My exboyfriend and I broke up wednesday.He went out bowling with some of his friends and one of my best friends. I was talking to her online and she told me that he was flirting with her and I'm jealous. I broke up with him and I cant help but wanna yell at him what can I do?
Sometimes there seem to be good reasons for jealousy, many times there aren't. When someone is experiencing jealousy for no real reason then their imagination needs training.
It's the imagination that causes these feelings of jealousy, when people visualise, for example, their partner with someone else. This can cause a whole host of problems associated with these jealous feelings, from anxiety and panic, to anger when their partner simply looks at another person.
Jealousy makes you think that other people are in the wrong, when most of the time the problem is in your head. Perhaps you need to face up to the facts: the jealousy is being caused by your own insecurities. You're lacking confidence in yourself, your abilities and the people around you. That could be why you're jealous.
The best way to beat jealousy is to build confidence. If you're happy and secure in life, the jealousy cant control you. Don't bottle it up. If you're jealous of one person in particular, talk to them. Tell them how you feel. Chances are, they'll reassure you and you can work through the jealousy problem together. Go for the things you want, too. Jealousy is a negative emotion but ambition, determination and success will boost your life and get jealousy under control.
Good luck!
♥ Evy
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okay, so im 14. and i have a loving boyfriend. we get really close sometimes and well, once we werent protected. my period is late and i cant get a preg test. i think its about 5 weeks late now. i was wondering if i just cut back eating for a week or so, if it would.... stop me from being pregnant? if i am. im not skinny, im like mediumish. not fat. will this help? i have no idea. im so scared....
Well remember that you're 14, you could just be irregular. Sometimes intercourse makes it irregular also. I highly doubt that not eating as much would prevent it, but it wouldn't be healthy for the baby if you are. Go to a clinic and get a free test, they can't/won't tell your parents. Or just save up a little money and get one from cvs for no more then $10.
Good luck!
♥ Evy
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is it weird or odd that during sex a girl doesnt have an orgasm.. what if she feels the pleasure, but just keeps it in
No, some girls don't.
Don't keep it in if you don't want to. Your partner probably expects feedback, and by making noises you're letting him/her know what you like and don't like. But you don't have to do/say anything you're not comfortable with.
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What's the song that goes, "Because I see some ladies tonight that should be hangin with JAY-Z, JAYZ." I couldn't find it on google! I'll rate highhh.
It's called 'Excuse me miss'
http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/jayz/excusememiss.html
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hi im 13/f. i was wondering if anyone knew a good deodorant or antiperspirent. i sweat under my arms all the time even when its cold and its embarrasing in school can someone give me tips on what to do about it? ill rate high thanks in advance
Certain dry does work. You could also try 'Mitchum' It's anti-perspirant and deodorant for both men and women. It's in a greenish bottle/can for about $5 at target. Put it on about 5 minutes before you put your shirt on and let it dry. It should last the whole day. If not, take it with you and reapply it if needed!
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Does anyone know a website where i can get rainbow flip flops for less? not ebay or overstock.com i tried those. for example, i get my ugg stuff at www.fleecefootwear.com its a place where uggs are really cheap. does anyone know?? thankss!!
At target, they have rainbow flipflops for $5, if not less. And I believe they have rainbow polkadots as well. I know for a fact old navy does, and they're really cute!
You could also try Nordstroms or Payless..
Good luck!
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Alright, this is the thing. I HATE my highschool. Really, HATE it. So I've been pretty much miserable, which is why I've been skipping alot, and now I found out..because of this, I might not graduate. Now you'll probably never understand my culture, but there's nothing more important than education, My father has said it straight to my face "I don't care abotut your happiness, as long as you get into a GREAT university, and have straight A's" and last night he said "Go study! If you have any B's this year, I'll be really dissapointed, and you won't be my daughter!" And when I tried to tell him how dumb that is he said "I've only ever asked you for ONE thing in your life, and that's good grades, just that one thing..I think it's reasonable to ask you to do good in that" or something along those lines. I'm so scared :S and the thing is, since I've feared my father basically my whole life, I've never told him th truth about my grades, my mom has covered up for me, and told him I get straight A's even though I don't. And we were going to do that this year too, but now we can't..because I might not graduate. I can't stop crying, because it seems like there's no solution..I can not get anyone else involved, I can't ask my mother to help me anymore..I just can't. And I CAN NOT talk to my father, it's just not in my culture. So please..don't suggest any of those things. But..what can I do? Is there anything? Please help me :'(
Thank you!
