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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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hey i was just wondering how can u tell for sure that you are ready for sex?
when you can say to yourself.. "i want to have sex." and not have ANY doubts what-so-ever.
this is a huge decision, and alot of people dont realize that until they have sex and regret it. or they have sex and get pregnant. or they have sex and HATE it. its because they werent mature enough to handle it, and they werent safe, and they werent emotionally ready. if those people were to have rationally thought about it.. like actually sat down and said to themselves, "im 100% ready to have sex." most of them would have had plenty of doubts.
you have to be secure in your own skin and body. you need to respect yourself and you should be in love. you should also take your morals into careful consideration.
and until you are 100% certain, no doubt in your mind, then you are ready. you have to feel safe and comfortable and you have to be PREPARED. condoms, birth control.. is a must. [live it up without a baby bringing you down] .. until you want one, hahhaa, then lose the contraception.
but only you can tell. everyone is different. but it does take alot of thought.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo. :]
Can a relationship work out if both people really love each other and are willing to put in a lot of effort to make it last EVEN IF the guy's friends don't really like the girl? Or will it be too problematic?
It's okay if you honestly don't think it can last, I won't get upset, I just wanna know before I get all too invested.
Thank you!
well, ive been in my relationship for almost 10 months now [technically 11 ;)] and some of his friends DO NOT like me for stupid reasons like his crazy psychotic manipulating ex girlfriend of like 3 months.. but thats an entirely different story :]
but yes. a relationship CAN work out even if the other person's friends dont like you or him. im living proof of that. your relationship does not involve your friends or his friends, thats why its YOUR relationship not EVERYONES relationship or THEIR relationship. yuh know ? however, if he is easily influenced by his friends.. that could be a problem. it was for my for a while, but we got through it.. anyone can get through it.. im serious when i say that being in love conquers all. youre probably thinking, "yeah right. shes just saying that." but trust me, im not. if i thought it couldnt work out for you, i would have just said so. :]
but take it from me.. it can work if both people in the relationship want it to work badly enough and dont listen to their friends. problems may occur once in a while [sometimes unavoidable] but thats LIFE. no relationship is perfect. you just have to roll with the punches.. together.
good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
Ok this is my question iv been with my girlfriend for 10 mounths and i want to tell her something tht would make her love me even more but idk wat to say help me out
truth is: just be yourself.
keep doing what you have been doing this entire time. as time goes on, you're love will grow naturally. for some people, its harder to fall in love, for others it is easy. your girlfriend most likely finds it hard to fall in love for some reason, whatever that may be. but dont think that you HAVE to say things that would make her love you more. she already LOVES you, but i mean, you coukd compliment her. and ask her if she knows how much she means to you.. then tell her she means the world to you [inclusing the universe]
but just do you. really, thats all anyone can ask for. be open, honest, and caring .. and she'll love you more everyday :] i promise.
good luck ! hope i helped. have fun, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
I need to break up with my long-dist relationship boyfriend. We've been dating 7 months. There's no real reason to break up except..I sent him a pic that wasn't me. I know, I know. I'm too ashamed to tell him the truth, and I'm supposed to be 'visiting' him in a month. I need to end it, what do I say? I don't want to hurt his feelings, so nothing like 'I don't love you anymore' or whatever.
I was thinking of saying something along the lines of my dad disapproves, and I have to end it with you, or he'll kick me out or something. I know, just lying more. But seriously, I just want to get out of this now, it's my own fault and I know now to never do it again. Any help would be appreciated, thanks.
awww, that sucks .. but if it helps, long distance rarely ever works out.. [i would know] so dont be so hard on yourself.
here are some things you can say..
- my parents are really obnoxious and strict and im not even allowed to be dating right now.. well they found out about you, and now im forbidden to ever see you. im so sorry, but i just cant be with you because my dad doesnt trust me and said he'd send me away if i didnt end this now. im really sorry, but i know youll find someone else.
- i was talking to my dad and he is against long distance relationships and told me that i had to break up with you if i wanted to stay in the house. i know hes overreacting, and im so so sorry, but youll find a great girl someday.
