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how many times a week would i have to do pilates to get a lean, toned bikini body for summer? (link)
You would probably have to do it 3 or 4 times a week.
Good luckk
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Ok well a while ago i got my hair highlighted and its grow out to where you can see my natural hair color , which is Dark Brown . & today im getting my whole hair colored my Natual color , So when i wash it will it make my hair look more shiney than when it was highlighted ?

Thanks . (link)
It should be shinier than when it was highlighted, but it just depends on what shampoo you use when you wash your hair.
Hope your hair is shiny :]


hey im sam. okay i have this really hot boyfriend. he is nice and funny. his name mike. his 16 im 15. we have been goin out for 6 months. i mean were exclusive. we have basically did everything together. sex,oral,finger.... i feel comftorable with him. okay im not trying to sound stupid but im really pretty. i have long brown hair. Green eyes big boobs perfected body and i cant help but to fool around with other guys. yesterday i went to this party and met this hot guy. im open about my body. so he dared me to take my clothes off. so i did in front of every one. then he took out peanut butter and licked it off my boobs. about 5 guys did. then the hot guy, nick took me upstairs and we had sex. i was drunk should i tell my boyfriend. or just never mention anything. (link)
If you have an unbearbly guilty conscience I would tell him because if you don't, it will always be in the back of your mind and you will always feel guilty about it.
However, if you don't feel guilty and you don't tell him, you're at risk of your boyfriend finding out from someone other than you. Are you okay with that and are you willing to take that risk?
It's okay that you think you're really pretty and all, but doing stuff with other boys while you are in a relationship is not the best way to keep one...so maybe you should just keep the partying to a minimum so that doesn't happen again.
And if I were you, I would tell him but mention to him that you were drunk and that you messed up and that you don't want to lose him because of a stupid mistake you made that won't ever happen again.
Hope I helped and that it works out for you :]


my nose is always red...i dont do drugs or drink or anything, but at school it looks really wierd and gives me a bad rep, cuz i heard it you drink you get a red nose. my coverup wont stay on long enough to hide it...and my face always feels really warm, then my friends tell me that my nose and cheeks are red, im sure its not because im allergic to my makeup...like i said, i get really hot in my face.
so anyway to fix or hide this??
thanks:) (link)
That happens to me a lot too and there really isn't anything you can do about it. Everyone tells me it looks cute, and I bet it looks cute on you too, so don't cover it up, just let yourself be natural :]
[try fanning your face or putting a cold compress on your cheeks when you get really hot]


I'm a 15/m and I like this guy...

how do I tell him that I like him?

(link)
Well, if you guys have already talked and you feel comfortable around him, just casually tell him that you like him maybe say, "I've been thinking...and I really like you..." or ask him if he wants to hang out with you somewhere and tell him how you feel.
Good luck :]


whats the point of getting your hair trimmed at the salon? how much does it cost? and does it constitute as a haircut? no, right? (link)
Getting your hair trimmed makes your hair healthier and gets rid of split ends. It can be considered a hair cut because you did get your hair cut so yeah...even though people might not notice a change and whatnott. And for the price, it depends on what hair salon you go to, but it's usually not that much.
Hope I helped :]


15/f/freshman

this may be a silly question but you know on zoey 101 how they're at that boarding school, is that a real place? like are they're boarding schools that are really like that? it seems like they go to class and then basically can do whatever they want on campus you know?

i was just thinking about it one day, i think it's be sorta cool to go to a boarding school, but hey who knows. (link)
Yeah, I haven't been to any boarding schools but the one on Zoey 101 is fake and boarding schools aren't that flexible with schedules and everythingg. I can imagine that some boarding schools have that kind of style, but they are more strict than those on Zoey 101. It would be cool if one like that existed, but I think that can only be real in fantasies.


i like this guy we have hung out a few times he's in one of my classes i have givin him head before and almost had sex with him i like him a lot he talks to a lot of girls but doesnt mess around with them hes actually still a virgin.. im not. he told me that he liked me but then i heard that he said the same exact thing to my friend a month back. before the first time we hung out he told me that he didnt want a relationship because he wanted to not be tied down to one girl.. i was upset and we stopped talking for a while cuz this girl got on him aim and acted like him and pissed me off. i started talking to him again after he appoligied to me.. i really like him and he told me that he likes me hes just afraid of commitment but then my friend told me that he told her that same stuff when he hungout with her a month or two ago .. he tells me that he doesnt like her at all they are over for sure because her dad doesnt like him but they were never dating.. what should i do? how should i act? (link)
This guy sounds like he is a major league PLAYER and needs to be put in his place so I really wouldn't persue a relationship [it would not even be a realtionship because he doesn't want to be "tied down"] so I wouldn't even think about him if I were you. Who needs a guy that doesn't want to be with one girl specifically? You deserve sooo much more than that and can do soooo much better.
Good luckk


