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heartbroken
seems like every guy i fall for ends up breaking my heart. i was in a 3 year relationship that ended not too long ago. and had a couple of bfs since then, but no matter what i keep getting my heart broken. im ready to give up. seems like there isnt a single guy out there who can "handle" me.
what am i supposed to do?
take a break from relationships or keep pursuing them and deal with the heartbreak?
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I think you should take a break. Don't get me wrong -- I don't think you should give up in any sense of the word. But I've learned a few things over time:
1] If you keep having failed relationships, there's a common denominator -- yourself. You should work on making sure you are whole WITHOUT a man, and being happy with yourself before you try to add someone else into the mix.
2] Good things happen to those who wait. There's someone out there for you, but if you look, you're not going to find him. Ever hear about the people that find love when they weren't even looking for it? That's the kind of love that lasts forever.
Take a break from guys and relax for awhile. Try to focus on other things -- school, family, church, whatever. You will find other guys, and there will be other heartbreaks, but if you just let it come to you naturally, it won't be so hard.
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One day you will find the right guy, but you can't just give up on finding that guy or give up on relationships. Don't put your guard up, even if you do want to protect yourself from getting hurt. The truth is you're going to get hurt, and you most likely will get hurt again before you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. You're young, you have your whole life to find the right guy. I'm not saying you want to wait forever to find him, but relationships go wrong and sometimes the person you think is perfect for you actually isn't. You have to keep taking chances and one day it will be worth it.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?
(Even though sometimes you can feel like it should really go "What doesn't kill you eventually will")
::Jasmine::
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i wouldnt take a break but i would keep pursuing them and get a heartbreak at the end either. what i would do is find a guy who really cares about me. dont just put youreself out there and end up getting hurt! find a good guy.. no matter how long it takes. ♥ hope that helps! ((ask again! =])) care ♥ 's hiiiiim. <3
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well i kinda know how you feel
i had two fairly long relationships in a row where that happened to me. granted, they weren't three years long, but i still know where you're coming from
the thing i've learned to do with all of this is just try to pay more attention to the relationship. don't make it an obsession, though. just pay attention to the other person: how they react to you, how they respond when you talk, if they even pay attention to you when you're together.
if you think that a guy isn't interested anymore, then talk to him. see if he really is uninterested anymore. (being a guy, i know this usually helps).
another thing is, and this can be hard, but if you don't want to be heartbroken, just don't get too deep into the relationship if you're not sure just how much the guy cares about it
hope this helps
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well personally, i would take a break and cool down for awhile. your 17! have fun with your life! just be yourself, go out with your friends, and just hangout with any guys you might be into. dont make it out to be anything serious though. as a girl you need to learn not to get too wrapped up in things because sadly, something always goes wrong in relationships. hope i helpeddd :]
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awwwwwwwwe! okay well i can definitely tell youre still having some trouble getting over the fact that you and that guy you were in the 3 yr relationship broke up.and thats hard,i totally get that. if you feel like youre just not ready for another relationship then wait. just dont sulk in the past. dont think about your ex or anything because youll start to miss it.
dont give up! everyone has a special person out there. they just may not have found them yet. thats all. dont get discouraged if it doesnt work with different guys.
just get back into the dating game when youre ready and you think the time is right. just dont wait too long.find the right go or even let him find you!
<3 kayy
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