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Hiya! My name is Chi-Chi, and I'm really easy and good at talking to and making new friends. School means everythig to me because I hope to make it BIG! I Love GOD (yep...I'm a Catholic-Christian and proud of it!) and shopping at Abercrombie&Fitch, Hollister, Delia's, Urban Outfitters, American Eagle, Forever 21, H&M, Nordstrom, etc. just makes my day :) I'm exciting and crazy and act wacky at most times, but hey-I don't like to be boring. I'm also super random :) Having a good time is my specialty, and I enjoy cheering people up. I would say that I give good advice as well as many other people on this site. If you have any questions at all, feel free to ask and I'll answer ASAP. I really do love when I get messages in my inbox because I feel that I am up to the job to answer your question the best way possible. Well...enjoy my site, and make sure to tell others about it. I'm outty. PEACE.
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i have this guy friend who me and him want to be sex partners and still be the best of friends were like best friends but he might be going out with this girl i dont mind i just dont wanna have sex with him if he goes with this certain girl who me and the girl have been in a bad argument already over him. but i dont like him its just i like the attention from him and i dont know if he goes with the girl should i stop talkin to him or should i not care cuz in the end we still best friends.
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-lovers and friends mix-up
You should ask him if he still goes with her. I know that you two wouldn't want to upset her if she found out about the decision that you guys made. Just think about it...how would you feel if your boyfriend had casual sex with his best friend? If you don't really like him or even love him, then don't have sex with him. You shouldn't do it just because you want attention from him. That's not a very good way to get attention. Is it really worth it? Think about it. I hope I helped!
ok heyz, this boy in my class likes me and its totally obvious. but the thing is he went out with my best friend and if he aske me out then what should i do should i say yes or no.because this other guy likes me and hes already sorta asked me out so i dont know what to do about that. its not really a date what should i do... help me soon!?!?!
I think that you should decide which one you like better and have more feelings for. If you like the guy that asked you out who wen tout with your best friend, then ask your best friend if it's ok, and if she says yes, then you can go out with him, but if she says no then you should respect that...don't let a guy come in between your friendship. On the other hand, if you life the guy that asked you out first, then definitely go out with him. I guess it's just a matter of strong attraction. I hope I helped!
ok... well i have a boyfriend.. and well not alot of guys like me at my school (i mean like bc they are stupid im not like a nerd or anything!) and then like everyone was makin fun of us and stuff and when me and my friend went to his house he was all like flirting with her.. what should i do (I GOT PISSED!)
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I think that you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that you didn't like it when he was flirting with your friend. Don't accept the replies of "She started it" or "It's not a big deal, I was just playin' around" and other esponses like that because that will show that he doesn't are how you feel about it. If you can't seem to get through him and he doesn;t seem to want to care about your feelings, then you should dump him. You may think that it is a ridiculous thing to do but a women needs to have a boyfriend that is able to change his negative ways when his girlfriend comfronts him, and listens to her feelings and cares about them also. Do what you thikn is best. I hope I helped!
well im going out with this guy that my best friend hates...but yea i told her i dumped him so she wouldnt be mad at me but than somehow she found out that im still going out with him....and i love him(i've never felt that way about a guy before)...and now she is all pissed off at me...!! what should i do?
I think that you should really talk to your friend about this. She probably doesn't like the fact that you lied to her. Maybe you'll find out why she hates him so much. Maybe he did something to her or someone she knew that she didn't like or approve of, and she is just trying to protect you fro that. You'll never know until you find out from her. You love him, and she has to see that, but she could have a reason to hate him so much. Even if she's pissed of at you, still talk to her because that's what friends do, find out what's wrong to make it a better situation. I hope I helped!
wewell my one friend has really been annoying me lately ....and like calls me every hour.....and i dont know what to do cuz i dont want to tell her and her get mad at me but i dont want to not tell her and she keep being annoying! what should i do?
I completely understand where you are coming from. One of my best friends also annoyed me by calling, as it seems like every 30 minutes. I got to the point where I got really frustrated with her, but I didn't tell her because I didn't know how to say it or how she would feel. I finally got it through her to not call os much because my mother told her in a very sincere and nice way. I think that you have to be braver than me and try and tell her yourself. Tell her that you don't mind her calling, but a little less than she does because you aren't able to focus. If you tell her in a nice and friendly way, I'm sure that she'll understand. I would really appreciate if you sent me a message about the outcome of this or what happened because it would set a good example on me so that I could try it next time...I need to take my own advice! lol. I hope I helped!
well for the past couple months i have been really sad and drepressed! i dont know whats wronge with me....i like havent been feeling like doing anything but sitting around and i've been crying alot for no reason....i have also cut my self...i dont know if is drepression or what? please help!!!
