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about

I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

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okay this guy that i like has been cting weird. Well he used to talk to me and be really nice but now he doesn't talk to me a t all and he talks to my best friend like all the time......what is goin on does he like her or something but i mean he told me that he thought she was really wierd and also he has a girl-friend which he loves to death but i don't know why he doesn'ttalk to me anymore....what's going on?

You need to ask HIM what's going on in his head, not us. Only he can answer your questions. If he is really your friend, you can talk to him about this.

Ok im a fifteen year old male. I thought my best friend hacked my myspace and i blamed it on him. When really it was my mother. I dont know how she did it. She read all my personal blogs. She brings me to counseling now which I dont need. Because I said in there Im manic depressive. I know I am Ive been diagnosed by a retired doctor that my mother didnt know I was seeing because he was related to one of my good friends. What do I tell the counselor? she keeps asking me whats going on why didnt you tell your mom this. Im a very private kid and i dont like to discuss things with my mom. what do i do? My mother deleted all my 984 friends. Including my best friend which is austin. I think shes jealous I have friends. She doesnt like austin. He's a great person too.

Maybe if you would talk to her about your problems, she won't feel the need to research you behind your back out of worry.

Being a private person is one thing, but when your councilor suggests you say certain things, you need to tell her. How do you ever expect to get over your problems?

I highly doubt she is jealous of your friends. I would be willing to bet she just wants to know what goes on in your closed up world.

16/f
This year and last year have been really tough on me because i have lots a lot of my friends because they moved and went to different school and whatnot. So i was left with one good friend. But we kept getting into fights all the time and i was getting fed up with it. So one day i let it all out and said how i was feeling and i told her she was a bad friend(because she is). She clearly didnt care and we stayed friends. Like people always ask me how i deal with her and stuff and im just like idk i just do, but i think im relizing that im just useing her becuase i dont have anyone left, i mean yea we have lots of fun times but i think i spend more time not likeing her and talking about her behind her back. What should i do? i know this itsnt the right thing to be doing!

You need to go and make yourself some new friends, and stop being a fake to this other friend. Let's be realistic here, you say SHE is a bad friend, but what are you? Not much better, that's for sure.

How, exactly, does that make you a better person in the situation? I'm sorry, but it doesn't.

im thinking about usins vo5 hot oil treatments because my hair is really damaged, does anyone know if its bad to use more than one hot oil treatment per week?

It is a form of deep conditioning treatment. By using it more than once a week, the only thing you will hurt is your pocket book in time.

whats the point of the war in America? i dont get it.. saddam huusain, iraq, bombs, etc. like seriously.. did we just go attack them because of 9/11? and what provoked the people to attack us in the first place? gosh it seems all stupid, but im not entirely sure what its about too.

we should spend our taxes for better, more constructive reasons.

13/f

What's the point of war, period? Because too many people with too much power in too many countries think its fun to show their asses...

No. We are not in Iraq because of 9/11. My opinion as to why we are there? Because of oil.

okay this may seem odd and gross but i have always wondered this. Why is it thatwhen you throw up spagetti noddles they always come back up whole?

You know, I wonder the same about corn and peanuts when they make it out the other end...

Another bit of our body's odd mysteries....

okay so when guys kiss girls do guys like it better when there wearing lipgloss or no? do they like it better when there lips are wet(like after u like them) or dry. please answer fast!

Girl, here. I know my husband absolutely HATES lip stick, lip gloss, chap stick, or anything of the sort. He says it is greasy and slimey and it gets all over his lips, which he absolutely can't stand.

can someone tell me all about Lucifer (is that his name) and God's argument and how hell was created and stuff? thanks

I don't know how Hell was created, and I'm thinking (but not positive) that Lucifer may have gotten power hungry, or thought he was all mighty and was cast from Heaven. But, like I said, I'm not sure.

Yes, Lucifer is his name. He was one of God's high Angels. He is also known as Satan and The Devil.

i don't know if this is the right category, but i'm 15 - and i have a boyfriend. we've been together for almost a year now, and in november - his mom asked if i would like to join them on their spring break in colorado. my parents have been going along with it for the past 4 months, they haven't exactly said yes .. but they haven't totally declined it either. today, my mom said that she was leaning more towards no because "i'm only 15 and she doesn't think it's sending the right message .. staying with my boyfriend for a week" i TOTALLY understand their concern, but WHY didn't she tell me this earlier? my boyfriend and i have been talking about this since i first found out in october! we were SO excited! my parents said that i had to get all a's and b's .. and progress reports just came out .. guess what - i have all a's and b's! what can i do to prove to them that i am responsible enough to go with him? PLEASE HELP!

