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hey so im 13 and my boyfriends 16 turning 17 in a couple days. we've been dating a couple weeks but i want to get or do something really special (nothing sexual) but i have no idea what!!:( i need help fast...please help thx XOXO

you're 13 and your boyfriends turning 17?
thats not creepy at alll..

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what does it mean when people say "thats what she said"

they're talking about sex.
sexual joke. (;
hahahahahah.
liikee... today! a 'thatswhatshesaid' happenedd,
me and my bestfriend were trying to do a immatationn & i was like one time we did it really good ! and she was like THATS WHAT SHE SAIDD (:
get it? ahahah probably notttt

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Ive been with my boyfriend for a year now and we had a baby boy 2months ago... he really wants me to marry him and move in with him i really think im ready and i know i could handle it i jus dont know how to convince my mom that im mature enough

if you're over 18 then why are you waiting for your mom's approval? its not her life, its yours. live it. dont marry yet, go live with the guy. live your life, dont wait around and regret it.
you said it yourself, you're ready..
(:

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Well, my best friend is a guy. We have been best friends for 3 years. I went to his school, but then I moved the middle of last year. But we still talked everyday. But then like one day he just stopped texting or calling or IMing and what not. He will not respond to my texts or calls, and I have no idea why, because I didn't do anything. I know he has feelings for me, because he talks about me all the time to his friends and says he likes me and he asked me out like 5 months ago but i said no because i was dating someone else even though I loved my best friend. I love him, like not little kid love either, I see myself marrying him and everything. But ya know, you can't be in love with someone that doesn't talk to you. So I kinda have 2 questions.What would I say that might get him to at least respond and tell me he hates me or something? Or, how do I get over it, and him, so I don't like him anymore, because I honestly do not like anyone else but him, and I won't unless I get over it. Sorry if this is long but I really need help. Because I miss him and I really want to talk to him again :/

maybe try giving him time.
or, try telling him how you feel about him.
cause if he tried asking you out and you said no,
that can kinda bring him down.
tell him what you're telling people on this site, lol. andd if he doesnt reply in like 2 seconds, give him time. or calll him.
that'd be better.
yeah, call him.
good luck (: !

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what does it mean when a guy that you have been talking to, your not with him and he invites you along to meet his family to a bbq?

he's obviously interested right?

yaahhh! score. (:

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you knw what ill just type this as fast as i can i dont care about spelling errors bcuz i am sooo mad.
i am sick of my life
frst of all because of my sister
one sister is the problem child in the family and my parents dont know that she [lots of times] blackmails me
and ive had it
im usually the nice girl
and im DONE
my sister [olderrrr] she puts on a fake pesonality with other ppl but with me shes suck a bi*ch.. im so mad i dont even know what im typing
i forgot everything i wanted to say
my life sucks
im ONLY 14
BUT WQHY does this happen to me
i need a punching bag
where can i get one
i just cant wait for school because thats the only place i can hopefully find happinessi
im so pissed off my life sucks
this is not how a teenge lifeshud be like
whatsss w

girll, that is the life of a teenager with siblings.
your older sister is in highschool, basically highschoolers are fake, thats just something you'll have to get used to unless you wanna become friends with her. thats what i did and it helps.. alot. seriously, just compliment her or whatever you wanna do. orr if shes having a really bad day and shes being really bitchy, then give her space. maybe your the one pissing her off.
& you dont neeed a 'punching bag' - if anything, use a pillow.
just saying. (:

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17/f. My best friends know a guy (James) who is really cool, a nice guy, and a lot like me. They keep telling me that we will probably end up getting married or something (despite the fact that I have NEVER met him in my entire life... haha). Apparently the other day, James mentioned to one of my guy friends that he hadn't dated anyone in a while... and my friend flat out suggested me. Because of that, my friends arranged a get-together for like six of us on Friday- making dinner at someone's house. The sole purpose of this dinner is for James and I to meet and hit it off... seriously, that is the only reason this is taking place. My friends don't really beat around the bush much... James definitely knows that we are basically being set up (because we're both single and our mutual friends want to see us date each other). I'm definitely not opposed to a date or two in the future, but right now I just want to get to know James. I'm hoping that it will be a funny situation, but I'm worried that it will be really awkward. Like, "Hi, how are you? So, we're being set up." I really would like to become friends with James, and I want it to be fun... how do I break the ice? If you were in this situation, what would you do? Any help is appreciated!

if you feel awkward it'll be awkward.
be yourself. i mean this isnt your wedding or anything. its okay if you guys dont hit it off.
just saying. (:

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Im fifteen, female. Just got held back for various health reasons so Im in the ninth grade again.
Ive had three boyfriends; one in elementary school and two in middle. They all either deny it, ignore me, or dont say it counts. Whatever. But Ive never kissed a guy!
Lottts of people say Im just absolutely adorable and I have to agree :]
im sooperpetite, smiley, give great hugs. But I feel like a total wallflower. Probably am.
Anyways. Im not totally shallow but I can be stereotypical and guys have asked me out,just not great looking ones.
Well when I get my next boyfriend, Im afraid to kiss him. I want it to be both of our firsts just for that extra little spark I guess :]
But I also want a greaaat guy thats just as simple as I am.
Is there such a boy as that? At all? Do you think Im being too picky? Gosh. Opinions, please.