It is understanable to feel sad and depressed for no complete reason because that has happened to me (I felt sad, but not depressed for no reason). I think that it's a matter of being able to control your feelins. You really need to talk to someone dear to you or someone who could understand where you're coming from. Many people who are also in this kind of emotional state go to cutting because they think that it make them feel better inside...but cutting is not the solution. It doesn't lessen your pain, but instead destroys your body. You need to really talk to someone baout this beofre you start cuting yourself again or doing something else more drastic. If you have anymore questions, just sen dthem to me in my inbox, and I'll answer them ASAP. I hoped I helped!
there is a new girl in my class and she is taking over my friends. my friends act like they dont want me around anymore.what should i do?
I think that you should talk to your friends when the girl's not there. Tell them how you feel. Tellt hem that you think your friendship is getting taken away by a new girl, and that you don't want it to. Make them understand because if you don't, then this will continue to run on and you will lose your friends which you don't want to happen. Tell them that they are acting as if they don't want you around. Don't take answers like "Don't be silly" or "You are just exagerating, so get over yourself" becase if they do respond to you with that then you really need to sit all of them down and realyl get through them. Be sincere and a little emotional about it. If the really know that you are not liking th evibe of all this, then they will do the best in their abilty to change that if they're good friends. Who knows...you guys could solve your problems and you could make good friends with the new girl also. Remember, if you talk, the problem can find its right solution that you want. I hope I helped!
I want a completely new closet full of clothes for high school - but I want to have clothes that aren't sold around here. Can someone give me unique websites that aren't in a lot of malls, or in stores at all. Price really doesn't matter, so cheap and expensive sites are fine! I want something with a funky, yet classic style- basically anything.
Please don't suggest Ebay, Alloy, or Delias. Thanks!
Well, you could try www.gojane.com-it's a site that sells really good and cute clothes. It's also not in stores, so the website is the only place you can get the clothes from (ordering), amd that's what you said you were lookng for. I hope I helped!
This is a VERY long story so bear with me.
My father got re-married about three years ago. The woman he married, Karen, was perfectly nice until their wedding day, when she did a total Jekyll and Hyde (sp?) and went totally psycho. She started taking my stuff, hiding it or ripping it up, but never admitting that it was her. For a couple of years now my father's side of the family accused me of making it all up. However, about a year ago now, Karen sent a completely bitchy email, the details of which I won't bother going in to, which meant I stopped seeing her and my father's side of the family. Since then she has sent many more nasty texts and emails accusing me of all sorts and threatening to take the child benefit away from my mother, etc etc etc (I am aware that she couldn't legally do this).
Recently, her 'psycho stuff' has become a lot worse. She started sending odd letters - the address on the envelope disguised as a child's writing and saying on the back of the envelope, 'from Ryan' (Ryan is my younger cousin). Inside would be photographs of me, often cut up so I am the only one in the picture, and stuck onto a background of coloured card or paper. We knew she must be sending these because she is the only one, other than my father, with the access to these particular photographs (me on holiday with my father and Karen).
So, my (paternal) Nan confronted her and Karen has admitted that she sent the letters. She says it is because my father goes to work away a lot and she gets 'bored'. I personally feel that that doens't even qualify as an excuse to do what she has done - for weeks we had been terrified of who these letters were from, and I'm still scared to go out of the house (even into my backgarden) on my own incase she is lurking around.
Karen has since written a letter of apology to my mother's parents. WHY she sent it to them, I have no idea. My grandad doesn't want to take any further action, but there is no way that I am just sitting here and taking 'I was bored' as an excuse for putting my family through all the crap she has over the years (I have only mentioned a small amount of what she has done here). But what can I do?
She begged my grandad to NOT tell me and my mother that it was her who had sent the letters, but of course we know because WE figured it out in the first place. So, I think that if I do do anything, she will think my grandad has told me she did it, or my mother has put me up to doing whatever I would do. That means she might well hurt my grandad or my mother (I wouldn't put it past her - please no-one reply saying 'she wouldn't do that' because you don't know this woman. I do).
