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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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Okay well im a girl and i am 13 and i love guys and on the other hand i love girls to i mean i have been with a girl and i have been with a guy and my friends think im just experamenting but the truth is i think i manely like girls. So i think im a lezbian. But when i told my friends this they went balistic and were like " Your a lez?" " you should die i mean you need to be straight like us, i dont wanna be seen with a freaky lez" and that was a direct quote. So can you help me with the way i feel on how there treating me?
love,
ShOuLd I lIkE gUrL's?if its gunna make me loose friends?

Do what YOU want. Don't listen to what friends want for you. At your age, girls only have THEIR OWN best interest in mind for their friends. They are just unwilling to accept the idea of you being a lesbian. Plus, you're 13 years old. You have a long time to decide what you are. If you think that you might be a lesbian, just let things happen and you'll figure out for sure when you're older.
As for your "friends" they aren't real friends if they won't support you in every thing you do. They are the wrong people to be with- find people who will like you for you, not just because they think you're a great addition to the make-up club. Be yourself and follow what you want for you. Make decisions like that for yourself.. and don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't be.

--Jack
(15/m)

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I'm on a diet. For dinner, were going to a steak house type place. Either Applebees, TGI Friday's, etc. Something to that sort. I have no idea what to order. I looked at their Weight Watchers/Low Fat menu & nothing seemed appetizing. I'm a very picky person & not into onions/mushrooms or anything of that sort. I like my food plain, like chicken & salad or something. I heard ordering salad out at those restaurants are actually high in fat because of the dressing & what not. What would you suggest me ordering? Thanks!

You can get a salad just how you like, they are usually very flexible. This means that you can order the dressing on the side, that way you can add as much or as little as you would like. Yes, the dressing is probably the worst part of a salad, so having too much is a bad thing.. but a little bit won't be too bad.. and it can easily be worked off. Any diet does go hand-in-hand with exercise!

Enjoy your dinner!
--Jack
(15/m)

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I have been married for 8 years and my husband and I are still pretty young (37 and 33); we have two kids and WE HARDLY EVER HAVE SEX. Lately it's been once every three weeks. I know we are still attracted to each other and I know we are both faithful, it's just that being parents totally sucks all the energy from us. Any advice?

Set aside certain times to have sex. Tell your kids to stay in their rooms or where they are, and lock the door so they don't walk in on you. That would be slightly embarrassing. Alright, slightly is a complete understatement. Maybe if you can find a way to have your kids be on a play date with other friends or something [depending on their age- as you don't say what age your two kids are], so that you and your husband have time to yourselves.
Don't lose hope! I hope I helped, and please leave feedback!

--Jack
(15/m)

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14/f

sometimes I get this weird feeling where my vision gets all blurry then all i see is black and for about 5-10 seconds I can't see anything and my whole body gets like that prickly feeling that you get when a body part falls asleep, and sometimes my muscles like tremble (it's NOT an orgasm i assure you)

i have no clue why i'm like this.

it rarely happens, but when it does it's really weird

so just tell me what you think this is.

Is it right after you are laying down and suddenly stand up? Or when you are standing up and suddenly sit down?

If so- your body is just adjusting to the rapid change in position, i.e. your vision goes black for about 5 seconds.. and you get a little chill throughout your body. Trust me, its completely normal [it happens to me, too], but if it persists, it wouldn't hurt to go see a doctor. =]

--Jack
(15/m)

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i have verizon, we have a family plan but only one of us can send text messages (and its not me) with the plan. sometimes i send texts though anyway. can someone tell me how much it is for one text with a plan like this?

Its $0.10 for one TXT message [sent or received]. PIX or FLIX messages cost $0.25 for one [sent or received].

For more information, visit www.verizonwireless.com

Enjoy!
--Jack
(15/m)

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Does anybody know any signs that a guy might show if he likes you? Like a guy that you havent ever talked to?

