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Q: I am sure that this question has been asked before but I'd like some answers pertaining to my exact situation. I ussually hate online advice forums, but thougth I'd give it a try before I critisize it. Ok, so enough, here's my problem.

My best friend is a girl. She (and I) are 15 years old. I've known her for about two years now. We have been through so much together and help eachother out in so many ways that I see our friendship permanent unless I personally screw it up. When we first met, I immediatly liked her and wanted to date her. When I found out she felt the same way, I planned on asking her out. But some stupid girl found out that she liked me and proclaimed it to the school and also wrote a letter from me (which I didn't write) to her asking her out. Then this menace of a girl embarrased her in front of the entire cafeteria by starting a chant of "ask her out (then my name)". After that, we just became friends and never really brought it up again. It's been two years since then and we have both had at least one boyfriend or girlfriend. I am starting to really like her and it haints me that we never even gave it a shot. But I am not sure if she likes me more than a best friend or if she would agree to go out with me. She is the only person I trust and I can't give her up as a friend, which is why I haven't risked our friendship by asking her out. So, where do I go? What do I do? What do I tell her? What will she say? If she refuses to go out with me, will our friendship be awkward and ruined?

You should bring it up if you like she may feel a lil bit wierd but that would be a normal reaction outta that sort of experience. But if she says no then you have to respect that and stick with that let her know that you value what you have now and you would never want to ruin it!-trix

Q: ok, my so-called bestfriend, is yelling at me, as we speak about a soccer game, because i couldnt breathe and she said i didnt talk to her and went straight to my mum, what do i say to her

Say because your first instinct was to just turn and run to her because you knew she had a cell or could get a cell and call 911 right away. Tell her to put herself in that sit. and if you ask me that is really stupid if she hates you over that... she should be more concerned weather you are okay or not-trix

Q: well i posted a message stating my problem with these three guys. well i talk to one of them and told them that it wasnt going to work that was this boy named bryan. Now i am faced with the big decision of picking Joseph or Donald but i dont know wich one. See i have known Donald a lot oonger than Joseph but we have all ways been friends but we never had those conversations dealing with getting to know each other like fave color and food things like that. Well he has a friend named Joseph and i like joseph and donald keeps telling me the Joseph really wants to get with me. Me and Joseph have talked a feew kissed a few. But see i really like joseph i like a lot of things about him. But see he is a big flirt and so am i so evan though one of us would be in a relationsship we would still end up fliorting with some one els. But im not really worried about that i want to know how can i pick between them which one to choose and if i should tell the one that i didnt pick that i go with his friend pleaz help signed~ worried to pick

I would go with the one you knew longer-donald-but then again you and joe (shortning it up a bit sorry) seem to have more of a thing more then you and don (once again shortning) do so i would go with Joe.. actually. but if doesnt work out between u and joe then so be it.. then move on and give it time and go to don.

Q: I have had this friend for a really really long time. i am ova her house like almost every weekend and we r soooooo close. people actually think we r twin sisters. but lately this girl has really gotten on my nerves. she sings when she doesnt kno the words and she is a horrible singer and she always treats my sister like crap and when i say something to her sister she tells me not to talk to her like that. i dont kno wether i should tell r not!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Well point out that she treats your sister like crap and you dont like that either and maybe help her a bit on the lyrics.. but be nice-trix

Q: In the election coming up, I'm just curious to see who people want to win, and why. I know it's not something I need advice on, but I have to do a current event for World History. Personally, I'm going for Bush and I have several good reasons why.. I was just wondering about everyone else?

Bush.. i dont like changes honestly and i just got use to him and i dont really know what he is doing but im just used to him and its kinda freaky having a new person that holds the country pretty much in his hands.. so i like stay with the new never out with the old.. thats my saying most say .. in with the new out with the old! but not me-trix

Q: is it possible to snog without tongues? just using your lips? if so, how?

Snog? what.. Im a blonde you have to be a little bit more specific!-trix

Q: What should I do to make a cake?

Cherry Cheese Cake Recipe - No Baking

Ingredients
1 Can Sweetened Condensed Milk
1 8oz. package cream cheese
1/3 cup lemon juice
1/4 teaspoon vanilla
1 graham cracker pie crust
1 can "pie filling" cherries

Directions
Blend sweetened condensed milk and cream cheese.
Gradually blend in lemon juice and vanilla.
Beat until firm.
Pour into pie crust.
Chill for 3 hours.
Add chilled cherry topping.
Delicious!

DOUBLE CHOCOLATE SNACK CAKE

Heat oven to 350 degrees. Grease and flour 8 x 8 x 2 inch square pan.

In small mixing bowl combine:

1 2/3 c. all-purpose flour
1 c. packed light brown sugar
1/4 c. Hershey's cocoa
1 tsp. baking soda
1/4 tsp. salt
Add and beat until smooth:

1 c. water
1/3 c. vegetable oil
1 tsp. vinegar
3/4 tsp. vanilla
Pour into prepared pan. Sprinkle 1/2 cup Hershey's semi-sweet chocolate chips over top. Bake 35 to 40 minutes or until wooden pick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool in pan on wire rack. Cut into squares.

VARIATION: Chocolate Banana Snack Cake - Decrease water to 1/2 cup, stir in 1/2 cup mashed, ripe bananas before pouring batter into pan.

Q:
How can my cousin and I get this boy at a campsite to notice us? We're around the ages of 14*1/2 - 15...we are NOT SLUTTY...we are interested in just being ourselves...and we can be outgoing sometimes...but we aren't type of girls to just come out and talk to a guy. It's hard for us...last time at the campsite we sat around and watched this boy skateboard...

He seemed very sweet at times but he never approached us or anything...I think he liked the fact that him and his friend had an audience...