My mother thinks that I deserve an apology, not only from Karen but from all of my father's family for not believing me in the first place, but to me, 'sorry' just wouldn't cut it. 'Sorry' isn't a big enough word to make everything she has done go away. But what can I do? I know I could go to the police but my grandad doesn't think I should take any further action and I don't want to hurt or disappoint him. But on the other hand, there is NO WAY I am taking 'I am bored' as her reason.
There is also the problem that she doesn't know that me and my mother know she is the one who sent the letters. My father also doesn't know a THING about the letters yet, and although I don't get on with him, I want him to know - I'd want to know if my wife was doing something like that.
So, in summary, my question is: What can I do? Because there is no way I will do nothing. And how do I let Karen know that I know what she did? What else could I 'get out' of her other than an apology, something I don't want as I know it would mean nothing (she's already apologised to my grandparents, as I said, but that was only to stop them telling my father).
Sorry this was so long, and thanks in advance for any help. I'm fifteen, female, and don't see any of my father's family other than my Nan, if that helps.
xxx
You are in a life-threatening situation. I think your best bet would be to move out of that house and into a home of either your mother's or yor maternal gradparents. You have to make sure that your safe from her danger before you act. After you have setteled there, and the tension has died down making her think that you have surrendered, show your father the letters and all of the evidence you own when he's alone, that way he will have a way of believing you because you have got to have proof before they believe that you're telling the truth. By this way, she won't have a clue that you are on to her. Maybe you guys could sue her if it gets any more dangerous. Right now, you shouldn't be worrying about your father's side believing you, but you should trying to bust your step mother to your greatest ability. I really hope that you stay safe, and that you win this battle. I hope I helped!
Ok, here goes. This might be a long one so please bear with me!
My friend Mike and I were at this school event called History Day (Science Fair except for history). I was bored, so I was hanging out with him and his friends. Then, his friend asked em if I like him and I said I don't know...and shrugged my shoulders. As I walked away, I looked back, and he was smiling at me. It's really obvious (though I haven't said it directly) that I really like him, but out fear of rejection, I semi-denied it. Do you think that I sent I like you vibes or I hate you vibes...and guys, what would you think of me now? Also, we flirt a LOT every day!! Thank you so much!
I was in a history fair also! Anyways, you are definitely sending off "i like you" vibes because you guys flirt everyday. Also, when you said that you don't know if you like him, he probably won't think that you don't like him because he could probably sense that you were nervous about blurting out the truth and didn't want to completely let out your true feelings for him. Everybody acts that when they are around their crushes' friends. I hope I helped!
Okay, to put it plainly me and this guy have been really close for a long time and we ended up breaking up because of this really long story. But he was really close to me and all that jazz. We were friends before and he always knew I liked him but he was going out with his boyfriend at the time, and...yeah. Lets call his boyfriend Bob. Well Bob broke his heart a billion and one times and finally we started to date. I was the only one there for him he was the only one there for me. Well my ex begged for me back and I was stuck inbetween them, I had no clue what to do and I waited to long to decide on what I needed to do and by the time I did decide the guy dumped me. So we got in this huge fight, and didn't talk for a while and I was back with my ex. All this other stuff came out and blah blah blah about my ex and I started to try to talk to him(the guy who would not talk to me) But he wanted nothing at all to do with me. So I cried and all that shit over it but to make a long story short he was abused and shit, and he stayed in it to be here for me and now he can't get out because it is too late.
Well. Anyway...I moved on now and have a new boyfriend I care about a lot. It isn't love yet- I don't think my heart is actually ready to love another person at the moment. But the guy(lets just call him Ed) is really depressed and never talks to anyone and is always by himself and has gotten into bad stuff. I want to let go of Ed because I have someone new that is healing all of my scars. But I can't because...I made that promise to always be there for him because we were always there for each other.
So now I don't know what to do. I don't want to be with Ed again, I just want to help him and get him to talk to me but I seriously don't know how. I want to get over him completely and have no more feelings for him. But I don't know how. I'm sorry this is long and the question is not quite clear. But basicly. What do I do? All of this is my fault, and I can't let myself fully love my new boyfriend because he is always there, a little voice in the back of my head blaming me on what happened to him. (which it is my fault). I want to get over him. I want to get him out of my life because he knows how to get to me and everytime I help I always end up crying. Please.. Someone can you help me? I'm sorry this is really long.
