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me and this boy fell in love the minute we talked to eachother. we had a lot in common and hes a pretty good kid and for a little over a week we were seriously in love. then this week we got in a tiny "arguement" but we made up and and he said he still loved me. he hadn't IMed me for 3 days and usually he IMs me every time we are both on aim. so i IMed him and he was just talking to me like i was his friend and nothing else so i asked him what was going on he said he still liked me a little but not as much. i think its because he found another girl. theres this girl he seems to be getting close with, he hung out with her and they were leaving eachother myspace comments and last night he went to her house and i was soo jealous i was afraid they were going to make out or something since we arnt officaly going out yet. he always puts on his away message how hott that girl is and i keep saying i love you and once he said i love you back but other times he would just put up his away message up the second i said it and never answer me back. he says we need to hang out but he always says hes too busy. he tries to get me jealous and he will say "im hanging out with GRACE today" (the girl he says hes "just friends" with) last week he would littarly IM me every time i signed on or returned from away, and now i am the one who has to IM him first.i dont know why hes not as interested and he wont talk about it he says nothings wrong.i dont want to give up on him because he says he still has a feelings for me a tiny bit. but i want him to fall back in love with me the way it was last week and since he never has "time" to hang out with me i have to try to get him back either by the phone or online, and he doesnt go to my school. i dont him him going out with grace i want to be with him. but apparently he has known grace for a few years and ive only known him for a few months and ive heard shes really pretty and im just average. so how can i show him that im a better choice than she is???
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Don't be so available, and don't "chase" him.
Find something to do that will help you feel more beautiful about yourself.
Cultivate other friends that you can be "busy" with.
Practice some skills or talents in areas of interest to you - and tackle getting better at something that you are really bad at.
Occasionally casually invite your semi-ex-boyfriend to do something you're interested in, but don't pressure him. Mostly use that as an opener to ask how he's doing, and what he's been doing lately.
On a part-time basis, be interested in him, and what his interests are
But avoid being just interested in him being interested in you - making it an obligation on his part takes all the fun out of it, for him and for both of you.
Your best course of action is to work on being "just friends" with him for a while, minimize any stress and drama, and to energetically cultivate your talents and the other things that make you beautiful.
Luyah
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Hello! You are not, I repeat, NOT "just average." Don't be so quick to label yourself or sell yourself short. You have heard she is pretty, well so what. Beauty is an opinion, and believe me, girls are much harder on themselves then guys are. We tend to be fed on one specific image by the media...how utterly boring! I know for a fact that guys have very varied tastes and that no two guys have identical preferences. Sometimes the competitive nature of guys added with their immaturity will lead them to fight over a select type of girl because she is currently the stereotypical beauty, but as the guys grow up and get past being told who they should like, they realize that they have their own opinions of beauty and it is not limited to the media's ideal of the moment.
If you want him or any guy to see you for the babe you really are, you need to do the following. 1. Never think you are average. What you believe about yourself, will be a message to others on how they should think of you. 2. Know that the existence of other pretty girls does not in any way take away from your personal attractiveness. 3. The secret weapon of all sexy women is confidence. Confidence is not a crown that you win at a beauty competition. It is internally decided and radiates in all you do. 4. Enjoy your own company and believe that you have something to offer. Others will see that you are someone that they want to be around. 5. Never chase a guy, lower yourself to desperate measures, or get jealous over potential threats. The only girl you have to compete with is yourself. If a guy does not want to be with you, then he is too dull to get what makes you hot. Move on to better, more perceptive guys who see you like you see yourself...a unique goddess and fun to be around cutie.
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Ok, your first sentence bugs me a bit. You were in love for a little over a week? I was 'in love' with Lance Bass for a little over a week when I was 7. Dosen't mean he felt the same way. What do you really know about him? What attracts you to him? Don't just use the typical, everyday words either...nice, kind, funny, etc. I can name a million and one guys like that. What exactly are you in love with? Is it how you two can talk for hours about the stupidest things? Or how he always notices every new little make up/hair trick you've discovered? I think you need to find out a little bit more about this dude before you totally lose your mind over him. Sounds like an ass to me, if he can move on that quick.
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Firstly, how do you know you're a better choice than she is? Obviously if you fancy someone, you would think that. But you need to think about the way he feels, too. Perhaps he feels more comfortable talking to her etc. and they have more things in common than he does with you?
I'm not trying to tell you to back away from this guy, because if you've "fell in love" with him, it could be worth fighting for.
Just don't get your hopes up. I've seen people in this situation get hurt too many times and to be honest, it's just not worth it.
Ask him to hang out. Plan it like a week before so he won't make other plans. If he agrees, I wish you the best of luck. If not, you've tried your best and you've put yourself out for this guy. If he's not doing the same back, he's obviously not worth it.
If this is the case and you start talking to each other alot less than you do now, he may realize how much he misses you and ask you to hang out and really mean it.
But if not, I know it hurts, but you really do need to get over it.
Best of luck x
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