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So i gave my boyfriend a hangjob and i got some cum on my finger but i wipped it off on his shirt... gross i know but we were hugging and then about 40 mins later i masterbated. can i be pregnant. i dont ahve to feeling that i am but im suppose to get my period soon so hopefully i will know. please answer back!

You shouldn't need to worry, seeing as you wiped your hand and left it for 40 minutes. Next time, be more careful and remember to wash your hands :)!

How do you show a guy that you're interested?

Talk to him, make eye contact, smile, laugh with him, most importantly - be yourself.
Don't try too hard (dressing "slutty"..)
Don't follow him around.. leave him wanting more :)
Best of luck!

Does anyone know the title of the song in "A Walk to Remember" when he is giving Jamie the tattoo? It's driving me crazy. Thabks!

http://www.stlyrics.com/a/awalktoremember.htm

Check out which one it is from here.
Good luck.

Well.. homecomming is comming up and i have to decide between these 3 dresses.. i love them all i just cant decidee!

http://img524.imageshack.us/img524/6091/dresseslx4.png

Wow, I think they are all stunning.
I think the blue one looks more like a homecoming dress and it looks original, where you could be sure noone would really have the same one. You can also team it up with pretty accessories and any hairstyle would look gorgeous with it.
I like the 1st dress too, however!
Which ever one you choose, you'd be guaranteed to be turning heads ;)

um is it harmful that i accidently swalloed a couple of my rubberbands for my braces..?

i keep forgetting to take them out when i eat,
so then late i notice one side of my mouth doesnt have it..
and then the other does, so i assume i ate it.

ahaaha.

uh yeah i think its okay is it?

This happened to me once.
A few times isn't harmful, as they're quite small and will pass through your body easily! ;)
But you wouldn't want a build up of 100's of them in your body!
Just try to remember to take them out next time. I know.. hassle. :(

OK my teacher is holding tryouts for a solo to a good song on Wednesday. I know the solo really well and I've been practicing all week. I want to do it but i'm afraid if i get up there, I'll choke or something. I can't even sing in front of my mom! How can i overcome this by Wednesday?

http://ezinearticles.com/?7-Sure-Fire-Ways-To-Overcome-Stage-Fright-When-Speaking-Or-Performing&id=56830
http://www.ehow.com/how_7136_overcome-stage-fright.html

There are many more links on google if you type in something similar to "overcome stage fright"
Everyone who auditions can go through this at some point and it's perfectly normal. It's just a case of overcoming this fear.
Easier said than done.. But there's lots of help on the internet. And before you do it, sleep well the night before, eat breakfast, take deep breaths and perform your best.
Obviously, the teacher will put the fact you will be nervous into consideration.
So best of luck with the audition and I hope you get what you want. :)

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ok so theres this guy i like named cody. were kind of friends but not really. i talk to him on myspace and aim sometimes. so one day i see hes on aim so i say hey to him. heres how it went..

me-hey
cody-what do you want now
me-umm i dont know
cody-then dont talk to me
--cody signs off--

im not exactly sure what i did to deserve that. my friends are saying maybe he was in a bad mood or hes under alot of pressure right now (he has me and my friend ashley chasing after him you could say. she asked him out and he said no and he also knows that i like him). anyway when i read that i almost cried. what should i do??

Your friends could be right saying that. But thinking about this logically, if he wasn't in the mood to talk to people, why would he be on aim?
Perhaps he's feeling the pressure of 2 girls lusting after him.
I know it must have hurt you to see him talk to you like that, but if i was in your shoes, I'd just say "sorry for annoying you" or something to that effect. and ask him if you've done anything. then leave it at that. (leave him a myspace message so he won't have to reply stright away if you're on aim) and let him reply in his own time. Maybe conversation will start flowing from there.
Best of luck.

