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mom/son relationship
My boyfriend of 7 months is really close to his mom. Yesterday he ended up telling her what we've done physically. [up to finger/handjob]. His mom was cool with it...but I am not. I'm absolutely shocked that he would tell her this. I'm glad they have a good relationship but telling her personal things like that is just too much. I'm gonna feel like a slut the next time I see her. He argues that they are close (his mom told him it was wrong today).. in my family, we're don't ask, don't tell. My parents just tell me to wait & be careful but don't ask for details because they know it's between 2 people only. I tried putting it behind me but it came up before & I'm pissed at him again. Any help? Am I wrong for being angry?
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Actually, I think I'll be the first one to tell you that you ARE a little wrong.
Did you tell him beforehand that you never wanted him to talk about your relationship with his parents? If you didn't, then he probably thought it was okay and I see why -- he's got a great relationship with his mother, and it's built on TRUST.
I understand that you feel kind of embarrassed that he told his mom, but I don't think you should be upset with your boyfriend. Still, I think you should talk to him. Maturely. Ask him to just listen and not interrupt until you're finished talking, and then calmly (as in not yelling) tell him why you're upset. Make sure to tell him that you understand why he told his mother, but ask him to please refrain from telling her any more details about your sexual relationship in the future, unless he discusses it with you first.
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No you're not wrong for being angry. You have a lot of right to be angry. Like Tina said, it is your personal life and not hers. Tell him you don't want your buisness out everywhere.
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Tell him how you feel. You've got every right to be pissed at him simply because it's YOUR sex life, not HER's. I mean, it's great they're close, but he needs to take into vision how that makes you feel.
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no, you're not wrong for being upset. because i know how you feel. sometimes my boyfrined would tell my mom what we've done (his dad's gone, and his mom lives in a nursing home, so he has no one else to talk to really about anything) and he feels sort of a closeness to her, and i can tell her loves her like his own mother. at first it annoyed me, and he didn't undetstand. jsut tell him flat out, that it embarrasses you. he will then realize that he shouldn't say things if you don't want them said. and if he continues, just don't do anything anymore. tell him that you don't want the whole world to know, and you don't want to. but don't be too angry that he told her, because he did tell you he told her, so maybe he didn't realize it. just try talking to him about it, and tell him that it's embarrassing and you just want those things kept between the two of you. tell him that you respect him and his wishes, and he should do the same for you =) hope i helped hun! i know how you feel. but just do what i said above- that's what i did, and it worked. it turned out that he didn't even realize that it bothered me, until i told him that it embarrasses me and makes me feel awkward. like, i tell my mom what i've done and stuff, and she's ok with it... but it just bothered me when HE would tell her, lol. so good luck! ♥
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You're not wrong to be angry. You're sex life/relationship is yours, not your boyfriends' moms. Explain to your boyfriend that you understand that he has a close relationship with his mom, but you don't feel comfortable with him telling his mom about your relationship or sex life. He should respect that.
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