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I'm 15 F

I started going out with a guy from school on Friday. I like him, a lot.
I'm really nervous around him.
I wanna hold his hand and kiss him
but I get so shaky, and I'm so afraid of messing up.
I don't wanna be moving too quickly
and lose him but yeah lol

Thanks in advance.

There's nothing to mess up on, make a move. You're going out with him so it's obvious that he likes you. Holding his hand isn't moving to fast. But before you kiss him try kissing him on the cheek first, see how he reacts.

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Would you consider this flirting?

I was sitting at the computer today in school playing a game, and a guy i know said he wanted to try the game to help me out, so he put his hand on the mouse while my hand was already on it. And guided my hand around while leaning over me. After that he kind of touched my arm and started talking to me.

Was he flirting with me? He's kind of a player usually, but he was being really nice to me.

Yes, he's flirting with you. Be careful with him though. Like you said, he's a player. Guy's get that reputation for a reason, and girls usually fall for them easily.

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Hey. Can anyone tell me what Panic! At The Disco song this is?
It goes like: "I'm the narrator and this is just the prolouge" and it also has a part that goes "just tap tap tap your toes to the beat"

I do rate for ANYONE that can tell me what it is..

Artist: Panic! At The Disco
Album: A Fever You Can't Sweat Out (2005)
Song: The Only Difference Between Martyrdom And Suicide Is Press Coverage
Country: USA
Hits: 204374


The Only Difference Between Martyrdom And Suicide Is Press Coverage

Sit tight, I'm gonna need you to keep tight, come on just snap snap snap your fingers for me.
Good good, now we're making some progress come on just tap tap tap your toes to the beat.
And I believe, this may call for a proper introduction.
And well, don't you see? I'm the narrator, and this is just the prologue.

Swear to shake it up if you swear to listen.
Oh we're still so young, desperate for attention
I aim to be your right
Trophy boys, trophy wives.

Swear to shake it up and you swear to listen
Oh we're still so young, desperate for attention
I aim to be your eyes
Trophy boys, Trophy wives

Applause! Applause! No, wait wait...

Dear studio audience,
I have an announcement to make.
It seems the artists these days are not who you think.
So we'll pick back up on that on another page.

And I believe, this may call for a proper introduction.
And well, dont you see? I'm the narrator and this is just the prologue.

Swear to shake it up if you swear to listen.
Oh we're still so young, desperate for attention
I aim to be your eyes
Trophy boys, trophy wives.

Swear to shake it up and you swear to listen
Oh we're still so young, desperate for attention
I aim to be your eyes
Trophy boys, trophy wives.


Swear to shake it up, you swear to listen.
Swear to shake it up, you swear to listen.
Swear to shake it up, you swear to listen.
Swear to shake it up, swear to shake it up.

Swear to shake it up if you swear to listen.
Oh we're still so young, desperate for attention
I aim to be your eyes
Trophy boys, trophy wives.

Swear to shake it up and you swear to listen.
Oh we're still so young, desperate for attention
I aim to be... your eyes.

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seems like every guy i fall for ends up breaking my heart. i was in a 3 year relationship that ended not too long ago. and had a couple of bfs since then, but no matter what i keep getting my heart broken. im ready to give up. seems like there isnt a single guy out there who can "handle" me.

what am i supposed to do?
take a break from relationships or keep pursuing them and deal with the heartbreak?

One day you will find the right guy, but you can't just give up on finding that guy or give up on relationships. Don't put your guard up, even if you do want to protect yourself from getting hurt. The truth is you're going to get hurt, and you most likely will get hurt again before you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. You're young, you have your whole life to find the right guy. I'm not saying you want to wait forever to find him, but relationships go wrong and sometimes the person you think is perfect for you actually isn't. You have to keep taking chances and one day it will be worth it.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?

(Even though sometimes you can feel like it should really go "What doesn't kill you eventually will")

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should i break up with my bf? he is always looking at other girls and commenting on how hot they are. what would you do if you were me??

Well first off, guys can be so oblivious. He probably doesn't know how you feel about this.

