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School pressures in high school?
I'm starting high school this year, I'm curious to know how much pressure there is to drink, smoke, and have sex. I know some of my good friends that have changed alot, but I also know tons of kids that haven't changed a bit! I have strong goals, I don't drink or smoke however I have taken part of sexual activity. Any tips to staying strong in high school? Most of my friends have drank or smoke, but none of them have pressured me. (its usually an if-you-want-to type of thing) Should I expect that to change alot?
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Listen to me carefully. The pressure is all in your mind, you create the pressure out of envy and jealousy. Theres no problem with experimenting, but if you go overboard it WILL fuck over your life. You can meet many great people in high school you do indulge in these things, but only the best will not pressure you. If they tell you to do something just don't hang out with them. It's not like you HAVE to do it. It's just a popularity rat race you create in your head to fit in with society, don't play their games.
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It depends what kind of school you go to. I go to a school that it is strongly discouraged to drink, smoke, etc. Parents are very overprotected at my school. We are safe from that stuff, so I feel it's safe to enter High School. I'm enerting 9th grade this year too.
Your school seems like some people do it and some people don't. It depends how much peer pressure you can take. I understand you have a hard foot about drink, smoke, etc. You won't do it. I don't blame you. It will change your whole life. When your friends ask you one, strongly in a harsh voice that you won't and don't pressure me. Tell them you don't want to and never will. Your friendship with the drunkers or smokers will change. They might never want to be your friend. Don't worry about that. True friends don't pressure friends. If your friends say they won't be your friend if you don't do something they won't be your friend, ignore that and move on. Good luck!
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There's really no pressure. I mean i'm sure there are people that have been but once you say nah, i don't smoke/drink, people will just kinda turn away... more for them! a lot of people will start but don't freak out or turn your back on them... most people go through phases and whatnot. tips: don't go to parties that are centered around drinking. i mean by all means gooo to parties but if you know that one is JUST drinking (which people might not invite you to anayway since you don't drink) avoid it. don't go around "bragging" like "i have never and will never drink" so you'll be cool with people... but if they ask, just say no. it's easier than you think. if you need anything else, let me know. <3
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I just finished my sophomore year of highschool, and least to say, there's never been any pressure to do anything. Like you said, if anything, it was the whole if-you-want-to thing. Any of the 'bad' stuff I've done is because I chose to do it, with no pressure from anyone. Just curiousity. But it all depends on who you hangout with. My close group of friends aren't that much into it. I have friends who smoke, drink, have sex but none of them go around like "YOU'RE A WUSS/PRUDE IF YOU DON'T DO THIS." or anything. Movies and shows can show that because there are cases where that happens, but everyone has different experiences in HS. It all just depends.
Good luck!! Have fun freshmen year, fishy :)
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Well I just finsihed my freshmen year in highschool. And honesly I didn't think it was that much differnet than middle school except there were really any clicks..you had friends in age from 13 to 18 which is cool. but as for the whole smoking drinking sex thing. I wasn't really "sucked into it" so to speak. I mean I'd heard people talking about parties and how this person gave head to this person but I wasn't involoved. But that's me. But my other friend however go sucked into it. She started hanging out with this girl who was I'm sorry to say a slut who drank and smoke. But as long as your keep your morals and "safe" friends close you'll be good. BUt theres not tha tmuch to worry about just remember you don't have to do anything you don't want to and if they start to make fun of you or anything just be like well your so drunk or high that you won't remember tonight. I will. Or the people having sex and crap they'll proably have and STD before the end high school and that'll ruin their life. or have a kid. so remember the out come of you choices.
Good luck and high school is awesome!
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Honestly- there isn't much pressure unless you're hanging out with those people. If people ask you to, just tell them "No!". If they make fun of you or whatever- just remember that you'll be making fun of them later in life when they are in their 40s and live off of drugs and alcohol and other drugs.
And it will probably be the same as it has been [the "if you want to" type of thing, although no one can guarantee anything]. Everyone has a different high school experience, so its hard to tell EXACTLY what is going to happen.
Good luck, freshy ;-)
--Jack
(15/m/sophomore)
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