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No Trust :(
Well couple of weeks ago my boyfriend had girls over at his house & he lied about it. Well now i just cant trust him & its so hard not to be with him all the time to make sure , he lives in a neighborhood FULL of freaking whores & his friends are the greatest influence on him either. He says he's getting tired of it because i always have some smart stuff to say about it , Im just SOO scared its going to happen again even though he says its not but im scared because of my scaredness & not trusting him that its eventually going to break us up because he says he's already tired of it , idk what to do & tomorrow he's getting his license so it makes things worst on my part . idk what to do , helpppp !
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I know that sometimes we feel like we can't live without someone, so we latch on so tight to make sure we don't loose them. But you just can't do that.
You can't control your boyfriend, or otherwise your going to make him run away.
You have to learn to trust him. If you can't trust him, then what are you doing with him? Where do you think a relationship like that is going to leave you?
It takes trust to truely love. so it sounds to me like you have two opinions. You either learn to trust your boyfriend and leave the rest to fate, or you let him go save the both of you a world of hurt.
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Well if you really want your relationship to work then you are going to have to learn to trust him. He may screw it up and lose your trust but if you don't trust him then things are never going to work out.
Let him know that you do trust him, but that because he lied you don't trust him a full one hundred percent yet. Make sure he knows that it may take some time to get it back and if he isn't willing to take that time and try then he isn't worth it and you should just let it go. Sorry if I was a little blunt ;]
About his friends, most guys are highly influenced by their friends and as their girlfriends there is really nothing we can do about it. You could try befriending them so they respect you and won't try to pressure him into anything, but it may not work.
Hope I helped.
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first off hun how long have you been together? and how many times ahs he lied to you about any problem like this so let me know and ill try to get back to your question with as best of advice as i can. get back me hun...if you can
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He probably didn't want to tell you because he knew how'd you react.
You need to be able to trust your boyfriend to be friends with the opposite sex without cheating on you.
If you can't accept that he has female friends, the relationship won't work out because you don't trust him, and trust is something you need to make things work.
Yeah, it wasn't the greatest thing on his part to lie that he wasn't hanging out with them... but look at it from his presepective, and the situation doesn't seem entirely fair. If your only reasoning for him cheating on you is "Oh... he's hanging out with girls and I'm not one of them?!" you're the unreasonable one. I'm not trying to be mean, it's the truth. It's unfair to force your boyfriend to abandon female friends just because he's going out with you.
Of course, if he actually cheated on you (and you have reliable proof/evidence) your suspicions are more justified.
-LM
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A relationship is formed on the basis of trust.
If you do not trust him then this will obviously not work and will end sooner or later. However if he does cheat on you then you have every right to leave. He isn't worth sticking around for if he cheats but if he hasn't yet then there is really nothing you can do. It's either you accept that he is entitled to his free will and that you checking up on him constantly is only pushing him away, or you break up with him and find yourself someone that you don't have to worry about trusting or not.
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