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I have a bichon-shitzu mix. She's like 9 mos and around 15 lbs I think.
How often am I supposed to bathe her?? I know it depends on the kind of dog, so if you have a small dog similar to that, how often do you bathe him/her? (link)
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I bathe my dog once a month usually. He's a terrier.
Also, if she's afraid of water, I'd suggest that you use warm water, as cold water tends to scare them and make the experience not so pleasant. Feed her a biscuit after so that she associates the bath as a positive thing.
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15/f
ok so there these two guys L and D. theyre best friends. so errm i like L alot. i've liked him for over one year now. i've never really talked to either of them because of some issues i've had with one other friend and it's complicated but i know that L likes/d me back (just trust me on this) and that D might like me as well.
so the problem is that L always makes me a bit sad and he's always ignoring me when i try to smile. but then, when i dont look he always looks like he's completely in love (my friends told me)
or when i ignore him, i still see that his looking at me when hes walking by mme or smth.
so i've ignored him a lot lately and he looked at me alot. so i think i mad ehim feel bad. and now hes hanging out with this other girl alot and i also saw him smiling at her once. i know theyre like best friends and i've never had a problem with him talking to girls, but now im starting to think he likes HER. but only since yesterday because they where sitting next t eachother cuddeling a bit :(
and i like him so much. he slike this hard to get guy, dresses quite emo and really sexy.
but im never too happy when i see him and always scared to look. and he always playes "games" with me by looking and then being pissed because i didnt look back and ignores me. and he often just wants to be cool. the good thing is that i can tell that tho.
he's really complicated and also drinks and smokes and is often a bit mean to his friend D.
for some reason al that turns me on :(
and there is his friend D. he's like the sweetest guy i've ever seen. and i always get a smile on my face when i see him. i know he's really nice to everyone.
i wish i could just like HIM because i know he'd be perfect, but for some reason im attracted to L and everytime i wanna get over him i think : "what if something could happen between us after all"
it's shiiiit.
please help me. and dont tell me L is a playa because he's actually not playing with me as in he doesnt really like me.
but he's 16 and never had a gf. (link)
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The fact that you don't know either of them is rather limiting because it would make it difficult to decide who you want to be with. Get to know them both. I know I know, you are afraid to talk to them, or you think it will be awkward, or whatever the reason may be. But please get past this fear and become at least familiar with them. You can not know the whole truth about a person who you have never had a conversation with. Don't let someone who ignores you bring you down either, like I said you don't know him and therefore his approval should not matter. I think you have a great opportunity to learn something about yourself here. So don't worry. Talk to them or allow one of your friends to introduce you. Be yourself and do not let fear take over you.
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okeyy
so i used to like this guy in my art class
like majorly liked him but i was always afraid to talk to him
but i had this feeling that he liked me too.
then one day after school he comes up to me and tells me "how come you never talk" and he smiles and walks away
and my friend ebbaresses me so bad by yelling"why do you care? do you like her" and that got me emabressed
so yea then like a week later..
he used to always stare at me and my friends and
like always try to get a chance to talk to us
and yea
so the school day ends(friday)and i go home. then my friend calls me and tells me guess what and i go what and she says alex asked me out and alex is the guy that i like.
i was heart broken! i like literally wanted to shoot my friend. then the next day at school my friend kept on bragging and bragging about whats she should say. and like everythime she would mention his name it felt like she was killing me.
so yea technically she said yes to alex but like they used to never even look at each other or talk to each other they used to ignore each other. (they were in a relationship during this) so yea a few weeks later i found out he used to like me before my friend and that kinda made me happy but "used too" got me upset too.
but yeaa he still liked my friend(addy).
so yesterday my other friend natalie admits to us that she used to like alex too.
so my friend addy and i dare her to go to tell him that.
when she did he reacted so weirdly and that got both natalie and addy mad.
so today when we were going up for lunch one of alex's friends yell and say hey addy are you going with alex and addy decides to open her mouth and say no hes a jackass i hate hime hes so retarded and a bunchh of crap like that. idk wat the hell got into her but she went crazy. after lunch we had art and during his friends come up to me and natalie and goes why is your friend addy like that. she messed with alex's heart and broke it and yea all of that crap. no to let you know i sill have feelings for him but im pretty sure he hates me now but i didnt even do anything and even if he did like me i couldnt do anything cause my friend addy still is in love with him. we tried working it out but he wouldnt listen to us.
