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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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ok i am gay and well my manager is bi and he said that he liked me.. i really dont like him in a sexaul way but he also calls me and texts me "i miss you" and " i want you" he always makes me laugh, the biggest problem is that i can be a flirt.. besides stop being a flirt what should i do?

My brother has this problem at work, he is a habitual flirter, and with that, comes more problems with sexual harassment. I would suggest you tell your manager that you really like your job and don't want to do anything that will jeopardize your position at work, or set a bad example for others. Offer that you are very flattered by his affection, but at this time, it would not be a good idea to get involved in any way at this time. I hope I've helped, good luck!!

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i think i might be Schizophrenic. Sometimes when i see something like a kitten, i cant help but to think "kill it!" or stupid stuff. it goes a lot worser then that like, stuff i dont actually feel, but i cant help to think about it. then i try and get rid of the thought but i cant. eventually it will go but it keeps popping into my mind. like my mind keeps thinking it, but i dont want to. like really sick thoughts. also, since a a few years ago, i develop stupid habits like shaking my head, heavy breathes, twitching. if i dont do these things sometimes, its like the feeling you get when you hold your breath for about 5 seconds, you just have to breath, or in my case, twitch etc. Sometimes i can go without doing it, when i dont think about it, but when i do, i have to do it.
Also, sometimes i hear stuff, like high frequency beeps, while im in bed. i normally cant get to bed and lie there for an hour before i do, and during that time is when i hear it.

im just wonderin, is it Schizophrenia? or anything else?

I seriously doubt that you are a schizo. First of all, I understand completely how you feel. I will be sitting there talking to someone I really don't know that well, and think I want to kick her/him. Is this normal, probably not, but I still think it. My husband says it's an aggression problem. So, maybe it's the same for you. If you feel the urge to hurt someone and think you are going to act upon that instinct, then by all means get help. About the beeping, could it be something in your environment? Maybe there is something beeping and your auditory skills are extremely heightened when all else is quiet. Good Luck with your problem and hopefully all will work itself out.

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ok so i call myself a freak but everyone eles says that im a tomboy anyway i just want to compare myself to what other tomboys are wearing so if anyone could give me a site with tomboy clothes or pictures of tomboys please dont say look it up on google because i have done that about 6 billion times and i didnt find anything thanks

First off, you are not a freak. If anything, you are unique, but then so is everybody. Just remember one thing, you are living your life for you. I am a tomboy too. Girls in my opinion can be to snide, prissy, and for lack of a better word bitchy. Guys, they just go with the flow, want to have fun, and be themselves. I think that's why girls become tomboys, they don't want to deal with the girls and their behavior. One thing though, not all tomboys don't wear make up. I wear make up when I absolutely have to. So, be proud to be anything you are and want to be, it's your decision to make. If people don't like then tough. They'll get over it. Good Luck!!

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I don't think I get to see my boyfriend as much as I would like to. I know he has things to do and that he's busy and I try my best to understand that, but it still hurts. I care about him a lot.
The days I do see him, When it comes time for him to leave, I get sad, Like REALLY REALLY sad. Sometimes I cry, or I get that pain in my chest like when you get a broken heart, and sometimes I get mad at him and don't hug or kiss him good bye because i'm angry... and when he's gone, I regret it soooo much, because we left eachother on bad terms.

What the hell is wrong with me?!?!?!
And how can I stop doing this????
It's not even like I never see him, I get too see him at least once a week.

It's actually starting to hurt our relationship and I really don't want to lose him.

I remember having those feelings when I was younger, it was like the end of the world to have to be w/o my boyfriend. It's called seperation anxiety. What I did when I couldn't be with him, I would try and hang out with my friends. At least this way, I still had someone to talk to and help me cope with that horrible feeling. It does get better, the older you get. That is until you are in a relationship for 4 years and have a big blow out. Then, the feelings come back. It's hard to get over seperation anxiety, but with willpower and friends, you can do it. Good Luck!!