not every good guy is going to be exactly the way you want it.. cause that'd be too easy. and if you're fifteen, you might not find a great simple guy whos never kissed anyone.
dont waste your time trying to find him.
the longer you wait the worse it'll get,
you're fifteen.. just kiss a boy. (:

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I have this "friend" and she is totally annoying. She calls me, talks to me all the time, and is really obsessed with this fugly guy Tyler. Well I think she knows we (me and my bff) don't like her, but i also feel bad because NOBODY DOES!!! What can i do without hurting her feelings? %(

theres people like this at any school. they just attach to someone to look like they have a best friend. if i were you id talk to someone else who would want to be her friend and help them become friends. if you cant think of anything to "get rid of her" then id just talk to her. and say that things areent really working out being friends like we had wanted. i dont think that would hurt her feelings - she's probably already noticed that you arent really FRiENDS. maybe she just wants someone to fall back on. tell her the truth. id talk to her about what she does that scares people away. ♥ i hope everything turns out okay with your "friend" because its a hard situation. =]
♥ good luckk! =] -- ♥ CAREE

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i just got a new computer and i was wondering how i can get itunes on it?

www.ipod.com. (it comes up as like www.apple.com/ipod =])
DOWNLOAD
DOWNLOAD iTUNES 7.2 free.
simple as thatt! ♥ CAREE.

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how do u helps scabs heal faster. and can u make them less red somehow?

if you leave them alone & dont touch or pick at them they'll go away the fastest. theres not really a "cure" to making them.. [unred], so SORRY, thats just how a scab is. =] --caaare♥

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seems like every guy i fall for ends up breaking my heart. i was in a 3 year relationship that ended not too long ago. and had a couple of bfs since then, but no matter what i keep getting my heart broken. im ready to give up. seems like there isnt a single guy out there who can "handle" me.

what am i supposed to do?
take a break from relationships or keep pursuing them and deal with the heartbreak?

i wouldnt take a break but i would keep pursuing them and get a heartbreak at the end either. what i would do is find a guy who really cares about me. dont just put youreself out there and end up getting hurt! find a good guy.. no matter how long it takes. ♥ hope that helps! ((ask again! =])) care ♥ 's hiiiiim.

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i was wondering for a free throw in basketball..is it IF YOU MISS THE RIM OR IF YOU MISS THE WHOLE BACKBOARD ALL TOGETHER that its considered a violation or whatever..and if you do miss it WHAT IS THE VIOLATION?

kaay - for the first shot it like doesnt matter because they caan't rebound it [i bet you know that ;)] but for the second shot, if it doesnt hit the rim, the other team gets the ball under the basket you were shooting under. ♥ hope that helped! - care♥.

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Lately all I want to do is cry. But I can't cry, it's a sign of weakness, right? But I'm not sad, I'm just.....I don't know. Have I held in my tears to long? I never cry when needed, because I don't have a shoulder to cry on(friend). If I cry at school, they will ask me what's wrong, but after I'm done crying they are just going to treat me like crap again, and if I cry at home, well I can't because I have to be a good rolemodle for my autistic brother, I can't just break down and cry! So i have no where to go to cry. What should I do? I don't know if I'll break down at home or school, all I know is that I'm going to have to cry sooner or later.

aaaw!! i know how you feel -- but i think crying how you mean would help you feel better about the situation. maybe like when your home alone. if youu dont have a friend you can talk to this about it gets really hard. i hope things get better for youu! ♥ -- care.

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Is there a way you can rmove blood or juice stains from soft white material clothing?

bleach. it works amazing ;] ♥ care.

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hey.
go out with me?
ur hott.
-?

umm hahahahahaa. =] thanks? care♥

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ok.
15/f.

My question is.. does age really matter? like i like this guy.. we'll call him... M. well M is a bit younger then me.. like 6 months or something.. we're in the same grade and everything.. if we were to go out would that be wrong because of the age?

Like i'm gonna be 16 in February but he'll still be 15.. i guess all i'm trying to say is that.. since we're in the same grade.. would age matter?

thank you. any help is appreciated:]

age is just a numberr. besides - youre in the same grade. go out with him if you want.. age isnt a reason not to.. unless its lik 23498 yearss. BASiCALLY.. NOPE. ♥ ANSWERED BY CARE&KAYCEEE.[bestfriendsforever&ever.]

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if i live in illinois
and i text someone in texas
is it long distance??
i really need to know!!!!

i have sprint service and i know that texting long distnace is the same as texting someone sitting right next to youu. it probably depends on the service but i dont think so. ♥ CAREEE.

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I like to wear band tees but that looks rather plain. Is there any way to spice up an outfit while I'm wearing these tshirts? I really like supporting the bands but I dont want to look plain or boring.

wear cute accsesories. like a adorable purse or belt or necklace or earings or bracelet. i know what you mean cause if you just wear the brand names you dont really stand out. try to accsessorize. i get alot of stuff at gadzooks. they have really cute neckaces and belts. maybe look there or use stuff you have. just accsesorize. and wear super cute shoes, lik a t shirt jeans and really cuteshoes and accsesories would spice up your outfit alott. ♥ hope that helped - CAREE♥

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