what are ways to get rid of cellulite in the stomach region.. will running help? and how much will i have to run for? (link)
Just rub some cocoa butter on your stomach and running doesn't necesarily help your stomach, but in some ways it sheds off the pounds everywhere, but I would suggest doing crunches, lunges, and sit ups.
But if you decide to run, just go for a 1/2 mile or less maybe for 10 minutes everyday?
Good luckk


So im going to get a promise purity ring soon so i was wondering where do u gut those?
do you have to do anything to make it official? (link)
If you look it up online you can find them and buy them, but the only thing you have to do is make the promise and wear the ring, and not do anything against the purity vow/ring.


hey my name is jessica. i need help looking pretty. i need some tips how to put nice clothes on. when i get my income taxes to go shopping for clothes. do you know any stares that can help me like jc peny and stuff like that. do u know stores in new york or pa that have clothes with skulls on them. thanks in advance and i will rate you help please (link)
I love stores like delia*s and abercrombie, Hollister, Pac Sun, TJ Max, Deb. But if you're looking for shirts with skulls on them, I'd advise you to go to Hot Topic, Pac Sun, Deb and Delia*s [sometimes]
To look nice, just layer and where cute zip up sweathshirts :]
Good luckk


has anybody used it? whats your opinion on how it works? is it better than proactiv? (link)
My friend used it and it didn't really work as well as proactive, but I use Clearasil Ultra Acne Clearing Scrub and it works like magic on my skin :]


15/f/sophomore

alright so we have a dance in a couple of weeks called the Snow Ball. i havent been to a school dance since 8th grade. i'm not ugly, and im really outgoing, and i have friends. and its not that i cant find a date or anything. its just that..i dunno..its just i think i cant handle all the things you have to get done (make up, dress, etc) to go to a dance, and then when you get there, all the people you see, and it's so crowded, and even when im surrounded by my good friends i feel totally alone...

so usually on dance nights i stay at home by myself and just watch tv or something just to distract myself from the fact that all my friends are at school having fun while im at home doing homework or something. and when my friends ask where i was that night i just say that i had to go visit my aunts, or i was sick, or i had to baby sit, or i went to new york for the weekend, or whatever excuses i can come up with..

i wish i could be able to go out and have fun at dances, but i dunno if it just comes down to bad experiences from my 8th grade dance, because that was back when i wasnt as umm "popular" as i am now and i spent most of my time hanging out with people that were friends of my (few) friends.

anyway so i was wondering if this is normal? because lately ive been feeling..idk not self conscious, but kind of sad about it..and i feel lonely. or like..what can i do to have more fun at dances? please dont say "let loose and be yourself" because its kind of hard..arghh i dont even know if what im trying to ask has got across (link)
We just had [or are gonna have] a snowball at my school too! And yeah, I know how you feel, I don't always want to go to dances because I don't really feel comfortable, so I usually just talk with my friends and car pool with them. I'm 15 also, and it's okay to not go to the dance, and yeah it's really hard to "let loose and be yourself" so instead of doing that, try to just hang with your friends at the dance and chill with them because at dances, you don't always have to dance there, you can just observe the party and chat with your friends :] Maybe you'll even bust a move if you get comfortable haha that was really corny of me to say :P Everyone is self concious, even the prettiest girls in school are self concious believe it or not, and this is completely normal that you feel this way, just go with the flow if you get what I mean.
Hope you go and have funn


15/f

when a guy asks for your number, after you give it to them are u supposed to ask them what their number is also?? (link)
Yeah, [most of the time] because you can get in touch with him if he doesn't call you soon enough.


Okay, so I scored a job interview!! I'm so excited.

This will be my second job interview, my first one was for my old job, you can tell I got the job.