me and this boy fell in love the minute we talked to eachother. we had a lot in common and hes a pretty good kid and for a little over a week we were seriously in love. then this week we got in a tiny "arguement" but we made up and and he said he still loved me. he hadn't IMed me for 3 days and usually he IMs me every time we are both on aim. so i IMed him and he was just talking to me like i was his friend and nothing else so i asked him what was going on he said he still liked me a little but not as much. i think its because he found another girl. theres this girl he seems to be getting close with, he hung out with her and they were leaving eachother myspace comments and last night he went to her house and i was soo jealous i was afraid they were going to make out or something since we arnt officaly going out yet. he always puts on his away message how hott that girl is and i keep saying i love you and once he said i love you back but other times he would just put up his away message up the second i said it and never answer me back. he says we need to hang out but he always says hes too busy. he tries to get me jealous and he will say "im hanging out with GRACE today" (the girl he says hes "just friends" with) last week he would littarly IM me every time i signed on or returned from away, and now i am the one who has to IM him first.i dont know why hes not as interested and he wont talk about it he says nothings wrong.i dont want to give up on him because he says he still has a feelings for me a tiny bit. but i want him to fall back in love with me the way it was last week and since he never has "time" to hang out with me i have to try to get him back either by the phone or online, and he doesnt go to my school. i dont him him going out with grace i want to be with him. but apparently he has known grace for a few years and ive only known him for a few months and ive heard shes really pretty and im just average. so how can i show him that im a better choice than she is???

Firstly, how do you know you're a better choice than she is? Obviously if you fancy someone, you would think that. But you need to think about the way he feels, too. Perhaps he feels more comfortable talking to her etc. and they have more things in common than he does with you?
I'm not trying to tell you to back away from this guy, because if you've "fell in love" with him, it could be worth fighting for.
Just don't get your hopes up. I've seen people in this situation get hurt too many times and to be honest, it's just not worth it.
Ask him to hang out. Plan it like a week before so he won't make other plans. If he agrees, I wish you the best of luck. If not, you've tried your best and you've put yourself out for this guy. If he's not doing the same back, he's obviously not worth it.
If this is the case and you start talking to each other alot less than you do now, he may realize how much he misses you and ask you to hang out and really mean it.
But if not, I know it hurts, but you really do need to get over it.
Best of luck x

I just got my braces off and got a retainer yesterday i forgot the case and put it in my bag with my gym clothes so i didnt think anything would happen to it.(but i was wrong.) So i go 2 put it in at night and the front wire is all croked. So i was able to bend it back so it looks normal now its just a little tight. I'm just afaid it going to bend my teeth in way i don't want it to cuz i might have bent it back wrong. Should i tell my mom (even though she'll get really mad) and go 2 the ortho asap or just wear it @ nite and tell him next app. in likke 4 weeks??? thanks for the help!!! i need it!!

You could wait 4 weeks, but that might be a bit long. Tell your mum to make you a quicker appt, saying it's an emergency. It's easy for it to be bent back into shape, too. So don't worry too much :)!

What does "Monosexual" mean? Example(s)

Also,is there a word for someone that is in love with themselves, such as selfsexual?

Monosexual:
"A person whose sexual preference is one sex. It can be heterosexual or homosexual."
Or you could be thinking of another meaning;
"A person who has sex only with themselves."

If you are in love with yourself, yes, you can be thought of as "selfsexual"

How do I get I guy to like me?

You talk to him. and be yourself. If you have a few things in common and you get on well with each other, you would have gained a friend, possibly more.
Other than that, there's nothing you can do. You cannot MAKE someone like you.
But good luck. Don't be shy. and be yourself.

Hey! Ok does anyone know how to find out how to see the people that viewed your myspace? I know that the Number of veiws shows but cant you see who is looking at it?

There is no such thing as a MySpace tracker which actually works. Any you do come across will be harmful to your computer or your MySpace page, as Tom had previously pointed out.
Also, it takes away the fun of MySpace. It's better to keep it anonymous. It's more exciting that way. :)

I have a question. i normally dont ask for advice. but i want to know someones oppinion. are you a slut if you had sex with 2 boys in the same night?

If someone told me that, yes, the word "slut" would automatically come to mind. Judgemental, I know.. but sex shouldn't come cheap.
Depends why you did it with 2 different people in the same night. Doesn't seem like there could be a good enough reason in my eyes, but I don't know the story behind it.
If it carries on with the whole sleeping around, you'll get a bad rep and yes, would be considered a "slut."
It's all down to people's personal opinions..

This isn't exactly a "help me" kind of question, but, it is a valed question. I was just wondering, if anyone decides to answer me..."What is happening here?" I have been going through the questions and I am lucky if I see every 4th question have one answer! It used to be every question had at least 5 or 6 answers. Anything happening I should know about? Isn't anyone here anymore? Well, thank you for those of you who do answer.

