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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.

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ok i have this friend and hes my ex but we are still good friends and for a week iv had the same dream when im snuggling up to him really close and we are kissing and some other think (holding hands...) but i dont know what this means! is it something thats wrong with me? should i ask him out again? if its any help i still have a cup he drank out of from my best (girl) friend's b-day party and her party was in June! please help im desparete im afraid ill do something stupid!
**sleepiesheep**

IAPOLOGIZE, THIS IS NOT THE QUESTION I THOUGHT I WAS ANSWERING. I MUST HAVE CLICKED ON THE WRONG QUESTION SOMEHOW. THIS IS THE FIRST TIME I HAVE DONE THIS.
I think you are worrying too much about it and you are not relaxing. Don't think about how you look or sound when you are telling a story. Be yourself. Don't worry about what others may think. Don't copy other people's style. This is why it may not be going over so well. Just keep on telling your stories and at some point your style will kick in. Everything takes practice. You are going to do just fine.

Namaste,

LULABELLE

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Well this young man, is all that I am looking for right now, I am so afraid to give him a chance because I had just jumped in a relationship last time and got hurt. So should I follow my heart or should I weight things out first? Please Help

You should do both. Follow your heart but maintain a clear head. Make sure that what you are feeling is not simply that chemical attraction called lust. This is something that we get all mixed up about. Most of the time people confuse lust for love. Then they find themselves in loveless relationship wondering what happened. They do not want to leave it because they have some memory of something they have confused with love and think that somewhere in this relationship it still exists. Others think that because they have made a commitment to someone that must be love. They did feel something in the beginning, right? Follow your heart, but take it slow. Get to know this person. Listen to his conversation about how he treats other people. Is he always running out on is friends? Is he loyal? Does he gossip about people a lot? Does he call people back when he is expected to? Does he respect other people's feelings? These are a few questions but I'm sure you can come up with many more. I'm just pointing out that you should simply take things slow. Become friends. Be observant. However he treats others is how he will treat you. And something I have learned from experience. People treat people closest to them worse than they do someone they hardly know. You would think that this would be in reverse, but no. You can lust for a lot of people, but love is much rarer.

Namaste

LULABELLE

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I've been having alot of problems with my life latley ; and it's all starting to really weigh me down.
1) I was diagnosed with scoliosis the other week. Now I might have to get a brace or even surgery.
2) Today I went to the dentist to get my gums checked out before I got braces on. Turns out my lower gums are weak and I need surgery to fix them. Then I need two permenant teeth pulled then I will finally get my braces on.

3) I'm going to be kicked off of the cheerleading squad cause I will be missing 7 games during my recovery from the surgery. I will also miss several practices with my every other week check-ups on my back.

4) My dad's getting a pay cut in 2 weeks.

5) We're moving.

Since my dad is getting a paycut ; we are watching our budget. Now that I have all these surgerys, and other problems, I will cost my parents over $8,000 in treatments ; check ups ; and surgeries. My mom is constantly reminding me that I'm the one thats costing them so much money. There is nothing I can do about it though! I didn't purposley screw up my back. I didn't all the sudden decided I want weak gums to have to get surgery and cost them thousands of dollars. What do I dO ? I can't take the guilt and pain. The Surgerys are scaring me half to death, my mom isn't helping, and all of my families troubles are my fault. Help is appreciated .. if it's not to much to ask.

Your family stress level is way off the charts. First of all you have to understand, no matter what anyone else tells you none of this is your fault. I'm really concerned that you have a parent that would even consider for a second putting the blame on you. What you need to do is contact your counselor at school. Let them know what is going on for you. They may know of some free family stress counseling that you and your family can go to. Your whole family is suffering and that is why your mother is saying inappropriate things right now. She feels everything is out of control and she has to put the blame on something she can touch, feel, and smell. It helps her cope, in a sense, have something solid to put the blame on (whether it is true or not). Not fair but this is what people do. Trying to confront her with her irrational behavior may exasperate the situation instead of settling it. She may be someone who, while under stress, can't think rationally. That's the reason for the counseling. If you cannot get your family to attend counseling then you need to see to it that you do. This will help you to deal with the stress. Your father may be taking pay cuts, but does he still have health insurance for the family? If this is something that is not covered by his health insurance or if it is and the $8000 is the co pay (wow) you can contact some free clinics in your area. They usually operate on ability to pay basis. If they can't do your operations personally they will have recommendations as to where you can go to get some of these costs cut. What is important here is that you find ways to reduce your stress level. You will come through your operations with greater success and recovery if you are more emotionally stable. Your family is highly dysfunctional right now so you cannot find solace here. As much as we here on Advicenators would love to solve all problems, we can't in one short answer. It just doesn't work that way. Please seek outside consultation somewhere. You can find it in a friend of the family (preferably an adult), extended family member (grandparent, uncle, aunt), churches are full of people who are willing to help out and some of them are psychologists/psychiatrists. Sometimes these people will donate their time for church members. Let me know if there is anything else I can help you with. Good luck!

Namaste,

LULABELLE


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I am suffering some problem in eye. The name of the disease is C.S.R (Central .... Retinopathy)
Doctors are telling there is no tratment for this disese. Laser treatment can give some rekief but is not a solution. I see blurred. The left eye was attacked with this disease in 1991. Recently the right ey wsa attacked on June 2005. After two mothns, I almost got rid of it but the problem has again started from September. It seems a blak shodow interupts to reac light from the viewing object.
I would like to know how shall I able to see clearly ?

I do wish I were qualified to help you with this matter. I can not even imagine the anxiety you must be feeling over this condition. This is not the forum to be asking life-altering questions like this. You need to find immediate help. There are no qualified doctors here and even if there were I am sure they would ask you to go and see a qualified physician immediately. Having said this, I have done a little research. I have come up with some websites for you to visit. I also think there are some things that you can do for yourself. A contributing factor to your condition is stress. It seems that a few things are inflamed. So, what I would recommend, along with seeing a physician, is to do some stress management exercises. Some ideas are taking up yoga for instance. I know so many people who have taken up yoga and they feel emotionally more stable and able to handle life with more enthusiasm. If the yoga programs are too expensive in your area, I would recommend buying some yoga CDs. You can get them on Amazon or ebay. Meditation also works. There are many good methods of meditation out there. Look in some of your local new age magazines and you will find people teaching meditation. Sometimes people do it for free. I belong to The Self Realization Fellowship. This is a belief system that combines Buddhism with Christianity. The whole service is pretty much meditation. They teach it to you. You could find a group of people in your area that could do this with you. Or, get a hold of a video or book that will help you understand it. What I am saying to you is that you have to reduce your stress levels. I know from experience that these types of practices will help you deal with life in a more energetic and enthusiastic way. For some reason this condition inflames vessels in the retinal area and there is some fluid leakage that is applying pressure on your retina which is causing detachment. If left untreated for long you could have permanent damage. Also, you can work on reducing the inflammation. There are all kinds of herbs out there that can help with this. I would especially look for those that reduce high blood pressure. People with this disorder are usually type A personality. An interesting fact about high blood pressure medication is that it is anti-inflammatory. You need to reduce whatever is inflamed and leaking in your retinal area. Therefore, I feel you need anti-inflammatory substances. I have included some websites below for you. Some are about your condition and have some recommendations and others are about anti-inflammatory herbs. Research what types of herbs you feel you need and then go to the bulk foods websites I've included and buy them in bulk. You will need to take a lot, so, you will need a more cost effective method.