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ok so im torn between 5 guys. guy # 1: we went out once for 2 months. he broke up with me for another girl. it didnt work out, and now hes calling me again and is flirting like there is no tomorrow. guy #2: we have been friends for a while. hes #1's best friend and my ex best friend's ex bf. hes real nice and he is always there for me...but he has a lot of addict issues (drugs, alcohol, etc.) #1 only drinks, but i do 2. he doesnt do drugs. but i dont wanna screw up #2's friendship with me. becuz if things didnt work out, then that'll mess up our friendship and neither of us want that. guy #3: drinks and is in a band, and im totally into rockers. # 2 is a rocker as well, #3 is a grade younger than me but is starting to become a real close friend. guy #4: we have only spoken 2 times but i have had a huge crush on him 4 like 3 and a half years. he plays drums at my church and hes very talented and nice. (and hes cute, so theres a plus for me!!) guy #5: we went out once for 2 or 3 weeks. i broke it off because he is also younger than me and he was waaay immature. and hes got a real temper. and im afraid hes gonna end up in jail one day for murder. gimme ur opinions. WHICH GUY SHOULD I CHOOSE?!?! i no it seems pretty pathetic that im asking this, but i cant rely on my own thinking anymore. its gotten me in trouble way too many times. so yeah...plz tell me wut you guys think/

I would say go with the one you feel most comfortable with and share a likeness with. I would make a pros/cons list and see which one is best suited for you. Remember, you don't want to end up in trouble because of some guy, so that should go on your con side, i.e.-drugs, you think could commit murder, that kind of thing.
When you have finished with the list, it should come naturally to you which one is best suited for you. I hope I've helped and good luck!!

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My dad need's to get a new driver's licence, but he doesn't have his birth certificate. He doesn't know where he was born either, and has absolutly no way of finding out, atleast to our knowledge.
My dad is on disability and cannot get any money out of the bank untill he gets a new driver's licence. I was wondering if there is any way we can find out where he was born and get him a Birth Certificate. Any help would be greatly appreciated, this is more serious than it sound's.
Thank you.


Ok, since he is on disability, there could be help for you there. They should either A) have his birth certificate on hand or B) they should have his birth place in record. It's worth a shot to call them and find out if they can give him any information. If they don't have the B.C. but have the birth place, see advice below. Good Luck!!

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does anyone know how to do a color affect like in this picture -> http://a901.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/76/l_7f1123f5f09ceb0d9c174da0b71e051c.jpg

thanks in advance!!

They used a technique called colorization in photoshop. This is how you achieve this technique.
1. go to image->adjustments->desaturate
2. in tools palate, select history brush
3. in history dialog box, put check beside desaturate.
4. paint over the area that you want colored, color should return to it as you paint with the history brush.


This is according to my husband, who was a professional retoucher from glamour shots. Good Luck!!

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I've been with my boyfriend for a while, and I really want to do something cute for my boyfriend to show him how much he means to be. Does anyone have any cute ideas?

There are a few things you could do, age appropriate of course. For one, you could get a calendar made with your pics in it, could be risque or could just be cute. One thing I've done for my husband since we started dating, I make him a homemade dinner of romantic foods that we have never had before, and dine by candle light. After that, we watch movies (chick flicks) and let the night take us from there. Dressing up is also a fun idea. Good Luck!!

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17/f and wondering about the shed rate of my hair. I have light brown (natural) hair of normal thickness, and I take good care of it with regards to shampoo, conditioning, air drying, etc. I just don't understand, I know it's winter, but my hair seems to be shedding alot. Every time I shower (every/ every other day), there's a little clot left at my drain. Whenever I brush it, a good pinch accumulates in my brush. Almost every time I run my fingers through it, at least one follicle comes out. Is this normal?

I go to a competitive high-stress prep school, get about 6/7 hours of sleep a night (whatwith work), don't have a current winter sport, and eat healthfully.

I have the same problem. I shed A LOT!! I have learned that even though I have shed a lot of hair, I still have plenty on my head, and don't notice the hairs that have fallen out. Sometimes, stress can cause more than usual hair loss, but typically it's nothing to worry about. Now, if you start getting bald spots (which I doubt you will), then go see a doctor, but until then, I wouldn't worry. Good Luck!!

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I am looking for a cheap costume for a play... Hopefully under $40. I want a late victorian era (about 1880-1900) dress that's rather plain. it's for a servant's costume in England... it can be a gown that I can add an apron on, or a blouse and skirt set. I'm having a lot of trouble finding something that fits all of my qualifications! If anyone can post a link or tell me a store that I can order from (that they KNOW carries what I'm looking for) that would be REALLY helpful! Oh, it's for The Secret Garden. Thanks in advance!

