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Hey, My name is Ryan, And I will be your shrink for the day, I have 18 years of life experience, trust me I have been through it all, loss, births (no I didnt give birth silly), Parents divorce, my own bad relationships, I have fixed heaps of relationships, basically, I'm the one who will lay it out straight! if you dont want the answers everyone seems to give like those stupid answers that never really help, then come to me, I condone the realists approach, the ways that REALLY work :D so ask me about ANYTHING..

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do girls cum?

absolutely.. you just gotta know the right spots to rub them.. sometimes they spray... and sometimes it just oozes out.. but they definately cum.. i think it comes from the pangea gland.. or somthing like that.. which is the G-Spot inside the vagina.. is kinda about 2 -3 inces in and on the roof.. you cant miss it :D hope this helps

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I found out yesterday that a good friend of mine was killed at a party. Someone had slipped ecstasy in her drink and then she was brutally raped while she was passed out. I feel like this is all my fault. The reason being is because I always went to parties with her and I would always tell her "Beck, don't drink at parties". She'd always yell at me and tell me that I acted like her mother. But I knew I was right, I don't trust the drinks that people hand out at parties. The guy that raped her was my ex-boyfriend. I still feel like this was all my fault because, had I been there, he wouldn't have done anything to her because he's afraid of me. I'm sure by now you're all probably thinking "This is a load of bull" but believe it. This actually happens to people. She was my best friend. I knew I should have gone with her to that party. I'm completely miserable right now. She was my best friend. I always figured that nothing like that could ever hit so close to home. I'd always see stories like this on the news and I'd think to myself "How could they be so stupid?" Or, "That would never happen where I live." But it has. I don't know how to handle this. My ex boyfriend was arrested and my friends family is waiting to go to court but in the time being, I don't know how to handle myself. I don't even have the courage to go to her funeral tomorrow. I need help getting through this. Please help me... Thank you for those who take this seriously. I would really also like a non-sarcastic answer because this is a touchy subject for me. Thank you.


I apologize for the length.

You have no right to call it your fault, no part of it was your fault at all.. it happened.. even if you were there she probably would have taken the drink, and probably would have been raped... im sorry to say that these things happen.. all i can offer is that you might even have been pressured into taking the drink also, and been raped and killed.. you really cant stop these sorts of things at parties.. it is NOT your fault.. i urge you to go to the funeral.. talk about how good of a friend she was.. and how close you too were etc.. it will make you feel a whole lot better.. just dont bring up the fact that you think it is your fault because it is not!

hope this helps...

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ok the other night i was at a party/sleepover and me and my friend got dared (for 10$ each) to make out with each other. we did it because we figured it wasnt a big deal and we were getting ten dollars each. but then everyone started taking turns doing it and i ended up doing it at least three times. im not lesbian or bisexual but i feel like what i did makes me one now. not that its a bad thing but its just not what i want to be. does what i did make me a lesbian? i dont know what to think about myself anymore.
please help!

of course it doesnt make you a lesbian... lesbian is where you dont want to be a with a male in a relationship (only friendship) but instead you want to be with a female.. for the part where you dont know what to think about yourself, I would call yourself an idiot.. because if someon caught wind of this.. some male who knew you or something.. it can get out of hand and rumours start forming and you are officially known as a lesbian.. even if you arent.. so you just gotta hope noone finds out ;)

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Ok you see I like this guy a LOT!! I mean a lot and he is shy and gentle and very sweet. I have the feeling that he likes me too because we flirt a lot during one of the classes I have with him but for some reason he won't ask me out. You see, I have never been on a date before and I really want my first date with him. I don't want to ask him out because when I'm older I want to remember that on my first date a boy I like asked me out instead of me asking him out!!I know it may sound weird but PLEASE, I really do love him and I really do want to go out with him!! Today I saw his face for the first time in almost 4 weeks because of winter breaks and he got sick so had to miss a week and he was absolutely gorgeous!! But I don't love him for his looks I love him by being himself and a lot more other reasons I cannot explain in words!! The problem is how do I get him to ask me out!! OH, NO what if he doesn't like me, I mean I think he likes me because he flirts with me but not with other girls and he always smiles!! By the way I'm 13 years old and a girl.

i think you should just go forth and ask him out.. if he is too shy who cares.. that means he probably wont ask you out.. so the best way to be sure is just to ask.. coz you wont lose anything you had before if he says no.. and remember my quote

If you dont risk anything.. you risk even more!!

hope this helps :)

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I know this might be a really stupid question, but I was wondering if you would please be able to give me some tips on how to save. I find it impossible, and it's driving me mad!

im assumeing you mean save money :P so the best way id say is about 35- 45% of your weekly wage get put into a different account by direc debit.. its the easiest way.. or you can just put 100$ aside in your room or somewhere safe a week and by the end of the year that 5200$ :) hope this helps :P

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is true high school love possible? i was just wondering b/c it seems like for so many ppl it never works...

there is normally too much pressure put on love in highschool.. it is definately possible.. just very unlikely. as long as you go with your feelings.. it is possible.. dont listen to friends or anyone else!