Also, and I know you probably won't like this one, but you need to quit eating red meat and chicken. The reason I say this is because they put steroids, antibiotics, and hormones in the meats to make them grow faster. Another contributing factor to this problem is increased levels of cortisone. The steroids and hormones you are ingesting could be contributing to the increase in cortisone in your system. If you could find organically raised meat in your area then it would be all right to eat, but it is expensive. If you can't find it, then I'd cut it out at least until you have the condition under control. But I think you will find that it will recur every time you start eating these chemically enriched meats. You can still eat fish and eggs. I am sure you can find free range/ organic eggs in your area. Since Thanks-giving is coming up you can usually find organically raised turkeys in your local health food stores. You need to hurry and look into it because they sometimes do it by special order only and do not stock it. Anyway, I hope this is helpful to you. If you feel I could help you further feel free to contact me. Good Luck to you.

Namaste

LULABELLE

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There's this guy I've liked for a really long time, since the 7th grade (We're in the 9th grade). Let's call him Will. We used to be good friends, and joke around and stuff. But this year, we're in none of the same classes except Science. He's developed many female friends in all of his other classes; the new kids. This is alright, but I do feel a little replaced and I sense that we've drawn apart. I mean, we always talk on AIM, but in person he acts kind of bland around me. Have I lost him already, or is there some way that we can be the way we used to? It's not like we can go "hang out" anywhere because we're only 14 and stuff. I decided to ask you because you always give an intelligent answer.

I thank you for your belief in me. You are very kind. I can only hope that I can live up to your expectations. I don't believe you have lost him. What I think is happening right now is he is exploring. He may be sensing your insecurities and that is why he is backing off when he sees you in person. Start paying attention to how you are approaching him. He knows how you feel about him it may be obvious. He only wants to have fun right now. Just be his friend without expectation. Don't let anything interfere with that. He may explore friendships with other girls. Support him in this. He's going to do it anyway. Guys are real simple. He's in other classes with other girls. Guys go for that which is readily available. It's just how they work. He still cares about you or he wouldn't stay in contact with you via AIM. I know this hurts and I wish you didn't have to go through this, I truly do. I think you should explore friendships with other boys too. Have fun with the people you have contact with everyday as well. Who knows it might make him more interested in you if he sees others wanting to be with you. People always want what they can't have. But most of all, take care of you first. Don't put everything into one person yet. You are your most important asset. Treat yourself that way. Be confidant in who you are and you will be surprised what options will open up for you.

Good Luck!

LULABELLE

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Hey,
I've heard you give some really interesting answers on religion. I was wondering where you find out about all of this?
I am a Wiccan and desperate to learn more about the true roots of religion, instead of what it's starting to become (basically Christianity bashing, overly-stuffy rituals that really have nothing to do with faith and belief, and having a go at the 'fluffy' religions). Can you point me in the direction of or tell me something about this?
I'm also extremely interested in the foundations of any religions and how they've changed over the years. If you could point me in the right direction of some info on that I'd be extremely grateful :)
Finally, my friend and I are both unhappy at how ritualistic Wicca has become. It's said that Gardnerian Wicca was based on an old religion Gerald Gardner 'stumbled upon' but it had no rituals - he made them up. My friend and I are beginning to feel that these rituals are going too far, becoming too stiff. They are very symbolic but no-one really understands the symbolism any more...we feel there is very little faith and a lot of restriction in constantly consecrating everything on the altar, doing everything in a certain way etc when magick is supposed to be beautiful and natural. Would you happen to know anything about or know anywhere I could further research the little-known religion Gardner is supposed to have based Wicca on? Don't worry if you don't :)
Thank you so much!!

This is a truly complex, complicated and controversial issue. I have studied religions of all faiths. I have read the bible (King James, Aramaic versions) through twice and have read the Quran, Talmud, Bhagavad-Gita, Book of Enoch, The Nag Hammadi Library, The Gospel of the Essenes, I Ching, The Book of Toth, A Course in Miracles, Josephus the Historian, The Lost Teachings of Jesus Christ, Books about the true Merlin, Wicca spells and beliefs, and one of my favorite contemporary writers is David Ike. You can find David Ikes books on Amazon. I have included his website below, but, it is temporarily down. These are just an inkling of the massive amounts of books, articles and documentaries I have studied. I have studied the history of ancient people and I am not talking about the major and remarkable events of their times. I have studied things like, how did people eat, think, sleep, go to the bathroom. How did the underworld or criminal activity of their day work? I research how it was like to be an average person of the times. My reasoning behind this is to get a closer handle on what the true meaning to their ancient writings could be. We have grossly misinterpreted the Bible, for example, and turned these ancient lessons into bastardizations of their true meanings. There is a saying of Jesus that goes like this, It is as easy for a rich man to enter into heaven as it is for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle. Well, I have been lucky enough to go to Israel, one of the best experiences of my life. Anyway, while I was in Jerusalem I discovered that there is an entrance into Jerusalem that dated back to the times of Jesus. The name of this entrance is called THE EYE OF THE NEEDLE. This passageway has a door/gateway that is divided in half/ top from bottom. At night they close the top half so the camels have to get on their knees in order to enter Jerusalem. In other words, what Jesus meant was that rich people have to humble themselves before the Lord just like anyone else. I have read Bibles that have been interpreted for people of today and the Bible read as follows; it is as easy for a rich man to enter into heaven as it is for a camel to sqeeeeeeezzzzze through an eye of the needle. This to me reads like it is impossible for a rich man to enter into heaven, which is not what Jesus was saying. This interpretation leads us to believe that coveting money is evil. Historically the church has fed on guilt. That is how they control us. Now other religious orders are following suite because this method has been successful for Christanity. Religions like Wicca are starting to become more ritualistic because they find that most people are like sheep and need to have a ceremony in order for them to feel like they are accomplishing something or being a part of something. People have lost sight of the magic that surrounds us. Jesus, among other religious leaders were trying to help us see that. We are to become one with the magic, not perform it. Magic in my definition is something that we cannot explain because we have not discovered the logical cause of the reaction yet. We are still in our infancey and if our government has anything to do with it we will stay there (another long drawn out branch of research). What I want to emphasize here is learn your chemistry. You do this and you will be closer to understanding the world around you and how you can tap into it. Closer understanding will bring you closer to having the ability to manipulate what is considered the solid world around us. Jesus and other great religious leaders knew this and were able to perform miracles. These magic rituals people are haphazardly performing could do more harm than good because people do not know what they are truly doing. It is truly a dangerous thing to perform magic unless you understand what you are doing. You can create more harm than good. There are people today in India that are AWARE and know how to manipulate atoms and molecules. They have known about atoms and molecules for thousands of years were we are just discovering them.

