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dances are not really my thing..
15/f/sophomore
alright so we have a dance in a couple of weeks called the Snow Ball. i havent been to a school dance since 8th grade. i'm not ugly, and im really outgoing, and i have friends. and its not that i cant find a date or anything. its just that..i dunno..its just i think i cant handle all the things you have to get done (make up, dress, etc) to go to a dance, and then when you get there, all the people you see, and it's so crowded, and even when im surrounded by my good friends i feel totally alone...
so usually on dance nights i stay at home by myself and just watch tv or something just to distract myself from the fact that all my friends are at school having fun while im at home doing homework or something. and when my friends ask where i was that night i just say that i had to go visit my aunts, or i was sick, or i had to baby sit, or i went to new york for the weekend, or whatever excuses i can come up with..
i wish i could be able to go out and have fun at dances, but i dunno if it just comes down to bad experiences from my 8th grade dance, because that was back when i wasnt as umm "popular" as i am now and i spent most of my time hanging out with people that were friends of my (few) friends.
anyway so i was wondering if this is normal? because lately ive been feeling..idk not self conscious, but kind of sad about it..and i feel lonely. or like..what can i do to have more fun at dances? please dont say "let loose and be yourself" because its kind of hard..arghh i dont even know if what im trying to ask has got across
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We just had [or are gonna have] a snowball at my school too! And yeah, I know how you feel, I don't always want to go to dances because I don't really feel comfortable, so I usually just talk with my friends and car pool with them. I'm 15 also, and it's okay to not go to the dance, and yeah it's really hard to "let loose and be yourself" so instead of doing that, try to just hang with your friends at the dance and chill with them because at dances, you don't always have to dance there, you can just observe the party and chat with your friends :] Maybe you'll even bust a move if you get comfortable haha that was really corny of me to say :P Everyone is self concious, even the prettiest girls in school are self concious believe it or not, and this is completely normal that you feel this way, just go with the flow if you get what I mean.
Hope you go and have funn
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It's normal that you don't like going to dances for some ppl its just not what they like to do. but if you still want to try. Do something that you like to do at the dance for example if you like to talk make conversation with someone dances are not all about dancing. Best of luck
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