EDIT: Gee. Thanks for rating me a 1 for not telling you what you wanted to hear. Guess some people can't handle the truth. Don't you know that ratings abuse is against the rules here?

I would venture to say that she didn't say no earlier because she wanted to think long and hard about it before giving you an answer. That is a HUGE decision for them to make. They are deciding as to weather or not sending their 15 year old daughter to Colorado with her boyfriend and family for a week is something they are comfortable with.

Yah, at 15, my parents wouldn't have had to think about it before giving me a firm no on that one...

Honestly, she is right in her concern. She is right that it wouldn't be sending the right message. You said they never said yes or no- that means it was a debate up in the air. Their final decision is that it isn't the best thing to do.

I don't think you should start begging or pleading your case. That doesn't prove responsibility. Responsibility is saying, "Ok, I respect your decision. Maybe we can work out something different next time."

Next time, wait for your parents to make a firm decision before you start getting excited and making plans. It saves you all this trouble in the long run.

what should i take in 10th grade...french or spanish? whaterver i choose i want to take all 3 yrs cause its what a colleg will look for. so i want to have an impressive resame. what will look better 3 yrs of french or spanish? thanks

Just FYI- There are a lot of spanish speaking people in the United States; however, the spanish you learn in school isn't the same spanish spoken by Mexican Americans, or in Mexico for that matter.

My brother's brother-in-law is Hispanic, and flunked spanish class, even though he was raised to speak spanish by his parents. Why? Because it is a different form of the language than what he knew.

I don't know which you should choose, because I would assume spending 3 years learning any foreign language would look good on a college resume. Take the class for the one you would rather learn.

I have been dating my boyfriend for 20 months now. I couldn't love him more. There's this little problem though: he doesn't have a job. He quit his job back in November and is barely even trying to get a new one. He used to be a cashier, so he refuses to apply at any job that deals with serving people in general. It bugs the hell out of me that he won't get off his ass, suck it up, and get a job. He needs the money and we both know it. I bug him about getting a job everyday and he just tells me not to worry and he'll take care of it. He told me yesterday he was getting a new gaming system and that just made me thing "Wow. Now you can put off getting a job even longer."

He doesn't ask me for money and I don't lend it to him, but I get upset when we can't go out as much as we used to because he doesn't have any money and I can't pay every time. I'm worried that he'll always be this irresponsible and he won't be able to help support our kids when we get married.

I don't know if I should just leave him and tell him to call me when he gets a job or just sit tight, be supportive, and keep my mouth shut. I love him and I'd do anything to help him out, but this is getting ridiculous. What would you do?

Well, it goes to show where his priorities lie. He has no job, no income, and is spending money on frivolous items such as gaming systems?

I would give him an ultimatum. Either get a job and grow up or you are going to find some one who is willing to show that he is capable of sharing the responsibility of having a family.

If he won't comply, I would seriously consider reevaluating my relationship, especially before even considering the idea of marriage, let alone bringing children into this world with him.

today i got dressed up for school. he have uniforms wich reqires us to wear collard white shirts and navy skirts but thays all. 2day i wore an adorable black hat and Pink coyboy boots. and i felt like a superstar. 2morow is tie day and i need a way to imcorprate a tie itno my outfit and still look cute. also, what should i wear for like the rest of the year? ill go shopping and everything i just need to know what to get! thank you!!

I, personally, would think to wear a 3 Stooges tie for tie day. But that is because my fashion style has always been my own. I dare to be different.

hey, just another, i promise the last, question in science grade 8.

whats the density & viscosity of a liquid, syrup and ketchup.
thank you.
id appreciate so much =]

Hmmm... Not to sound like a jerk here, but this isn't a question asking for help or advice. This is a question asking for answers to homework.

Ask your teacher. That is what your parents' taxes pay them for.