- listen, im so sorry, but this long distance thing is so hard for me. i cant see you because i know that it wont happen again for a long time. youre a great guy, but i have to end this now and youll meet someone else, im sure of it. im so sorry.
or you could somehow combine a bit of all of those together.. just play around with it. and NO REGRETS, just lessons learned. remember that :] and youll find someone else too, dont worry. good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, you know how to reach me :] xxo.
Hi I would like to know how i can PLEASE my girlfriend WITHOUT sex. I have never dated before and need help. Thank you.
good for you ! pleasing yourself and your girlfriend doesnt have to involve sex at all :] here are some ideas..
- hug her tightly for a long time; not a quick one handed or light hug.
- hold her hand :]
- play with her hair [yuh know, smooth it away from her face, twirl it around your fingers..]
- kiss her cheek and forehead lightly.
- kiss her on her lips :]
- french kiss her [kissing with tongue]
- kiss her neck [girls love that]
- kiss her hand lightly.
- pick her up, spin her around, and kiss her.
- look into her eyes and tell her that shes beautiful.
- run your hand up and down her arms or legs.
- just be yourself and be playful. always compliment her and tell her how you feel about her and how good she makes you feel. just simple words can please a girl. and making her things like, a card or note or something will sweep her off her feet. [like randomly] and cute dates to the movies where you hold her hand the entire time and then just look at her and tell her that shes distracting you with how gorgeous she is.. :] and if you go ANYWHERE together, always pay for her, even if she tries to pay.
if you want to get more intimate, and you want to avoid sex at all costs you could..
- feel her up on the outside of her clothes or under.
- finger her.. or any of that oral sex stuff..
hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] good luck, have fun and dont sweat it, youll be fine ! xxo.
cap so I want to ask somebody to the prom but I don't just want to come right out and say hey you do want to go to the prom? So does anybody have some good prom asking ideas? I would like it to be something that will be remembered years later if possible. :-)
- write "prom with [your name here]?" on small slips of paper BUY BALLOONS :] pretty colored ones and then put each one into a different balloon. inflate the balloons and tie them together with ribbon or make a bouquet out of them and then give them to the person you want to ask to the dance. on one of the balloons you should write in sharpie marker, "directions: pop the balloons and see whats inside :]"
- treasure hunt ! okay so, either at your house or hers or in school or something, whichever you think is best.. decide on three to five hiding places for messages. Map it out and be creative in how many steps and what kind of steps to take from place to place. Leave a piece of candy and a "good job" note at all but the last place. Leave the the invitation at the last one. Make a map for your date to follow. On the map write, "Follow this map to a special destination."
- CAKE :] make an invitation and wrap it in aluminum foil, then put it inside of the cake and make it. then with frosting, write, "start here." [where you put the foil.. let her cut it and watch the surprise :)]
- string :] Tie a long piece of string to their front door. Tape messages along the string such as, "I'm not just stringing you along. Keep going" until they reach the location where you will ask the person to prom.
- Put Hershey's kisses in the front doorway of their house. "Now that I've kissed the ground you walk on, will you go to prom with me? :]
- play the song "abc" by jackson 5 and get maybe alphabet cereal letters, and on a card write out prom?" while playling the song.
- order a pizza, and with some sort of topping, ask the pizza place to spell out prom? or you could do it yourself with peperroni or m&ms or something haha.
- goldfish ! you could get a big clear or blue bowl, or in a bathtub.. fill it up with water and put goldfish in it. [how ever many you want] and then make a card or poster or something that says, "out of all the fish in the sea, i hope youll go to prom with me!"
hope i helped ! if i think of anything else, i'll edit this :] good luck, have fun ! xxo.
How do you get that little white heart tattoo thing? You know the one I'm talking about right? It seems like more and more girls have them right above their pelvis? It looks like a white outline of a heart and I don't know if it is a tattoo or what but I think it is adorable and I want one really bad!