Your father might feel this way, but you do need to do what's best for you. Obviously skipping school isn't the answer, but we all have our bad days. Don't keep doing it though, it can lead to more problems, as you've already found out.
If you want to make all A's, do a semester of summer school. It really isn't as bad as it sounds and it will probably make you feel better. If you don't want to do that, study more, go in for tutorials, get a tutor, take extra classes. Prove to your teachers that you KNOW you messed up.
If you want to, you should stand up to your father. If what he wants for you isn't what you want, you shouldn't have to suffer for it too. I can see why he wants you to do well, education is important, but you need to be happy also.
Try not to worry about it. I know that right now that seems almost impossible, but the more time you spend worrying about it, the less time you're doing something about it!
Talk to your counselour and see what he/she can do with your credits. Everything will work out in the end!
Good luck!
♥ Evy
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Hello :)
Okay, so yesterday I saw one of my friends do something I've heard about for a long time, but never actually seen...lie. Yes, he lied. And it was pretty obvious, and also..pretty scary. You see, pretty much ALL YEAR I've heard one of my tightest friends talk about how he's changed, and lies, and so on..and ofcourse I belived her, but I guess it never really sunk in. Because when I actually experienced it for the first time (him lying straight to my face) it freaked me out. I was sp sworried for him, I wanted to cry. I was about to, but didn't. It hurts to see someone I've looked up to for such a long time lie. They're BIG lies too. And he should know that we can't possibly belive all this, it's crazy. And we basically have prrof that he's lying, but confronting him wont work, it's been tried already. And it didn't help, if anything..it made things worse, he had to lie even more to excuse his lies, and it was just..really bad. He was basically shaking when we were questioning, it's like he doesn't WANT to lie. But he still does it for some reason. I cant think of a reason WHY though, attention? I'm just really confused, you know. I really can't talk to him about this, and my friends have already tried. So what do I do? Just ignore it? Or stop ebing his friend? Tlak to his family about it? His other friends? Pleease help me, because I want to be able to help my friends (it's making them feel EVEN WORSE)
I agree, confronting him is probably NOT the best idea. And definitly don't get his family involved. There might be a reason why he's lying, and telling them might make it worse.
If you DO decide to confront him, respect what he says. Don't keep stabbing at him for more when he's given you what he has to say.
Find out WHY he's lying.
Maybe he's looking for attention.
What kind of lies are they? Are they ones like "I won a million dollars" "I robbed a bank" Etc.
If they're extremely exaggerated, maybe he doesn't feel good about himself or he's trying to be 'cool'. Maybe he feels the need to be that way around his friends..
There could be many reasons why he's doing this.
Let it go for a while, see what happens. If it doesn't stop, talk to him.
Good luck!
♥ Evy
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After you end your period when you're around 50ish, what happens next? Is there a new kind of period? Or does something else happen? Or do you just go back to being a kid again like with no more things that come 1nce a month?
You get Menopause..
Menopause is the medical term for the end of a woman's menstrual periods. It is a natural part of aging, and occurs when the ovaries stop making hormones called estrogens. This causes estrogen levels to drop, and leads to the end of monthly menstual periods. This usually happens between the ages of 45 and 60, but it can happen earlier. Menopause can also occur when the ovaries are surgically removed or stop functioning for any other reason.
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My friends and I have recently become interested in playing card games. But, the problem is, we've played the following games so much that we're sick of them:
five card draw
texax holdem
bullcrap
spades
crazy eights
speed
indian poker
go fish
and a few others that I can't remember. Does anyone have any good card game ideas? They need to be fun and easy to play- I just need some new games. Thanks! I rate fives for good answers.
http://www.pagat.com/alpha.html
That website has a list of card games alphabeticaly. There's gotta be something fun on there!
