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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

my forum
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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!

--Jack

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what was justin timberlakes brand new song on trl today

I didn't watch it today, nor do I watch everday, but I visited www.mtv.com and found this:

"LoveStoned/I Think She Knows Interlude" by Justin Timberlake

Is that it?

--Jack
(15/m)

I'm starting high school this year, I'm curious to know how much pressure there is to drink, smoke, and have sex. I know some of my good friends that have changed alot, but I also know tons of kids that haven't changed a bit! I have strong goals, I don't drink or smoke however I have taken part of sexual activity. Any tips to staying strong in high school? Most of my friends have drank or smoke, but none of them have pressured me. (its usually an if-you-want-to type of thing) Should I expect that to change alot?

Honestly- there isn't much pressure unless you're hanging out with those people. If people ask you to, just tell them "No!". If they make fun of you or whatever- just remember that you'll be making fun of them later in life when they are in their 40s and live off of drugs and alcohol and other drugs.
And it will probably be the same as it has been [the "if you want to" type of thing, although no one can guarantee anything]. Everyone has a different high school experience, so its hard to tell EXACTLY what is going to happen.

Good luck, freshy ;-)
--Jack
(15/m/sophomore)

my comp sometimes wont open paint. whats up

Try restarting your computer. If that doesn't work, try deleting paint off of your computer, and then redownloading it.

--Jack
(15/m)

I recently got pregnant from having sex with some guy I met at a bar one night. I know. It was wrong of me, and I feel terrible. I am debating whether or not I should get an abortion. I know that this guy won't ever even consider being a father, and I don't know if I can handle a baby on my own. I've heard so many stories of single mothers going crazy. I don't know what to do! I'm so torn up inside!
Does anyone have any advice they are willing to give to me to help me make the right decision.

Thanks so much to you all.

Please, don't get an abortion. It will be killing the baby, and its immoral. Just because you can't handle the baby, doesn't mean you can't put it up for adoption. That baby is precious, and you never know what that baby could accomplish with its life.
There are plenty of adoption agencies out there to help you. Check one out!

--Jack
(15/m)

Why, hello there.

I noticed you have a forum in you "About Me" section. I was wondering, how do you get one? Sorry if this is a stupid question, but I haven't been on this site in a little over a year. Bare with me.

Hey there!

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=30323

Notice the "30323" at the end of the link. If you go onto your column, and click "ASK ME A QUESTION", the URL on the page has a number at the end. This number is the registered columnist you are. So, I am the 30,323rd columnist to register on this site. There are 45,751 registered columnists right now.
Anyway, take your number, and replace my number with yours [so you put it at the end after the "="], and that gives you your own personal forum.

So you take your URL, and add it to the following code to get it to appear like it does in my column [as "my forum"]:

My Forum or whatever you want to show up

Check mine out sometime, and make sure to put the link on your column so people know about it.

--Jack
(15/m)

everyone tells me that if a guy really liked me he'd ask me out, but isn't it possible that a guy could really like you and not ask you out because he's either afraid of rejection or getting hurt again?

Yes, that's very possible. In fact, that's why I've been reserved from asking anyone out for my teenage years so far. I'm afraid of being rejected sometimes, and also very realistic that I could and will get hurt again. Every guy feels this way, whether they admit it or not. Some are just more able to conquer fears and ask a girl out. My advice: don't wait for anyone to love you. Find someone else.

--Jack
(15/m)

my mum doesn't trust any of my friend she doesn't let me go or have any sleep overs!
i have been crying a river now because it's my best m8's birthday and she is having a sleepover and i am invited but my mum woun't let me go.

what shall i do?

Tell your mom all the reasons you think you should be able to go. Make sure its at a time when she is calm, like at dinner or something. At mature when you ask her why she won't let you go. Don't act whiny and cry [not to be rude, but I'm just making a point]. Showing maturity will be a definite plus.
If you are 15 or 16, tell your mom that you think you are old enough to be able to hang out with friends and go to a sleepover.

--Jack
(15/m)

On my new phone, it says "One Touch Dialing" On, Or off.
Its set to on.
What the heck is it??

http://factorydirectcellular.com/popup/more-one-touch.htm

That website looks like it could help.

