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Hey, my names Ariellll but I go by Rel. I don't look nor act my age & I know more than I should for my age, I lllloveee yo give advice, & think I do a pretty good job, wanna know if I really do, then ask me a question : ) !

First off -- I'm a very honest and straight forward person. I don't like drama and I'm pretty chill. When I'm older I would like to be a therapist. So, this site really allows me to practice ! :)

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oh my god, seriously, what has the world come to...? i read a question on here and a girl had sex at 10 YEARS OLD. i was watching the news a couple of hours ago and an 8 YEAR OLD HAD SEX. yes, an 8 year old. i didn't even think 8 year olds knew what sex meant! on the internet news a 12 year old had sex and killed her own child because she said she wasn't ready for a kid. really, what's wrong with the world? why are people having sex at such a young age? do any of you agree that this is absolutatly crazy?

I know it is insane ! On the news about a week ago children were having sex in the back of the classroom because it was a L- shapped room and they were only in 6th grade. Children don't know the consequences to having sex. So I totally agreeee

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what is the normal age for a girl to get her first kiss? and when did you guys have your first kiss?

because i'm 15/f and i've never been kissed before.

well I got my first kiss when I was 4 at preschool with one of my best guy friends. But later on I had a more real first kiss when I was in 4th grade. There's no specific age for a persons first kiss. So don't worry about it. And if you need any help figuring out how to makeout go to www.sextutor.com and click on kissing. Hope I helped !

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I'm grounded for about 2 weeks about I'm off grounding April 4th.
That's when I'm gonna hang out with my bf.
But instead of him talking to me all day and comforting me while I can't do anything since I'm grounded..
He goes out and hangs out with his friends and does other stuff and talks to me on the phone a little.
He has his fun while I'm grounded and lonely and can't hang out with anyone.
I've been talking to my friends on the computer pretty much all day and talked to him a little because he was 'busy'.
Wouldn't it be right for him to comfort me and talk to me all day because I'm grounded??!
I don't get it..

No he shouldn't do that. Do you want him to feel chained to you. He's a guy, he's got to have his fun. Honestly your just grounded, its not like you're extremely sick or leaving for somewhere and won't be back for awhile. Just let him have his fun.

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ok. i want to get like spray tan or something. my mom doesnt allow me to go into those tanning beds, ever since my one friends mom got cancer from it. so, i really dont want to go in there either. so i want like spray tan or something. but i dont want to look like orange. does anyone know any good brands of spray tan? or like stuff to make you tan?

thanks in advancee.

Mostly, all spray tans make you orange. All my friends who have gotten it done, or have done it by themselves have turned out orange. Because you have to do it reguarly and sometimes you have blotches. If you do it yourself more. Hope I helped !

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Okay my name is Dave 15/m,

I have this well friend persay her name is holly,well i dated her for about a week liek 3 months ago and i dotn know i guess she felt pressured and broke up with my but my friend paige(

First off you have to go with what your heart feels. Personally, I think you should go with Holly. So what she broke up with you once, she already admitted it was a mistake. I mean she obviously likes you because girls don't fall asleep on anyone. And you can see her everyday, or more often than Tiffany. Although, you see her on a web cam every night you don't know how she might be acting when you're not talking to her on a web cam, if that makes any sense :/ but in my opinion I think itd be really hard to have a relationship with someone over a web cam. You might be able to see her once in a while but is that really enough? Just go with what your gut is telling you. Hope I helped !

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well i really wanna have my first kiss with my bf but like im scared and confused....like i dont wanna regret it or anything...but i really wanna kiss him....what should i do??

any advise on how to actually kiss? i have no idea how to!! help!

go to sextutor.com and click on kissing and it gives you tips and step to step ways on kissing.

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Hey wats up, I was wondering do anyone know how to get on to myspace, without getting blocked at school, please give me advice.

All schools have myspaced blocked, mostly. There's no code to get around it, because the schools block it on every single computer, even teachers, and each school as a different code. And if its not blocked and you go on at school, im sure you'll get into alot of trouble! Hope I helped!