PLEASE HELP!
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I think that the main problem is communication. You really shouldn't have told Natalie to say she used to like him. If she does not like him currently and it is all in the past then it doesn't matter anyways. Friendships and relationships are difficult to manage when you are young and even when you are older. If you have tried apologizing to him and it isn't working then there is nothing you can do for now. I also think that although he may be very nice and attractive, it isn't really a good idea to like the same guy as your friends. The best thing for all of you to do is talk to him and apologize for everything and tell him that you honestly did not mean to hurt him. After that you can try to be friends again but only if he wants to. If not then this will be a good lesson for you all.
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I look up all these cute songs about love and relationships & i play them for my boyfriend of a year and all he does is say okay or yea and i play them for the reason they make me think of him and he never says anything besides yea or okay. (link)
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Don't worry. Sometimes people don't like to show their real emotions so they just say yea or okay. Or maybe aybe he's just not the song kind of person.
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Ok so
Theres a school trip to LA, and i really want to go.
Its about £960. My mum and dad said theyll think about it. But if i go ill need to save up as they would want me to put towards it.
I dont have a job, and i get pocket money each week but everytime i save money some thing comes along-eg birthdays.
Should i start saving now?
Or should i just leave it and not go?
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Start saving. LA is wonderful, I live in it haha. No, but seriously it's a great opportunity and you shouldn't give up on it.
What I would do is a nice yard sell. That should get some money. Then maybe buy candy and sell it to make a profit off of that. Or maybe suggest to the teachers in charge of the trip that there should be some kind of organized fund raiser. Be creative. There are many ways to save up money. =]
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this guy in my class who has kinda been flirtin with me all year asked me today if i was single and if i wanted to go out sometime. his flirting is always like a messing around with me way. so i figured he was joking when he asked me to go out so i was like uhmm no! then his friend was like ooh she turned you down and he like stopped talking. im not exactly sure if it was true or messing but i kinda feel bad. should i be more flirty to him to show i was kidding cuz i thought he was kidding? lol. hope it makes sense. thanks!!!!
PLEASE dont tell me to ask him if he was serious or not. i dont wanna actually bring it up again unless he does, then ill talk about it. im somewhat interested, but he seems a bit player-ish. im not sure if he was kiddin and it would be way awkward if he was joking =] just opinions on what to do around him. THANKS! 17/f btw (link)
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If you turn a guy down then even if you flirt with him, he will still think it was a no. So he may just think you want to be friends or just want to flirt but not date him. And he will be afraid to be rejected again because he thinks your answer will again be no.
Of course he may have been kidding but you don't know that for sure. Get to know him better, then decide if you really like him, and try to figure out whether or not he is a player. Make sure you like him enough to actually date him. You should never date a person if you are only sort of interested.
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Well couple of weeks ago my boyfriend had girls over at his house & he lied about it. Well now i just cant trust him & its so hard not to be with him all the time to make sure , he lives in a neighborhood FULL of freaking whores & his friends are the greatest influence on him either. He says he's getting tired of it because i always have some smart stuff to say about it , Im just SOO scared its going to happen again even though he says its not but im scared because of my scaredness & not trusting him that its eventually going to break us up because he says he's already tired of it , idk what to do & tomorrow he's getting his license so it makes things worst on my part . idk what to do , helpppp ! (link)
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A relationship is formed on the basis of trust.