--Jack
(15/m)

I was diagnosed with Strep throat yesterday. I was put on medication. I have to take 2 doses 3 times a day. So far, I've only had 3 doses. 1 before I went to sleep, 1 in the morning, 1 at lunch, etc etc. I still feel really sick & all but it said it takes a few days to kick in. When would it be ok to start exercising again? I get my fever on & off. The sore throat is still there. I haven't exercised since monday, I got the strep tuesday. When would it be ok to go back to my normal routine? I'm afraid to go right back to it tomorrow because I have only been eating cereals, jello, toast, & crackers. Obviously that isn't enough energy to run but I have been drinking lots of fluids. Should I just start fresh on monday? The reason I'm concerned is because I have an eating disorder & I'm obsessed with running. All I've been doing is laying on the couch & going on the computer. It's been bothering me. Thanks!

Here's a link that may help you.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=500080

Here was my answer:

I would say Monday would be fine. Usually it takes people a week or so to get over strep throat, at least from my friends' experiences. Since you're obviously a runner, I assume you're athletic, and will most likely get over it quicker than most.

And don't worry about gaining weight. If you can any weight at all, it will be less than a pound. I'm sure you'll be able to run anything you do gain off in no time!

Feel better!

--Jack
(15/m)

How do you see abuse reports you've filed before?

And also, how do you add a profile picture?

Well its already all been answered, but:

Here's the link to your abuse reports, quickly:
http://www.advicenators.com/abuse.php?mode=list&view=mine

And as for the profile picture, tinypic.com or photobucket.com work well.

Also- here's the FAQ.

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php

--Jack
(15/m)

15 f
ok so i really need money. my parents dont give me allowence and its just so hard to go shopping with my friends and not have enough money to get what i want. so i know i can babysit, watch a house for a neighbor while they are on vacatiuon, walk dogs and stuff like that. but how do i ask for those jobs. like i have asked some of the neighbors that i know and they said they dont need anyone right now. so what should i do? i really need the money. like how do i let anyone else know that i am whilling to take care of there dogs and things like that? help? thanks!!

Make fliers saying that you'll be willing to watch anyone's dog, or whatever other chores you're willing to do, and put them in your neighbor's mailboxes. Heck, put them all over your neighborhood! Make sure to have your parents help you out, that way the flier looks legit, and includes:
-your home phone number
-your address
-your cell phone number
-when you're able to watch dogs
-how much you'll charge

Good Luck!
--Jack
(15/m)

have you ever been harassed on myspace over the summer and then again by the same people at your schhol? if you did what did you do about it?

Acutally, I have been harassed on MySpace over the summer, and then by the same people at school. Its terrible. I know EXACTLY how you feel. What you need to understand is that they are scum. Seriously, if they need to sink that low just to harass someone for self-gain- they are absolute, 100% SCUM. They are nothing more than evil people that are just out to hurt you. Just keep your head up high at school, and just ignore their NASTY ways. Don't let them get to you. Its not worth it, trust me. You end up showing weakness to those who are harassing you, and they will only keep doing it. Showing that it doesn't burden you, even if it may deep down inside, will show that you are stronger than any of them could EVER be.

Good Luck!

--Jack
(15/m)

I love your site; great advice. [:

Thanks, but this isn't a question. If you have a question, ask it in the question link. If you want to chat, my forum is always open!

my forum!

--Jack
(15/m)

ok well i've been liking the same guy for 2 years. he hasnt liked me though. but on the last couple days of school i caught him staring at me A LOT. is this a sign of anything? everyone says we'd be a cute couple. but his best friend always gets in the way of us and its really annoying. is there a way that he can pay more attention to me, regard his best friend being with him?
pleassseeee help !
13/f

Well, I personally am having "advice-block" and I can't really come up with a nice answer that would really help you right now.

BUT! Please feel free to check out my Favorite Columnists on the right side of my column. Any of them would be more-than-able to help you out.

Sorry I couldn't be much of a help!

--Jack
(15/m)

hey!

i noticed that you had your blog and your forum in your about me section of your column. i was wondering how i can get that on mine??

oo and by the way, i love your colomn =)

Sarah
sdcutie717

Hey! Follow these instructions, and where it says "put what you want to appear..." put either "my blog" or "my forum".
If you need the link to your forum, post your username in the feedback, and I can get it for you!