Something I have learned through all of my searching is that everyone (religion) is right and everyone is wrong. If you start your studying and research you will see that all of them are saying the same thing. Love. We have been put here to love one another. Love is very powerful. We are not doing a very good job of this though. Were everyone has wondered off the true path is there is no one ritual or ceremony that makesthe any one belief of choice the one and only. How could that be when the true source and the true answer is within you. You see, it is my belief that we are all one. We are connected to each other and to the ultimate Supreme Being. It is my belief that our creator is both male and female. How could we be created in our Creators image if that were not true? In ancient Christian texts, ones that did not make it into the Bible (the Nag Hammadi Library), there are books within it that actually describe the female half of our creator as Wisdom. If you read the Bible today with this in mind you can glean a whole new interpretation wherever they use the word wisdom. And who is the holy ghost in the holy trinity? Does it really make sense to you that it is the Son, the Father and the Holy Ghost and the last two refer to the same entity? Why do they need to describe him twice? I say that the Holy Ghost is the female part of this trinity. How could the Father (who made us in his immage) have a son without a female essense. Did you know that for the first 10,000 years of known civilization God was a female entity? In ancient Mesopotamia women were the heads of the household. People kept the last name of the woman and not the man. Property passed down from woman to woman. The societies were more peaceful then. You still see remnants of this within the Jewish culture. They do not believe you are a true Jew unless your mother is Jewish. They say today that this is because you always know who your mother is, but not your father. This matriarchal society came to an end when the Arians came out of northern India and waged war bringing their male gods and patriarchal society. We have only believed in a male god for a few thousand years. The Arians settled, for the most part, in what we know today as Iran or Persia. Persian/Iranians are not Arabic people.

I also have a belief that is hard for most to understand. I believe that all of this does not matter. We each have LESSONS to learn or games to play and how we play determines whether we move up closer to being one with the Creator or not. There is no right or wrong in our path, only set backs if we do harm to others. If we are grossly evil in our thoughts and deeds we will be given a lesser life being existence, for example, mass murders may come back as hyenas. This way they can work out that blood lust. We have also been given one of the best gifts of the universe and that is the freedom of choice. There are preferred paths for us to take, but we have the freedom to choose whatever path we wish. We also have the freedom to make a bad choice into the best choice. Yes, I believe we reincarnate. We are in a huge virtual reality game remember. We get to come back as many times as we want until we have achieved our goal. I think that if you work on your true temple, yourself, you will achieve your full potential. The best way to achieve this is through meditation (prayer). You can become one with all that IS this way. It is your mission to look inside yourself and find your god/church within. You do not need rituals for this. I go to a church/temple called The Self Realization Fellowship. The service consists of meditation with some readings and chants/songs. I have included their website below. The Books I recommend reading are by its founder Paramahansa Yogananda. The book to start off with is, Biography of a Yogi. This book could start you on an amazing journey.

Below, for your edification, I have put a couple of verses of the Bible that have been directly translated from Aramaic, the language Jesus spoke and what the Bible was mostly written in (along with Greek). The first one is The Lords Prayer and the second one is Genesis 1:1-31. Notice the difference in wording here and what is in our up to date modern Bibles. What interests me most is in Genesis were the days of creation are discribed by using the term eons. Eon means thousands and thousands of years. A very long time. Doesn't tht make more sense than our 24 hour time period?

I have included websites for you to investigate. There is a website I like call Comparative Religion. On this site it is like Advicenators. You join it (free) and can ask questions, join in discussions and investigate to your hearts content. You just cant insult anothers viewpoint. See what you can find here. Everyday is a continuation of my search and so it should be for you. There is another one called Sacred Texts. You can have access to all kinds of texts I believe 10,000. You can research any religion, belief or philosophy here through ancient texts. You have access to a lot of information here. Remember this is your journey. The key is to follow your heart. You know what is right. Do not believe everything you read, including me. Do not take anything at face value. Listen to yourself, because you will know what is true in your heart. Do not lie to yourself. This is our biggest problem. We ignore our inner wisdom.

Good Luck!

LULABELLE








Matthew 6:9-13"Therefore, this is how you shall pray:Our heavenly Father, hallowed is your name.Your Kingdom is come. Your will is done,As in heaven so also on earth.Give us the bread for our daily need.And leave us serene,just as we also allowed others serenity.And do not pass us through trial,except separate us from the evil one.For yours is the Kingdom,the Power and the GloryTo the end of the universe, of all the universes." Amen!


Genesis 1
1. As the beginning, the Son of God creates the heavens and the earth.*
2. And the earth was for Him and by Him,* and the darkness was over the face of infinite space, and the Spirit of God was over the layers of the water.*

3. And God said, "Let there be light," and there was light.*
4. And God saw that the light was beautiful* and God chose light over darkness.*
5. And God called the Light "day"* and the Darkness "night,"* and the evening and the morning became part of one cycle, [the first eon.]*
6. And God said, "Let there be sky in the balance of the water." And He chose between the Waters over the water.
7. Thus God created the sky, and He differentiated between the water below the sky and the Waters above the sky, and it was so.
8. And God called the sky "heaven," and that was the evening and the morning of the second eon.

9. And God said, "Let the water below the heaven be gathered in one world and let dry land become visible, and it was so.
10. And God called the dry land "earth," and the gathering of the water the "seas," and God saw that they were beautiful.
11. And God said, "Let the earth yield vegetation, so as the seed* may sow its own kind, and the fruit bearing tree to produce the fruit of its own kind by which it was planted on earth, and it was so.
12. And the earth produced vegetation, so as the seed sowed its own kind, and the fruit tree that produced the fruit, generated its own kind, and God saw that it was beautiful.
13. And that was the evening and the morning of the third eon.