So if I were you I would talk to him first. Say that you don't like or that it makes you uncomfortable how he's always looking at other girls and commenting on how they look. I would be upset if my boyfriend did that too. Tell him how you feel, and then if he still doesn't stop then you should break up with him.

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Hum.His Ex-girlfriend?

I don't know what to think. My boyfriend broke up with his Ex-girlfriend a few weeks ago..but they are still friends and they are going to Germany for 3 weeks together in about a few days[They planned the trip ahead of time]. They went out for a year and a half. The other night he dropped me off and went over to her house to hangout with her at like 11pm??And they are basically best friends i guess.I don't know what to think. DO you think he still has feelings for her. And he still wears the rings that they had together.[They symbolized promise to get married one day]??
Help please.

P.S he ended their 1year and a half relationship because he wanted to go out with me so I would think that he'd be over her by now.

It sounds like he still has really strong feelings for her, a few weeks is not enough time to get over someone. What do you think he's doing with his ex-girlfriend at 11pm at night? Did you ever think to ask? I would have. If he still wears a promise ring from their relationship then that is NOT good. I don't want to sound harsh but it sounds like you're a rebound, even if your boyfriend says he broke up with her to go out with you. Do you really trust him to go to Germany with him ex of a year and a half for three weeks? You need to talk to your boyfriend and voice your concerns. And ask him why he still wears the ring? Don't let him change the subject.

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it goes "when the sun comes out for you"
i can't find it TT.TT

Are you looking for lyrics? You're a little vague. If you are, then look through these:

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=when+the+sun+comes+out+for+you+lyrics

It may help.

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i finally saw my bf after a few months of him being in job corp. i had a great time. but when i got back i was told that he had planned on staying in town where i live and party with a girl he once cheated on me with. he told me about this and said he would only if i were there. but we forgot about it and left town together for the weekend he got out for. i know the girl is a player adn wants to be with him and me and her don't get along. at all, in fact we hate eachother. i told him that i dont' want him to talk to her or anything. which i think is right, but maybe not. i know that if i had cheated on him and talked to hte guy still he would freak adn i tell him that but he says i don't trust him enough. how should i tell him how i feel.

You can't just tell him he can't talk to her. That sounds controlling. You need to explain to your boyfriend how you feel, and that you would feel better if he would not talk to her because of the history you have. Tell him it has nothing to do with not trusting him, tell him that because of how you feel about her that you don't feel comfortable with him hanging out with her.

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my bf has a problem with drugs, he does them a lot. even though he is on probation and everything. i don't mean only pot but meth and shit. i love him and dont want to walk out on him when he needs me the most. i know i can help him stop, but im worried he wont. i just dont know how much longer i can live with it. when he was on drugs before he cheated on me alot adn did illegle shit all the time. im worried for our future and relationship. ps we have a baby on the way

Tell him if he really loved you and wants to be a good father to his future kid that he needs to stop, but he needs a motivation to stop. Everyone knows it's not easy to just stop doing drugs. Explain to him that you'll be there for him if he trys to stop, and that you can help him along the way. But tell him that if he doesn't then he won't have a future with you or his kid.

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is mac & jac a famous brand?

Yes, somewhat.

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My boyfriend of 7 months is really close to his mom. Yesterday he ended up telling her what we've done physically. [up to finger/handjob]. His mom was cool with it...but I am not. I'm absolutely shocked that he would tell her this. I'm glad they have a good relationship but telling her personal things like that is just too much. I'm gonna feel like a slut the next time I see her. He argues that they are close (his mom told him it was wrong today).. in my family, we're don't ask, don't tell. My parents just tell me to wait & be careful but don't ask for details because they know it's between 2 people only. I tried putting it behind me but it came up before & I'm pissed at him again. Any help? Am I wrong for being angry?

You're not wrong to be angry. You're sex life/relationship is yours, not your boyfriends' moms. Explain to your boyfriend that you understand that he has a close relationship with his mom, but you don't feel comfortable with him telling his mom about your relationship or sex life. He should respect that.

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Today, the classroom slut found out that i like this guy and now she is all over him. What do u think i should do?