If you do not trust him then this will obviously not work and will end sooner or later. However if he does cheat on you then you have every right to leave. He isn't worth sticking around for if he cheats but if he hasn't yet then there is really nothing you can do. It's either you accept that he is entitled to his free will and that you checking up on him constantly is only pushing him away, or you break up with him and find yourself someone that you don't have to worry about trusting or not.
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20f
My bf and I have been together for a few years now. Let's just put it this way: I'm jealous of his ex gf and it's literally driving me crazy. I don't even know who I am anymore. I feel like a terrible person.
They were together for years from middle school to high school (but it isn't supposed to be a big deal bc they were young), but he never got over her until he met me. But even when we met and were together, I could still tell he had reserved feelings for her and was obviously really hurt. He still wanted her back. so there's one reason that drives me mad.
What makes me the most upset is that she is beyond perfect. Like she is better than me. I never knew I could be a jealous person until I knew about her. I won't go listing everything about her, but it just makes me feel like, "This isn't fair".
The scary thing is that her and I have so many things in common (except she is more perfect than me.. I'm obviously a competitive person lol). But that's exactly what kills me. If she and I are so alike, how is she still better than me? In everything I do, she's always ten steps ahead.
Sometimes it makes me wonder if that's what my boyfriend likes about me, or he just tends to choose the same kind of girl. Sometimes when we used to fight, it was like he thought he was arguing with HER. He would say shit that didn't even apply to US.
Even after he cleaned out his house last year, I still found a picture of her and a few other things. After I questioned him, he brushed it off like he didn't even know it was there.
Things could be worse. It's not like he's ever tried to get back with her. But she had called him a few times when we first started going out. She was trying to get him back, but for weird reasons (she was probably jealous that he had a new gf, even though she left him for another guy). I'm surprised he didn't leave me, because he'd been wishing for the day she'd come crawling back to him for years.
I know I need to get over myself. I try to tell myself that I should just let this go; he's with me, not her.. but that's just not enough for me. I don't know what to do anymore. I kinda wish she never existed, or that he was never with her in the first place, but there's nothing I can do to change that.
Is this karma? There are a lot of other girls who are jealous of me. Sadly to say, even my own sister and some of my best friends (no, I don't purposely try to make them jealous). But is this what I get??
I really need advice. If you've ever been jealous of someone, how did you get over it? Or what do you think I should do?
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It has nothing to do with other people being jealous of you. Really, its just your insecurities that are coming out. She is not more perfect than you. Obviously you have different personalities and are different people. He likes you, he picked you. The moment he asked you out, he decided that it was you he wanted and not her, or any other girl for that matter. So really, he hasn't cheated on you, he hasn't compared you to her, he hasn't told you you aren't good enough. This is all on you. Its not his fault. I have been jealous of someone before but I realized that it was only because I had nothing better to think about. Jealousy is a natural emotion but really, it seems to be getting out of hand. Find a hobby or hang out with some friends. Just be confident in yourself and get a grip. Don't go all haywire now.
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I graduate eighth grade soon I have 2 school days left then a week of ceremonies and school parties and my graduation. The high school im going to next year already hates me, the teachers and a lot of the kids. I don’t really do anything wrong. Im just really hyper then depressive but i probly am bipolar I just don’t wantme to be labled bipolar and be on medicines although itd help so much. One of the sports im tryin out for is cheerleading and people say im the opposite of a cheer leader but I did it this year, they say ill change the whole meaning of a cheerleader whatever if its good or bad idc but I will have fun at that HEHE. I don’t wana say im gothic but I love the gothic stuff and culture just ta give ya the pica. Im so afraid I wont make friends next year in highschool. Im not going to the same high school as any of my friends except one guy that used to be my best friend but I haven’t talked to in forever.