14. And God said, "Let there be suns in the sky of heaven, so as to choose between the day over the night, that they should serve for signs and wonders, seasons and cycles, and for years.
15. "And that they should glow in the sky of heaven, to shine over the earth," and it was so.
16. And God created two great celestial bodies, the greater one to have authority over the day and the smaller one to have authority over the night, and He created the stars and all the celestial bodies.
17. And God gave them to the sky and heaven, to shine over the earth,
18. And to have authority over the day and the night and to impose the light over the darkness, and God saw that they were beautiful.
19. And that was the evening and the morning of the fourth eon.

20. And God said, "Let the waters teem with living and breathing crawlers, and let the flying creatures fly over the earth, in the layers of the sky of heaven.
21. And God created the great dinosaurs* and every living soul that crawled in the waters and produced their own kind, and every flying creature with wings according to its own kind, and God saw that they were beautiful.
22. And God blessed them and commanded them, "Multiply and increase and fill the waters of the sea and let the earth teem with birds."
23. And that was the evening and the morning of the fifth eon.

24. And God said, "Let the earth produce living souls in harmony with its nature, herds and four-legged animals and creatures of the earth, according to their kind," and it was so.
25. And so God created the creatures of the earth according to their kind, and the herd animals according to their kind, and all the four-legged animals according to their kind, and God saw that they were beautiful.
26. And God said, "We shall make the human being in the image of our likeness, and they shall have authority over the fish of the sea and the birds of the sky and the herds and all the creatures of the earth and all the four-legged animals that walk on the earth."

27. And God created the human being to resemble* His own visage; He created them male and female.*
28. And God blessed them and said to them, "Multiply and increase, and fill the earth and its environments, and have authority over the fish in the sea and the birds of the sky and the four-legged animals and all the creatures that crawl over the earth."*
29. And God said, "Behold, I give you every plant with seeds that is sown on the face of all the earth, and every fruit bearing tree whose seeds are planted, for you to be a source of food.
30. "And [I give you] all the creatures of the wilderness and all the birds of the sky and everything that walks the earth that has a living soul, and all the herds for food," and it was so.
31. And God saw all that He created, and, behold, it was truly beautiful. And that was the evening and the morning of the sixth eon.

*1:1 John 1:1 "In the beginning of creation, there was the Manifestation. And that Manifestation was with God and God was the [the embodiment of] that Manifestation.
*1:2.1 John 1:2 "This was in the beginning with God."
*1:2.2 John 1:3 "Everything was within his power, otherwise nothing would ever exist."
*1:3 John 1:4 "Through him there was Life..."
*1:4.1 John 1:4 continued: "... and Life became the spark of humanity."
*1:4.2 John 1:5 "And that ensuing fire lights the darkness and darkness does not overshadow it."
*1:5.1 Lit. Aramaic word: "Immama."
*1:5.2 Lit. Aramaic word: "Lil'ya."
*1:5.3 Lit. Aramaic word: "Yuma," "eon," immeasurable period, age, or Day.
*1:11 Lit. Ar. poetic construction: "The offspring should sow the seed of its own genesis."
*1:21 Lit. Aramaic word: "Titans."
*1:27.1 Lit. Aramaic word: "Adam."
*1:27.2 Lit. Ar. idiomatic construction: "And there created God to Adam with His visage, in the visage of God He created him, male and female He created them.
*1:28 Lit. Ar. id.: God created the aboriginal man first.



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im 13 female

Im turning Vegetarian for 3 reasons.

1. i really dont like eating meat

2. i am against experimentation on animals, so why eat them when im against what people do to them

3. no one thinks i can do it..


do you know anything that is meat less ( food ) that is good that i can make


thanks
i rate 5's

I'm a vegetarian and have been so for years. There are all kinds of things you can have that is meatless. You can have meatless lasagna. Just make it the same way you always do and leave the meat out. I also like to add spinach to it. I use oat grouts in the chili along with the beans to give it that consistency of meat. Also, and I know this is going to sound weird. Add a tablespoon of cocoa to your chili. It will add a wonderful flavor to the chili. The correct kind of chocolate is one of the best antioxidants you can have. It can only be cocoa. It actually tastes better and of course is healthier. You can make any pie just don’t add the eggs. I eat raw and living foods. I will include some web sites for you. This way you can explore what will work best for you. The first three are raw and living foods. Something I think everyone should add more of into their diets. The last three are vegetarian. The last one has tons of recipes for you to choose from. Also, look in the phone book in your hometown. I’m sure there are vegan restaurants in your area.

http://www.living-foods.com/

http://www.rawgourmet.com/

http://alissacohen.com/

http://www.vrg.org/recipes/index.htm

http://veggie.org/veggie/vegdiet.html

http://vegweb.com/recipes/

Good Luck!

LULABELLE

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If a guy is in love with you would it bother him that you called him on his cell before 6 pm? A guy that I thought was really into me got upset today when I called him on his cell. He phoned me first but then his phone cut out and I phoned him back. I wanted to talk to him for a couple of minutes because I hadnt been able to talk to him much lately (he works in the oil rig camp), but then he got annoyed and said he couldnt talk anymore and that it was costing him a lot of money. He told me to only phone him after 6 pm. I know he is making a ton of money in the oil camps so I think that is bull that he cant afford the extra money.
I thought if a guy really loved and cared about you you could phone him anytime. Does anyone else think hes being a bit of a jerk?

You may have caught him off guard. It might be that he was in the middle of something, but, if that were the case, I wouldn't answer the phone at all until I was ready. But that's me. Everyone is different. I can’t think of one illicit reason for him not wanting to receive a phone call until after six. But I can think of an official one. It very well could be that it is the rule of the work place. He is not supposed to receive or make calls while working. It may be that he snuck a call to you and when someone was coming he had to hang up. When you called him back he got caught. Remember, they are paying him very good money. It may be that they want 100% of his attention to his duties. When you love someone that does not mean that you can call them whenever you want. Of course there are always allowances for emergencies. Love also includes trust and respect. Respect his request. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. He may have very good reasons for it.

