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I had sex with my boyfriend. When he went to go to the bathroom he saw that the condom wasnt on anymore we looked all over for it then he suggested it was inside me. I checked and it was it was really deep but i pulled it out. I didnt look at it or anything i just flushed it but now i think there a possibility im pregnat. What do you think?

Yes, you could be. If the incident happened within 3 days, I suggest you go somewhere which offers emergency contraception to help lower the risk at least. In the mean time, try not to worry and take a pregnancy test later on :)
At least you know in the future to be a bit more careful!

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ive been fingered, ive masterbated, and ive worn tampons. so my hymen is most likely broken right?

Could be. Although we cannot be 100% sure.

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so im sitting here crying, because my best friend i was talking to her, saying i was gonna switch schools & stuff. because she always ignored me. & all that anyways, she gets this REALLY mean girl into & she starts yelling at me like crazy. & stuff. & so now, im like sitting here crying my eyes out. what do i do?

i know that wasnt alot of information but the screens blurry, so its hard to see.

Are you really moving schools or were you just saying it to make her feel guilty and treat you nicer?
Do you feel like you've dont something wrong and upset her in any way? If so, you should apologize and try to make up with her. If not, and your best friend has just turned nasty, forget her. and if she's the only reason you're moving schools for, think to yourself; is it really necessary? Why should you have to change schools because of her? Because it's a difficult process..
You need to think about this carefully. Tell your friend she made you cry when she got other people involved. She needs to know how you feel. I think you are both just lacking in communication at the moment and need to talk to each other about your feelings more. I don't think either of you would want to make each other upset on purpose.
Hope everything works out for you.

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The other day I was thinking, and if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and you kiss a friend. Like the person is totally just your friend and nothing more.. is it still cheating ?

Depends HOW you kiss them? Peck on the cheek? No.
Peck on the lips, it's not very nice, but I wouldn't consider that cheating. Anything more though and yes, many people would consider that to be cheating. :)

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OKay there is this song its pretty old but i dont knwo what its called it goes

Im blue *if i was green i would die ,if i was green i would die *


*=thats what it sounds like they say

please tell me the name and the band?!?!?!

It's called "Blue (da ba de)" by Eiffel 65 :)

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Theres some guy who likes me and i only want to be friends. he asked for my number and I didn't want to be rude so i did and he texts me everyday and it kinda annoying since i don't like him. and he told me that he wished for me and yeah its sweet but I don't have those feeling for him.

Any advice?

Giving him your number isn't leading him on. If you txt back and flirt etc, then yes, it is.
There's nothing wrong with genereal chit chat/friendship with this person, but you do need to make it clear you don't feel for him in that way. Perhaps next time if he says something a little forward, either don't respond or tell him thankyou, but *....*

If you don't say anything to make him think you like him back, then he will eventually get the hint.

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Heyy.
does anyone know any myspace codes?
like ANYTHING? i know how to bold stuff and make it big, but i know theres some other stuff. sites are good too

http://mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=tutorials§ion=basichtml

Go here. It's great for basic html codes!

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my crush found out i liked him today. (nobody likes him really...i like his personality) he says "he want's to stay single" What does this mean? does this mean he is telling me no....or that maybe later on???

By saying "I want to stay single", it most probably means no, as he's giving no hint into if he would like to in the future. If he would want to later on, he may have said something like "I want to stay single for the moment" or along those lines.

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i have gotten fingered before and i use tampons.. i was just wondering how much it hurt to get your cherry popped, or if its your first time? scale 1-10, 10 being hurting the most. and also what happens when your cherry gets popped?

0.
It doesn't have to be broken by using tampons or sexual activities. It can also be broken by vigorous exercises and sports etc.
Most people don't even notice and some may see spots of blood. Other than that, if you don't just go straight into first time sex, (which obviously would cause discomfort/pain if nothing has ever entered your vagina) it will probably be un-noticed if (or if it hasn't already) happens. :)

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Okay so the other day my boyfriend fingered me and well he's done it before but when he was done his hand was all bloody. I was completely terrified and I'm not completely positive I know what it was. Is it possible he just tore my hymen?

Could be a few things.
Broken hymen is one of them. There's also the possibility your boyfriend scratched you accidently, or even your period (?)
Don't let it worry you though Have him be a little more careful next time incase it was his nails which made you bleed. :)

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my belly button has been pierced numerous times.....UNPROFESSIONAL! can i ever get it professionally done....or can't they do it cause of the scarred tissue????

People will advise you not do it, but if you're prepared to look after it well and can bare the pain of a needle going through scar tissue, go for it.

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im a 13/f. i really want my nose pierced....really bad. Does it hurt though?

I have it done as well as cartilage and the average ear piercings.
There is a quick sharp pain due to the pressure being applied to the needle and your nose, but after 2 seconds it fades fast!
It can sting for about 3 days after if you sneeze etc. and try your best not to bang it as it's easier to become infected or probably worse, have a keloid grow.
If you aren't prepared to clean it lots or do sports, i wouldn't recommend it. It's easy for it to get knocked and it's not very pleasant!
But if you do go ahead, don't let the pain put you off. Don't forget, your eyes will water when having it done so don't let it come as a shock :)
Good luck!