So if we were ever to see this boy again...(which would be HIGHLY doubtful)...what should we do? GIve him a note?? (would that be creepy?) is there anything anybody can do to help us?...

How can we get them to notice us?

Thanks. APpreciate it

When he is skateboarding ask him what he can do and if he can show you.. that should start it from there. So keep watching and applaud to be a nice joker about it all. I dont know if i would give him a note but that would be memorable so you could do that..-trix

Q: YANKEES?
or
Red Sox
???
Make the right choice...

Yankees... You love hte Yankees!! ***trix***

Q: Are you supposed to wear underwear while playing volleyball in spandex?

Thong-trix

Q: i really want to be a basketball player like soooooo bad and i dont know hoe i can become one i meen im only 12 so its not a big rush now but any ideas would be great!
~*~AlEx~*~

Get a baskteball hoop and start practicing! go to the park and play baskteball w/some ppl and join the baskteball team and use your free time on practicing and withing good time you'll be amazing! Play around the world that helps! Or horse or lightning!-trix

Q: ...i play soccer a lot and im kinda busy...i realli wanna be able to do like back walkovers and stuff...without coaches...can u give me like TONS of tips that would help me learn how?? thanx

You could go to askjeeves.com and he has a page on this sports page about tips and lil help things-trix

Q: ok i am going to this basketball camp for like 4 days and i am going with one of my freinds that i dont really know that well and she has other freinds there so what do i do? because i dont want it to be a boring time and i dont want to end up getting ditched..

Well just try to be friends with everybody and meet new people there im sure you will do fine-trix

Q: duz ne 1 kno this kid named mattie? lol. he's asked me 4 advice like, 2wice and i gave him my s/n but he never IMed me. and idk his last name or s/n or ne thing so... find mattie! lol.
(if u kno ne thing bout him plz rite bak and put it in my inbox) thnx
~Lizzie

Nope if it comes across me then i'll somehow get it across but maybe mattie got it all figured out so be proud for him!!*trix*

Q: A week after fathers day my dad punched my brother and my brother socked him back. Eventually the whole family tried to get my fathers fat ass off my brother. I slapped my dad and he hit my bro again, then when his arm came back, it hit me in my head and knocked me out. When i woke up my friend was right there and screaming at me to get up. My bro had run away. I ran outside just in time to see where he was going then i was knocked out again. I felt my moms arms around me and she lifted me up. I wiped my bloody face and ran to my house sreaming :get that son of a bitch the fuck out of my house!" When i saw my dad, his tooth was knocked out and his face was bloody. I told him to get the fuck out of my house and he said he'll leave when he wants too. I started crying again and fell to the floor. My dad didn't give a shit about me. He just fucking stood there.
I found out where my bro went and grabbed car keys. I fired up the engine and my stepdad came out and opened the door. My friend hopped in the back seat and i went in the front. We went and got my brother. He picked me up and started hugging me. We had never hugged before, because we weren't as close as we are now.
I have to get dental stuff and now my dad wants to pay for everything. I know im gonna have to see him cause he has to sign papers. I don't know what to do. Plz help!!!!
signed,
helpless

Well your friend needs to be more caring. Well I'd take him to court he has no right to be treating kids like that? Under no circumstances and im glad your step dad could have been of assistance. the only good outcome of all this is that you and your brother are closer and your dad should pay for all this he deserves to cuz he caused all of it! well just go to your dads..but try not to say much about what happend...try to move on but you should sign them ~trix

Q: Okay me an this guy dated for like 3 months but we been off and on and threw alot of shit for the last 3 year's .. hes been tellin gme lately how much he really loved me and all .. well hes in the army so its really hard for me to trust him being as im being told by everyone at home that hes messin aroun.. and hes stationed right now so far away from me .. but i thought that love was enough for us to stay together and all .. Well recently we broke up i told him i couldnt deal with the worrying all the time, and plus long distance sucks soooo bad , Well now he like wont leave me alone at all, he tol dme he cared for me too much to see us just be over .. but I did love him and all and i still will i just I met this guy whos younger closer to my age, and lives around here .. Hes like the perfect catch i havent found a flaw yet hes just a dream come true, Well i mean i dont kno what to do do i throw basically 3 years down the drain for this guy who seems totally worth giving up everything .. or do i go back to this ex of myne ? .. Im so confused .. so please hurry with the juicy help!

I'd go with the new guy but yet that 3 yrs is something you want to hold on to very tightly-trix

Q: why do i think its ok to masturbate and look at naked guy pics but i dont think its ok for my boyfriend to masturbate and look at porn. i feel like when he does it im not pleasing enough. why do i feel this way ?

Well i think its how he may feel to its just a feeling you feel and probably how any girl or guy thinks about there bf/gf you dont need to feel that way..he is just horny it may sound bad.. but thats just what happens to some guys when they are horny-trix

Q: i need to know how to make a good peanut butter and jelly sandwich

Use peanut butter your favorite kind make sure you spread it all over the bread both pieces and same with the jelly and use your favorite kind-trix

Q: i met this guy at adventureland (he was REALLY hott!!) in des moines and i got his # but i dont want to call it cuz im afraid that its the wrong number! but then again the area code and the first 3 numbers were from the area that we were located in...what should i do? call him or not?
-confuzzled!

Call and if its the wrong number then it is he wont know weather you called it or not.. but if its the right number then he is a good guy but the whole name part could be a lil bit tricky.. just hope and prays he picks up.. you could have a friend call and have her say is this the kid from adventureland? and he says have her ask her what his name is give the phone to you-trix

Q: does anyone know like a technique to quit ciggaretes without money...im not legaly old enough to buy anything with nicotine and i really wanna quit but its a bitch..anyone know nething?? thanks for your time

Ask your friends.. if any of them have quitted.. or get the gum but have a older person do it-trix

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"