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living with it
my bf has a problem with drugs, he does them a lot. even though he is on probation and everything. i don't mean only pot but meth and shit. i love him and dont want to walk out on him when he needs me the most. i know i can help him stop, but im worried he wont. i just dont know how much longer i can live with it. when he was on drugs before he cheated on me alot adn did illegle shit all the time. im worried for our future and relationship. ps we have a baby on the way
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goddamnit mary! i kno you love him but he aint good for you! u need to give me a call sam has my number...i love you!!!! _KP
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You ought to be worried for yourself and the kid and your safety before his. He's not going to change and he's not going to help unless his family and friends stage an intervention put him in treatment and get him help.
Even after that if he goes back and hangs around with the same people he can be drawn back to it. You have to take care of yourself and that of your unborn child and leave the situation and don't look back. This is not a safe person or place for you to be.
You have to leave and stop being his partner on a romantic level and tell him you will only deal with him again if he's clean and sober. If you cannot live with it any longer than trust your gut and don't for your own safety.
You really don't owe him anything here relationship or friendship wise as this situation is destroying your life unless he is sober and has kicked the addiction.
As hard as it is to completely walk away from him and the situation you need to and to raise that baby in a healthy enviornment where he/she isn't exposed to this lifestyle. That's paramount. It's hard to walk away but it's the right thing and only thing to do.
Maybe if you did that he would start caring about his unborn child, want to be in your lives and sober up. Until he reaches that point, if he reaches that point leave and don't look back until he's cleaned himself up and kicked the addiction.
In all liklihood you're going to need to hire a lawyer here and temporarily or permanently terminate his rights to see the child unless he smartens up. This might give him motive to seek treatment join N/A and get help to turn his life around.
You need to also go to your parents and tell them everything you told us and about the baby and seek their guidance and follow it as this is a dicey situation and they have to keep him from bothering you once you leave and support you through your pregnancy.
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Tell him if he really loved you and wants to be a good father to his future kid that he needs to stop, but he needs a motivation to stop. Everyone knows it's not easy to just stop doing drugs. Explain to him that you'll be there for him if he trys to stop, and that you can help him along the way. But tell him that if he doesn't then he won't have a future with you or his kid.
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You should "risk" your relationship by telling him if he doesn't stop then you will break up and he will won't see his baby. This will probably help him if he wants to stay together and see/ live with his baby.
Good luck!
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