How do I get this done? Does anybody know?
i did this over the summer ! hahaa. all you do is if your outside in the sun [with sun tan lotion to be safe :)] buy heart shaped stickers, or any kind of sticker you want.. put on your skin where you want the heart or whatever to be, and then just.. tan :] dont take it off until youre done tanning, and everyday put the sticker in te same spot to make it lighter, and your skin darker, then you will have the "tattoo" thing.
people also do this when going to a tanning salon [which i dont reccomend, i mean.. its really risky with cancer and stuff] but you can do it there too.
have fun ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
So I've just recently started wearing tampons and I need to know if it is okay to go PEE while I have a tampon in?
yeeeeup :] hahaa. no worries.
xxo.
So, I'm in the process of doing my room and as of right now everything except my comforter is a solid color. I want to get something with a bit of a design on it to add some flavor. Urban outfitters used to make these unique lampshades with like, all kinds of colors and funky designs. The don't anymore. Do you know where I can find lamps/ lamp shades like this now?
aaah :] yes ! here yuh go..
http://www.pbteen.com/search/results.html?words=lamp+shade
just scroll through and find what you like ! you could also try ikea..
http://www.ikea.com/us/en/search/?query=lamp+shades&pageNumber=2
..or even target and walmart ! good luck, have fun and hope i helped :] xxo.
17/male ive been with my girfriend over 6 months and we started talking about having sex were both virgins and im nervous im not sure im ready for sex yet i havent said much about it and im not that well endowed and im worried i wont please her i nervous to say anything but she keeps talking about it what do i do?
okay, take a couple deep breaths :] ...
alright. just be calm. if you're not 100% ready for sex, then it is most definetly not the right time to do it.. no matter how much you care about your girlfriend and what she wants.. you're in this relationship too, and YOU are the only one who has to live with this if you choose to do it.
from what you told me, "...im nervous im not sure im ready for sex yet..." then yeah, youre right. you are NOT ready for sex and should wait until that statement changes to.. "im confident and im completely certain that i am ready to have sex with my girlfriend."
until you can think that in your mind when she is talking about it, then youll know youre ready, but until then, tell her how you feel. she'll respect your opinion and if she tries to pressure you into it, dont give in. just because youre a guy does not mean that you have to WANT to have sex now.. sex is a big deal for everyone who does it. so talk to her. communication is key. if youre not honest, she'll just assume that youre ready and willing which wont end well, yuh know ? just tell her you want to wait. she'l understand and respect you :] maybe she even feels the same way but thinks that you want to ! you never know, which is why you have to talk to her.
and dont worry about "not pleasing her" because when the time comes, you will know what to do. for guys, im pretty sure its a natural instinct so dont think about it too much or youll drive yourself insane. and dont be nervous to say anything, she wont bite ;] but really.. shes your girlfriend. its totally okay. dont be scared dude, youve got this. its a simple thing, "im not ready yet.." and i PROMISE it wont end up badly if you say this.
just breathe. hahaha. :]
good luck, dont sweat it bud, and if you need anything else, you know how to reach me; hope i helped, xxo.
Recently, whenever my boyfriend and I are around his friends, I tend to get ignored by him. He has a lot of female friends, and they flirt with him, but he doesn't stop them; he kind of does it back. I don't know what to do! It makes me feel very unappreciated and not important.
oh wow. we are in like the same situation..
what i did was i told him if he doesnt stop, its over. there is no reason he should be flirting with other girls. the only girl he should want to flirt with or be around all of the time is you. YOUR his girlfriend, they arent. so him making you happy should be his first priority.
but talk to him about it, tell him how it makes you feel and then say something like, "how would you like it if i flirted with all of my guy friends and they flirt back?" if you put him in your shoes, he'll be able to view it more from your perspective and be willing to change.
i know how you feel though. but he might have a reason for doing it.. maybe with every relationship he has been in, the other person didnt care and flirted with other people too.. youre going to have to explain to him that this is wrong and needs to stop. communication is key.