1 How do I make people not hate me they don’t even know me?
2 What do I do about bipolar every possible thing adds up and I 99 chance I am but idk if I wana get tested or not?
3 Will the people hate me even more if I do cheerleading and scare the shit out of them just because, it hasn’t stopped me before and I want to cheer I just hate the perky preps?
4 I can easily make friends with people, if im around atleast some people I know but I wont be i doubt ill make friends tho?
5 What do I do incase I get my heart shattered like my last best friend that we liked eachother then he made my life hell, I cant trust anybody at all anymore bc of it?
Answer any or all of the questions pleassse and thank ya. Im 14/f
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You kind of remind me of myself. And because before I entered high school I was in a similar mindset and situation as you, I want to warn you not to make the same mistakes that I did. The first thing you need to do is promise yourself that there is nothing to be afraid of and that no one will hate you. Be positive, trust me, if you just smile and talk to the people next to you in your classes and just greet people with a smile, it will make a world of a difference. If you truly think you are bipolar, then go have it checked out because the pills really help. Learning to make friends on your own is important, so don't see it as a bad thing, be confident in yourself. I understand the whole falling for the best friend story because I have been there and suffered heavily from it, but you can't close yourself off from all other guys. The number one problem with people is fear. If you fall for a guy and get shattered then you will have to get back up again. Just remember that you are amazing and that life goes on. I am telling you that high school will be good or bad depending on your attitude. So make your choice based on that.
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20/f
So...I dated this guy for awhile in my freshman year (of college. I'm now a senior), and we're still very close. Well, we were. At one point I felt like no one knew me the way he did, and he felt the same way about me. We called each other our best friends, never referred to each other as exes and hung out for days on end, sometimes, and at the last day wouldn't want to part ways. He'd stay the night with me and cuddle me in his sleep, too. We broke up because the timing was just...bad. He couldn't handle what he was feeling for me, and I was freaked too, but instead of running I wanted to stick it out. He's a commitmentphobe, and he just wasn't ready to be in a steady relationship. He never cheated on me, though. I don't resent him for ending things, and I've forgiven him for the damage he caused.
He was my closest friend for so long, and all of a sudden I feel like he's pulling away from me, even though we've been hanging out more lately. He used to include me in everything he did with his friends, but last night he was gonna watch the basketball game with a couple of them. I was there 'cause we'd been hanging out before, and he was like "You can go if you want, ***'s gonna be here any minute."
Which is his way of trying to be nice about asking me to leave. So I responded, "I kinda wanted to watch the game...unless you just wanted to hang out with ***."
He said, "I kinda did, but I mean you can stay if you want."
So I took that as my cue to leave, put on my shoes, and walked out. I told him "Don't worry about it, I'll go home and do some artwork." (I wound up just watching the game alone) 'Cause I didn't want him to feel bad, or anything. He's entitled to want a boys' night as much as I am to want a girls' night.
I feel like I have to push and push to get him to hang out with me, when he used to call me every chance he got, just to say hi. He went to Vegas with his family over the summer, and called me five or six times a day because he missed me.
I don't get what happened. We didn't have any fights or anything, so I'm just...confused.
Not only that, but for god knows what reason, I really miss being with him. Our relationship pretty much sucked, and I haven't actually missed him in a really long time. I just keep thinking about how safe I felt in his arms, how I never felt the way about anyone that I did about him...still do...I don't know what's going on.
I guess I'm just kinda asking for some feedback. (link)
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You are obviously not completely over him yet. Maybe you know that things can not be the same as they were before but if you do have even the slightest thought that maybe it'll work out for you guys, then get that thought out of your head ASAP. It's unfortunate that he has commitment problems and all but that isn't going to change and maybe he is starting to feel smothered by you. At some point people just want their own space and even thought before it wasn't an issue for him, he may now want to distance himself from you a bit. The only thing you can do is not take it personally, because obviously you are and that's not a good thing. He seems like a good guy to have in your life but he is only your friend and you don't need all the drama that comes along with missing him. Just focus on your artwork and hang out with your girl friends more. Soon enough you will be done with missing him and you will be able to be more independent as well. It really does suck having to depend on someone but just remember that you can make your own happiness.