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13/f
ive been going out with my boyfriend for a little over 2 months and i want to say i love you but do you think its too early? like i dont want him too freak out if he doesnt feel that way back. what should i do?

thanks. :)

personally, i would let him tell you first. just because i dont know.. thats how its always supposed to be, i think. But don't worry you're only 13, theres going to be alot more guys in your life thats you're gonna go out with or are going to say "i love you" so dont stress over it. at this young of an age, it really isnt true love. Hope you two have a long relationship ! Good luck & hope i helped!

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how do i tell my mom about my period??

just tell her, she's either had or haves her period. So it shouldn't be awkward.

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Okay, a few questions here about tanning. If you go to a tanning PLACE.. then.. okay.. lol here:
[1] What do you wear?
[2] Do you go in a room alone?
[3] Do you lay down in a closed thing or what?
[4] Will other people see you?
[5] About how much does it cost?
[6] Are there any age limits?

[1] you wear nothing or wear a bathing suit. Personally, its better yo wear nothing because then you don't have tanning lines.
[2] yes you do go in the room, a friend or family member can go in the room and put the tanning lotion on you, in hard to reach areas, but then they have to leave the room.
[3] yes you do lay down, on your back.
[4] no, no one see's you, you get your own room each time.
[5] each place is different, there are all different plans. You can pay for a monthy plan, an amount of minutes plan, or pay for a tan each time. usually places have special prices for new cutomers.
[6] in illinois the minimum age is 14, but you need a parent/gardian signature.

*remember when you go wear eye googles, and the first time don't go in for too long because your body has to get used to it. *

hope I helped !

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these boys in my grade are really jerky and really hurt my feelings. It makes me very upset! I don't know what to do anytime they get the chance to insult me they DO. I ask them nicley to stop and theyu say no. I've told adult sand they talked to them but then it gets bad again. So NOTHING at this point is working. ANy advice? thanks=]

Well, if this were me I would joke with them back. Joke about their penis size (depending on your age), just act like it doesn't bother you, and warn them you have means things to say about them too. Or if they get really mean kick them in the balls, and be like opps looks like I can joke about you having no balls now, or like wow I didn't feel anything, you must be small. I know this sounds funny but that will deffinatly shut then up. Hope I helped.

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i started my period yesterday
and i wore a pad
but i wasnt happy with that
since a few of my underwears are totally stained
so i got a tampon
and i slept in it
and 1st thing this morning i took it out
and got a pad
and then about 2:30 ish
i got a tampon and put it in
and its sooo much more comfortable than that other tampon [the one im wearing now is a sports one]
and i was wondering what do i do when i have to pee
do i take it out
or pee while im wearing it !?!?!

We'll it's actually not good to sleep in tampons. They say you can keep tampons in for up to 8 hours, but personally I would change it every 4-6 hours. Because you can get a UTI (urinary tract infection) from not changing your pad or tampon often, and belive me because I experience it, they are extremely unpleasent. Also, you can go pee with a tampon in, sometimes they don't work as good afterwards, but for the most part its good. I've heard that once your lower body touches the water you don't bleed, but stil wear a tampon when your going into the water. And as for the sport being more comfortable then the regular, its all preferance. Hope I helped and told you everything you need to know, I kinda rambaled on hah :)

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ok well i really like this guy named tacquin and i just found out he has a girlfriend and he has had one for three weeks now and last weekend i had sex with him and i just realized that he had a girlfriend and i dont know what to think is it a bad think please help me:'(

If you didnt know, then its not a bad thing. It's bad that he did that to you, and his girlfriend. So don't worry about it, it wasn't your fault, you liked him so you were vulnerable.

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alright well see im 13/f and my ex boyfriend has a g.f right now and it really hurts me , i miss him so much. When we were going out we had the most amazing times ever, and before we were going out i liked him for a year and than we finally went out, and now we broke up and the day after we did he had a g.f, well the girl he is with now is like my worst enemy i dislike her. && from what i hear she likes another boy and a million people brought it up to me, so i told him and when he called me to talk about it he was flirting with me and said he misses the good times we had and that he doesnt know if he likes her because shes prude and stuff. but now hes mad at me because he thinks i lied about her liking another boy. im so confused and i dont know what to do, i love this boy so much he was my first true love and idk what to do any way you can help ? thanks

well, there's really no way for him to know that your not lying about hia girlfriend liking another boy. He has to wait and find out himself, don't push him into knowing the truth when he doesn't want to think that. And as for him calling you to talk about it, it shows he values your opinion and might stil care for you. But remember your only 13, there's going to be plenty of other boys out there, you still have a long time to figure out what real love is. So just find out if he likes you, flirt with him. Hope I helped & good luck.