but if he doesnt stop, think about ending it. because that is not fair to you and can lead to things like temptation which can lead to cheating.. and i know you dont want that to happen. and he shouldnt be ignoring you around his female friends.. its just not right. he should be focused on you more than ANYONE else in the room. so talk to him and if he doesnt make an effort to change, really evaluate your relationship and see if its worth staying with him because do you want to feel this way for a long period of time ? .. i hope not, because then youll be miserable, and you deserve to be very happy :]
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
I was just wondering, in your eyes, what does "the one" mean to you? They say "you don't stop loving someone, you just learn to live with out them" - Would you follow this, would you say it was truth? If you do in fact believe in soul mates, would you say that two people, though not together, can still "feel" each other? I'm also wondering if there's any scientific proof that two souls could be magnetically attracted to one another, or is that just a myth? It's curiosity that's got me asking, so anything you want to say about this is of complete interest to me. Thank you for your time!
in my eyes, "the one" means someone who you just have that gut instinct is going to impact your life forever. when you look at them, you get thins feeling in your heart and its very distinctive, you shouldnt have to search deep within yourself to feel it.. its just always there. findind the one person your supposed to be is never easy, i believe its these people that challenge you and make you vulnerable and hurt you because "the one" isnt perfect. nobody is. and if nothing bad ever happens, nothing good will ever take its place.
for the "you dont stop loving someone, you just learn to live without them" saying is true. at least in my oppinion. there is absolutley NO WAY you can love someone and then just stop. its either you never loved them or always will. so yes, you dont stop loving the person, you just LEARN to live and survive without them. its natural instinct to do that. and yeah, people might say, "no its true, you can most definetely stop loving someone.. what if they hurt you badly..." and blah blah but it still comes down to, you either loved that person or you NEVER ever did and just thought it was love when it was most likely lust or puppy love or pretending.
and i dont know if i believe in soul mates, but i believe in "the one" and those are two different things. i dont know if soulmates can be real because theres no way you could ever know if that person IS your soulmate, but with "the one" you know and you can tell. so i cant really answer that one for you, but its just my opinion.
good luck ! hope my insight helped :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
so i have this crush who's obviously not into me at all but i kept having this hope that maybe one day he would be. but anywaytoday my friend was like do you still want to go out with him and i was like not as much as he used to. i would if he wanted to go out with me first and she said sorry but i really doubt that would happen. it kind of hurt my feeings for some reason. am i right to feel this way? thanks for the help :)
yes, you have every right in the world to be pissed off and to be hurt. that was a rude comment directed to you and hurting your feelings. she should not have said that. she might have said that out of anger that you're still hung up on him, or maybe even jealous, OR maybe both. but nonetheless, you have a right to feel this way. you didnt deserve that comment, if you want him.. go get him ;] dont give up or feel like theres no hope just because of that comment.
good luck, hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
do you think it's better to have long hair or short hair on graduation day?:)
please help me out.:)
xoxo
hmm, i think ether way is cute.
but i think short hair is better because it short hair makes people look more mature and if you had long hair before, and you cut your hair short, it'll be like after graduating, you changed to be a more mature person.. yuh know ?
but either way is good :] good luck ! have fun, hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
I like nick jonas. But so does my friend and she heert me really bad because I love him soooooooooo much and she does not know how much I really care.
look at it this way..
theres about 13748595 million other girls out there who also feel the way you do about nick jonas; its something you ALL have in common. so just bond with your friend over how "cute" he is or what a good singer he has become and all of that and just dream away :] you guys can have fun together while crushing on him together along with the 13748595 million other girls all over the world. maybe go to a concert together.. just be happy you have someone that you can crush on nick with.. its always fun. look at the girls who are in love with twilight and more importantly.. robert pattinson and taylor lautner ;]
dont worry, you guys will get past this.
good luck ! xxo.
okay your advice was sooo great. its really nice to be able to talk to someone who doesnt know him or hasn't been listening to me talk about him... i think you're right about something is up... i mean he goes through all this deleting just to add me again?.... i don't know why he's adding me again all of a sudden. he is definitely in the moment kind of guy cuz he tells me he feels happy to be with me but then as time goes on i don't know what happens.... he is very persuaded by other people and can't seen to make decisions on his own. I mean he told me how his mom had a bf who kept breaking up with her and how it was too hard to work out and she was hurt when her bf kept breaking up... i am tired of him toying with my emotions because i care about him but have lost a lot of respect for him because the third time we got back together he seemed more immature weird ahahah and he didnt seem to respect me as much but sometimes he was just the amazing bf i had seen when i first dated him. do you think hes trying to get back together cuz he misses me( because i have heard that excuse way too many times. Do you think he still has feelings?... hes full of excuses but i will give him a chance to explain himself because we had dated over a year and ill let him explain... or i may see him sat because we may both be volunteering at this 5k... i havent added him yet because i want to know y he is doing this.... i dont know if i really want to hear what he says... but i dont know how about talking to him, because i dont want him to no talk to me and then I look ridiculous...