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Heeey all :D
Okay, thanks to everyone who answered my Family History question, and now to my new question.
The thing about writing an essay on my family history is that..I have none. My family is pretty screwed up. My parents basiccaly "divorced" from their families, and know nothing about them. So I can't contact their parents to know any more about my ancestors either.
So I figured, I'll just go with the little I have..you know, make the best of it. But that means, since my essay will suck, I have to do a really GREAT introduction and summary/ final words. But how can I start it off?
My first though was to say something like "Not many people know alot about their family history..bla bla bla" but that made it really hard to start talking about my family. So I gave up on that and figured I'll do "In ((insert graveyard name) there's 94 graves, 5 of them belonging to my family. In grave number 1 theres "name" who did this, moved there, had these children e.t.c e.tc" You get the picture, right? Go from one grave to the other until I've told about my whole family..ending with me. But that didn't work either, so what do I do? What CAN I do? How do I start off this essay? And is there any good ways to end it? Like I need to make it fun to read, or atleast make sure its worth remembering/reading again..since the rest will suck. Is there any "final sentence" that can make it kind of dramatic or whatever?
Any ideas? Thank you alot ♥
For your last sentence, you could say something along the lines of "In many years to come, I'll be looking forward to see how my family history has changed." Or "Im looking forward to see what kind of history my generation will make." Get the idea?
For your first sentence, you could start off with what you had.. "Not many people know about their family history"..then go on with something along the lines of ..."I myself am not too familiar with my background. However you'd be surprised with what a little research can do."
You might like those ideas, you might think they suck. I'm sorry! haha That's all i can come up with at the moment.
Don't worry too much about the introduction and conclusion initially as they can both be altered after the main body of the essay itself is written.
Do research on your family. The harder you try to find things out, the more you'll find!
Good luck!
♥ Evy
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My skin is really oily and i get a lot of zits on my forehead an nose. i can't get it to go away. i use shine free makeup but it's just not cutting it. it still get's oily. i was my face everyday. is there anything i can use so my face isn't as oily and my zits will go away? Please don't say proactive or clearisal ultra or w/e i really don't have to money to buy that stuff.
The best way to keep the problem to a minimum is to wash your face with a perfume free cleanser morning and night, so that your skin is clean, but there is no need to scrub it too hard as this actually produces more oil. Choose oil free cosmetics and an oil free moisturiser, especially if they contain alpha-hydroxy acids as these remove dead cells in you skin and improve the appearance of it.
Giving your skin a treatment can also be good a couple of times a week, and for this you don't need to have expensive equipment. All you need is to place your face over a bowl of hot water with a towel over your head for a few minutes.
Certain vitamins can help to give you good skin so supplement your diet with a multivitamin as vitamins A, C, E and zinc are all helpful. Don't allow yourself too much sun exposure as the heat will cause more oil to be produced.
Avoid Vitamin E products, especially in a humid environment - it stimulates oil glands.
♥ Evy
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hi i wasnt really sure what to put this under but is it true that using cocobutter will reduce stretch marks? because i have them a little and i really want to get rid of them.
Yes! It really does work. It doesn't get rid of them completely, but it does make them fade. However they never really do go away, you just can't see them once they've faded.
I always used it when I had small ones when I was younger. But now I just use coconut body butter, to make sure I don't get any more. It has a natural tanning in it also. So while it's moisturizing your skin, you're also getting a little color. It's about $9 at target.
Anyways, if you want to reduce your stretch marks, definitly use the cocobutter!
♥ Evy
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I think i might be pregenent. I missed my period for the month of April. I have not received my period yet. I went to the doctor and the pregencey test came out neg. Do you think there might still be a chance that I am? Could it be to early to tell using urine? It feels like I'm pregenent could that also be a fingment of my imagination? My last men. was 3/25.
Well I don't know how old you are, but I'm assuming you're in your young/mid teens. If you are, it's most likely that you're just irregular. It's bound to happen a few times until you're older and it get's on track.
Take another test and see if it comes out negative too. If more then one comes out negative, you're probably just irregular.
