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The One?
I was just wondering, in your eyes, what does "the one" mean to you? They say "you don't stop loving someone, you just learn to live with out them" - Would you follow this, would you say it was truth? If you do in fact believe in soul mates, would you say that two people, though not together, can still "feel" each other? I'm also wondering if there's any scientific proof that two souls could be magnetically attracted to one another, or is that just a myth? It's curiosity that's got me asking, so anything you want to say about this is of complete interest to me. Thank you for your time!
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Well, I think first of all, this depends on people's religions / beliefs about whether or not people actually have souls. Christians, catholics, etc., believe so. It also depends on if you believe in fate or not.
Personally, I don't think humans have souls just because I don't think any other living creature does. Does the mosquito buzzing around your ear have a soul? Does the plant on your windowsill? I think human beings aren't any more or less special than other living being on this planet. So why should we have a soul if other creatures don't?
Also, I don't believe in fate, either. Again, taking the scientific approach, I dont' really think I have a purpose that I have to carry out in this world; there's just my goals and my plans for carrying them wihle balancing family, friends, etc.
So no, I don't believe in soul mates.
I think that "the one" is whoever you tihnk it is at the time. It's someone that will know who you are and love you for exactly that reason, and someone you will love for who they are.
You know how, when you have your first crush on a person, you just think about how wonderful they are and kind of push the bad things to the side?
I think that if you REALLY have "the one", you're AWARE of their negatives, because we all have some bad traits, but you know that they're worth staying with despite that, because their positives are amazing. And both those negatives & positives are what make the two of you GREAT together.
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I think 'The One' is a choice. It's a choice you make when you met them, when you devote yourself to them, and it's a choice you keep making every day you stay loyal and true to them. A person is ‘The One’ until they aren’t The One anymore, and that is okay.
It's natural to want to believe in some sort of great magic, something supernatural thing beyond ourselves, but frankly, I think there is an amazing beauty in the choice to love someone, to choice to spend a lifetime with someone, that we should try to dismiss by calling it some sort of magic. That lessens how amazing it is when two human beings can manage it. That doesn’t make it ‘a myth’ but it makes it’s a real, amazing and natural, triumph of human will, and a beautiful expression of the value of one human being to another.
There is no evidence that two souls can be magnetically linked, because there is no evidence of the existence of a soul. Science has never found it, and anyone who tries to tell you it has is being silly. It's something you have to take on faith and believe or not believe. But a true, consistent love is still just as amazing and phenomenal for two people to share if we are soulless animals, in some ways, if all we are is animals, the choice to love, and to keep on loving in the face of all of life’s confusions and struggles, is even more precious and marvellous.
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in my eyes, "the one" means someone who you just have that gut instinct is going to impact your life forever. when you look at them, you get thins feeling in your heart and its very distinctive, you shouldnt have to search deep within yourself to feel it.. its just always there. findind the one person your supposed to be is never easy, i believe its these people that challenge you and make you vulnerable and hurt you because "the one" isnt perfect. nobody is. and if nothing bad ever happens, nothing good will ever take its place.
for the "you dont stop loving someone, you just learn to live without them" saying is true. at least in my oppinion. there is absolutley NO WAY you can love someone and then just stop. its either you never loved them or always will. so yes, you dont stop loving the person, you just LEARN to live and survive without them. its natural instinct to do that. and yeah, people might say, "no its true, you can most definetely stop loving someone.. what if they hurt you badly..." and blah blah but it still comes down to, you either loved that person or you NEVER ever did and just thought it was love when it was most likely lust or puppy love or pretending.
and i dont know if i believe in soul mates, but i believe in "the one" and those are two different things. i dont know if soulmates can be real because theres no way you could ever know if that person IS your soulmate, but with "the one" you know and you can tell. so i cant really answer that one for you, but its just my opinion.
good luck ! hope my insight helped :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
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Science can not prove or disprove the existence of the soul (not beyond reasonable doubt) much less the connection between two souls.
That doesn't mean you can't have an opinion. My opinion...
Does 'the one' exist? Probably not. How about 'soulmates?' I think so.
I would define a soulmate as someone that you share a special connection with. The relationship isn't always romantic either. A soulmate can be a family member or a life long friend. A soulmate understands you, even when you're positive that you just aren't making any sense. A soulmate is empathetic to your pain. A soulmate may drift away from you and a few years may pass... And oddly, somehow they manage to find you again.
Not only do I believe that soulmates aren't limited to a romantic relationship... I also believe that everyone has several soulmates. We pass in and out of each other's lives.
Don't get hung up on this idea of 'the one.' You may meet one person, fall in love, and spend the rest of your lives together. But most likely, you'll love several people. As someone with a first love, a second love, and a third... I can tell you that yes, once you've loved someone, you can never really stop. But love is a changing thing.
For example, my first boyfriend and I dated for 2-3 years, on and off. Our relationship was passionate, turbulent... And, in the end, I just couldn't handle all the drama. I needed someone more stable, someone that wanted to have a consistent relationship. We broke up for the last time... And it broke both our hearts. But time passed. Our hearts healed. Do I still love him? Yes. If he asked me tomorrow to marry him, what would I say? Absolutely not. Bad idea.
What I'm getting at is... As much as we'd all like to believe that love is all you need to live happily ever after... It's not. Relationships are a lot of work. And sometimes, you can give a relationship all you've got and the relationship still dies. Don't lose hope...
Because you'll get over it. You'll move on. You'll love again. And really, that's a good thing. It's good because... If there were only one person for everyone... Wouldn't it be a tragedy never to find that person? Or what if you did, and you lost them?
I believe we've been given hundreds of options. I believe we've been given the freedom to choose. I believe we've all been empowered to love who we will.
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