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Okay i am 15 years old and am a female. And i was hanging out with my friends and i met my friends friend Donny. He turns 19 next week. He has a son who turns 2 in october. i've hung out with him starting back a few months ago. But i do like him. Which i know is really bad...but no one can help feelings. And my bestfriend is trying to figure out if he likes me back...everyone thinks him and i would be cute together but there is many faults.. age for one. 2. the son. 3. some of the friends we share i am not aloud to hangout with. 4. he has some issues at home. but i cant help but be attracted to him. I just want to hear peoples opinions on how you guys think this would work out. Should i go for it, or should i drop it?

Clearly this won't work out and you should drop it.

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I'm a commuter student at my university. I live at home with my mom and my grandparents. In the Fall, I plan to move out. I will be an upperclassmen in the Fall. So, I have two choices: dorm or apartment. Which should I pick? This is what I've come up with so far:

I am working on campus and I'm in a sorority, so sometimes, it gets late and I'm still at school. Having a dorm would make life easier since I wouldn't have to drive home every night. I wouldn't get home very late on weeknights. I'll have privacy and space, which is what I need. I know that I'll have a roomate, but it's completely different. I'm also involved in many clubs on campus. So, it's convenient for me to just walk over to anything I need. I also think that my family wouldn't feel as bad if I moved to a dorm because it seems like something necessary for me to be more comfortable while moving to an apartment they may see it more like I just don't want to live with them.

The issues with the dorm is this. My school is big. Going to a big school means there's all kinds of different people. Some people are bad and some people are good. The other day I was almost taken by a cult. I know it sounds weird, but it really happened. They started talking to me and wanted to put me in their car. Then I found out and confirmed that they were a cult and they were taking people. It was on the news, the internet and everything. The girl who was trying to seduce me into it lives in the dorms because she left her family since they didn't want to participate in the cult. I'm SO scared of that. What if the roommate is literally a psycho... like this chick? In an apartment, I would be able to pick my own roommates and a few of my sorority sisters would be willing to move with me.

The other thing is that I'm already 20. I don't know if living on campus is just fun for the first or second year students. I'm not trying to say it is or it isn't. I have no idea since I've never lived anywhere other than my house or with any other people less than 30 years older than me. So, either way I think it would be fun and different to live with friends. But, I'm just saying what I've heard. A lot of my friends who were living in the dorms moved out last year and it was also cheaper for them. Maybe I could get a place that's close to school. It's not like I have to move 20 or 30 minutes away.

What would you do in this situation? Either way, I'm really excited. I just want to make a decision that would be fun and responsible. And just a sidenote: As far as the partying goes, I guess me and my friends do party but we don't throw major parties with tons of people. We would mostly go out and come back so we're not extremely noisy. And in an apartment, i could decorate as I please. I'm not as limited as I would be in the dorms.

Any suggestions, preferably from people who have been in this situation before?

Thanks!

Apartment. There's a reason your friends are moving out of their dorms, the same way there's a reason I am too.

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I am a 20 year old girl and extremely athletic. I have had a noticeably large appetite since 1st or 2nd grade, years before I took athletics seriously. These days I am hungry for 6000-7000 calories a day when training. On an off day my appetite is about the same, if I go two days off I will start to eat less going down to about 4500 calories. I have talked to sports nutritionists about this and they think it is very unusual. One tells my he has never known another athlete who is hungry for that many calories but some male athletes do force themselves to eat that much. I have been checked by two doctors one in high school and one in college. Neither found any problem with me or an explanation.
The only explanation I have been given was just an unusually fast metabolism or maybe that I really eat more than I need even though I manage to burn it off.
I want to find out what is going on. I don't really feel like anything is wrong with me but my appetite does seem abnormal and is sometimes even embarrassing - as when I stay with friends and seem to be trying to eat them out of house and home. All attempts to eat less have failed. When I eat less than my appetite dictates I eventually wind up ravenously hungry. I would like to know how common this is and what I can do about it. Athletics is part of it, but even as a child people thought my appetite was unusual, even though I was just eating what felt natural to me.

Could be an issue with your thyroid.

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So i have a sister & my parents, whenever im on my period my mom and sister always piss me off, i tell them to dont make me mad when im on it but they say we wont! but they totaly do they dont understand me, and when im mad i feel like theres no way to escape my life and to free my self but when i tell my sister this she just laughs and makes fun of me :(

They're vampires and are only trying to contain themselves. Don't push your luck.

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While on my laptop at school, I was typing up an English essay that is due at the end of the semester. The essay has to be over 100 pages, as we have 6 months to do it. I had around 30 of those pages typed, and my laptop just shut down right then and there.

Since my father gave me the laptop a year ago, he says he had to have an account on there, because that was a default account. So when the computer shut down, the file went over to his account, and I've tried looking for it everywhere, and it says it's on his. I just can't access it. I need to get to the file before the end of the week, so I can keep on schedule to finish. Help?