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So I had a boyfriend, that i was extremely good friends wtih when i met him last august, well we talked alot and i always went to bed with a smile on my face after our conversations. He asked me out in the beggining of november and i couldnt have been more happier, it was the time i was happiest. he dumped me mid march because hes moving soon and didnt know if he wanted a girlfriend still. so he was known as the goofy player type. and i thought i had changed him from that, but the day after he broke up with me, he went back to his playerish self and was all over girls. now when he broke up wtih me over the phone, he told me he still wanted to be friends. now i see him at dances and gatherings like that, and its so awkward because he is all over everyone, and it hurts. the day after he broke up with me when i saw him, it was an awkward hi and hug, and my friends werent being that nice to him so i felt really bad. but i talked to him at it and he even got a bit teary eyed, but i didnt know if he actually cared or not. parts of me think he did and parts of me think he just wanted to make me feel better. well the day after that, i called him to make sure he was okay and he said yeah and that the question was if i was okay, and i said im alright, and im like i guess, i just felt really bad about how people were acting. well now its a month later, we had a dance, he was with this one girl and his one guy friend knew how i was feeling and told him later that night, so then my ex apologized and said he heard i had looked dissappointed and said he shouldn't have done that and asked if i was okay, and i told him he can do what he wants because i have no control over that, and i just dont move on as fast as others, especially because this is my first relationship. i saw him saturday, we hugged and said hi then when we were leaving he said bye and lifted me up, but i dont know. he was even trying to flirt, dance, and kiss my friends? im like oh thanks. i miss the friendship we had, and i feel like whenever we talk its awkward, or i have NO CLUE what to say. and i just want the friendship to be how it used to be more than ever. I feel like i have no time because hes moving in june or july. i feel like the more i cared the more i made it worse and the more pain i caused myeslf. people tell me i deserve better, but they don't know what i saw in him when i went out with him, it was when i was the happiest, if anyone could tell me what i should do, or how i should feel, it'd be really apreciated, i apologize for the length of this! lol
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i think that you are young and that this is an important thing for you to experience. im sure that it is very difficult to have an ex be awkward and have a lost friendship because of a relationship. but maybe his moving away will be good for you. it will give you time to develop yourself as a person and learn an important lesson about happiness. true happiness, like the long lasting kind, can only come from you. you are the only person who can decide to be happy. so do yourself a favor and stop worrying so much about him. you guys will be fine, if you stop caring about what he thinks or feels and just worry about yourself then life will be much more fulfilling.
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12/F
Okay, so this is a really awkward question. like REALLY weird.
but..
ever since i was little i have been getting this stuff in my panties.. like, white gooey stuff like on your period only grosser and less of it. it went about for almost a year then like came back. i don't know what it is but i'm scared to tell my dad to take me to the doctor cuz it'll be really awkward since it's just me and him in the house. and i have no one else i can ask for help. so why not random strangers! this is a really annoying and embarrassing question... and any type of help is appreciated!
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wow that is gross
hahahah jk
its normal. you are not a mutant. =] go invest in some pantiliners and wear them so your undies dont get soaked
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okay, when i shave my vagina it hurts and starts bleeding in spots and i don't know why. i have a bad razor, and i think that it may be the problem.
does anyone know any REALLY good razors that will get ALL hair (like on my legs and armpits too) really well and has isn't bound to cut easily. and make me bleed down there..
or any other advice as of what would be causing me to get cuts (and they arn't cuts from just the razor. when i shave it hurts cause it's really sensitive and the hairs are prickly) (link)
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use shaving cream! =]
Gillete Mach 3 is a very trustworthy razor so pick him.