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does andybody have the GHD straightener?? if you do do you like it and how good does it work and everything lol i have reallly curyllly hair and i hate blowdrying does it work on wet or damp hair?? thanks

I've had them for about 4/5 years and they're still going strong! They're great for curly hair, like mine, but sadly, I don't think they would work on wet hair. I've done it a few times whilst SLIGHTLY damp, but I wouldn't recommend it.
But they're quicker than the average straightener because they're hotter and have ceramic plates. :)

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do you have sites where you can download free albums or music plz help

Although I don't approve of this (!), I've heard LIMEWIRE works wonders! :) Be careful though, because with most downloading sites, viruses could be attached. If you have a virus checker, it will come in handy!
Happy downloading :D

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so i had sex last sunday and the condom slid of so on wedensday i went and got the day after pill am i still supposed to get my period. i was already late on my period be4 i had sex and i noe i wasnt pregnant. i am supposed to go back next saturday and i am kinda worried right now

If you took the pill on monday or tuesday, it would have had a higher success rate. You left it to the last day which means there is about a 50-50 chance of it working effectively.
After you've taken the emergency contraceptive pill, your periods can become irregular. (earlier, later) and you could bleed inbetween waiting for your period. (You should have been given leaflets explaining and any other side effects prior)
Inbetween now and saturday, try not to worry. Chances are, it will turn out how you want it. But if not, you've taken a mature step and are receiving help. If it turns out you are pregnant, you will need to think about your options. It's early days, so it will be easy to get a termination if that is what you want.
Best of luck.

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considered a slut if she has sex on the first date?

Nowadays, yes it is. It's down to opinions. Some people won't think anything of it, where others will see you as 'easy' etc.
It's up to you in the end. If it's worth sex on a first date and you 100% want to, fair enough. But if it does get out, you will have to put up with some peoples snide comments.
I personally don't think anything of it. It's the persons own business, not mine. Or anyone elses. :)

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I'm a teenage g i r l. There's a guy who I want to hook up with, and we planned it for next month. I want to do it really badly, as I'm not a christian so I can do whatever I want sexually. But the thing is: I just can't decide if the pleasure is worth the guilt I'll suffer from- if there IS going to be any guilt. I just don't know how guilty I'd feel afterwards. Especially IF and WHEN i happen to meet someone worth dating or marrying.
All advice will be appreciated.

Honest opinion? Don't do it.
If you are seeking advice about whether to have sex, it means you do have doubts. and doubts = bad. and yes, you could regret it in the future when you find that special person and just wish you'd have waited.
I really don't understand young people these days in such a rush to grow up and experience the sexual side of things. Maybe that's just me..
Noone here can stop you going ahead. Just make sure if you do, you have thought of all the consequences.
Alot of people think they don't have "any hope of marriage in the future" but seeing as you are only 15, decisions change. and fast.
If you do wish to go ahead, it's all up to you in the end. and you will have to rid your mind of any thoughts of "being used" or "i wish that never happened" because there's no changing what you would have done.
Only you know the real answer. I just hope you make the right decision. :)
Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

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does anybody know any ways that i can clean my straightener?


it has a lot of build-up & residue from the balm i use in my hair, and its soo bad that its not even working right anymore.

suggestions???

Using baby wipes works wonders! :)

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I was just wondering something...


If say I got out for a nice dinner at a very nice place (I'm talking like guys have to wear jackets/ties and it's atleast a $80 a person) with my parents and my 21-year-old brother. If they all order wine, am I allowed to have any if my parents say it's okay, or will the restaurant have a problem with it? I'm 17.

I guess it depends on the restaurant.
Myself and a bunch of friends went to pizza hut and got told we were allowed to drink wine with our meal. So out came the glasses. Bearing in mind, people were as young as 15 and noone was at legal age, or had ID. :)
Considering this is an expensive restaurant AND you are with your parents, I'm pretty positive they will allow you to consume wine with the rest of your family and shouldn't really question it.
Hope you have a nice dinner :)

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Hey I was thinking of getting a helix or wat people will call, cartilage(upper ear) piercing.

1)Will it hurt badly and is the level of pain equal to piercing your ear lobe?

I've heard bout a story where someone who pierced his helix went blind. After he had he's cartilage pierced he saw something white protruding out and he pulled it out and he unknowingly pulled out his nerve.

2)Is this possible or is it pure bullshit?

It depends on your pain tolerance. It is expected to hurt more than the average lobe piercing, but I honestly don't think the pain is bad at all. It may throb for a while afterwards and you might get a slight discomfort (if any. everyone's different) but it's bearable. :)
Just make sure not to knock it if you do get it and to sleep carefully. Because that could be a bit painful..
As for the story about someone going blind, I doubt very much it is true. I've heard all sorts of rumours, eg. People going deaf. Possible you might think, but the risks are VERY minimal or people wouldn't be getting these piercings on a daily basis. Don't let that story put you off. and if you're worried about any risks which may be involved, talk to your piercer and they will put you at ease. Also, do your research beforehand. Check out www.bmezine.com
Good luck!

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