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you know how u rate people`s responses? well where do u see how people rated you individully can you?

in the feedback section of you column..:)

edit: changed forum to column -im a forum freak)

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I'm about 5'0" and like 116 pounds. I have a little chubby stomach too. I'm going to start going to the gym tomorrow and from then on workout about three days a week. I'll probably be there about an hour and a half each day. I'm not exactly sure what exercises I'll be doing, so I can't tell you that. But how long, about, do you think it will take to make my stomach flatter and lose that fat? Also, what exercises would help me lose that?

crunches.. umm.. medicine balls work heaps well.. pretty much anything that involves the stomach and legs... but you dont want to tone just that part of the body.. so id say sped about 10 - 15 mins on all machines :) hope this helps

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ok...there is this guy that i like and we flirt alot...my friends told me that he says im hott and that he likes me...he always stares at me and when we play football, hes always guarding me, grabbing me around the waist, and running into me...i know hes doing this on purpose cause hes a great football player and there is no way that he would mess up like that...well i know everything might seem great, but theres one problem, HE HAS A G/F!!!...she doesnt go to our school and he never talks about her...i really like this guy and i dont know what to do...since your a guy, can you tell me what hes thinking and what i should do??THANKS SO MUCH ~ ♥ ~

ok.. well the fact that he already has a girlfriend is bad enough.. but since he is hitting on you.. that is really bad.. as if he leaves this girl he is with for a better girl.. whos ays he wont do it again.. i can garantee he will do it again.. and again and again and you will just get hurt.. maybe cool off.. make him think ur not interested.. and if he breaks up with his girl.. then you can move on in.. but if he breaks up with her and your still letting him climb all over you.. hes just an arse and he isnt worth it

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Okay well me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year now..march 10 will be a year..and for his bday i got him a chain and braclet for christmass i got him cologn really exspensive cologne...noww one year is coming and so is Valentines day and he always gets me something relaly nice*gold necklace....ring ect.*
what can i get him?! idea's any one please!!

a head job? no serious! theres nothign better.. oh.. but hang on.. how old are you two? age makes a huge difference.. so i really cannot help unless i know ur ages.. .but yeah.. id say something to do with racing.. or sports.. or does he like computers... what does he like doing?

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I really like this guy that i have known sence i wuz 3 i havn't seen him in like 5 yrs. now we go to the same school. i see him every once in a while but never get the chance to talk. What should i do? tlk to him? or what just tell me wut i should do or how i should feel

well... how you feel is in your heart.. does he feel the same.. id say approach him during recess or lunch.. or before/after school.. and just talk to him.. find out as much as you can.. but id say definately go for it.. remember

"if you dont risk anything, you risk even more"

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i have a tooth in my mouth that is loose and when i wiggle it and smell my finger, it stinks. kinda embarrassing. IS THIS NORMAL?

erm.. i dont think so... how often do you brush your teeth? it could just be plaque or food that has been sitting on ur tooth for a few weeks. maybe you finger smelled beforehand?

question.. why did you smell your finger for in the first place? seems kinda odd.. did you wiggle your tooth and go to pick your nose or what?

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okay so she says she likes this guy, we'll call him Dave. but she knows his older brother (Clark) much better, and he is a HUGE flirt. She says that she doesnt like him, but every time she sees him she can't say no to him (even though he has a girlfriend), and so last night she was fooling around with Clark and she doesn't know what to do and I don't know what to tell her, she thinks she's screwed up her chances with Dave and I was wondering if there was any advice you could give me about what she could do about Clark and Dave.... so I could tell her, cause I don't know how to help. TY so much and I'm sry if this is long

well.. since clark is obviously cheating.. she should just forget about him.. coz if he is going to leave his girlfriend for her.. then hell probably leave her for another girl.. so he aint worth it.. as for dave, if dave has seen her and clark together.. then she probably has ruined her chances.. but she should just come out and ask.. there is no better wa y of knowing!

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alright, well today on january 3rd,2005, i called this kid named pat that i really really really like and hes 18, but he has a girlfriend and i asked if he wanted to chill and he said yeah and that he'll call me sometime cause he has my number..but i was really jealous when he said he was chillen with his girlfriend when i called him, and i really like him and i dont know if hes really gonna call me back. i think its a crock of shit but hes wicked nice and mature ..what do you think? is he gonna call me back or no? and do you think i should be jealous of that girlfriend?

