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married - no sex!
I have been married for 8 years and my husband and I are still pretty young (37 and 33); we have two kids and WE HARDLY EVER HAVE SEX. Lately it's been once every three weeks. I know we are still attracted to each other and I know we are both faithful, it's just that being parents totally sucks all the energy from us. Any advice?
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Maybe get someone to baby sit for a while one of there nana's..
Then you guys could have a night to yourself.
- Send your kids on a holdiday camp for a couple of nights.
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i think its great that you two are good parents to your kids and put them first...but it really sounds that you two don't get much time to yourselves, so i think that you should leave your kids with a freind or grandparent for some nights so you two can have some time alone, go out for dinner or whatever...
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All your focus is on the kids.
Thats good, but you aren't getting
enough me and us time!
If you can find a trustworthy babysitter,
or mothers helper if you prefer, have
someone else watch the kids for a couple
of hours a day. If you can't afford that
a couple of days a week would be a big help
too.
During that time you relax and do something
you want to do. Go shopping, get your hair done...spoil yourself a little. You could
also just jump in a bubble bath with a book
you've been wanting to read.
You also need a "date night" with your husband.
Hire a sitter and go out to dinner or a movie.
Spend some time alone together. Send the kids
for an overnight with grandparents and rent
a hotel room!
Most of all, don't feel guilty about it.
You deserve time for yourself and time for
your husband. Happy parents will make for
happier kiddies. :)
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I can i magine That being a parent is pretty hard... I have taken care of my cousins on weeksends or perhaps just for a day sometimes and at the end of the day I'm just drained!
This is a bit of a tough situation. I would suggest trying to organize little getaways with your husband. You know just like they say you should have like a family night, i say take that idea and make it a romance ight.. That way you and your husband can be together at least once a week, be able to relax in each others arms and let the night take you away... preferrebly if the kids can stay with other family members or have little sleepovers or be babysat... Whatever works best =)
If this is not as easy to be able to do, you could try like after the kids are off to bed, maybe you and your husband can try going into the shower together.... bubble baths together.. you know? Doing little things that normally you would do, but making it a little more sensual by doing it together.. and at the same time its something that'll relax both of you...
Going along with that, you can try giving each other massages, use oils, put on a scented candel..etc. Just little things that might get you both in the mood, while also still relaxing the body even prior to an orgasm or anything. =)
Hope this helps! =) Best of luck!
VB
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yeah try to arrange times where you and your husband have the house to yourselves while your kids are out.
That way you won't have to worry that they'll walk in on you. But if you want to do it while they're home you could give them something to do (like watching a movie) and say "we have some important work to do so please don't disturb us for the next hour or two." And still lock the door.
I think that if you tell them to stay in their rooms they'll start to get suspicious (i know i wuold have) and come and bother you.
Try reconnecting with your husband. If you don't already have a kama sutra book i'd get one. Try new positions.
Or you you could try to get up like 45 minutes earlier than you both have to, and do it then!
i hope i helped. :)
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Set aside certain times to have sex. Tell your kids to stay in their rooms or where they are, and lock the door so they don't walk in on you. That would be slightly embarrassing. Alright, slightly is a complete understatement. Maybe if you can find a way to have your kids be on a play date with other friends or something [depending on their age- as you don't say what age your two kids are], so that you and your husband have time to yourselves.
Don't lose hope! I hope I helped, and please leave feedback!
--Jack
(15/m)
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