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(17/M). Okay. My girlfriend (love her) and I have been dating for two years and she is 16, a sophomore. Well since I've known her she's always been tiny. Like she's pretty short, bit about average. She wieghs like nothing and has the teeniest build (little hands, feet, waist) but she's still got like... Substance. Curves? In my opinion she's perfect, but it's always concerned me about how small she is. She does cheerleading and tennis so I don't worry about her getting hurt so much in sports but just out in the world, god she makes me nervous. For some reason more so recently, and I think it's cause I had to fight some asshole off of her about three months ago. I found him with her pinned up against a wall, both of her wrists in one of his hands and a hand over her mouth and thank god I got there then cause I have no idea what he would have tried to do. But just seeing her so helpless like that, she seems so much more fragile and even tinier now. Its hard for me to let her go anywhere without me and that's not healthy but I go crazy worrying about her all the time... What am I supposed to do??
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Hey there,
A lot of girls are actually tiny, as you describe. I am only 5'4, slim, about average. The thing about us girls though, is this: we may not be strong, but we are tough. Your girlfriend sounds like she is a tough person, for she is involved in those active, action sports. I am sure if you didn't show up that day (when the guy was on her), she would of fought back somehow, in any way that she could. I see what you mean about being worried about her nevertheless.
What you should do, is let her know that you are concerned; mostly for her safety when she is alone. If she says she can take care of herself, just say "I'd appreciate it if you kept your cell on you just incase you need to call me" or suggest that she takes a friend with her so she has someone to watch her that isn't you all the time. Finding ways to keep her safe that involves other people/things will make you seem less overprotective (girls don't like when you are this). Doing so will help her realize you are just trying to be there for her relationship-wise and safety-wise.
You are so right about the 'its not healthy to worry and be watching her' all the time. As long as you communicate that you are worried and you like it when she lets you know if something is up; your girlfriend should understand how you are feeling and know that you are only concerned because you love her. I think it is soo sweet that you want to protect your girlfriend.. most girls would die for a guy who cares like you do :) Once you open up to her, she will be aware of your feelings and help you to be less concerned <3
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hi,
i think it is really nice for a teenage boy to actually care about their girlfriend. It is a hard thing to deal with. Seeing her pinned against the wall must of set this off. I think you are worrying a little too much. Talk to her and ask her what she thinks you should do, tell her you worry quite a lot since what happened. Tell her you only worry because you care and maybe she will compromise to make you feel better
maybe calling or texting you when she is out to let you know she is ok.
Don't get too obsessed cos thats not healthy
hope this helps
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