other than getting the blood test and other box tests you can get over at the pharmacy.
If this helps, i was on my period when we had sex without a condom. And right now, i'm sort of still on my period, its just little brown stuff right now. So..? What does that mean? Could i be pregnant even though i'm sort of still on my period?

Thank you..

You can't take a pregnancy test until you miss your period, so unfortunately all you can do is wait.

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Well , me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year . &+ He says he loves me and stuff, &+ He got a condom . He wants to have sex, and his birthdays coming up... But idk what to do? Im still kinda intimidated by us having sex. Its not like im scared . It's just im nervous to. Idk what to do or how to do it? Help !

You don't sound very sure, and there's no reason to if you're not. No one ever regretted waiting a while.

You need to talk to him and tell him that you're not ready yet. There's no hurry, and it's not something you can take back.

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My boyfriend wants me to go on the birth control pill so he doesn't have to put a condom on when we have sex but I'm not sure if it's safe to do that. We really can't risk me getting pregnant so I want all of the information on this before I go on the pill so I know what needs to happen for us to be safe. I'm not against going on the pill or anything, but I do want to know if we'll be safe and protected if he doesn't wear a condom any more when we have sex. My boyfriend says as long as I take the pill every day then he won't have to wear a condom, but a friend of mine says she still makes her boyfriend wear a condom just be on the safe side even though she's been on the pill for like 3 months now.

Any info. is great info.

Thanks!

No method of birth control is 100% safe. People have gotten pregnant on birth control, especially if you don't take the pills at the same time every day. Your best bet to nearly guarantee you won't get pregnant is to use condoms and birth control.

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My boyfriend and I are wanting to have sex but we can't really afford to buy birth control pills or condoms because neither of us have jobs. I know condoms are suppose to be cheaper but when I looked at the store it really seems like they're going to get costly in a hurry with the way we're feeling about having sex. I just cannot get pregnant so going without protection is really not an option, even if it's just in the beginning.

Is there a way I can get free condoms or free birth control? I can't tell my mom either so please don't suggest I ask her to buy them for me!

If you go to your local Planned Parenthood, they can get you free or cheap (depending on your state) birth contrl without your parents knowing. In my state (CA), you can get it free for a year then it's around $15/month.
Condoms actually aren't too expensive, if you buy them at Walmart it's around 6 or 7 dollars a box. You'll have to use them for a while anyway, because once you get on bc, you have to wait anywhere from a week to a month before it starts working.

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my boyfriend and i had sex without any protection for the first time.. He didnt cum in me, but we suspect pre-cum did.. Can i get pregnant over pre-cum? Or is it 110% unlikely? Thank you.

Yes, there is more than enough sperm in precum to make you pregnant- remember, it only takes one. If possible, you should take Plan B.

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My boyfriend and I have sex without condoms. We've only used a condom once, actually, but we've only been having sex for a couple of weeks. He always pulls it out of me before he cums so he doesn't get me pregnant so we don't need condoms or anything like that.

My best friend said he probably still leaks in me a little and it's called precum. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he was like, "NO! I ALWAYS pull out of you, you know that!" I totally trust my boyfriend and I know he doesn't cum inside of me, obviously.

I'm still kind of worried though because I also don't think my best friend would lie to me about getting pregnant. I totally can NOT get pregnant by my boyfriend because my mom would kill me.

Can this "precum" really get me pregnant? Should I be worried that I might be pregnant? My period was due two days ago but I know sex delays your period so I wasn't worried about it...should I be concerned now?

Yes, precum has more than enough sperm to enable conception. And of course he'll say that, because guys can't usually feel when precum comes out. Pulling out is extremely ineffective and if you keep it up, chances are you will get pregnant. You should take a pregnancy test now to make sure.

If you and your boyfriend don't like condoms, then at least get on birth control (you can get it from Planned Parenthood without your parents knowing).

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Hey, I'm looking for high heels. They can be high haha. I want speciffic heels, black shoe with a red back, so people walking behind you can see the red. If you saw the movie Valentines Day, Jessica Alba's shoes when she checks into the hotel. At 0:38 in the trailer:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jSS-QPdiiiY


Also, in the movie "when in rome" Beth, the main girl, is wearing them too. at 1:39 in this trailer you can see them

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4G0J6GC4Pbo

a picture of something like them:
http://cdn1.ioffer.com/img/item/105/388/201/o_IdUAbnBlCtYQFXD.jpg


where can i get these? websites, stores brand names, and prices appreciated!

Those are Louboutins:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christian_Louboutin#Shoes

They're pretty expensive, so you may want to look in stores for a cheaper option.

Another option is to buy a cute pair of heels, some porch paint (has staying power) and just paint them yourselves, it isn't that hard.
Here's a tutorial:
http://www.doedeereblogazine.com/articles/trend-alert-diy-your-accessories

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What are some inspirational/moving on songs that you know?
They can be religious, but I want something along the lines of
"I'm Moving On" - Rascal Flatts.

Let It Go- Tim Mcgraw

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What do you think of these dresses for 8th grade graduation?
Which dress do you like best? + any other suggestions?

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=437037&CategoryID=37783

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=447040&CategoryID=18109&LinkType=PDPZ1

http://www3.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?DeptID=50455&CatID=51773&GrpTyp=PRD&ItemID=17d8a60&attrtype=&attrvalue=&CMID=50455%7c51280&Fltr=&Srt=&QL=F&IND=39&cmVirtualCat=&CmCatId=50455|51280|51773

http://www3.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?DeptID=50455&CatID=51773&GrpTyp=PRD&ItemID=171f5a6&attrtype=&attrvalue=&CMID=50455%7c51280&Fltr=&Srt=&QL=F&IND=45&cmVirtualCat=&CmCatId=50455|51280|51773

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dress&product%5Fid=2066589810&Page=1

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dress&product%5Fid=2059045245&Page=3

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dress&product%5Fid=2060590923&Page=4#

Keep the price in mind.

Is that the kind of dresses you were to graduation?

I don't know what do you think?

I love the first one and the white strapless one from Forever 21, however they're a little skimpy for graduation, so maybe a cute cardigan or something over.

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I'm 16 and not realy use to buying gifts for a boy/guy that's 16, 17, or 18. i could tell you aout the person and maybe this could help you help me.

*has an i-pod
*listens to all kinds of music
*loves soccer/ plays soccer
*10th grade
*fav. color is green and red
*has almost every namebrand shoe that has ever been sold
*sweet, kind, and OUTGOING

What do i get him?

thank you. :)


Cologne- If you don't know what he likes, Sephora has a cologne sampler set that comes with a bunch of testers to try and a coupon for a free full sized of any of them.

Baked goods- cookies, etc.


Movie tickets or restaurant gift card

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what are some cute love songs?

Let's Fall In Love Again- Jason Castro
The Way I Am- Ingrid Michaelson
Bubbly- Colbie Caillat
Lucky- Jason Mraz and Colbie Caillat

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