She's just looking for a reaction from you. So show her that you don't give a damn about what she does and that it doesn't effect you, and sooner or later she'll get bored and back off. You should tell the guy that you like him. Guys can be pretty oblivious, so just be straightforward. It usually works better that way. So ignore the girl and start talking to the guy more. And Don't let her bother you.

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im 13/f and ive been waiting since i was 9 years old to get braces. my parents say there too expensive but the cheapest weve found so far was $4,220 and it doesnt get any cheaper then that. i am sooooooo self conscious about my teeth, they're crooked and NEED braces but our insurance doesnt cover it. my mom said we have to wait 2 more years, but i CANT. i just cant. i need them and i can't wait, and the older i get the more fcked my teeth are gonna get which needs more care which equals more $$. what should me and my family do?

There's nothing you can really do. Ask your parents to switch your insurance to one that covers braces. It wont cover all of the cost, but it will cover some of it. State your case to them, explain the longer that you wait to get braces the more expensive it will be, and hope they are willing to either pay for it in full or switch insurance so they won't to.

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Sorry for the length please consider helping me.


So I started going out with this guy Tony from school. Tony is a stubborn and cautious guy, of anything, not just girls. He has this wall, like mine, just way stronger, he says it's to keep from hurting anyone, not getting hurt. Well we started going out, we fought about it on Friday but we finally started going out. I didn't see him/talk to him over the weekend at all so I sent him a message on Facebook and I said, " I miss you. =] " and his response was, " ok...so how did your weekend go. " I just responded back as quickly as possible and my message back to him was,

" Uhm thanks for not saying it back.
It sucks cause I thought about you all weekend.
So yeah
How was yours?
Are you still gonna hang out w/ me tomorrow? "

Well today he didn't hang out with me but when we were friends he did all the time in the morning, he also gave me hugs, but today he didn't, don't know why. He usually talks to me a lot at lunch since we have both lunches together, and I sit on his lap all the time, even when we were friends. Today I came over and sat by him and he got up and walked away. Some kids locked him out of school so I opened the door for him and he just walked past me. He didn't say hi to me even, just completely ignored me. He came over by the group of girls I was with, looked at Melanie ( his friend/ my friend ) and looked at Karen, and walked away. No eye contact between me and him. After lunch, as we're going to class, I was going to stop him and ask him what was going on, he just stormed off. Said not one word to me all day. Did I do something wrong... Is he mad at me? What's going on?


I care about him a lot. I don't care how much I go through to get his trust (he says I already have it) but I don't know what to do.
I'm really sorry for the length...please consider helping me if you can in anyway.

He probably doesn't know how to act around you now that you're together, but he has no right to act the way he did. The "he says it's to keep from hurting anyone, not getting hurt" is bullshit, no one puts up their guard to keep from hurting someone, they do it to keep from getting hurt. Maybe he was hurt by someone in the past? Hence the "wall".

To be in a relationship you have to be able to trust the person, and the only way to gain a person's trust is by earning it. So show him he can trust you by never doing anything to lose his trust. You need to talk to him and find out why he acted the way he did, because you can't fix anything until you know what's broken.

If you had his trust he wouldn't be guarded around you. I'm not saying he doesn't trust you somewhat, i'm just saying you probably don't have all of his trust...yet. So, once again, wait until he cools down and then talk to him. Another big part of relationships is communication, you have to be able to talk to each other and be honest. Tell your boyfriend everything you wrote down on this site, tell him exactly what you feel. That's another way of showing him he can trust you.

Honestly...it sounds like he's just afraid of being hurt and doesn't know how to act or if he should fully let down his guard around you and take a leap of faith. Maybe he just needs time to think.

Good Luck with your relationship.