also stop shaving your lower region for a while so it can heal up. have a nice hairfree day
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I am deeply in love with a girl. She happens to be my class mate nd we are pretty close friends. I told her how i felt cos i couldnt keep it inside any longer and I thought it was best to tell her. Well she doesnt love me the way i love her for now (Thats wat she said). She says that I am a great guy and all. She just wants to be my friend for now (thats what she said exactly).So I asked her if anything could happen between us in the future (A pretty stupid move i think) and she said probably not. That hurt a lot and it still does.One of my our friend also asked her (when i was not around) if she thinks anything could happen between us in the future. She told him that she doesnt know. she likes me as a friend for now and would like to know me more. And she keeps saying i am a great guy and stuff. The problem is that I cant stop loving her. What am i supposed to do? Does anyone think I stand a chance.
we've known each other for the past 5-6 months only.. (link)
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If I had said everything that she said to you, then it would be because i only see you in a friend type way. Stop telling yourself that she may eventually like you. She probably wont. And for your sake it might be better to believe that there is absolutely no way she will ever like you. Try not to be too upset about it, you seem like a great guy and in life it is better to have an open mind. So just open your mind buddy, im sure you will be fine.
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how do i tell my parents that i started my period? (link)
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you dont need to tell your dad, that might be awkward. but just go up to your mom whiles shes watching tv and be like "mom i think im gonna need some pads/tampons".
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hey this is my first time to do this but here it goes well i was together with this guy that i used to date a long time ago well we got back together probably 4 months ago and i found out he has been talkin to all of his ex girlfriends and he lied to me so many times about it until i hacked into all of his stuff and found out the real truth but i still love him and i dont know what to do so please help me (link)
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did you tell him that you know hes been talking to them? well hes only talking to them and as long as you haven't found out that he is cheating on you then he isn't doing anything terribly wrong. but it depends on what he was saying to them. you need to be able to trust him, though, so if you haven't confronted him yet and you don't want to confront him, then you have just trust that he loves you and will not cheat on you. i know this is hard but i hope you can create that trust. hope i helped
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so i was with this guy since sixth grade to the 8th grade... he was my first love and i really loved him...when my parents told me to no longer talk to him i did and when he caused me to fight girls cause of drama around him I still talked to him...now we are 9th graders and go to different high schools and started talking again...now I thought that i was his first love and that we had something special but i had asked him...how much have you loved me on a scale 1-10 and he said well like a seven...i asked him how high his been and he told me like a 10 and i said with who and he said with this girl name vannesa well im so hurt i thought we had something but IDk what to do...shoould i stop talking to him cause right now old feelings are just comeing up and i think im just hurting myself..please give me any advice you have for this...should i stop talking to him or what???? (link)
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This sounds really painful and I am sorry that you are dealing with this. But i think that you not seeing him will be good for you and yes you should stop talking to him. I had the biggest thing for my best friend and after middle school we went to different high schools and I felt horrible. But over time I was able to make friends at school and forget about him. I even had a boyfriend in high school. Basically these things are really hard to deal with but you will pull through, I promise. Its a good life lesson too because it will make you stronger and help you cope with heartbreak if it happens again in the future. I want you to go to sleep tonight and when you wake up tomorrow, just tell yourself "everything is going to be okay and I am okay. Today will be the start of a new life for me."
I think you will be just fine. Hope you feel better tomorrow and even if the pain has not completely gone away, it will with time.
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Heres the deal. his names Lesley and i've fallen head over heels for him. We first started with simple Hi's. & i started to push it i would hugg him alot but we just knew eachother, it was stupid of me. He thought i was annoying at first but now were closer then ever. But as we start to know eachother i stop hugging him i thought maybe i shouldnt push something it'll mend on its own. Then i got too shy so i just stopped. We talk constantly once every million years he'll call and text me. When he's not busy he'd go online and chat with me. He teases me at school tries to get my attention or get me mad. Now and then i'de stare at him and once in awhile he'd stare back and our eyes meet so i turn away don't want to show him that i'm smileing. He probably thinks i like him he would catch me stareing at him alot. His best friend Glen and a lot of people told me he likes me. But i really dunt know. They would ask alot if he did and he'd start to smile and turn red. [VERY CUTE] he'd get mad if i said i was fat or ugy, he'd always say your perfect pretty and if i was retarded that i ccan't see how pretty i am. LOL! for some reason when noones around we always meet across the hall and he'd smile i would to. he would say something like oh great it's ashley. i'de probably reply with shut up. But it's been like this for 7 months now.