Instructions:
left arrow, "a href", then "=", then put the URL here without spaces and then a right arrow.... then put what you want to appear for the link after the arrow, and close it off with a left arrow, right slash "/" and an "a" and a right arrow.

And thanks for visiting my column!

--Jack
(15/m)

im tired of being at home. its so boring and its summer break! my mom wont let me out of the house if i decide i want to go with my friends she will only let me go oncew or twice a week the rest i stay here at home bored to death. my cable doesnt work so i cant watch tv. i get so mad because she barely lets me go out. i tell her to please let me go out because its summer break and she says no that i cant be out so muhc. but im 15 turning 16 in a few days!! im not a baby and i keep telling her that. ugh what should i do? comments? advcie? anything is helpful, thanks!

If she won't let you go out with friends, invite friends over for a change.
If she won't let you do that, sit her down, and explain to her all the reasons you think you should be able to hang out friends:

1.) Its summer, and sitting at home is boring and isn't productive.
2.) If you let me be with friends, I will follow all curfew rules you set in place.
3.) I'm almost 16; I'm a teenager- and teenagers have some of the best times of their lives being with friends- why would you [your mom] deny me of that?
4.) I'm old enough to know right from wrong. I won't get in any trouble, and if I do- you can set stricter rules.
5.) When you were my age, you probably hung out with friends during the summer. If you got to do it, I think I deserve to be able to as well.

--Jack
(15/m)

Sometimes my mom can be my best friend, but often she takes it way too far. She'll ask me very private questions, won't let me have time to myself, and whenever I don't get invited somewhere she pesters me to basically admit to her that I'm a loser. She's always making me feel worse about myself asking questions like "Why does no one like you? Why don't they invite you places? Why are you sitting home alone again?" I quit cheerleading a few months ago (she was totally against me quitting it) so now she always tells me if I stuck with cheering I'd actually have friends. This really hurts.

I've tried asking her to stop, but then she just tells me I'm too sensitive and to get over myself. I'm not sure what to do about her anymore.

Tell her that she is your mom, and its not that she doesn't need to care, [trust me, she does care if she's continually talking to you.. some teens NEVER talk to their parents and regret it later in life], its just that your mom needs to be your MOM. I know that sounds obvious, but she doesn't need to be your best friend. She needs to discipline you when necessary, set rules, and establish a healthy environment for you. Tell her that its okay that she cares about you, but you can handle things on your own SOMETIMES. Tell her that you need to start making some of your own decisions [friend-wise and all the other things she "pesters" you over], and that if you need help, you'll ask her.

I hope that wasn't confusing with all the brackets...

AND!

Congrats on being my 500th question answered!!

--Jack
(15/m)

How many pictures does a 2 GB digital memory card hold? And 1 GB and 4 GB? for digital cameras

It depends on your camera, but I have a 2G memory card, and a Canon Powershot A530 and that tends to hold around 400 pictures or more at a time. Maybe closer to 500. So, a 1G would have around 250, and a 4G would have around 1,000.

--Jack
(15/m)

how do i put a picture on my advice column?

Go into "Profile Settings" under "Welcome, [Insert Your Username Here]!"

And toward the top, you can either:

A) Upload a picture of you from your computer [no more than 15K which is pretty small].
B) Put a URL of a picture of you in. This will allow for bigger pictures. If you upload a picture from your computer onto www.tinypic.com and then use the URL of that picture, it can be put into this box on your Profile Settings.

--Jack
(15/m)

okay. so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about a year now. and i really really love him. infact we talk about getting married one day. heres the problem, im young. 15. same for him. is it odd for us to be thinking that far ahead even when we are so young? i mean i can't doubt us being in love, and we just feel that connection. and its been there from the start. there are no dull moments. yes we have been through alot, but it was my fault(i was diagnosed with a brain disorder about halfway though everything and had to spend alot of time in the hospital). but i honestly think that we have a future together. does anyone think this is odd?

Its not odd. I honestly don't believe in being able to REALLY love when we are this young (I'm 15 as well). BUT! I am just like Laura [below] in that my parents met when they were my age, and they were middle school/high school sweethearts.. and today is actually their 20th wedding anniversary.
So, no, its not odd, but don't feel like just because you think you love someone at this age, that its necessarily real, as I've had many of my friends make this assumption before, and it didn't turn out well.

--Jack
(15/m)

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