no problem :]
and okay. i really think he doesnt want it to be awkward between you guys anymore.. I mean, he SAW you and probably got that pain in his chest like, "man, i really screwed up and i cant believe i let her go again."
but then again, that seems like a theme for him. he has you, then he doesnt want you. its like he wants what he doesnt have and he likes to have you chasing after him all at the same time. which obvioously can cause huge problems like this back and forth thing he has going with you.. which is totally his fault by ALL means, so dont feel like any of this is remotely your fault.. even getting back with him wasnt your fault.. you care about him and thats why you were drawn back in.
if he doesnt have a mind of his own and people can easily persuade him, thats a very bad sign. [i would know.] he is basically choosing other people over you because its the majority against the minority. and i understand that you have lost respect for him, and im sure you have lost some feelings you had for him too.
and even if you still want to be his friend or even more than that, the aspect of trust comes into play. are you going to be able to trust what he tells you when you ask him what hes up to now? because thats up to you.
and yes, i do think he misses you.. if he didnt, he wouldnt be trying to re-add you. but i also think that everything that has happened before [the breaking up, him wanting you back, hurting you..etc] is going to start again. and i really dont think he is worth your time. but he at least deserves a chance, like i said before, to explain himself.
so just message him on facebook and say something like, "hey, want to tell me why you're adding me on facebook after you de-friended me and then proceeded to block me? like whats up with you? this is your chance to explain.."
you just have to be straight up with him and he will be straight up with you. no funny business this time around. straight to the point, straight to the possible souloution.
usually, i would say talk to him in person, but under your circumstances, that would probably be awkward and uncomfortable for you, so do it over facebook either after the 5k or before. you might want to wait until after the 5k to see if he approaches you or tries to talk to you and then take it from there.
hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, you know where to reach me :] good luck and stay strong, xxo.
ok so im 16 and my boyfriend is 17
we just had our 1 year about 2 weeks ago and everything was absolutely perfect. but about a month before that and now again im having like serious doubts because im noticing things about my boyfriend that really worry/annoy me. and it kills me because i love him with all of my heart and we have a lot of good times. my question is what is some good advice for keeping a relationship strong at this age and at this stage in the relationship.
i will appreciate anything :) thanks
for me, its backwards. im 17 and hes 16 and i am also having doubts right now.
but it all depends on what you are noticing about him that is worrying you.. if its bad like abuse or something, get out. no matter how much you love him, him getting angrily physical with you is domestic violance and can lead to very bad things and hurt you emotionally and of course, physically.
but if its not that extreme or life threatening, talk to him. communication is key. if you dont tell him how you feel, he'll never know and he wont be able to fix it or assure you that nothing is wrong.. but if you leave it alone and dont tell him what is bothering you, it'll just keep building and building until you or him just explodes and feelings get hurt. its better to talk about it then to just stay silent.
but keeping a relationship strong at this age, i have noticed is .. trust and communication. yes, love comes into play, but you cant love someone if you dont trust them. and you cant communicate with someone if you dont trust them. you have to be absolutley honest with one another and try not to hide anything meaningful from one another. you also have to trust that the other person isnt lying or decieving you.
i cant say this enough, communication is KEY in every relationship. without communication, you have nothing and youll have a very weak relationship. and you cant really have a relationship without trust either. if you dont trust him, you'll always be paranpoid or skeptical, and thats really rough [i would know..]
just be open and talk and trust. get your feelings out and keep nothing inside. youll become closer throughout this if you just talk and trust.. your love will strengthen from there.