Wow! I can't even imagine the bond that you two share. It must be really storng if you guys almost killed yourselves over eachother. If you feel that your feelings for your boyfriend are lost, then break up with him. You may think that it will just be upsetting for him, and will add more to his sadness, but you are giving a lot less stress if you were to got out with him when you didn't have feelings for him but he did for you instead. You also have to undertsnad that your only way of helping him is not by dating him. You can help him out if you guys are friends. Don't forget about him completely just because you have found another guy because he is in an emotional state, and he needs someone's help bad, and you are the only one at this point to supply him with that help. If he's depressed, then you need to talk to him to find out what's troubling him before he does something drastic. If you really care for him, then get him some help and be there for him all of the way through. Help him before it's too late. I hope I helped!
One of my best friends just told me that she liked me today. She asked me if i had any feelings about it and i said not yet. The problem is that i don't really know if i like her as more than a friend. I used to like her like about a month ago, but i stopped. This may not make any sense but i want to like her as more than a friend because she is one of the nicest people i know, but i just don't think i see her that way. Is that possible? I don't want to hurt her and tell her that i'm not interested but i don't want to go out with her either. What should i do?
It's completely normal for you to want to like her again, but you just can;t. I think that you are trying to force feeling for her because you used to have them, but you shouldn't. If you like her, then yeah, go out with her, but don't force yourself to like her. Tell her that you want to be friends for now, but if things change then you will look into dating her later. Don't go out with her if you don't really like her. I hope I helped!
I'm really into fashion and stuff but i don't know what stores have the hottest clothes!! Fill me in!!
You sound just like me. I love fashion, and shopping is one of my biggest and favorite hobbies. These stores have good clothes, so you should check them out sometime.
Forever 21
Wet Seal
United Colors of Benneton
Bebe
Delias
Charlotte Russe
Express
Pacsun
American Eagle
Hechts
Arden B
Guess
Hollister Co.
Rave
LVLX
Nordstrom
i have a really close guy friend we close but we cant be nothing but friends because on long distance and i hate long distance realtionships because the never work out. ok but n-e-ways sometimes we act like lovers and sometimes like friends but even when he had a gf we did the samething because he always liked me more then his gf even though he broke up with her for me but i still didnt go out with him and like now i dont know what to do i do love this guy and like he perfect for me and all but i am really confuessed?can you plz help i wil rate! thanks!
Even though long distance relashionships are hard to maintain, you should still try to find out with him someway to make it work. He probably feels like you don't like him because you turned him down. Tell him that you really do like him, but you just thought a long distance relashionship wouldn't go far enough to work out. You guys together can work out a long distance relashionship if you guys share strong feeling for eachother. Couples go through many obstacle, and if you guys can work together to handle a long distance relashionship, then you guys are really meant to be. You said it yourself that you love him and that he is the perfect guy for you. Don't let him get away, because you will regret it. Put your doubts to the side, and look through the positive things that could come out of this. I hope everything works out for you and that I helped!
Me and my brother are very close hes always there for me and I am always here for him..I am 15 and he is 20 and he just got this new girlfriend and we got along for a while but We ended up fighting and I beat her ass and my brother chose her over me...I told her i didnt want to fight her cause she is my girl but she pushed me and I poured my heart out to my brother asking him how can he choose her over me..Well he lives here and his gf is here everyday me nad her are cool now but I dont feel close to my brother like i did before I dont htink I ever can again. He always told me I was his world. and now this girl is comming between us. What should I do? I dont think i should just forgive him..he rreally hurt me I was in tears for hours the rest of the night and now he is acting like nothing even happend..Should I just say fuck him or forgive him? How can she come between me and my brother?!
Don't let his new girlfriend come between you and your brother. You have to know that she may be special to him, but he loves you more than her times 1000. He even told you that you were his world, which really means a lot. Yeah, you should be upset with him because he chose her over you, but don't let that affect your bond. Many siblings would die just to have the connection that you and your brother have. Don't throw it all away just because a new girl came into his life. Talk to him alone without his girlfriend there in the conversation. Tell him that it hurt you. Tell him that you don't want her to come between you guys why they are still dating, and tell him that you still want to have the same connection that you guys had before he had his new girlfriend. I know things won't be the same now that he will be sharing time with both of you, but all 3 of you could go out to where you guys like to hang out and have fun. Who knows, she might be into what you and your brother are into. Remember, try to regain that connection with him that is lost, and talk to him explaining how you felt towards his actions, and why he did what he did. I hope I helped!
plain and simple my girlfriends mom hates me dad likes me please help
Let her get to know the real you. It must be hard not having your girlfriend's mom accept you. If your girlfriend likes you, then your mother has to find out that reason and she might like it as well. Go to her house for dinner. Open up, and she might just change her mind about you. Also, you can try to find out from your girlfriend why she hates you. I hope I helped!