I've also noticed the change in this website. However, when I check back later on, more answers have been added. I think it's just taking longer for them to be answered now. Not sure why. Maybe because alot of the advicenators are teenagers who are focusing more on schooling more than their internet advice column!
Although there's not AS many answers, they're still great advice. So no worries.

i know this is gay .. but my boyfriend keeps trying to make out with me and like , i dont know how !? so like .. how !?

I answered a question like this previously and still have a helpful link on do's and don'ts :)

http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/kissing/ht/frenchkissht.htm

DON'T be nervous about it. Once you do it, you'll wonder what you ever worried about. It just comes naturally when the time is right.
and DON'T feel pressured into doing it. If you don't want to, then simply don't do it :)

ever wanted to decide for someone if they should get over someone? well here's your chance!
I will give you the background info, and then YOU guys decided, get over him or not.. if the majority says yes. then thats it. ill try to get over him.

You'll recognize the story because ive asked atleast 17 questions about this guy on here, since the year 2002 (yes ive had a crush on him for 4 years!)

I met this guy in june, 4 yrs ago, when i was on vacation with my parents. We live on different continents, but i visit his continent every year because my family lives there.

The first year when we met - we were watching a movie with my cousins and he said "damn, she's so hott! i love angelina jolie!" then he looked at me, winked..and said "you're hott too btw!" (sound cheesy, and sleezy, but he said it in a charming way)he left with one of my cousins and came back an hour later.. my cousin then told me "ehh, he thinks you like him!" (i had done nothing to make him belive that..except smile when he said "You're hott too!") but whateer, at this point i didnt really like him, i was more annoyed that he was hanging around while i was trying to spend some time iwth my cousins..
anyways, when he came back with my cousin, my cousin left to talk on the phone, and left me alone with this guy..he ssat down next to me on the porch and said "what's up? you look sad! why are you sitting alone instead of watching tv with the rest of the family?" i said; idk..it's nice outside. and he agreed. then he suddenly gave me a troubled look (which he had not had befofre) and said.. "damn im screwed" (he whispered this though..so i didnt hear it) i said "what?" and he repeated it.. and i asked why? and he explained that his gf of 5 months had crazy ocerprotective parents, and her sister (who is also very over protective) had seen them holding hand at the mall... i tried to give him advice on what to do since he seemed to really care about this girl, and then said.. aww its really cute how you talk about her, i can tell you're a sweettalker! and he said, yeah i guess.. then looked right into my eyes, and told me how beautiful they were.. after this we spent 4 hours togther, flirting and talking..basically just hanging out and getting to know eachother.. he found out i was leaving the next day, asked me for my email..and then said goodbye.
i didnt really start liking him, until after i left the country. thats when i started realiing it. and we talked online a couple of times but not a lot. One of the few times we did talk online he said "if i didnt have a gf, i would have kissed you when we met!" and on another occasion he told me "ive now been with my gf for 11 months and i love her soo much"
so he flirted with me but always made it clear that he had a gf he would never cheat on.
the last conversation we had before i met him the second year he said "if i break up with my gf this summer, are we set?" and i said "deal!" so we basically agreed on hooking up (just making out and getting to know eachother and stuff like that!)

when the day finally came that i saw him again, it happened to be the last day in his country AGAIN, we met..didnt talk to eachother for a while (he talked to my cousin, and made jokes the first few houres!) then we started asking eachother questions.. how've you been since last time? what's been going on? what's new?.. just the regular chit-chat.. and i asked him about his gf and he said "we had a fight yesterday, and we broke up.." and i said " aww really?" and he said "yah, otherwise i wouldnt be here!" (which shows that he thought of me as more than a friend..otherwise he wouldnt say that right?)
anyways, we hung out, flirted a bit (not as much as the year before..) and then he went home and we said "see you tomorrow!" but my family changed the plans.. so we left that same day, and i didnt get to say goodbye! after this i went to camp for 3 weeks, when i came back,, i had an email from him.. with two poems, and he said "i cant stop thinking about you, we never got to say goodbye! i didnt get to give you the present i bought you" and things along those lines, i answered..and we started emailing regurly.. then i for some reason got insecure and made up a story about how i cant email him anymore.. (dont ask, i dont really know why i did that) and we stopped emailing.. until this summer.. when i thought i was gonna meet him again, i went online, and we started IMing.. flirting, promising that we'd get together and have fun this summer, telling eachother how we feel about eachother and so on,.. until one night i found out i wasnt gonna get to see him because my parents had a fight with my cousins parents.. so i wasnt gonna get to cisit my cousins and see him. when i told him this he said "oh well, whatever, its not like its a big deal!" WTF? it is a huge deal! for me it was atleast.. and then i asked why his screenname was so sad...and his answer? its about my ex who im still in love with! he then sent me a 2 page email about who hes never cared for anyone else, how he loves her, how he'll never get over her, they're meant to be..and so on.
i cried, and told my friends.. they id "be honest with him!" so i was, i asked how he could say he loved me when all along he was in love with her? and he said "im sorry if i hurt you, but i didnt realize im still in love with her until recently,," i decided to get over him (of course) and didnt talk to him for a month..but now, we email again.. like nothing ever happened.. like we're just friends.. pen pals.. needles to say, i still have a crush on him, and pray everyday that we're gonna get to see eachother again this christmas! i keep praying he'll be over her by then..!!

