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SHOULD I HOOK UP WITH THIS GUY? I WANT TO BUT I'M NOT SURE
I'm a teenage g i r l. There's a guy who I want to hook up with, and we planned it for next month. I want to do it really badly, as I'm not a christian so I can do whatever I want sexually. But the thing is: I just can't decide if the pleasure is worth the guilt I'll suffer from- if there IS going to be any guilt. I just don't know how guilty I'd feel afterwards. Especially IF and WHEN i happen to meet someone worth dating or marrying.
All advice will be appreciated.
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If you are this worried about your future spouse, then you shouldn't do it. Obviously you are having second thoughts, and planned hookups always end in disaster. Most likely there is going to be some guilt. For you future boyfriend/husband or for his future girlfriend/wife. This kind of thing happens all the tine, and you need to step up and be a bigger person. Don't go as low as hooking up with someone and not paying attention to the consequences just for pleasure. The pleasure is good, but good enough to risk your reputation and his. It's much better to have sex with someone you love. The pleasure is 10 times better!
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just about everyone is horny its human nature....but the reason about never marrying is a negative reason. if your having any doubts what so ever then no its probably not the right thing to do. you havent lived enough to give in so quickly. this guy isnt going to respect you and it also might get around and you just might get a name for yourself choose the seps you takke to form your life carefully.
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if you want to hook up with someone, go ahead. i dont see what is stopping you. beacuse most likely if you do find someone on the firute worth dating and worth getting married to, they will love//like you too wuch to have thatimpact their decision anyways...i mean i like by boyfriend more than alot and when we started dating i thought he wasnt going to like the fact that i had sex before him but her really didnt care..he told me that he likes me for me and as long as i dont change how i am now he wants nothing less...soo if i were you i would go for it...just if you do, dont be guilty because you know it is something you wanted...so dont regret(=
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if you're losing your virginity to this guy, don't do it. if you're hooking up to lose your virginity, you will definately feel guilty.
i'm not christian, so don't think i'm giving the christian point of view but, virginity is a gift. i believe you should share your body with someone you love and someone who loves you back. your body is your's. and i don't think you sound ready. if you're still thinking about it, you're not ready (as my friends say, and i'm beginning to believe it).
good luck =]
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hiii! have no fear ninedayz is here!
well, i am sure that everybody in this forum will give you a great advice, but actually every advices are useless if you doesn't make your own decision! since you are the only one who responsible for yourself! christianity(RELIGION) doesn't effect anything on us if we doesn't apply what is written on the holly book!
Please be aware of your decision now, cause your present decision will change your future forever!
^_^" don't worry be happy!
9dayz
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You should both go on a couple of steady dates to start off with then if you feel completely comfortable and guiltless then go for it, don't rush into things though.
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If you ask my, whether you're Christian or not, I personally think that you should wait for sex until marriage. Now, if you're as sexually mature as you say you are, and you think you are both ready and willing, go for it. But that doesn't mean I am encouraging sex in any way. Also, emotionally, you need to be ready; For example:
-guilt
-hurt
-loneliness
And also, physical consequences, like:
-preganancy
-STD's
So, really, consider your decision before you act on it.
Jess♥
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Honest opinion? Don't do it.
If you are seeking advice about whether to have sex, it means you do have doubts. and doubts = bad. and yes, you could regret it in the future when you find that special person and just wish you'd have waited.
I really don't understand young people these days in such a rush to grow up and experience the sexual side of things. Maybe that's just me..
Noone here can stop you going ahead. Just make sure if you do, you have thought of all the consequences.
Alot of people think they don't have "any hope of marriage in the future" but seeing as you are only 15, decisions change. and fast.
If you do wish to go ahead, it's all up to you in the end. and you will have to rid your mind of any thoughts of "being used" or "i wish that never happened" because there's no changing what you would have done.
Only you know the real answer. I just hope you make the right decision. :)
Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
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If you are having any doubts at all, I mean ANY...then you aren't ready! Just because you are sexually mature, doesn't mean you are emotionally mature to handle sex.
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