Hello!
I see many questions like this.. I have also answered many like this. So, I shall copy and paste my answer.. Hopefully it is helpful:

Here was the question:
[[How can you,being a guy, tell that you LIKE a girl. Like what are some things guys do purposely or not purposely that show they like a girl as more than a friend ? ]]

Here was my answer:

Honestly- its different for every guy. I myself tend to find myself wanting to hang out with her. Like at school, I purposely try to take a different route to a class just to see said girl. I smile at her when I'm with her. I make stupid jokes. I find a reason for her to get "mad" at me, and hit me on the arm. I laugh at something she says, even if its not funny at all. I smile at her [yes, I realize I said it twice.. it means its a definite must]. I possibly grab for her hand- and then smile and say "Just kidding".
I do a lot of flirty things when I'm with a girl I like. Most things are on purpose, not on accident. =].

If a guy smiles at you a lot, it means you have a funny-looking face or he likes you. I think it tends to be the latter of the two.

Hope I helped.. it took me awhile to come up with a good list.



So if he does any of those things.. he might like you.. but if you've never talked to him.. it might be hard to tell...
--Jack
(15/m)

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I have a Myspace, a Vampire Freaks, a Hi5, and a Buzznet. I'm am getting very bored of all of them. All of the chat/ message boards on those sites, are very inactive.

I'd like to meet/talk to some new people. I'm not looking for dating, so don't give me dating websites. I just want some place where I can go and chat/find new people, preferably teens.

Any site suggestions?

Xanga, Buddy4u, Facebook, and honestly.. Advicenators.


I've never tried out Xanga.. I heard its fun, though. Its rather popular, as I hear it.

I've also never tried out Buddy4u. One of my friends used to have one... and they really liked it.

Facebook, I found, is much more fun than MySpace.. you get these really cool applications [Zombies: where you turn your friends into Zombies.. its hilarious; iLike: where you can add music to your page, and take an endless music quiz.. its a lot of fun; Movies: where you can rate and review movies.. I really like that one; Groups: Much more interesting groups than MySpace.. they have a lot of hilarious ones.. I am in over 100.

Advicenators: I've made some really good internet friends here. Each column has a forum, where you can chat with other columnists. To get your forum link on your profile, I have a link in my column that says "Go here" and it explains how to do. I've had so much fun in the forums. We talk about Big Brother 8 [TV show], and heck! there's actually going to be an Advicenators Wedding between Thew and WoahThereBabe. Funny, eh?

Check them out and see what you think! I recommend Facebook and Advicenators.

--Jack
(15/m)

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can scarecrow vampire fangs be used more that once? will they damage teeth?

If you're talking about the Halloween ones, no they won't damage your teeth, provided you don't keep them in over a long period of time. That is, don't keep them in much longer than one night at a time.. if you keep them in everyday for the entire day.. yeah.. it might cause your teeth to get damaged and misshapen- much like the clear braces things [the name escapes me at this moment]. Also- they will get dirty.. so if you keep them in too long.. it wouldn't be a wise idea.. as your mouth could become infected. So, as long as they aren't in your mouth very long/very often.. I'd say you're fine.

--Jack
(15/m)

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okay so what is it? dramatic chipmunk/hamster/gopher/prairie dog/other/fake?

If you're talking about a specific video.. give us the link and maybe we can help you out more =D.

--Jack
(15/m)