good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything at all, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
My ex and I dated for a year and we were close and really happy together. We would talk all the time and spend time together and he really seemed to care about me. Then over the summer going into senior year he broke up with me out of the blue saying he just lost feeling. so two weeks later he calls me and tells me he made a mistake and he wants me back so i get back together and we are fine and happy but then he breaks up with me a second time.. i know wow a jerk but idk he seems really confused about what he wants. so three months go by and we see each other on halloween and we end up getting back together, I KNOW SAD but look through that k well we dated a month and i get a phonecall ending it again so im done and i dont talk to him since. well just recently he saw me at church and then tuesday i get a friend request from him. k so he had deleted me on fb so i wrote him a message and he blocked me so a week goes by and he unblocks me, than an month he friends me... i think hes just really confused or idk what... y is he friending me? what should I do?
wow, you must be really confused too, i mean, hes definetely not sure about anything he does and he seems to be one of those "in the moment" kind of guys.
if i were you, i wouldnt re-add him until you got some answers from him. i mean, he blocks you and all of that, then suddenly wants you to be his facebook friend again.. somethings up.
message him, and ask him whats up. you have a right to know. hes toying with your emotions and you head. and he clearly doesnt know what he wants in life.
but really, you deserve much more than him. you deserve someone who is going to want to be with you for a long time and not someone who wants to be off and on and hurting you on a daily basis. and he is probably friending you because he saw you, wants to know what youre up to.. if you have a boyfriend, and then start the cycle all over again.
history repeats itself. and im sure that he'll try to get you to be with him again and promise that "this time things will be different.." when, it most likely wont be.
but everyone deserves a fair chance to explain themselves, so message him and give him one last chance to tell you what he's up to this time around.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
How do I hint to my guy friend that I want him to take me to prom? Our friends had told both of us that we should go together and I think he said yes, but I don't know if he was really serious. I really want to go with him! Thanks!
well, you could just ask him if he was serious about it.. like, "i just remembered, were you really serious about taking me to prom because [your friends name] told me you were..?"
or you could just ask him.. "do you want to go to prom with me :]?"
but if you really want to hint at it, you could say stuff like..
- i think itd be really awesome if i could go to prom with a guy friend..yuh know?
- you know what would be so fun? if i went to prom with one of my guy friends.. thatd be a blast.
- im dateless but i have some dateless guy friends, does that make sense? haha.
- i wanted to go to prom with [he 2 friends that said you guys should go to prom together] but i dont have a date that is friends with them too..
there are plenty of ways to go about and say it, but those are just a few hints. youd just have to fit it somewhere in conversation subtly. youl be fine :] and im sure youll end up going together ! good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! have fun, xxo.
my boyfriend of about a year keeps indirectly pressuring me to have sex with him and it bothers me. and i feel kinda guilty cause hes on the football team and he gets pressured from people and i know that. but i wouldnt do it because of that, but im just really feeling pressured now, even though i never thought i would. but im not ready yet, cause im only a junior in high school, and ive told him that im not ready yet. what should i do?
ohh hormones..
but seriously, he shouldnt be pressuring you. he knows how you feel about sex, and just because his friends are giving him crap for not having sex with you, doesnt mean he should try anc change your mind. your his girlfriend and he should want to keep you happy more than his friends.
so talk to him. tell him that you know hes on the football team and thats kind of pressuring him to have sex with you, but you dont want him pressuring you and that you think youre too young.
its YOUR life, and you are the only one who lives it. and if he is going to keep pressuring you, you have t give him 2 options.. 1. stop pressuring you or youll break up with him. or 2. keep pressuring you and youll break up with him.
he'll get the point, and i know you probably dont want to be mean to him, but you dont want him to persuade you [because guys can be very convincing] and then you regret having sex with him. you really have to be stern with him and make him realize that no matter how bad he wants to, sex is not in the picture right now and probably wont be until youre older and hes going to have to deal with it or find someone else.
stick with what you believe in. i give you major props for not giving into the pressure. you go girl :] and you seem like a very smart and mature person, so dont lose that about you.
good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo. hang in there.