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im 15/f and me and my best guy friend went to a party n both got a little drunk among other things. anyway we ended up having sex and since then i've found out im pregnant and i know its his and i told him about it. hes basically demanding i keep it but see i dont want to b/c its going to destroy my body, reputation,i know i wont be able to keep my gpa above a 4.0, and my mom will kill me. so should i just go behind his back or what?
That's why teenagers shouldn't be having sex.
It all depends on your morals. If you believe in abortion and don't think you can physically and emotionally care for a baby, maybe it would be best for you.
It's important that you tell your mom. She might not take it as hard as you think, but then again you are only 15. Don't expect the least. She's going to be angry, she should be.
About the destroying your body, thats the LEAST important factor in this problem. You can always get your figure back, it might take a little time but it's do-able.
Would you be able to live with yourself if you didn't have it? Life starts at conception, you know.
I'm not trying to give you a lecture, you might and probably do have a different opinion then I do. However in my eyes, abortion is wrong.
You had sex, you should stand up for what you did and take what life gives you.
No one here can tell you what to do. It's all up to you and your family, and everyone's going to have a different outlook.
It's not just about going behind his back, it's about life, literally.
If you think you're mature enough to have sex, then you should be mature enough to care for a baby.
♥ Evy
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how long does someones period usually last? i got mine like 2 days ago and i was just wondering how long it lasts for people. and how long it is between them. thank you
It depends on the person but it can last up to 7 days. Normally anywhere from 3-5 is average but it can be longer.
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how long can you go without eating before you pass out?
The human body can go for an extended period of time without food (but not without water), especially if you have some body fat. People have gone for two weeks or more.
Note that is not safe, and it is not an effective method of dieting. Your body will consume its own muscles for energy, your metabolism will be altered, and there will be other problems.
Basically your body will find stuff e.g. muscle to survive off for a while. Then after eating EVERYTHING possible you will start to derteriorate...LITERALLY
Not eating is bad and will cause serious damage to your system and it will eventually stop working.
So don't try it.
http://www.faqfarm.com/Q/How_long_can_the_human_body_go_without_eating
♥ Evy
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What's the best way to get over a guy I like?
I've known him since I was like two (when I moved here) and was like best friends with him back then. Now he's still one of my really good friends and I've liked him for about 2 months, and I mean REALLY liked. Now he's taken by one of my other really good friends (yes, they both knew I liked him but I told them it was ok so it's my fault). Now everytime I talk to him, I fall faster, but I can't not talk to him because, well he's my friend.
It's tough being in this situation and don't we know it! You feel very emotional and confused- you're angry/upset at him but still think about him like crazy!
You're better off without him! Why concentrate on one guy that you can't have when there are millions that you can!
If he's still on your mind, honestly you should shut off contact with him for a while. Let things settle down before you two talk a lot.
After doing this for a while you should find that you think about them less and can then even think about moving on to your next relationship.
Don't feel bad about yourself. Tell yourself it is their loss not yours and you are a great person.
And just remember- that boy is gonna spend the rest of his life kicking himself in the butt for not being with you haha.
Good luck hun!
♥ Evy
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okay, so i found this site and thouhgt it would be fun to try. i got a couple people hooked on it. but now people are doing it just for like popularity. it really bugs me. and now no one comes to me for advice anymore - and i used to have alot. is there anything i can do about this? please any ideas.
Answer a lot of questions. Put a lot of thought into your answers and people will see that you give awesome advice and will want to come to you!
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16/F,This guy told me that he really likes me and I really like him too. But, the strange thing is that we're both really different and we don't have much in common. He is outgoing and is part of the whole popular crowd and mostly enjoys partying and getting drunk all the time. I'm the direct opposite of him cause I'm mostly a shy person and I'm not the crazy party type. Everyone tells me that itz cause of the whole opposites attract thing, but I can never understand why does it work that way?
If two people who fight alot are together, all they're gonna do is fight. Sometimes having TOO much in common can be a bad thing.
To me, opposites attract, is like balancing each other out. That's just my opinion though, it doesn't work this way for everyone!
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