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this one friend...
16/f. my friend, 15/f...one of my best friends...has changed a lot since this year. reasons: i got a boyfriend and she didnt. i developed more and she didnt. stuff like that.
now, she's very mean towards me. she mocks me, she makes fun of me..and i cant trust her anymore. when she asks me to tell her something, i trust her with my secrets...and so i tell her.
she goes to her OTHER friends...and tells them everything i told her. even after i told her not to. she has a big mouth and is very obnoxious. she's turning into a bitch and i cant do anything about it. she even told me thatt she was jealous.
i cant have a person like that around me. yet..its so hard to end a friendship, but i feel that if i dont...she will hurt me so much in the end.
what can I do?
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Ask her why she's doing this. You won't be really able to find out why she's acting like this until you aks her.
If she's jealous, i can understand how she's feeling, so read on.
She feels as if you're doing what she wants to do, what she dreams about. You've got a realtionship going, your developing more than she is and she just wants to be like that, though she isn't.
Try and reach out to her and say things. But not "You'll develop soon" or "I know you'll get a boyfriend soon": this will just upset her more because you've already gotten to that stage and 'soon' can be a long time.
So, what to do, go to her and say that you're not a diferent person, even after all of this. You still want to be friends and you don't like this rivalry between the two of you.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
She's being mean to you because she's angry that you've gotten to where she isn't and she's trying to 'bring you down' back to her level. I know that this is harsh but you can't rule out what she's done.
So, what to do. Don't go and yell at her and shout. Go and say that you still want to be frineds with her. This can be hard for you to do, but say that you're not a different person, just somebody who's...you know...developed more. Ask whether you can still be friends, you don't like this rivalry between you two.
Play it safe for a while and be kind to her,
tri
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First of all there are a lot of things that could explain her negativity(and don't take it like its your fault because it isn't...)
1 She could be jealous of you
2 She could be envious
3 she wants you to be in the same position shes in
SO best advice is to set your ground and tell her that what she is doing isnt right and hurts you. And if you really want to help, try to get her to meet some guys and such. You just happened to have gotten more faster and she will catch up to where you are too eventually. And if you have trust issues, dont tell her EXTREMELY secretive things, just stuff that if it got out, you wouldnt care much for it.
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Let her know that she is hurting you and you would greatly appreciate it if she stopped. If she doesn't seem too care you shouldent have a problem dropping her as a friend well it doesn't even seem like she is a friend.
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I would just let her know that you can not handle her being jealous and two-faced to you anymore. If she can't control her meanness towards you, then you will have to stop being her friend. I know it's hard to be mean sometimes, but if she is being mean and has no regard towards your feelings, than you shouldn't worry about hers. Good Luck!
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If she's doing this to you, I feel like you really are hurting inside. I would too. I had a friend who is not as skinny, developed, or liked by guys as much as I am, and she always got mad at me for little things that a normal person wouldn't be angry about. So I ended the friendship, and I feel happier, because I now know that she wasn't acting like a real friend. I don't think you should stay friends with someone who fools around with your trust, because a friend's trust is so important. I don't want to tell you to end your friendship, but do what you think would best for YOU. If you do end it, don't worry about how she feels because she was being a bad friend. Friends can be jealous, but they are usually playful about it, and don't do horrible things to show it. I think you'd be better off without her.
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