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so should I wait to re-add him?
okay your advice was sooo great. its really nice to be able to talk to someone who doesnt know him or hasn't been listening to me talk about him... i think you're right about something is up... i mean he goes through all this deleting just to add me again?.... i don't know why he's adding me again all of a sudden. he is definitely in the moment kind of guy cuz he tells me he feels happy to be with me but then as time goes on i don't know what happens.... he is very persuaded by other people and can't seen to make decisions on his own. I mean he told me how his mom had a bf who kept breaking up with her and how it was too hard to work out and she was hurt when her bf kept breaking up... i am tired of him toying with my emotions because i care about him but have lost a lot of respect for him because the third time we got back together he seemed more immature weird ahahah and he didnt seem to respect me as much but sometimes he was just the amazing bf i had seen when i first dated him. do you think hes trying to get back together cuz he misses me( because i have heard that excuse way too many times. Do you think he still has feelings?... hes full of excuses but i will give him a chance to explain himself because we had dated over a year and ill let him explain... or i may see him sat because we may both be volunteering at this 5k... i havent added him yet because i want to know y he is doing this.... i dont know if i really want to hear what he says... but i dont know how about talking to him, because i dont want him to no talk to me and then I look ridiculous...
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and okay. i really think he doesnt want it to be awkward between you guys anymore.. I mean, he SAW you and probably got that pain in his chest like, "man, i really screwed up and i cant believe i let her go again."
but then again, that seems like a theme for him. he has you, then he doesnt want you. its like he wants what he doesnt have and he likes to have you chasing after him all at the same time. which obvioously can cause huge problems like this back and forth thing he has going with you.. which is totally his fault by ALL means, so dont feel like any of this is remotely your fault.. even getting back with him wasnt your fault.. you care about him and thats why you were drawn back in.
if he doesnt have a mind of his own and people can easily persuade him, thats a very bad sign. [i would know.] he is basically choosing other people over you because its the majority against the minority. and i understand that you have lost respect for him, and im sure you have lost some feelings you had for him too.
and even if you still want to be his friend or even more than that, the aspect of trust comes into play. are you going to be able to trust what he tells you when you ask him what hes up to now? because thats up to you.
and yes, i do think he misses you.. if he didnt, he wouldnt be trying to re-add you. but i also think that everything that has happened before [the breaking up, him wanting you back, hurting you..etc] is going to start again. and i really dont think he is worth your time. but he at least deserves a chance, like i said before, to explain himself.
so just message him on facebook and say something like, "hey, want to tell me why you're adding me on facebook after you de-friended me and then proceeded to block me? like whats up with you? this is your chance to explain.."
you just have to be straight up with him and he will be straight up with you. no funny business this time around. straight to the point, straight to the possible souloution.
usually, i would say talk to him in person, but under your circumstances, that would probably be awkward and uncomfortable for you, so do it over facebook either after the 5k or before. you might want to wait until after the 5k to see if he approaches you or tries to talk to you and then take it from there.
hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, you know where to reach me :] good luck and stay strong, xxo.
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