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So, like, my girlfriend broke up with me like 6 months ago. And I actually cannot get her off my mind. I mean, I think I actually still really like her which is all the worse because she doesn't want anything to do with me. We used to be friends before we went out and I really liked her for a fair few months before anything was said. So its like I went from having this fairly good friendship to a relationship to nothing. And, well, it still hurts.
I mean, I know why she broke up with me and everything, and her points are pretty fair (I was too clingy i suppose is the best way to describe it). But I only acted the way I did because, in a typically manly and ironic thing to do, I didn't want to lose what I had waited so long to get. I really cared about her, infact I still do. And given the choice I would go back and change what I did. But thats not going to happen, so I have to deal with it.
Now, your first thought might be 'wow, this guys pathetic'. Well, I don't have a particularly high opinion of myself either. But I was just wondering if anyone had any advice for what I can do?
And trust me, I have heard everything about it taking time, but 6 months and counting is far too long to wait in my opinion.
I mean, I really want to tell her how I still feel, but the thing is I havent spoken to her in literally 2 months and a random message from me detailing how I feel won't go down well I fear.
Because the thing at the bottom is telling me to, i'm 17/m and she is 17/f (duh)
Any help would be appreciated
Thanks :)

I know you aren't going to like this- but love isn't worth waiting for. Seriously.. I would move on. She hasn't talked to you for a reason. She isn't interested. I know if I was in your position, I would be saying, "What the hell is he trying to say- I can't just give up on my girl!". Unfortunately.. I think that's your only option.. since you think that sending a random message telling her how you feel won't go down to well. I guess you could always try sending that message telling her how you feel, but it would probably be REALLY awkward and it would just cause you more hurt. Trust me, I've been there.. and you don't want to go there...
Find a new girl. Find someone you like just as much [trust me... there are over 6 BILLION people on this planet.. you are bound to end up with someone you'll like even more than this girl].
Once you find said girl- I bet you you'll have forgotten about this other girl by the time you're with a new one. It isn't worth it to sit around and wait for something we both know won't happen. Finding a new girl to be with will be the best thing you can do at this point. Just so that that relationship doesn't end how the other did.. be open and honest about EVERYTHING and ask her how she feels about "clinginess" and that stuff, that way you can judge correctly on how to act with her.

Good luck, man!
--Jack
(15/m)

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what do people mean when they say "be true to yourself?"

It means you don't lie to yourself. You don't say you're going to do something, and then just not do it. You are your own person. You do what you want to do, not what others want for you (unless you both want the same thing for you). You don't let people push you around and make you look dumb. You stand up for yourself and you're absolutely 100% PROUD of who you are, no matter what other people say or do about it. You do what makes you happy and live life according to your plan.

Does that help?
--Jack
(15/m)

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I want people's opinions on this. Do you think people should wait to have sex until their married. Do you think People would regret it? I mean because like youve waited and now your wondering like "what would it feel like with someone else?" On the other hand i hear people having sex when there 14 and having STDS and they probably should've waited. idk

Opinions?

My opinion on this is very strict. I believe in no sex until marriage. I myself am still a virgin.. and it kills me inside to hear that someone has already had sex with 17 other people- and they're younger than me! I've heard a lot of people say they completely regret losing their virginity premaritally, as it wasn't someone they really loved, they got pregnant at 14, or they got an STD. Then again- I've heard many people say that they don't regret it at all; they are still with the person they lost their virginity to, they didn't get pregnant because they used protection, etc., etc., etc.
Honestly- its all up to you what you do. I suggest you wait.. you'll probably end up feeling much better, knowing that the person you lost your virginity to is someone you'll already be with for a long time. Plus, if you have a child- you'll be able to take care of it together. Having a child premaritally doesn't ensure anyone but yourself will be able/willing to take care of a child.

If you do, however, chose to have premarital sex- please use protection, and really think about if its what you want to do.. because there is no going back.. and you can only lose your virginity once.. so make sure its who you WANT to lose it to.

Good luck.. hope I gave some helpful insight!
--Jack
(15/m)

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I can't find the lyrics to fallout boy - 7 minutes in heaven. I can only find a different version of it. I've tryed google and everything i just can't find them.

http://www.lyricsondemand.com/f/falloutboylyrics/7minutesinheavenatavanhalenlyrics.html

Lyricsondemand.com works well, I've found.

