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Abortion
I recently got pregnant from having sex with some guy I met at a bar one night. I know. It was wrong of me, and I feel terrible. I am debating whether or not I should get an abortion. I know that this guy won't ever even consider being a father, and I don't know if I can handle a baby on my own. I've heard so many stories of single mothers going crazy. I don't know what to do! I'm so torn up inside!
Does anyone have any advice they are willing to give to me to help me make the right decision.
Thanks so much to you all.
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Don't get an abortion! There are tons of people out there who would be MORE the Happy to take your baby! People who can't have there own children, and LOTS more! Don't have an abortion though, who knows! That baby may turn out to be an awesome person! :)
Your Truly,
Abigail
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You are going to hell if you do it-Its not the babys fault your ass got drunk and opened you legs- that why my mom told me that a lady never gets drunk only a little tipsy!
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dont do it and ill show you why!!!
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<font color="blue">if geting an abortion isnt harming anything then why are they showing us that it is!</font>
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<b>if you are going to have sex your giving a risk of getting pregnate. if you do not want a baby then <u> dont do it <u>
<b> shame on the people who kill...
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God is our creator he does not allow killing.
<u>it is still a human being who still can feel why take a life away!!!
<br> if its not killing then what do they call this?
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<font size="40">if your against this then repost it as fast as you can... you have a heart dont you? dont comit a murder...save lives♥
it will haunt you for the rest of your life if you dont repost this!!!!
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If you are willing to have the baby, there are many, MANY people waiting to adopt. All of your expenses would be paid, and you would be able to avoid having an abortion, and any responsibility for your actions all at once. Everybody wins:
You, the baby, and some very happy couple.
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Do not get an abortion, its like oyour murdering a little kid.
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in my humble opinion, you should get an abortion. you have a lot going for you and a baby could completely mess it up.
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A baby is a human. It is not the baby's fault that it was born, it was yours. The baby deserves to have a full and prosperous life. I do not advise you to put the baby up for an abortion, because of the fact that you would feel really bad afterwards, and there would be no way to undo it.
I would attempt to take care of it. If after awhile it becomes to stressful, and painstaking, then you can put it up for adoption. If you live a little with the baby, at least if you put it up for adoption, you know that you tried your best to give the baby the life it deserves.
Abortion is not the answer. Imagine if, oh lets say when Rosa Parks was born, her mom got an abortion(obviously this didnt happen), where would the world stand today? Would we all still have seperate seats on the bus seperating people of color? We probably would, and if her mom gave her up for abortion, she was probably not aware of what her daughter could do.
If you were raped, I think abortion would still be wrong, but adoption would be the answer then. You can take a break from college, and continue with it after a few years of caring for the kid.
Good luck!
At least try to live with this child.
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you could put the kid up for adoption once you have it, although you never know where you placed the kid after you put him up for adoption. you could have set him/her into a worse way of living than what you could've given it. it's really your decision. if you feel you're not capable of taking care of a kid right now, then maybe you should have an abortion. talk to your family, see what they have to say. don't end your career goals because of one night.
ps! be more careful when you're going out to a bar :)
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Adoption i personally feel is best. If you do have an abortion, i know many people how have never been able to get over the guilt of killing thier baby, even 20, 30 years after. And that is not something you want to carry around for the rest of your life. Also it could serously damage you phyiscally and emotionaly. You don't seem to be ready to raise a child so putting him/her up for adoption is a loving thing to do. Not only are you giving your baby life, but the chance at a life with a family more capable to support him/her then you might be able to give. I'm not going to tell you how to run your life but for the babys sake and yours I would put the baby up for adoption. Good luck <3
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Look I know an abortion sounds like the easiest awnser but hey it's not the best i mean what did this baby do I know it may seem like a lot of work but you should consider adoption. my friend went through the same thing and she put the baby up for adoption and now it lives with a wonderful family.
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I really think you should NOT get an abortion. An abortion is basically like murder. Not matter how it happened. Im sorry that you've been put in this postion but please dont do it. IT can also harm your body in the long run. If you dont think you can handle a baby right now , than adoption is the best answer. There are so many parents out there that are cant have children and are looking to adopt.Please dont have an abortion. its so wrong in so many ways.
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Well im sorry your at a loss of what to do. But please dont get an abortion. There are so many parents out there who would love to have children but cant.( This is the problem my parents had) Why not give the baby up for adoption and not only save the life of a child but help a family who isnt lucky enough to have children like you can? If you decide you really dont want the child please just give it up for adoption.
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Hey. First of all, I am so sorry that you have been put in this position. I don't personally know anyone whos been raped but you hear so many horror stories and I know you must be going through an incredibly rough time, especially because your pregnant.But please please please listen to me, don't get an abortion! You would be taking the life of an innocent baby who didn't ask to be born the way he or she was concieved. If you don't want the baby please give it to parents who do, maybe people who can't get pregnant themselves. I understand where your coming from but pleased don't kill the baby. Good luck ♥ fabulous
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i thank you should get a abortion.
beacuse you dont even no that guy and her probally though of wow this will be fun yanoe? thinking of nothing about a baby so yeah abortion best way to go.and rap is totalyyy opposite.
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Please don't get an abortion.
That's taking the life away from the child before it's even been giving the gift of living it.
And you never know,
that one child could change the world one day.
<3 Laura.
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Thank you so much for the wonderful feedback.
It truly made me feel so good and it makes me want to keep helping people on this site.
Best of Luck! :]
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Well i'm only 15/f so I'm not sure if my point of view will help but i'll try. I don't think you should get an abortion. Sure having a baby will be alot of work and such but are you mentally and physically ready to handle such a huge life changing decision. And I'm not sure if this is possible but you could possibly place the child up for adoption and then keep in comon with the family and watch your child grow up whie you finish college. But I don't think the answer is abortion. And who knows maybe your strong enough to hand having a child. They're hard work at first but I'm sure it'd be worth it.
Hope I Helped.
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There are other options other than abortion. Please don't do it.
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Why not give the baby a chance at life and put him or her up for adoption? There are so many parents out there that are unable to have children and would be able to give your baby a loving home.
While I'm against abortion, I do understand if you want to have one. Just PLEASE make sure you are responsible next time so you won't have to be in this situation again. I'm sure you've learned your lesson.
Before ruling the father out, have you even talked to him about the fact that you're pregnant? How much do you really know about him? I really think it would be a good idea to call him up and discuss your options together. He got you into this too and he should help in making the decision.
I'm sure even if you did end up keeping the baby as a single mother, you wouldn't go crazy. Would it be easy? No. But having your own child can truly be a rewarding experience. Whether or not you are ready to handle that experience is your choice and your choice alone. If you can support the baby and have family to support you, why not consider keeping the baby?
I wish you the best and I hope it works out. Just know that you have other options besides abortion.
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please please please keep the baby. having an abortion is murder. you are killing the baby and not giving it a chance to live. killing it would be very selfish of you. if you keep the baby, you will learn so much and grow so much responsibility. many women who have abortions regret it in the future. they always think about the baby "they could have had." you dont want to feel guilty your whole life. just let this baby live and you will feel so proud and happy to own it. even if the father is not supportive, that doesnt mean you cant meet some other guy to help you out, right?
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Please, don't get an abortion. It will be killing the baby, and its immoral. Just because you can't handle the baby, doesn't mean you can't put it up for adoption. That baby is precious, and you never know what that baby could accomplish with its life.
There are plenty of adoption agencies out there to help you. Check one out!
--Jack
(15/m)
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