Hey! I'm a girl and 16, and I really like this guy, David. I used to be 95% possitive that he liked me too, but I think somethings changed. I'm thinking that he MIGHT like this other girl, but she has a boyfriend already. Lately, he's been acting like he doesnt care about me, at all! Like, he doesnt talk to me, unless I talk to him. I left him a voice mail message twice (two days in a row) saying what the plans were for the night, and he didnt even BOTHER to call back and say he couldnt come, or give me the time of day. It's really starting to aggrivate me. I want to ask him what is up, and why he's pretty much ignoring me, but its hard! The last time we were alone. things were really nice, and now hes just being a JERK! In school, I go out of my way, and go to his locker and walk with him in the hallways, but hes NEVER at my locker. EVER! He doesnt show any intrest, at all. And I want to know what is up! What should I do?
The best thing for you to do is talk to him. I know you may think it's hard, but that's one of the things about liking someone, facing life for what it is. Gte him to listen. If he doesn't have any interest in you, then forget about him. It will be hard, I've been through it, but you have to. Don't go out of your way to talk to him and spend more time with him, if he's not doing anything to work it out with you. You should feel like you have to chase because you don't. He's just going to keep on running, and sooner or later you'll get tried and give up. And you know what they say, sooner is better than later. I'm sure that there will be another guy along the way who is better than him, and who can talk to you and spend time with you like a boyfriend should do. I hope that things go well for you and that I helped! If you have any more questions, send me a message in my inbox.
ok well i have a boyfriend and i like him a lot we talk on line and sometimes on the phone (i always call him he never calls me) and at school we don't talk at all. i am his first girl friend he has ever had but i can't stand not talking to him. i want to talk to him at school but i'm shy and hes shy not good not good at all. i was just wondering what i should do? i rate high
I thin that you should be the first one to talk. You guys are now dating, so talking would help make your relashionship grow. Forget about that your shyness, because if you want this relashionshp to work then you have got to have the courage to get over this obstacle if he can't do it himself. Couples should be comfortable around eachother and be able to talk to eachother to help eachother out. Talking on email isn't enough. You guys should get through this hurdle together, because there will more than likely be more tougher ones on your way through life. I hope I helped!
I was just worried because I try and try to do my work but I still fail, and now I might fail the hole year, what should I do? Can anyone help me?
There is probably something distracting you from your school works. You still have more than enough time to pick up your grades. Ask your teachers if they can help tutor you maybe after school. If they see how dedicated you are to passing, then they'll be more than happy to lend a hand to your success. Try to keep your focus mainly on your family and school work. Do your #1 best in school, work hard, and turn in all assignments. Also, study for every test no matter how easy, but don't cram because you will just be setting yourself up for failure like many people say. I want you to know that it's very heart warming to see inividuals try to make an improvement instead of people who just don't even care about school or put any effort into your work. I guarantee that your family and teachers will be proud of you. I hope I helped, and if you have any questions then post me a message and I'll be sure to answer you ASAP!!!
I'm 15 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Pathetic, I know. The main problem people keep telling me is that when i like a guy i tend to be shy around him. I like this one guy right now and he knows i like him thanks to one of my big mouth friends. We've talked only maybe twice before he found out i liked him but thats the only time we've ever talked. When i see him in the halls he looks at me...what does that mean? How can i get him to like me without coming on to him as a stalker?
If he only looks at you, and no other girl in the hallway, then he might just like you. Although, I think that you shouldn't go out of your way to impress him or make him notice you. Act yourself because that's probably the personality that he has began to like. Talk to himmore on the internet. If you see him passing by in the hallways then wave at him with a shy smile (without showing your teeth, just your mouth). Get to know him more, and you guys might become good friends that hang out which coon sooner develop into a relashionship. I hope I helped!