Ok...the story is that my ex and I broke up 4 months ago. I am still completely inlove with him no matter how I have tried getting over him. We still talk and all, sometimes hang out. People who don't even know him though saw that I should find out if he still likes me because to them it seems like he does. Because he treats me the way he would when we were together and he's always calling me and will talk to me for hours on end. And there was a time when he said that he misses me. Then...I have some other friends who say he is just using me right now(but we're not together and don't have sex or anything). And another thing that confuses me is that my ex will bring up random things about when we were together and will talk about the stuff we did and the places we went. One person said that he might still like me but is just being a typical guy and is afraid to show that he cares. I would like to know other peoples opinions on what they think of this situation. The help is much appriciated.

The fact that he is your ex makes me wonder if he is an ex for a reason? Why did you break up? Was it something major, or was it something petty? If it was something major, I would say you should leave him in your past where he belongs. Petty? Maybe you could consider looking back into rekindling your relationship.

I don't know why he would be using you, if you aren't even having sex with him. (Good for you!)

Best thing you can do is talk to him about it and try to find out what's going on in his head. If he has never given you reason to mistrust him, then I would listen to what he has to say rather than what others say about him.

when i come home from school, my mom is always home early. i hate it. she used to come home at 5:30 and now shes home by 3. shes one of the managers of a company so its not like she gets paid less because she leaves early, but i think she should be mature enough to stay the entire 8 hours like everyone else.

how do i get her to stay until she is supposed to leave work?

Honestly? It's her job and her life. If that's the way she wants to do business, then that's her choice.

At least she is home to greet you from school now. There are a lot of kids out there who aren't so lucky.

My classmate is having a party and she invited everyone in the class except me. I talked to her online and here's our conversation...

Me - why didnt i get an invite ?
Friend - huh?
Me - an invitation to your bday
Her - ...?? what ??
Me - i saw the invitations sam showed me
***SHE BLOCKS ME***

we arent like best friends but i hate how she invited random boys and not me!!!!!! we've never been in a fight and now im crying because she hates me

i feel like i have no friends now

how do i handle this situation?

Hey, just because she didn't invite you doesn't mean you don't have friends.

Honestly? Be glad you weren't invited to her stupid party. Now you know what kind of a jerk she really is. At least you didn't waste money, time, and thought into buying her a gift.

Don't be sad and crying over her. She's not worth your tears, I promise. To let her get you down is letting her win. Let her hate you. That's her loss, not yours.

I was riding on my motorbike, when a school bus driver hit me and threw me over. While I stood up to move the bike he told he will wait for me in the stop light to exchange identities, insurance companies license plates etc. Only he didn t stop, he ran away.
School bus driver knocks a motorbike down, while children are inside the bus and runs away.
Luckily, I got his license plates and I know who he is. I informed my insurance company, his insurance company, the police I ll get my bike fixed and I ll sue his ass.
How? Why? And what can I ask for?

Your best bet? Find an attorney that specializes in auto accidents. They will not only be able to answer these questions, but defend your lawsuit. It is possible that your insurance company can refer you to some one if you can't find a suitable attorney.

If judgement is passed against the bus driver (and it probably will be) he will be responsible for court costs and legal fees as well as the amount of the lawsuit.

Hit and run is a crime. It is even worse that the hit and run driver was in control of a school bus with children on board.

Best of luck to you, and I sincerely hope that man gets everything he deserves for this careless escapade.

my boyfriend and his mom are at the place to pay for his brothers speeding ticket. but they say they cant let her pay for it unless his brother signs it and he isnt with them. so their out in the car and she keeps telling my boyfriend to sign it for him (copy his brothers which is forging) and i told him no dont do it. and he was telling me she was making him and i just kept telling him no so he was talkin to his mom and was like i dont want to and what if i dont. were both 15 and i was wondering what would happen if he did.

If they found out, she would probably be prosecuted for forgery. It is illegal for anyone to sign another person's signature to any document. She broke the law. It's too bad she tried to get her son to do it for her first, though. He did the right thing by not signing it.

I'm not exactly sure what would happen to her, I imagine that depends on your state laws on forgery.

okay for valentines day if u have a boyfriend is he your valentine no matter what? or does he have to ask you?
and if he has to ask you to be ur valentine, is it stupid to ask him?

I would venture to say he is already your valentine. Asking some one to be your valentine is kinda like asking them to be your sweetheart.

he cheated on me. hes with the girl he wanted and wont leave me alone and still bugs me for liking guys. hes really jealous and annoying! is it because he still cares about me and loves me?

16/f

No. It's because he can't have his cake and eat it too. Don't look back; you're far better off without him.

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