I don't have a resume as I've only ever had one job and don't have any school achievements :(

What should I take, and what should I say? Should I remember my first job interview and remember what I did last time to score the job? (Answering HONESTLY, not lying or even exaggerating to get the job and trying to appear calm) (link)
Look nice, act nice, be nice, seem nice, and dress so you look smart. And yeah, remembering what you said on your last job interview would be great because it worked for you last time, so why not this time? Be prepared to answer any question that comes your way and don't sweat it, or sweat at all hehe.
Good luckk


I might have to get braces. I would never think that I would need braces! My teeth are really straight except for one and that one started to hurt when I ate so I went to the dentist. I don't know anything about braces except that they hurt when you first get them and you can't eat for a while. I really am confused so any help would be appreciated. (link)
I had braces and truthfully, it isn't that bad. My teeth [bottom mostly] looked like a bomb exploded down there and I was sooo scared that the braces were gonna hurt, but when I first got them on, all I felt was the metal and no slimy teeh haha [you'll get what I mean if you get braces] and all of those rumors that it's really hard for you to eat because the braces hurt soo much, it's all lies. It doesn't hurt, well, the second or third day it may be a little sore and uncomfortable at first but that only lasts for like one day.
Braces allow you to have perfecdt teeth, and you get to pick colors and everything :] I have a retainer now, and I have to wear it until my teeth stop like moving around, but that's the only minor downside of braces.
My sister has braces and she has very staright teeth but some of them were beginning to become crooked so they put braces on her. Most people have braces, so don't worry about it, even when you are getting the braces put on and taken it off, it doesn't hurt at all.
No worries, it's finee :]


Ok, so I know I really shouldn't even think about being anorexic or anything because I know how unhealthy it is and of the risk factors, but I can't seem to shake the thought of being anorexic. It's because I am like seriously 60 pounds over weight. I am considered obese, although I don't look it. The thing is I am really not happy with how I look or feel and it disgusts me big time. Does anyone know of how I can get rid of these thoughts on wanting to be anorexic? I'm not saying that I am, because I am not....at least not yet. (link)
I know people who have stopped eating and it hurts your metabolism so that when you try to eat something you gain so much more because you are weakiening your metabolisn.
Even though you are not considered anorexic because you still eat, thinking about becoming anorexic is just as bad.
However, if you really feel overweight [which you aren't] try excersizing some more, but don't over do it. You could also go on a diet by eating healthier foods like fruits and vegetables, and some crabohydrates.
You are gorgeous just the way you are and you should believe that and I hope that you can look in the mirror everyday and know that you are beautiful and you don't have to be anorexic to feel that way.
Best of luck to you,


I really want to learn how to play an instrument. I use to play the piano but I stopped and forgot everything. I made that mistake and I want to play an instrument again. I'm in 8th grade and 13 years old. What kind of instrument would be good for me? Can you give me some idea's? And what kind of instrument you play and enjoy? Thanks a lot. (link)
I would try playing the piano again because you can easily relearn it, and some things might come back to you. Pianos also create and give off beautiful sounds, and all you have to do is move your hands, fingers, and occasionally feet without puffing into an instrument like the flute :]
Good luckk


right now I'm taking a depressing pill and also i don't know if I'm pregant since i got all the nauseating, from the depressing pill or pregant, shld i stopped taking pill or what? (link)
If you need the pill to help with your depression, I wouldn't stop taking it until you talk to your doctor and maybe ask him if there is a possibility that the pill is making you sick. [But if you are having doubts and that you think you are pregnant take a pregnancy test] Otherwise, wait until you speak with your doctor and go from there.
Good luckk and feel better!


Ok In the beginning of the year I started dating this guy I never expected to be dating named Jack the thing was we were completely opposite I was totally pushy and he was just so laid back so in Novemeber we broke up and I moved on and he did also he went with this girl who I was in middle school with but I didn't know until he told me and she used to be my friend until she went with an ex of mines before. So you know since we're in the same grade same high school I see him (Jack)all the time so recently we just been hanging out and stuff and all of a sudden on Friday he asked me back out via text message and I'm like what about your girlfriend and he texted me back saying lol sike naw so I just was like ok and dropped the subject. Later that day we met up and just hug out for the rest of the day and we were in Old Navy and he metioned it to me again and I was like I thought you were playing and he said he wasn't and I asked about his girlfriend and he was like I want her to break up with me that's why I avoid her and I'm thinking why?? but I mean what do y'all think I should do cause when we hung out it was like he told me everything about him andhe opened up so much. (link)
Uhm, sticky situation much?
Okay, so you really should not get involved with this guy again because he sounds liek trouble and a lot of drama and since he is STILL in a relationship, hoping [or so he says] that she will break it off with him, don't get back together with him unless the relationship between him and his current girlfriend is over, completely. And it's good that he is opening up to you, but for now, let him figure out what he really wants and what you deserve.
Good luckk




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