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Sex First Time
17/male ive been with my girfriend over 6 months and we started talking about having sex were both virgins and im nervous im not sure im ready for sex yet i havent said much about it and im not that well endowed and im worried i wont please her i nervous to say anything but she keeps talking about it what do i do?
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okay, take a couple deep breaths :] ...
alright. just be calm. if you're not 100% ready for sex, then it is most definetly not the right time to do it.. no matter how much you care about your girlfriend and what she wants.. you're in this relationship too, and YOU are the only one who has to live with this if you choose to do it.
from what you told me, "...im nervous im not sure im ready for sex yet..." then yeah, youre right. you are NOT ready for sex and should wait until that statement changes to.. "im confident and im completely certain that i am ready to have sex with my girlfriend."
until you can think that in your mind when she is talking about it, then youll know youre ready, but until then, tell her how you feel. she'll respect your opinion and if she tries to pressure you into it, dont give in. just because youre a guy does not mean that you have to WANT to have sex now.. sex is a big deal for everyone who does it. so talk to her. communication is key. if youre not honest, she'll just assume that youre ready and willing which wont end well, yuh know ? just tell her you want to wait. she'l understand and respect you :] maybe she even feels the same way but thinks that you want to ! you never know, which is why you have to talk to her.
and dont worry about "not pleasing her" because when the time comes, you will know what to do. for guys, im pretty sure its a natural instinct so dont think about it too much or youll drive yourself insane. and dont be nervous to say anything, she wont bite ;] but really.. shes your girlfriend. its totally okay. dont be scared dude, youve got this. its a simple thing, "im not ready yet.." and i PROMISE it wont end up badly if you say this.
just breathe. hahaha. :]
good luck, dont sweat it bud, and if you need anything else, you know how to reach me; hope i helped, xxo.
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