so, what do you think?
should i try to get over him?
and HOW? stop emailing??
i dont think it will work..
unless i tell him that "ive chosen not to fall for you, so if i show up this christmas, i dont want to see you..andi cant keep in touch with you anymore!" but thas so awkward! maybe there's another way? what do you guys think?

If I were you, I would definitely try to forget about him.
I don't think he realizes the effect he's had on you, and how you miss him, and how he's hurt you.
I wouldn't stop talking to him though, or refuse to see him. Because you will be losing a friend. Just try to get the idea out of your head of there ever being more than a friendship with you two. Because from what you've said, it doesn't really seem like he's as interested as you are. After all, if he confessed he was sad about his ex, he's obviously not.
I would focus on getting to know the more local guys in your area. Where you will get to see them and understand them more.
But whatever you decide to do, I hope it's for the best.
Good luck :)

Am i abnormal? I think i am because im light skinned and for some reason my vagina is darker than i am--i mean a lot darker and i want to know why i'm like this and if i'm abnormal or not?!

You're not abnormal. Everyone's vagina is different. If you really are THAT concerned, you could get it checked out. But if I were you, I wouldn't worry about it. They come in all diffrernt shapes, sizes, colours.. :)

What does 420 mean?????

"420, was thought of years ago as the time of day some people got together to smoke pot. Now it is used as code for "Let's go get high." Also, some people consider it to be April 20th that is "National Pot Smoking Day.""

i have had sex.. i am only 12... i am scared to go to a docter without my mom finding out or where do i put the pills god i wish i just had them and didnt have to go to the docter... :[.I dont know who to talk to about this kindof stuff because i am the only person whose had sex in my grade.. and i go to a cathloic school so i like cant tell anyone or i will be a slut and no one will like me. i drink wich is bad but i cant help it i am not addicted but i just do for fun. haha but yeah just i need some addvice and someone to talk to.

You're throwing away your childhood. You obviously aren't realizing this at the moment, but when you reach your older teens, it will hit you that you were a very foolish youngster.
12 year olds shouldn't be having sex. They cannot handle it emotionally. You might think you can, but really, you can't. and years from now you will wish you would have waited.
and are you really thinking about your options here? You don't want your mum finding the pills. It's good you're taking precautions but they have MANY side effects. Physical and emotional.
If I were you, I would lay off the sex and wait.
You wanted advice and I'm giving it to you, whether or not this is what you want to hear is a different story.
You're drinking for fun..
Did you know youngsters who participate in things such as drinking/drug taking/smoking etc are at a much higher risk of becoming addicted and can damage their body MUCH quicker than adults?
You might think the answer is yes and you probably think to yourself "oh, i dont care! im only having fun!"
But seriously, you're harming yourself. and need to stop.
You have plenty of time to do this when you're older. Why are you in so much of a rush to grow up? You should be enjoying being young while you can. Growing up is hard. and drinking and sleeping around certainly won't help you.
Best of luck...

alright, well.. me and my bf did it, with out a condom, gosh damn im stupid.. and we are both absolutely scared..my period doesnt come for another 2 weeks and i have no idea what to do.. please help.. we need it deseperately.. please dont say that it was stupid, I KNOW.. i dont know why i didnt say anything...

Morning after pill? It can be effective for up to 72 hours after sexual intercourse.
Or go and get a pregnancy test. If negative, you've learnt a valuable lesson. If positive, you need to think about your options.

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