PS: I have Windows Vista, no administrator's password, do not want to use Ophcrack or any rainbow tables, and I have looked on youtube for ways to do this, and I am still unsucessful.

Go into safe mode, change the administrator password, log in and get your file.

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(17/M). Okay. My girlfriend (love her) and I have been dating for two years and she is 16, a sophomore. Well since I've known her she's always been tiny. Like she's pretty short, bit about average. She wieghs like nothing and has the teeniest build (little hands, feet, waist) but she's still got like... Substance. Curves? In my opinion she's perfect, but it's always concerned me about how small she is. She does cheerleading and tennis so I don't worry about her getting hurt so much in sports but just out in the world, god she makes me nervous. For some reason more so recently, and I think it's cause I had to fight some asshole off of her about three months ago. I found him with her pinned up against a wall, both of her wrists in one of his hands and a hand over her mouth and thank god I got there then cause I have no idea what he would have tried to do. But just seeing her so helpless like that, she seems so much more fragile and even tinier now. Its hard for me to let her go anywhere without me and that's not healthy but I go crazy worrying about her all the time... What am I supposed to do??

If it makes you feel better, buy her some pepper spray.

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Please don't answer "don't do it" because that won't be helpful at all.

So I AM going to be doing ecstasy this coming Saturday. I know it makes you so happy but does it just increase your happiness? Or is it like dreamy and shit like on weed because I don't like the 'high' feeling weed gives you. Also, I know it makes you really hot and to drink lots of water so would that mean going into a hot tub would be a bad idea? You talk a lot on it right? But is it really like annoying? Because I hate feeling annoying. Also, how long does it last for?

Thanks guys.

The first time you do it you'll be very energetic and light hearted. Unlike weed, you'll be coherent and won't have that "dreamy" feeling.

Happiness isn't the best word for it, it's more like being at peace with everything. At the same time, it's a very synthetic feeling and does not feel particularly genuine.

The second time is much more mellow and enjoyable, HOWEVER, it's to the point that it's too enjoyable. Doing it once or twice isn't that bad, but I would never, ever do it again after that. The come down is one where you wish you had the feeling again, and it is DEFINITELY a drug you can develop a habit for.

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...have my children?

Of course.

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A lot of things have been building up to my being really angry at this one friend, only I don't feel that I can do anything about it: At school there are about 5 of us friends and we're all really close, so if I decide to de-friend this one person I'm afraid its going to create a rift between the five of us. I really don't want to come across childish either but I just feel so infuriated by her.
She's 18, and I am also, and over the past 5 months things just keep happening to make me angry with her, like when we were painting at her house she put paint on my trousers and when I sat down I accidently sat on her cardigan and got paint on it. I apologised and said I would help her pay towards a new one, as it was just a polite thing to say and I was sure the paint would come out. The next day she texts me asking for £20 to buy a new one, that putting it in the wash has ruined it and that I owe her a new one. I was shocked, if I had put paint on my friends bum and she had then sat on my cardigan I would blame myself, and know that it was an accident anyway, I would not demand the money for it. I suggested she let me try and get the paint out but she said her mum had already tried and in doing so had made holes in the cardi, so I had to give her money.
Another thing is that I went on holiday with her (before all this happened) and made a ton of video's to make sure we had memories when we got home. Its been 6 months and I have been asking, but I have still seen hide nor hair of these videos. Memories are very important to me, and being deprived of them because of her laziness just infuriates me.
I really do not know what to do, I am fast becoming exhausted and find myself wanting to moan about her to everyone and I really hate it.
She is very capricious, selfish, and childish, just general personality wise.

Any advice about how to handle the situation would really be appreciated.

I think you're overreacting.

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Im 17 years old, about to graduate high school soon, im a dude. And i've been living in SoCal for my whole life, particularly the really safe, rich, spoiled neighborhood, and i can say that I'm sick of it. Not only because of the people, so i'm not specializing or anything, i just think that some places are better.
I went to Toronto in the summer for vacation and i loved it. The difference in the people werent big. The men were pretty unfriendly and reserved from my experience. However, they were very polite and civilized. The girls in Toronto were OK, very pretty, very friendly, at least from my point of view. so in general, in my own personal experience (not generalising) i have had better experiences with foreign people rather than people in LA, where all i see is trash whores falliing out of cars, spitting in public, dressed in ripped clothing, drunk off their asses, and drooling into trash cans. When i was in Toronto, i hardly saw any of that, all i saw were people living and behaving decently.
so i have been thinking about moving to Toronto pretty soon, NOT only because of the people, so its not like im anti social or anything, but actual research and surveys on the internet says that canadian cities have some of the best quality of life, whereas i see no american cities on the list. If you dont believe me, go to wikipedia, and look up "list of cities by quality of living"
so my advice im looking for is, should i move? all my friends tell me i should, and my buddies are moving to Southern Ontario halfway through college. Thanks!