SIgned - heartbroken&confused

no.1 if he calls you back.. its not coz he likes you.. he may just wanna be friends.. and no.2 id stop liking him its a waste of time if he already has a girlfriend.. he is 18 which means there is a very huge chance he may end up marrying her and having kids with her.. so yeah.. get over him and find someone who is free.. not taken

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Pardon me for sounding emo. I really can't stand myself. I make bad choices, I am a terrible friend, and some of the things I say--that I hardly ever mean--really hurt people. Sometimes I can't even stand to look at myself in the mirror. My family doesn't seem to like me either. I don't have many friends. The only ones I have are jerks--but I don't feel like I have a right to get mad at them. It's what I deserve. I feel so guilty, but I can't think of anything that I have done wrong... But everything I do seems to be wrong, and I am always getting punished for things that I can't help. I am a terrible person.

you are not a terrible person.. because you hang around with terrible people.. and your family dont seem to be very nice.. its giving a bad impression on you.. try to find new friends... how old are you? can you live with another relative or something for a while? im telling you.. YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON! when you find some real friends.. even if you do consider them "freaks" youll find that you feel like a better person.. its all psycological.. beleive me.. i swear you are not a bad person :P

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well my boyfriend of 5 months has been acting weird..for the past 3 days he hasnt been calling me, or asking to hangout or nothing...and everytime i call him he says hell call me back...and does in like 5 hours...but yestreday we were supposed to hangout and i called hmi at 1 and he said he was gonna take a shower and hed call me back...and he never did =(....ive talked to him about it upsetting me when he doesnt call me back for like 5 hours..but this time he didnt call back at all...i usually go to his house every wednesday....should i go this wednesday if he calls and apologizes? how do i act on the phone if he calls tonight? do i yell at him, be quiet, or act sad?? HELP...i dont know what to do im really upset about it though because my boyfriend means the world to me i love him so much im even listenin to sad music like mockingbird by eminem.....thx.oh ya i dont think hes mad at me or anything....i saw him the day before all this started happening and everything was great..


btw...16/f

i have some bad news.. hes cheating on you.. but he still loves you.. so he is too ashamed to see you.. and talk to you.. he may have broken it off with her.. but he might not have.. but he is definately cheating.. sorry babe :(

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i made out with my bf the other day and he has been telling everyone about it ever since, but i only hear that from my friends. he has talked about it to my friends and stuff like that. i dont really like it, should i talk to him about it? i'm not sure what to do, i mean it is true... its not like a false rumour he is passing around or anything. i like him, he's sweet, but i feel like i cant make out with him anymore or else he's guna tell every one about it... also, for the boys out there, why do you think he talked about it so much? thanks

because he loves you... and he is excited that he knows now that you feel the same way.. also it may have been the first time he made out with someone.. also are you hot? if so hes braggin.. its ok.. it will die down.. the more you do it.. the less exciting it will be to him.. and he wont brag anymore.. it doesnt lower you rep at all... dont worry about it.. its ok to tell people.. the first time i made out with a girl (year 8) was a around a group of people.. we didnt care that people knew coz we loved each other.. dont anymore but you know... :P anyway hope i helped :D

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Okay i seriously fell back in love with my ex boyfriend Chris!!! I dont know what to do!! Hes seriously cute and awesome to hang out with!! I love being around him. He knows that still love him. Okay i work at mcdonalds and whenever i leave from there he alwaya comes in to c me. But the thing is.. IM NOT THERE!! :''( What should i do? Should i talk to him or what? Im pretty sure he likes me again too. please help me!!!

Christine

depends on the reason you broke up before.. alot of past pretence can really change a situation like this.. if you broke up on good terms... (mutual agreement) then its ok to see him again.. if you broke up on bad terms (ie he broke up with you coz you wouldnt give him head, or coz he loved someone else) then id say no.. just stay as friends coz chances are it will happen again!

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hey. i hope that you can help me. one of my best friends and i have been in an on-going fight for more than 2 weeks. ive been apologizing, and it doesnt seem to be changing anything. she always finds a reason to be mad at me. idk whats going on. shes been spreading rumors about me, too. and threatened to have people jump me! weve been best friends for almost 9 years. should i just forget that she ever existed, or should i keep begging for her forgiveness?
*Katie

to be completely blank and honest.. she aint worth your time.. youll find that if she ever does "forgive you" she will just go back to habits and spread rumours.. and be really mean to you.. and are you sure its your fault you are in an arguement.. maybe its not you who should ask for forgiveness. i think its her.. dont apologize anymore. dont talk to her anymore.. and no more begging and pleading.. all it says to her is that she has you tied around her little finger and can do whatever she wants.. cut the rope and go hang with other people... youll see she isnt worth your time.. and she will realise what she has lost.. but whether its too late for her is up to you.. BE IN CONTROL!!

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My boyfriend and i were together for almost 4 months.. and i fell in love with him.. we never really got to see each other.. and we both cheated on each other. But we were in love, so it didnt really matter. He broke up with me a few days ago.. i begged and pleaded and tried everything to get him back. I just want it all to be ok. I cried for 2 days.. and I wrote him a letter explaining all my feelings and how much fun I had with him. The letter made me feel a little better.. but I just need a way to get him off my mind.. its horrible..

please help me! i rate 5s

Try seeing other guys again... or maybe taking a vacation... and if you dont see him for a while you may find that you think about him alot less.. and even if you are in love "Cheating is not right!!" you should always be loyal to your partner.. but yeah.. id say the fact that you hardly ever saw each other means you made little effort to see each other.. so maybe you arent as in love as you think you are..

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