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ok so ive liked this kid for a really long time now, and they used to like me, i found out about a week ago that they dont like me anymore but i still have really big feelings for them they know that though and we are still bestfriends, things between us have been getting closer and we talk and hangout alot more but something is definetly missing. now i got a boyfriend about 4 days ago and i like him and he makes me feel speacial but thiers something about him that bugs me and i dont know what it is, he likes me alot says the sweetest stuff to me and on top of it all lets me know im on the top of his list, but i dont know if hes what i want because what i want i will neevr get witch is my friend???? any ideas please help i need it

You probably don't know what bugs you about him because there's no particular thing that does bug you about him. You're most likely comparing your boyfriend to your friend. Maybe it bugs you because your friend has some of the qualities your boyfriend doesn't and that's what you liked about your friend.(Make sense?)It sounds like your boyfriend is a back up and that's why he bugs you, because he's not your friend, he's not the one you want. You shouldn't string your boyfriend along, or go out with anyone until you sort out your feelings.

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ok so i am in 8th grade and me and this guy are going out we talk but i feel like were just acting like best friends instead of actual boyfriend girlfriend what do i do to be more flirtatious, it's only a few days into the relationship but is it appropriote to kiss him on the cheek or tease him or something??

If it's only been a couple days into the relationship then try hoding hands or hugging, kissing him on the cheek would be fine too. Things will probably get better once you've been together a while.

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hey! so we have to write a graduation speechh ( graduating middle schoooll)

before reading my speech you should know..
- the theme is THE FUTURE IS STILL UNWRITTEN. MAKE YOUR MARK.
- my school is HBT / Thompson



As we graduate Thompson today, we reflect on the three years of growth and friendship we have experienced as a class. We arrived here in the fall of 2004 from our elementary schools. It didn’t take us long for us to become a family, a class, and not just any class, but the graduating class of 2007. And with the family we have made here, we will continue on our journey into the high school and make a new, bigger family.

Each one of us came from our own small family, our own parent’s arms, to begin our academic careers, in kindergarten. Looking back, elementary school taught me lessons I will keep with me forever, and I am very thankful for such a wonderful first step in my journey. But after those 6 years, we all came to the next step in our journeys, Middle School. What we faced in fifth grade is exactly what we are facing now. New school, new step, new beginning.

I am so thankful that I had the opportunity to experience middle school at such a warm, caring environment as HBT. The 3 years I have spent here have been nothing short of amazing. Through the good times and the bad, Thompson has given me not only knowledge, but the ability to move unto the next chapter in my life. As we progress to the high school, we will forever keep all that Thompson has taught us. We are still learning who we are, but our Thompson family will always be a part of us, that much we do know.


Today marks not an ending, but a beginning. Sure our days at Thompson are over, but our days at not only the high school, but the rest of the world are just getting started. The future is ours.





any suggestions? does it portray the theme?

thanks for reading it! love youuuu.

It's really good! Great theme and it does porteay the theme!

I have two suggestions - small ones.

You put:

"Each one of us came from our own small family, our own parent’s arms"

You should leave out the small, because you don't know how big or small everyones family is. So that doesn't apply to eveyone.

And you you should switch parent's with guardian's or just add it.

e.g.: our own parent's or guardian's arms.

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I'm doing a report on the social injustices of Anti-Abortion laws. Does anyone have any pro-choice opinions on why abortion should stay legal, and general opinions on the topic?

Here's a couple of websites that will most likely help:


http://tiger.towson.edu/users/bpahl1/pros%20and%20cons%20page.htm

http://www.balancedpolitics.org/abortion.htm

http://www.rosicrucian.com/zineen/magen115.htm

As for my opinion I think abortion should stay legal, but only until the second trimester. After that it shouldn't be legal. I don't believe it's killing a child until the fetus actually turns into a child. Plus what happens if the woman was raped, would she want to keep the child of the man that raped her? Or what if it was only a young girl who was pregnant and having a baby would be bad for her health. There are tons of situations where abortion should be legal.


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is herbal essence hair dye good or bad? im thinking of dying my hair with one of their products.

It's okay. If you're looking for permanent hairdye, Loreal is better. The color your hair was before doesn't come through again.

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What does it mean if a guy SAYS he likes you and flirts with you and stuff but constantly teases you and basically makes no effort to continue the relationship further?

14/f. =]

He likes you, guys tease the girls they like.(Immature, I know) You know the saying "Pull the hair of the one you love" He's using first grade tactics. He probably won't make a move until he's sure you like him back.

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