I hope this helps

LULABELLE

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hey ya'll.... ok im a 13 year old girl and i live with my dad and my twin brother... i have to share a room with my brother and as you might know i have no privacy whatsoever... okay like 1 day ago i started my period for the first time...but i odnt know how to tell my dad because i need to go buy some more supplies... and i dont want to tell my brother but im sure hell find out and i kno it will be akward.... so heres my question.. how do i tell my dad(hes a manly man) and i want to tell my brother so it wont be as akward if he finds out on his own.......how do i tell them?!?!!??!?!?o ya and how do i tell my brother to keep his mouth shut cause at the moment i dont want anyone to know!?!?!?!? thanks!

You can go to you father w/o any worries. You father already knows that women go through this; he is probably expecting it to happen at some point. I'm sure he will be open with you about it and won't make a big deal. Now your brother is another matter. If you make a big deal about how you don’t want anyone to know…he’ll tell for sure. Act like it is no big deal. Also, when you go to your father about how you’ve started ask him if he would talk to your brother privately. Maybe he can explain to him how this is a private matter and no one else needs to know about it unless you want to tell them.

Good Luck!

LULABELLE

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Well I'm writing a research paper for my Honors English 2 class and it's too late to change topics. Mine is Italian culture. Well I know religion and entertainment are apart of culture, but what other topics should I discuss? It has to be 5 pages, 12pt font, double spaced. Mine, handwritten, medium-big handwriting, single spaced, is about a page and a half with my intro, 2 paragraphs on entertainment, and 1 paragraph on religion. I'm not really sure what would be included in culture. I don't think I just write about everything in Italy-- or do I? Pretty much, if you were doing a countries culture, what would be paragraph topics? I hope you get what I mean, sorry if you don't. Thanks in advance!!

Each culture is multifaceted and has its own special interests within common headings/subject. Here are a few that I can think of:

Food (you can’t do a paper on Italian culture and leave out their food. How did they come up with pasta?), Festivals, Traditional Clothing, Marriage (customs of matrimony like do they have to have parental approval first. What is the ceremony like, etc.), Male/Female interaction, educational systems, Literature, Government, Leisure time (we watch TV. and play video games, what do they do?), what is a typical Italian home like? What is their most common mode of transportation to and from work? How do the Italians date? It boils down to this; anything and everything we do in our society they do or don’t do it and if they do it they may do it in a different way. What you need to do is come up with the differences and expand upon them. What makes them special unto themselves? I hope this helps.

LULABELLE

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i was wondering if excessive vaginal discharge and smellier discharge could be a sign of pregnancy..im 3 days late on my period, thanks!

I copied this off of a website for you. It is always so much better to get information of this nature from an official medical website. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

LULABELLE


Vaginal Discharge
Knowing the difference between normal discharge and infections

THE HEALTHY VAGINA
The vagina serves as a passageway between the outside of the body and the inner reproductive organs. The pH balance of the vagina is acidic, which discourages infections from occurring. This acidic environment is created by normally-occurring bacteria. A healthy vagina produces secretions to cleanse and regulate itself, similar to how saliva cleanses and regulates the environment of the mouth. These vaginal secretions are normal vaginal discharge. Any interference with the delicate balance of vaginal secretions sets up an environment conducive to infection.



NORMAL VAGINAL DISCHARGE
All women have some vaginal discharge. Normal discharge may appear clear, cloudy white, and/or yellowish when dry on clothing. It may also contain white flecks and at times may be thin and stringy. Changes in normal discharge can occur for many reasons, including menstrual cycle, emotional stressors, nutritional status, pregnancy, usage of medications - including birth control pills, and sexual arousal.



EFFECTS OF THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE
The menstrual cycle affects the vaginal environment. You may notice increased wetness and clear discharge around mid-cycle. The pH balance of the vagina fluctuates during the cycle and is the least acidic on the days just prior to and during menstruation. Infections, therefore, are most common at this time.



SIGNS OF ABNORMAL DISCHARGE
Any changes in color or amount of discharge may be a sign of a vaginal infection. Vaginal infections are very common; most women will experience some form of a vaginal infection in their lifetime. If you experience any of the symptoms below, this may be a sign of vaginal infection:

Discharge accompanied by itching, rash or soreness

Persistent, increased discharge

Burning on skin during urination

White, clumpy discharge (somewhat like cottage cheese)

Grey/white or yellow/green discharge with a foul odor

Outlined below is basic information on three common vaginal infections



BACTERIAL VAGINOSIS

The exact cause of bacterial vaginosis is unknown. Similar to a yeast infection, there is an overgrowth of bacteria, and the delicate balance of the vaginal environment is upset when these bacteria occur in increased amounts. Recurrence of bacterial vaginosis is common and bacterial vaginosis can coexist with other vaginal infections.



Signs and Symptoms:

Increased amount of discharge

Grey/white, thin, watery discharge

Foul/fishy odor with discharge

Increased odor to discharge immediately after intercourse

Nearly half of the women with bacterial vaginosis don't display any symptoms.



Treatment: There is no over-the-counter treatment available. There are two treatment options with metronidazole (Flagyl) - an oral antibiotic or a topical antibiotic cream. Metronidazole can cause nausea and darkening of urine. Alcohol consumption should be avoided while on this medication, and for 48 hours after treatment, due to possible alcohol intolerance, which can result in nausea and vomiting. If you are using the vaginal antibiotic cream, it must be used daily for five days.



TRICHOMONIASIS

This infection is caused by a one-celled protozoan organism. Trichomoniasis is almost always spread through sexual contact. However, the protozoan organism can survive for up to twenty-four hours in a moist environment, making wet towels or bathing suits possible instruments of transmission from someone with the infection.



Signs and Symptoms: Most men and some women don't display any symptoms, which may include . . . . .

Yellow/green, frothy, discharge

Foul odor with discharge

Increased amount of discharge

Increased frequency of urination

Inflammation of vulva/vagina

Itching

Treatment: The treatment used is the oral antibiotic, metronidazole. Remember - no alcohol consumption when taking the medication and for 48 hours after treatment! It is recommended that both partners be treated at the same time to avoid recurrent infections. Partners should be treated even if they aren't displaying any symptoms. Avoid intercourse until treatment is completed.



MONILIA (YEAST) INFECTION

There is normally a small amount of yeast (Candida albicans) present in the vagina. A yeast infection occurs when there is an overabundance of yeast, often caused by a change in the pH balance of the vagina. Yeast infections are not usually sexually transmitted.