Ok found some places you could look at, however they may not be in the price range you desired. Good Luck!!

http://www.premierclothing.com/scripts/prodList.asp?idCategory=31

(look for the costume that says pilgrim woman adult, I know it's not exact, but may work)
http://www.costumesupercenter.com/category/historical/historical.do?page=2

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okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a couple years and we both decided we were ready for sex. we tried but the problem was he couldnt really get it up. he's 17 he should be able to... when finally did get it up it was last a few minutes then it would be gone again, he never came.

i don't really know what to think. I am not trying to sound conceited but im not really unattractive, i have a nice body because i work out alot and a cute face and we're really in love so i dont really understand how he is having so much trouble getting turned on...

i've done everything i can think of, i've given him head and he said it felt good but the feeling just kind of went away before he came. i've asked him to tell me what feels good and he said i was already doing it right but obviously it isnt working! i wore sexier underwear and done little things that generally turn guys on like kissing his body, touching him, teased him or just kind of went for it, set the mood - nothing works

so, question #1
is my boyfriend just not attracted to me? what can i do to turn him on? i ask him and he says im doing everything right but i cant be....

question #2
guys, what REALLY turns you on?

I would say, although I am not a guy, that his problem could be that he has a lot of built up pressure and stress after a couple of years of not having sex. When you decided that you were going to go ahead with a sexual relationship, he may have been nervous of not fullfilling you and got stage fright. It happens. My suggestion would be to just let everything happen natural and it will be better than the pressure of having to live up to anyone's expectations. As to the other post in what guys get turn on by, hot sexy naked girls, yep that pretty much sums it up, oh, and the wind can do it too ;)!!

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Okay, 20/f. I've had my period since I was 12, and been on birth control since I was 16. A few months ago I switched from Yasmine 28 to Yaz (lower dose), and for the first month I spotted a little, then got my period, then everything was normal.
I got my period during the four day placebo cycle about two weeks ago, and now during the pill cycle, my period's showed up again.
Recently I came down with a cough, had no appetite, and lost about five or six pounds in two days. I know dramatic weight loss can have an effect on your period, but doesn't it usually make your period LATE, not come twice?
I'm also used to losing dramatic amounts of weight, as I have crohn's disease, which seems to flare up once a year. Every time I lose at least ten pounds in a very short amount of time, and my body has never done anything like this.
I'm sexually active, but very careful and have had the same partner for more than two years.
Very confused.
Any ideas?

My husband has Crohn's disease too. When he starts feeling sick like that, we immediately seek help. I would suggest going to the doctor and asking him what he feels is best for you. Unfortunately, I can't advise you on your menstrual cycle because of this situation. Crohn's disease can effect every system in your body. So, my advice, go to the doctor and make sure you get checked out. It could be another flare up. Good Luck!!

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i just saw my ex for the first time today since the breakupp. we broke up two weeks ago (less) and i still like him a lot. we were together 5 months. he was my first bf and kiss. we said hi and that was like it. it was prretttyyy akward. now its really feeling like its over and im so upset. i feel like hes way over me and it makes me really upset. i guess i expect a miracle to happen and for him to take me bacck today. i miss him.

1. any (preferably sad) songs describing a situation like this. like seeing him completely over me while im still attatched. i like stuff like boys like girls we the kings cartel etc. no screamo.

2. what do i do with myself. please dont say friends cause they dont get it. i dont like them very much.

3. why am i still sad. why do i still care. why do i continue to think about him every day. why cant i listen to one song without his name coming up in my head.

4. i want to be friiends with him because i couldnt ever not talk to him agian. i feel so weird talking to him. cause i had a tiny conversation with him today and i just couldnt look him in the eye. i couldnt speak knowing he doesnt feel the same.



thanks;
hopeless




i wonder what he'd think if he could read my mind..

Ahh, the unfortunate sounds of broken heartedness. It's not fun, believe me. I remember all to well trying to get over a broken heart, that seems will never heal. It does though. In time. I know that doesn't help for the right now, but just remember, every day, every minute, someone is suffering from a broken heart as well. Maybe this will be something to remember to keep you strong. Suggestions that you could do to keep him off your mind, take up a new hobby. Scrapbooking, pottery, painting, exercising, advice columns ;), something that will distract you in a therapeutic way. Just take it one day at a time, and if that doesn't work, go for a more realistic goal, one hour at a time. Good Luck!!