Here are the lyrics:


I'm sleeping my way out of this one
With anyone who will lie down
I'll be stuck fixated on one star
When the world is crashing down

I keep telling myself
I keep telling myself
I'm not the desperate type
But you've got me looking in through blinds
I keep telling myself
I keep telling myself
I'm not the desperate type

Sitting out dances on the wall
Trying to forget everything that isn't you
I'm not going home alone
Cause I don't do too well
Sitting out dances on the wall
Trying to forget everything that isn't you
I'm not going home alone
Cause I don't do too well on my own

The only thing worse than not knowing
Is you thinking that I don't know
I'm having another episode
I just need a stronger dose

I keep telling myself
I keep telling myself
I'm not the desperate type
But you've got me looking in through blinds
I keep telling myself
I keep telling myself
I'm not the desperate type

Sitting out dances on the wall
Trying to forget everything that isn't you
I'm not going home alone
Cause I don't do too well
Sitting out dances on the wall
Trying to forget everything that isn't you
I'm not going home alone
Cause I don't do too well on my own

I keep telling myself
I keep telling myself
I'm not the desperate type
But you've got me looking in through blinds
I keep telling myself
I keep telling myself
I'm not the desperate type

Sitting out dances on the wall
Trying to forget everything that isn't you
I'm not going home alone
Cause I don't do too well on my own


--Jack
(15/m)

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someone told me that they knew a way to see a persons top friends on myspace even if they were hidden by using firefox.. does anyone know how to do this? thanks!

Go under "View" and in the third section, it says "Page Style". Go over, and select "No Page Style" compared to "Basic Page Style". This gets rid of any format on the page- so you can see hidden things.
You have to have Mozilla Firefox, I believe.

--Jack
(15/m)

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Well I got these One a Day Flinstone vitamins and I was wondering what would happen if I took more than one? Would there be a lot of harm or fatal harm?

Cuz I remember my cousin had these long time ago and when she wasn't looking, I'd grab like a handful and shove them in my mouth because they taste so yummy and frankly I'm having a hard time right now trying to avoid that.

I certainly don't think they would hurt you. Here is the official website. Maybe you can find information there: http://www.flintstonesvitamins.com/

Yeah- it would probably be bad if you ate the entire bottle [or close to half] at once... can you say sugar rush? I'd say that having 3 or 4 at once wouldn't be fatal. You can't die from eating vitamins. =]

only search advicenators.com


--Jack
(15/m)

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what does a guy look for in a friendship with a girl?

Hey. There has been a question similar to this one:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=501756

I'll copy and paste my answer from there:

Psychotic [username of person that answered befor me] is exactly right. It really depends on the guy. Personally- I look for a girl [friend or potential girlfriend] who has spunk. She's gotta be her own person and be smart, funny, nice, and just overall a great person. I think if you truly and honestly just be your own person and be yourself- not like everyone else- you'll attract more guys than you could ever imagine. Trust me- I shy away from girls that are fake.

Good luck!
--Jack
(15/m)

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16/f

In May of 05, I started to date this guy and I really loved him. However, I ended up cheating on him, and lying to him. When we broke up, he told me that he hated me and that he never loved me. He then proceeded to push all of my flaws into my face as if I wasn't insecure enough. Anyways, I realized that what he said was right, and I changed. I changed for the better, and I changed for myself. I also changed for him. 2 years later, I am a completely different person. I don't lie, I don't cheat & I'm not immature anymore. I'm not the stupid 14 year old girl I used to be.

Lately, I've been going through a lot of experiences & changes in my life. 2 friends just died, my parents are divorcing, I'm poor & I'm about to be homeless, and we've started talking again. He's been helping me through these things mainly because he's been through some of them himself & he knows how these things feel & are. He understands me. I recently came to terms with myself and realized that I still loved him & that I never actually stopped like I thought I did. So, I messaged him on MySpace and told him exactly how I felt. He told me "It's not going to work out." and I asked him how he knew & he said "I don't." So I got mad because he's pushing away something he doesn't know the outcome of. I'm willing to try again if he is, and I changed myself for him, and he just doesn't see it. I am the only girl who will ever love him this way, and the only girl will accept the things she was given [no matter how much they hurt her] & change them.