Some Factors That May Increase Susceptibility to Yeast Infections:

Increased stress

Diabetes

Pregnancy

Use of oral contraceptives

Use of antibiotics (protective bacteria are destroyed by antibiotics, allowing yeast overgrowth)

Signs and Symptoms:

Increased amount of discharge

Redness, itching, burning in vaginal/vulvar area

White, clumpy (cottage cheese-like), discharge

Treatment: Since yeast is normally present in the vagina, it is unrealistic to try to eliminate all yeast. Therefore, the goal of treatment is to reduce the overgrowth of yeast organisms and return the vagina to a healthy balance. Treatment consists of antifungal agents in the form of tablets, vaginal creams or suppositories. Over-the-counter treatments are available. However, if you are pregnant, always be sure to have any medications approved by a health care provider. Partners are not usually treated unless they are displaying symptoms such as itching or irritation in the genital area. Treatment for male partners consists of the use of fungicidal cream on the penis.



PREVENTION AND TREATMENT GUIDELINES FOR VAGINAL INFECTIONS:

Have new partners wear condoms during sexual intercourse.

Stay healthy; eat well, get enough sleep, drink enough fluids.

Keep vaginal area clean and dry.

Wear cotton underwear.

Wipe from front to back after urination or bowel movement.

Avoid using deodorant pads or tampons.

Don't use petroleum jelly or other oils for lubricants.

Don't douche.

Use medication as long as directed.

Avoid sexual intercourse until treatment is completed and you are symptom free.

Don't scratch infected or inflamed areas; it can cause further irritation.

If using medication inside the vagina, use it during the menstrual period.

During an infection, use pads rather than tampons if menstruation occurs.

Avoid vulvo/vaginal irritants, including perfumed or deodorant soaps/body washes.

If symptoms persist after completing the treatment, an exam is indicated. Call for an appointment,

and please use nothing in the vagina for 48 hours prior to your exam.


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Firstly, I'm a freshman in college right now. Right before school ended this past year, a 20 yr old guy started leaving me messages on myspace. He's a US marine, and he was in Iraq at the time. He said he was from my hometown, and was feeling lonely, just wanted to get to know some new people from the area. So I messaged back and forth for a while. Then we started IMing each other. And right before I left for school, he started calling on the phone. He came home on leave the day I left for school. We had made plans to get together while he was home; he even agreed to drive an hour to see me at school. When it came time for him to come visit the first time, he said sry, I have something to do tomorrow, and since I"m representing the Marines, I wanna look and feel my best, so I"m not gonna come see you (he wouldn't have gotten home till like 2 am) - so that's totally acceptable. He called the next day saying he felt so bad, was I mad at him? don't be mad blahblahblah...but I was fine with that. The next weekend, he was supposed to come up again, it was the day before he was gonna be deployed to OKinawa. He was getting a hotel room with some buddies to party it up before he went back, and said I could join them. I said I really didn't feel comfortable going off campus to a hotel room with a bunch of guys I've really never met before. He said that was understandable, so he'd just come to my dorm and chill for a while, and then I could decide if I wanted to go offcampus with him or not. He said he would call when he got in the area. But he never called. As soon as he got to OKinawa, he called and said he was so sorry, he had flight problems, don't be mad at him, his life has been really stressful, and he can understand why I would be frustrated, but don't be mad at him. I told him I wasn't, and it was all good. He keeps leaving me messages on AIM at night while I"m sleeping (14 hr time difference) and he just called again a coupel nights ago, but other than that, I really haven't talked to him in over a month. He said he's coming home for Christmas (I will be home from school as well) and he wants to get together then. Should I give him the chance after he totally blew me off last time? He really seemed eager to meet me, both last time he was home, and talking about CHristmas, so I can't believe he just didn't feel like it. My mom says maybe he got scared, but I can't imagine what he would have to be scared of...? PLease help, thanks
--18 yr old college freshman (female)

Actually, no. He is not respecting you and your time. He is not being a good friend. It sounds to me like you fall to the way side whenever something better (in his mind) comes along. You’re just a back up plan in case he ends up with some time with nothing to do. To not even call you to let you know what happened before he took off to Okinawa is rude and again disrespectful. He isn't worth your time or effort.

Good Luck!

LULABELLE

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I need to find newspaper articles from 8 weeks ago. But since I recycled all of them, where would I go to get them? I believe libraries have them, but I need to cut out and use the actual article. Help?

You can call your newspaper and tell them which article your looking for and the approximate date. They will look it up and sell you a copy of that newspaper. You will have to go down to the office and pick it up. Or, you can go on line and pull up the newspapers website. I believe most newspapers have an archive section on line. It's possible you could pull it up this way as well. If you have trouble with being able to use this you could call the newspaper for instructions.

Good Luck!

LULABELLE

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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=387836 (old question)

(New question based on old question.)
Okay... I figured out why he hasn't tried contacting me. (It is by far the worst reason possible.) I finally found a number through directory assistance, called it, and a woman answered. I was so shocked. I made up some crap about how I was from the hotel he stayed in and he had left his hat (the one he had given to me) and asked her if she wanted us to ship it back. It was the correct number because she said she'd leave him the message and have him call me back. She even knew which hat I was talking about.

After that, I did some research on the internet with the number I found. I am 99% positive HE IS MARRIED and has TWO KIDS. He lied to me, told me he was single. He had told me when we were together that his ex-girlfriend (what he really meant was his wife) had written him a letter while he was in Iraq telling him basically "cya, can't take it anymore." So I think maybe the marriage is faltering/on shakey ground, especially since he is about to be deployed soon and is wondering if she will leave him again.

HOWEVER, I know this is no excuse to lie to me and does not give him a reason to cheat on her. I have NO SYMPATHY for him. I am so glad I found this little bit of info out now, instead of wasting my heart on him. And he told me he didn't have any secrets. (Hmph!)

But I am soooooo hurt. Especially since I broke up with my previous boyfriend because of all the lies he told. Now this. Believe me, it's going to be very very hard for me to ever trust a man again. I feel like such a fool.

I'm going to send the hat back. I'm so angry right now. Maybe I'll send it back in shreds. I feel like screaming in his face or telling his wife what a &%*#%*$ he is. I feel like crying but right now I'm too much in shock to do so. I'm so stupid, but I suppose this experience will make me a wiser and stronger person... or at least an old maid.

Why do guys lie? Will I ever find someone who is not going to lie to me? Even if I find the greatest man in the world, will I screw it up because I'll be paranoid that he is lying to me? How do I deal with all this heartbreak?