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my boyfriend of 15 months kinda just broke up with me because i told him how i feel...and idk if it was for real or not but idk what to do..and i don't want him to leave me because i love him and i was supposed to have my period last thursday so i'm stressing out do you think i could be pregnant? and how do i get my baby back?

Well, considering I have no clue what the talk you had originally to tell him how you feel, I can't give you exact advice. Here is what I would suggest though, I would talk to him and see why he broke up with you and if there is any way that you could work things out. I wouldn't, however, bring to the table that you think you may be pregnant. It may only make him think you are using this as a ploy to get him back. Now, if you are 100% positive that you are pregnant, you two will need to have an even bigger talk than the one you are about to have now. Good Luck!!

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What is a convection zone...there wasnt any category for thst so i just picked plants and garden....so what is a convection zone in a sun?

Here is a website that you may find useful.
http://solar-heliospheric.engin.umich.edu/hjenning/ConvectiveZone.html
Good Luck!

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that you answered, it was about a browser thing? Yeah, well if you delete the files and cookies stuff, will that delete everything, like your favorites and stuff?

No, your favorites stay the same. It will delete all the passwords, auto-complete, and sign in information as well as the cookies and your internet history (places you have been before). I hope I've helped, if you need more information, send me a message ;).

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Okay. ive just been recently having sex with my boyfriend and it feels really good. but i dont know how to know if ive reached my climax or an orgasm.

i dont know what its like, maybe ive had one already.
tell me how i will know.

oh and when he eats me out it feels sooo good and like i get into like this weird but good feeling to the point where i cant handle the feeling of him doing it anymore and i make him stop is that a orgasm?

thanks in advance!

When you have an orgasm you will know. It's a completely different feeling than you have ever had before in your life. When you say that you can't take it anymore, it may be that he is hitting an area that has become to supersensitive and the feelings are just to intense to take. That, may not necessarily be an orgasm. When he does this, make him move on to a different technique, or area and see what happens. Good Luck!!

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Okay 14/f. Lol this is a really weird question but i live in cali, and we are having a pool party in a month and i have tiny boobs and m wearing a bikkine and i just dont want everyone to relise that i have tiny boobs. is their anything besides surgery that will give me bigger boobs?
Thanks in advance

Honestly, no, there is nothing other than surgery that will increase your boob size immediately. Sometimes, and I know how horrible it is, but you have to wait for mother nature to do her job. There are these things that go under your breast, that are silicon based, that will give a more pushed up look, however, when wearing a bikini, I wouldn't suggest it. How would you feel if they feel out, because bikinis offer no real support, at the party? Just use common sense on when and where to use products like this, because it could be devastating to your emotions. Good Luck!!

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16/f. my friend, 15/f...one of my best friends...has changed a lot since this year. reasons: i got a boyfriend and she didnt. i developed more and she didnt. stuff like that.
now, she's very mean towards me. she mocks me, she makes fun of me..and i cant trust her anymore. when she asks me to tell her something, i trust her with my secrets...and so i tell her.
she goes to her OTHER friends...and tells them everything i told her. even after i told her not to. she has a big mouth and is very obnoxious. she's turning into a bitch and i cant do anything about it. she even told me thatt she was jealous.
i cant have a person like that around me. yet..its so hard to end a friendship, but i feel that if i dont...she will hurt me so much in the end.
what can I do?

I would just let her know that you can not handle her being jealous and two-faced to you anymore. If she can't control her meanness towards you, then you will have to stop being her friend. I know it's hard to be mean sometimes, but if she is being mean and has no regard towards your feelings, than you shouldn't worry about hers. Good Luck!

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like when your going to type the website your going to. in that little box thingy, yeah well how do you get the websites that you have been to, not to show up. Because some of my friends make fun of me or something, because i go to websites like these, or jsut other websites. And, that leads to me, being afraid of letting them on my computer, because i'm embarresed. Please help me, because i've seen computers that are like that. Thank-you!

Ok, here is your solution. There are 2 different ways you can do this.
#1 you can go to tools, internet options, and clear your browsing history and cookies.
#2 you can go to google, type in the web address you want to go to by typing it in the search bar, and click the site from there. This will make it where it won't show up in your address bar.
Good Luck!!

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