Yes, please leave America.

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Can I marry you...?

Absolutely.

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My boyfriend is SOOO overprotective. Some background stuff: he's seventeen and he used to live in chicago where he did a lot of bad stuff; alcohol, pot, gangs/fights. But when he moved here we started dating and have been for almost a year (11 months). When we first started hanging out (before we were official) he knew I didn't like smokers so he stopped that. He never liked being in a gang in the first place so he's not into those anymore. And drinking, well, we both party so its not a big deal. The problem in, he's gotten in about four bad fights sinces I've known him. He just get's SO jealous. One of the times he was legitimately protecting me, but the other three have been caused by random stupid guys which yes were pigs but never actually did any harm. Ya know, they'd talk shit about him and hit on me and try to piss him off that way... once they figured out that its a soft spot for him they tend to carry on with that. It's just stupid. I know he thinks he's "protecting me" but it really bothers me. I think he's about to get into another fight cause some guy has been telling him he's gonna... do things with me. Haha I don't wanna get into details cause it gets a little graphic but the point is my boyfriend and I BOTH know that this kid will never do any of this to me, he just knows that's what gets to him. My bf see's it as "defending my honor" but I see it as STUPID but he says I don't get it... Yeah he was right once out of the four times but I'm scared for him. He can't keep doing this. I love him so much... I just don't wanna see him get hurt over something so stupid but he just doesn't see it like I do... Please help! What can I say to him to get him to understand?? (I'm a sophomore, he's a junior; high school)

I don't see the problem.

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I am a 19 year old female from the East Coast. I am from a middle-class family and I attend one of the most prestigous business schools on the coast. I have multiple part time jobs, but have no financial strains.
I have been dreaming about having a child for a year and a half now. Frankly, it's more than dreamining, its yearning. I so badly want to be the mother to my own child. From June 2009-March2010, I was with the same man who shared the same desire for a child. We've since seperated and I've been with another man since October 2010. He and I are very compatible and we are doing very well in our relationship.
My problem: I want a child very badly, but I know that at 19 years old, I should be focusing on my youth. My parents always told me that they would suport me if I were to ever get pregnant, but I fear that due to my young age, I would not be a suitable mother to my child.
My boyfriend always said that he would support myself and the child if I were to ever become pregnant. He is 24 years old. (FYI: There is no way I would ever sabotage our sex life to get pregnant; it would be an agreed decision.)
Please, share your advice and opinions.
Thank you.

While you're yearning for motherhood, I'm yearning that you'll snap out of it and use the brain that got you into business school.


This is clearly a bad idea. You have no financial strains because you're 19 and are supported by your parents/loans/whatever. So that pretty much discounts any semblance of an argument of you being financially suitable for the raising of a child.


You've been with this guy for what? A whopping four months, tops. When he says he'll support you (assuming that's even true; how many girls have met a guy that says he won't support them if they get pregnant?) he's saying that if he does end up knocking you up, he'll stick around. In no way is he saying "hey, babe! Let's throw our youth away and resent each other the rest of our lives and have a kid!"


That is my advice and opinion. Don't have a kid because you're in absolutely no condition to raise one.

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Hey does any one know any good music sites that i can just let music play from while i do home work on the comp or what ever?

http://www.last.fm/listen

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Do you get stretch marks after having sex?

Only if you're dating the Hulk.

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How bad would it hurt for me to get a tatoo of a butterfly on my arm or hand?
On a scale from 1-10, how bad would it hurt?

About as bad as it will when ten years from you ask yourself, "why the fuck did I get a butterfly on my arm?"

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My boyfriend and i make out a lot, and when hes on top of me i feel his boner. were really close but i dont want to ask him about it, i think hes uncomfortable about talking about it but how do i know if he likes it or not?

Likes what? Having a boner? It's probably uncomfortable for him if he's wearing pants. Are you asking if he likes making out with you? His boner says yes.

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I'm trying to settle an argument with a friend.

He claimed a friend of his got a boob job in junior high. I called him an idiot for believing that.

Anyway, who's right? What plastic surgeon would agree to perform a boob job on a 13-year-old, even if she had parental consent, knowing that her body is still growing?

Mexico.

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I have no idea what cup size I am. im too big for a c or a d, but sometimes dd's are huge on me. other times they mash em down & I get double boob. I need good support because after pregnancy they dropped a bit. I know im a 36, but thats it. how can I get measured without my other bras that dont fit throwin it off? & can I get measured for free? thanls

Try a 34DD.

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Should I get in I fight over a girl (love) cause I really like her she likes me and him she will date who ever wins the fight but I dont know how 2 fight I know the blocks how 2 punch etc I just can't hit hard enough

So should i fight?


And how 2 increase punching power I know how to block this fight may be tomorrow so????

She'll date whoever wins? She's a bitch and isn't worth your time; don't do it.

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