I feel so badly for you. This scenario did cross my mind, but I like to keep things on a positive note. I didn't want to be right or hurt you anymore than you were hurting yesterday. That is why I put in the part at the end to move on after you had written the letter. The letter was an exercise I thought would help you to feel completed. Also, my idea was a possible scenerio. Your method of locating him was very smart. If it were me Iâ??d send the hat back with XOXO all over the box. Iâ??d put a card inside with the hat that says, â??thanks for the wonderful weekâ?? and sign it love, and your name. He will have a hard time explaining this one and there is a lesson he needs to learn here. The reason he does this is because he gets away with it. I personally donâ??t have a problem with people who are poly-amorous. I think that lifestyle is just fine as long as they let everyone know this is their life choice. The problem I have with this situation is this is someone that does it and doesnâ??t tell, for example, you and his wife, so that you two can make an informed decision as to whether you want to be involved with him, or not. Itâ??s the blatant lying that is the problem which is so cruel of him. I donâ??t know why people feel they should protect these people and let them get a way with this behavior. I think his wife needs to know what he is up to when heâ??s not with her. It may hurt her to know this, but in the long run she will better off. She will then be making an informed decision. Will she stay with this man who will not be committed to her in the way she signed up for or not. And anyway, he indicated they were having problems. I wonder why...Whatever decision she makes at this point will be her bed. As for the lying thing...I wouldnâ??t be paranoid of it, just cautious. Donâ??t believe everything someone tells you. Believe what they do, not what they say. When you ask a question watch the body language. People pretty much tell you everything you want to know if you become observant of how they behave after being asked a question. Most of the time people canâ??t look you in the eye when they are lying. People usually overt their eyes down to the left when lying. This is a method the police use in determining when someone is lying or not. There are those rare individuals who can look you in the eye, but, there is a steely blank look in their eyes. Donâ??t trust this. Listen to your instincts about a person when you meet them. Your instincts are usually right on. Think back on your experience with this guy. Was there anything that flashed through your mind that made you wonder differently from what he was saying, but you over rode it because you were taking him at face value? I do wish he had not done this to you. That was so unfair and unkind of him. Remember, this was only a week. Thank goodness you didnâ??t have any more time invested into this. Think of this as a positive thing; a learning experience. Learning experiences sometimes donâ??t feel good even when they are good. You now know, yes, people will prey on your emotions to get what they want. As far as the question goes; is there a guy out there that doesnâ??t lie? No. But then no one on this planet is 100% truthful all the time. People tell little white lies all the time. Iâ??m sure you do. We all do. What you look for is a guy who keeps it to a minimum. Let him get away with the little white lies...it's the big ones that count. They are out there just keep the faith. Youâ??ll find one. As far as the pain? With time it will diminish. Surround yourself with friends and go to movies, dinner, dancing, etc. Keep busy and before you know it the hurt will have diminished and you will meet someone that will be beyond your wildest dreams. It may be that you needed this experience to be able to recognize him.

Good Luck!

LULABELLE

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Okay. I'm a junior in high school and I'm graduating at the end of this year. I want to enter college in the Fall of 2006 and major in math and physics, those have always been areas that interest me. I have already applied to four different colleges, I'm working on scholarships as hard as I can, and I have two part-time jobs in addition to keeping up extracurriculars and 4 AP classes. I'm working as hard as I can this year because I really want to set myself up for college and living on my own.
Here's the problem: My mom has forbidden me to apply to any colleges, she wants me to go in the Fall of 2007 so that I can get in a full year of work, because she says I'm not mature enough. I have worked really, really hard at everything: I've kept up my chores, my job teaching piano, my job at the library, my schoolwork, and being in a musical, and she still won't let me. Now, normally I would think that working for a year to save up money for college is a great idea. But my majors are in math and physics, and a year is a long time to be away from calculus and quantum mechanics. I'm really afraid of losing the momentum, and of missing my chance to go for my goals.
My guidance counselor at school tells me to apply to every college I want to and not worry about my mom just yet...along with a score of other people, like my dad, my grandma, my boyfriend, and various other family friends. It's just, I'm really worried about this...like the fight that will ensue once I start hearing back from the colleges I applied to. I'm completely dedicated to going in the Fall of 2006...with or without my mom's consent, but I would really like it to be with.
Is there anything I can do to convince her I can handle it?
Sorry it's so long -
Nevaeh

Here is what you do. You go ahead as your guidance counselor suggested and apply to as many colleges as you want. Have the return address be to your grandmothers, aunt, or friend’s house. Of course you ask permission of the person before you do this. Ask your guidance councilor if they could be sent to the school. Then, along with your father, you start finding out the real reason your mother doesn’t want you to go to college. Now what has been bothering me is your mother’s argument that you are too immature. I think that this may be true in her mind. You see I don’t think she can bare to see her little baby all grown up and going to collage. I think it is her attempt at keeping you with her a little longer and her illusion of you as her little baby girl still dependent upon her. You have almost a year to work on her and overcome her fears. She’s also worried about all of the awful things that could happen to you. You know, kidnappings, date rape, drugs…you know the fears. She probably doesn’t think you are experienced enough to handle these types of situations. Elicit your father’s help if he is supportive of your going to college he should be willing to back you up. Now, if you can’t seem to sway her by the time you are going to school you have two options. You most certainly can go ahead to college. You will be old enough to do as you want legally. You could also make a compromise and go to the local Jr. College for a year. This could keep your momentum going with calculus and quantum mechanics. You could spend a year there and then transfer. It doesn’t matter what college you start off in. It’s the one you graduate from that matters.

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I want to be a live-in nanny and these get an average salary of £300 a week. They don't pay rent, food, or electricty etc bills and generally get a car provided. I have a vague idea that my costs over the year would be: toiletries, optician costs, dental costs (but no medical costs as we have the NHS in England), a few clothes, insurance. Do you think I have covered everything? It's just that I worked out that if I did get the average of £300 a week and had only those costs, I could end up saving about £12-13,000 a year (and I have been generous in estimating how big my costs would be). Does anyone know where the catch is? It seems far too easy.

I have a friend who does that. She goes to night school to become a message therapist and is really enjoying it. She simply loves the child that she is taking care of. The problem as she sees it is that the parents have no time for their child. They spoil the child and give it anything he wants just to keep him quiet when he’s with them. They never spend time with their child and really don’t want to. That’s what they have her for. The little boy she is watching is basically sweet and adorable. She is a sweet person and is giving the child the love it needs. But, someday she’s going to leave him and that will be heart wrenching. The catch, as I see it, is that you could be walking into a completely volatile situation. The child or children could be completely uncontrollable and the parents don’t care, they just want you to keep the children out of their hair. The father could approach you in ways that you don’t want. There may be food in the house, but there may be rules as to what you can or cannot have. You may not be able to have the car for personal reasons whenever you want. You will be living with them and they may call upon you even during your off time. They may think, you live here, you aren’t doing anything right now, and their time is much more valuable. I guess what I’m trying to say is, before I took a position like this I would investigate every aspect I could think of. Something I’ve learned in life is that nothing is as good as it seems. If they had other nannies find out why they are no longer with them. Ask the family for references (other nannies). Call and speak to these nannies. Make sure you understand what the situation will be like before you go there.