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i have a bf and we have been goin out 4 2 weeks now but there is this guy in my pe class at scholl who i really like i dunno which 1 to choose please help????
if i stay with my bf is it still ok to flirt with the other guy alot???
what do i do please help!!!!

sure, flirt with him if you want to get dumped. because if it was the other way around you know you'd be pissed.

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You know that punk rocker girl on last night's american idol show? the one with the red/black hair? well my friend told me she sang an evanescence song... i missed it! please tell me which one it was....

She sand "call me when you're sober" personally I think she didn't do good, she didn't sound like Amy Lee at all. And yes I'm sure you could go to an american idol concert and watch it.

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well i had sex with this kid in janurary without a condom for like 2 mins and he pretty much just laid there with it in and he didnt cum and like last week i had sex with my boyfriend and the condom broke and he cumed inside me and if im pregnate whoses baby would it mostly likely be ? i had my period in janurary and it was normal and i had my period on the 25 of feb. for like three days but it was heavy and that was like right after i had sex with my boyfriend

Your boyfriend, since he came inside you.

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I got my first kiss the other day and wen he went to put his toungue in my mouth i kept it shut i wudnt let him enter i duno why! and anothe thing i also had no idea wat to do with my toungue i tried to go with the flow bbut i was so lost and i thought id do something wrong i just dont kno wat to do i was very confused and im afraid the enxt time it happens i wont know wat to do again and i like to be in controol alot thankyou in advance

Well if your asking how to kiss go to www.sextutor.com and click on kissing. Just remember to spell your name with your tounge and don't be scared. Just go with the flow. While your making out play with his hair, or hands. Like draw on it with your hands, or run your hands threw his hair, or tug on it. Just start out slow and get alittle more aggresive, but not too much. Hope I helped & good luck!

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Hi my name is Joyce i'm 14/f. There's this boy i like alot. I kind of got over him, but now i know he likes me i like him again. So I want to add him on my myspace, but i'm afraid he'll deny me (becuse he did about a year ago when i first requested him). So my question is should I take a chance and add him? Because I don't want him to think i'm desperate or anything. And since he's in all my classes that would be awkward, and I'm afraid i'll drive him away. But then again since he likes me now mabey he'll want to add me? I'm so confused please help!

It's just myspace, don't put too much thought into it. If he likes you he will add you, heck even if he doesn't he probably still will. It won't be awkward in school for you just adding him on myspace. And if you say he likes you and you like him then go for it. Find out if its true. Good luck !

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ive liked like 15 guys in the 14 years of my life but this time its different i like some one (he is kind of my friend) i give him things he asks for(food,candy and stuff like that) i talk to him like he is a regular person all my other crushes i was blushing and i had butterflies in my stomache but with him it like we can have a conversation without my throat getting dry and ive had 9 dreams about him one dream we almost kissed i feel so different all my friends tell me that im in love with him and they can tell that he likes me and they said i need to tell hm that i like him im so scared he would reject me i cant even begin to explain my feelings for him

Well if you don't want to tell him you like him upfront, then maybe you should find out if he likes you first. If he does then I would tell him. So get your friends or yourself to ask him or his friends who he likes. Many people have dreams about their crushes, its perfectly normal. Especially for girls at your age. And the reason why you can talk to him like you do maybe is because you're getting older and you can cope with the fact of liking someone and your not acting like a giddy school girl. No offense or anything but I'm sure its not "love" when you're 14. You have your whole life to wait for real love, so don't go and jump on "lust" when you have so much time ahead of you. Your probably lusting ( wanting love ) over him. Hope I helped & Good Luck!

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