Does it seem like he likes me?
How should i give him a sighn i realy like him?
If he does like me how do i make him ask me out or tell me he likes me?
7 months is so long and i'd rather not wait anymore..
please help i need advice! (link)
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i think you should take a step forward, its been wayyy too long. i think he might be a little shy or just really nervous to ask you out.
do you have any friends in common? if you do then plan like a group outing and tell him "hey wanna come hang out with blah blah blah blah this friday? it would be fun =]" make sure to throw in that smile , itll let him know you like him. so yea just try to hang out with him more and if you are walking together do that whole bumping you hand into his. and and hug him more! =D umm lets see what else? oh yea you should talk to his friends maybe or tell you friend to like talk to him and be like "heyy it seems like you like blah, do you? it seems like she likes you!" yea friends are awesome. they make everything happen. cant tell you how great my friend can be at giving a guy a little push. see if he knows you like him then he'll be more likely to ask you out because he wont be afraid of you saying no. anyways good luck have yourself a yippidee awesome day!
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Okay, well lately me and my best friend have been drifting apart.
She's been upset with me about protesting something a distant relative believes in, and she didn't tell me until she was ready to basically disown me as a friend. If I would have known I would have honestly given up the thing I was protesting for her.
Anyway, because of how upset she is with me it's been hard to converse with her. I try, but she sort of kills it.
We're still friends, and we hung out yesterday and we were fine, but it's online which really hurts. And we speak online more than real life so it's getting bad.
And just then, heaps of people were asking me why this certain girl who we both hang out with got moved to her number 1 on MySpace. I know it's just a stupid ranking on a stupid site, but it's basically a social structure and it indicates she now finds she's closer to this other girl than me. She's also been hanging out with her more and telling her more.
Oh, did I mention I introduced them both? I did, and now I feel kinda crappy they've grown closer to each other and distant from me.
I honestly don't care how close they get, but the fact that they're closer than me is really getting me down. I've been feeling depressed about a number of reasons lately and I don't want friendship to be on the list as well.
Now the question is, do I just let things flow or try to be her number 1 again? I can't make friends easily, and I honestly believe her friendship was a miracle.
So I'm jaded, and I need to know an answer before I cry over something as pathetic as this.
If I do try and become close to her again, how the hell do I do it? It isn't about the protests anymore, it's about her not wanting to be close to me right now, over something I thought she was supporting me in. (link)
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first off im not sure if you apologized already but if you haven't then you should do that first. explain how you didn't know and that you didn't even care about the protest as much as you care about her. also keep hanging out with the other girl as well.
i don't think the friendship should end because it would be a really stupid reason to end it. i know i've had several driftings with certain friends but in the end we end up friends again. it just happens sometimes where theres a fight or a misunderstanding but think of all the good times. they are much more important than a protest and she will realize that too. oh and i know myspace top friends suck but dont let it get to you. pretty soon you will all be able to chill together and drink so frappuccinos together at some coffee place. yay! just go with the flow because depression is useless and accomplishes nothing.
hope you are feeling better and ready to kick some social status but! =]
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i got my period last month on the third then the 20th. both in the same month.
and this month i got it the 22.
last time i had sex was a week ago. (link)
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nope you are definitely not pregnant
if you were then your body would stop having periods immediately after the sperm and the egg did their little joining together thing
so you're good to go, just stay safe! =]
haha
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