I want him to realize that I'm not going anywhere. I want him to realize that he's my only one, and that he is the one I love. I honestly don't care about anyone else. I'm a fairly pretty girl, and I'm not conceited, but I could have anyone I want, but I don't want anyone else. That is the difference, I want him. I would rather have him, flaws & all, over anyone else in this world.

Since he has rejected me, I feel empty. The boy who made me feel alive, and the boy who made me feel whole doesn't love me, so I'm numb again. How exactly do I deal with this? I know I've done it before when he pushed my flaws down my throat, but I'm not quite sure how to pick myself up off of the floor again. Do you have any ideas on what it is I should do? I'm suffering from depression with what's going on as it is, and this feeling he's given me had added to it. I don't know what to say to him to make him listen or at least think, but I don't know what else to do. I'm at wits end here..Help?

I can really tell you like this guy. Most questions like this don't go this deep. It's obvious you can't just forget about him. And since you didn't say you told him all of this- I guess all you can do now are two things:
A) Completely forget about him and just move on.
B) Tell him everything you just told me.

I think it would be most beneficial to go with the latter of the two. Just be honest with him and tell him how much of a change you've made in yourself just to be with him. Maybe he'll realize he actually likes you. This probably sounds like a "guilt him into it" type of thing.. and I hope it doesn't. Its just if you're honest with him, maybe he'll realize that you really did change and that you won't cheat on him and lie about it. He's just uneasy because you hurt him. It takes guys a longer time to heal than girls think. A girl rejected me last year, and I'm still not completely over. Sure, I don't think about it every day, but it still hurts. With time, maybe he'll realize he really does like you; you just can't force him to like you, like the movies.

Sorry if this is not helping.. its 1:00 in the morning and I'm sort of tired.

--Jack
(15/m)

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15 f (sorry if its wrong category)
i cant download aim on my computer because last time it brought a virus and my dad said not to download it again. so i heard about aim express and i want to try it but i cant this is what it says.
"You have successfully logged into Aim Express. However, we are unable to launch your Buddy List because you have Popup blocking enabled. Please disable the Popup blocker or add the *.aimexpress.aol.com and aimexpress.aol.com domain to the allowed white list.

Please refer to your Popup blocker software for more information."
how can i fix this? can i get step by step help? please thanks! if it helps i rate!

The same thing happens to me- even when I have pop-up blocker not active. AIM Express is a piece of crap. It doesn't work if you're using Mozilla Firefox, AOL Explorer, or any other type of web browser. The only place I've found that AIM Express works is at the public library.
I suggest asking your dad if you can download AIM 6.0 or whatever version they have now. If you got a virus once, I bet you anything you won't get one again.

--Jack
(15/m)

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http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=CuxMiBeckNow7

How can I get my hair to be really sweet like that? Kind of like Jason Dolley's from Cory in the House...

Thanks.

btw: 16/m

Well, first off: I'm very flattered. No one at school tends to think my hair is as sweet as I do. Glad to see someone agrees with me for once. =D

Second: I DO NOT straighten it. Whoever replied below me is wrong. I think its weird for guys to straighten their hair. Also- I don't use a blow dryer. I shampoo my hair with Men's Suave each morning and then when I get out of the shower, I towel dry it until it isn't dripping wet anymore. Then, I just put it into the style you see in the picture, and let it dry naturally.
If I go out in public, I usually comb it when its completely dry.

Thanks again!
--Jack
(15/m)

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This author I'm madly in love with (he wrote fight club.)

I was wondering if anyone knew hwo to pronounce his last name

Chuck Palahniuk

It's kinda embarassing to not be able to say your favourite authors last name

It looks like it could be:

"Pah-laa-new-ick"
or
"Pale-uh-nuck"

I could be wrong. I've never seen that author.

--Jack
(15/m)

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