Good Luck!

LULABELLE

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On sunda is my boyfriends little sisters birthday party. It will be the first time I have ever met his parents! I want them to know I am a really nice girl and that I love there son alot. What kind of things can I do to show them that I am really nice and that I will treat there son well. I love him and I want to be with him for ever!

It's real simple. When you get there ask his mother if there is anything you can do to help. If she says no just enjoy the party, do that. Then, when the party is winding down and people are starting to leave ask her if you can help her clean up. If she says no, you are off the hook. But, you may even go ahead and help tidy up while the party is going on. Just take the initiative, as you see empty plates pick them up and put them in the sink if they are china plates or trash if paper. This will go a long way with his mother. Most of all have a good time and be yourself. This will all indicate to her that you are a sweet person who obviously cares very much for her son.

Good Luck!

LULABELLE

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today is my one month anniversary and i want ot spend time with my boyfriend but im not allowed to hang out during the week. so should i sneak out or wait to the weekend to come? what would you do? i rate 5s

thanks for helping
kriddle06 :)

I would wait until the weekend to celebrate. It isn't worth the risk of getting caught and then your parents restrict your being able to see him. On the weekend you can plan the whole weekend as an anniversary celebration. This way you get 2 days dedicated to the beautiful moment of your meeting rather than a few hours at night with the risking of possibly getting caught. A lot of time adults will post pone their celebrations for a more opportune time. This is not an unusual practice. The important thing is that you commemorate the occasion of your meeting.

LULABELLE

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Has anyone here read "The Lottery" by Shirley Jackson? Did people really draw names and throw rocks at the person who wins the lottery, historically? Or did that come out of the imagination of Shirley Jackson?

There is no historical fact for, The Lottery. This story, written in 1948, was a metaphorical comment on our capitalistic society. The village's most powerful man, Mr. Summers, owns the village's largest business (a coal concern) and is also its mayor, since he has, Jackson writes, more "time and energy [ money and leisure] to devote to civic activities" than others . Summers' very name suggests that he has become a man of leisure through his wealth. Next in line is Mr. Graves, the village's second most powerful government official--its postmaster. (His name may suggest the gravity of officialism.) And beneath Mr. Graves is Mr. Martin, who has the economically advantageous position of being the grocer in a village of three hundred. First, the lottery's rules of participation reflect and codify a rigid social hierarchy based upon an inequitable social division of labor. Second, the fact that everyone participates in the lottery and understands consciously that its outcome is pure chance give it a certain "democratic" aura that obscures its first codifying function. Third, the villagers believe unconsciously that their commitment to a work ethic will grant them some magical immunity from selection. Fourth, this work ethic prevents them from understanding that the lottery's actual function is not to encourage work per se but to reinforce an inequitable social division of labor. Finally, after working through these points, it will be easier to explain how Jackson's choice of Tessie Hutchinson as the lottery's victim/scapegoat reveals the lottery to be an ideological mechanism which serves to defuse the average villager's deep, inarticulate dissatisfaction with the social order in which he lives by channeling it into anger directed at the victims of that social order. It is reenacted year after year, then, not because it is a mere "tradition," but because it serves the repressive ideological function of purging the social body of all resistance so that business (capitalism) can go on as usual and the Summers, the Graves and the Martins can remain in power. To simplify and identify this even further it was a comment on how we as a society will turn a blind eye to governmental injustices and allow governmental officials to stay in power. People reacted heatedly to this story when it came out. South Africa even banned it.

I hope this clears things up for you.

LULABELLE

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19/f

I met someone who was only in my hometown for a week, and we kissed, talked, and really connected. I seriously fell for him.

Of course, some people will think we were only together as rebounds, because he lost a friend and I was getting out of a serious relationship with someone. Regardless, he made me feel happy and alive.

I gave him my email address and phone number, he gave me his favorite hat. It's been over a week, and I have not heard from him. Should I just forget him, or make an effort to contact him?

I've been searching for a phone number/email but my search so far has come up fruitless. I don't know what to do. He's in the military and I would just love to talk to him before he has to go to Iraq again. However, I don't want to completely freak him out and seem "stalkerish." So even if I found a number, I don't know if I'd have the guts to call it.

It worries me that he hasn't tried contacting me yet. Maybe he thinks that since I was going through a lot that he should just back off. Maybe he felt nothing for me and really is a jerk. I don't know. Should I be patient, or make a move?

I am trying to forget about him and trying not to make the relationship anymore than what it was. It's hard because I keep thinking about him. I just need to tell him thanks (the reason is very personal and complicated so I don't want to go into detail.) Maybe if I could just tell him that, then I could move on. But for now, I feel like I have something I seriously need to get off my chest and it's driving me insane not being about to explain things!!

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Do you have his name rank and serial number? If so, you can write him through the base he said he was stationed at here in America. Theyâ??ll see to it he gets the letter no matter where he is. As for what you should do? I think this is multi-leveled. A lot of times in the service when they are getting ready to go on a mission they donâ??t allow much outside contact. It may be because the want them clear headed and ready to go on whatever mission they are getting ready to embark upon. He is entering into a life-threatening situation so he has to be clear headed. They keep them busy from sunrise to sun set. It could be that heâ??s exhausted and he doesnâ??t have that much free time to communicate with the outside world. It could be several months before he will have an opportunity to contact you. My suggestion is this. If you have his personal information go ahead and write him. Let him know how much you appreciate whatever it is. Tell him whatever you feel you need to say. Then, you need to let go. I say this because you donâ??t know when you could hear from him again. He could be gone for months, maybe even a year or more. He might not be contacting you because it would hurt him so much to remind himself continually what he will miss. There are so many factors here. I doubt he was a jerk. Start getting together with your girlfriends and go to the movies, out to dinner, dancing etc. Start doing things that will occupy your time so that the pain will diminish. I know this is very difficult for you and you must be really hurting. Time will help you with this. You might even want to keep up with him (through his base) during holidays (Christmas, Easter) by sending cards and things to let him know you are thinking of him. Other than this, there isnâ??t much else he can do.

Good Luck! My heart goes out to you.


LULABELLE

Yes, I think they will as long as they have his name. Good Luck to you...LULABELLE

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